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The Family Council Effetnr's note: The Family Council consists of a judge, a psychiatrist. vre clergymen, a newspaper editor a women's editor and two writers, tach article Is a summary of an actual report. The Family Council does not jive advice; it merely reports on problems that have been dealt with by responsible agencies and counselors. Monday, July 29. 1957 MEDFOHD (OREGON) MAIL THIBUWE SEVDC Flic J. I want to call her omy wife. Jl H. I can't walk out now. Fsrtix J. I am a man of 43 who has waited for one woman for nearly 20 years and now I wonder whether we'll ever be together. Julia was already the mother of four children when we met. We were so much in love that, in spite of her love for her fam ily, Julia risked everything to have an affair with me. She said, however, that she just couldn't break up her home because of the children. I said I would wait for her until the children were Now two of the children are married and two are away at college. Julia and I have lots of time together because her hus band is away often on business trips. But I am tired of this two faced life. I want to be able to call Julia my wife. Yet she keeps putting off the break with her husband. 0 Julia H. I have suffered even more than Felix because of "this two-faced life." It cer tainly wasn't easy, yet I man aged to conceal everything from my family. My husband believes 1 love him and the children have had a healthy, happy home life. My sacrifice wasn't an easy one or a small one. Felix doesn't understand - what I've been through. Now my two daughters are in college and I know that a break between their father and me would be a terrible shock to them at this time. We' have waited so long, I would like to see the girls married before I finally break with my husband. There is another factor, and that is, that my husband hasn't been too well during the past year. I'm not the type to walk out when I'm needed. Th Council: It is quite re markable that a woman who has treated herself to the full security of marriage plus a lover on the side for nearly 20 years, can talk of "my sacri fice." It is equally remarkable that such a woman could have found two ideal victims for such a set-up a gullible or disinterest ed husband and a lover who enjoys punishment. It is possible that Felix was no more serious than Julia about going through with this relation ship when he was younger. But now that he sees he has missed the boat in life and has no re sources but Julia, he is ready to settle down in earnest.- If this is the case, Felix has been caught in his own trap. We don't buy Julia's tender con cern over her husband and daughters. Nothing stops her from taking what she wants when she wants it. Felix should face the facts. Julia is tired of him. What would be the point of marrying him now? She's better off sticking to the se curity of Hubby and looking around for something new and more interesting in the way of extra-curricular activities. Julia's life is a lie from the ground up. She has cast herself in the role of heroine, yet she is a villainess. She lies to herself when she says that her husband believes that she loves him and that her children have had a "healthy, happy home life." It may not show, but this family's life has been emotionally riddled by deceit. Some day the effects may appear on the surface. (Copyright 1957, General Features Corp.) 4 BIG FREE PARKING LOTS IN BACK OF STORE (Emai)(EiEmn s: y ii rTn-Wi" GRAND VACATION AT GAFFNEY'S FAMOUS LAKE WILDERNESS RESORT! Is That So? By EUGENE BURNS Ranger-Naturalist More than just good compan ions, dots . can be downright good medicine for men with broken bodies. Let me tell you how one of the war's most dra matic "recovery" stories, led to many others. A World War II pilot who had cracked up in a plane was hos pitalized with one badly shat tered leg and the other in little better shape. .He was very des pondent. Attempting to cheer him up, another wounded air man got exactly nowhere. In as piration, he gave a parting shot: "Colins, you just anturally don't give the docs a chance to get you well. You're not interested in getting well. You know, you have to get interested in some- thing. Even if it's only a dog.' Happily, a Red Cross volun teer worker with a big heart overheard that remark. She came to the gloomy lieutenant and moving his crutches aside, sat beside him. "Would you like to have a dog, I mean a good one. if I could get one?" she asked. Finally, the wounded pilot said. "Well, O.K., if it's a German shepherd pup." Problem Goes To Right Person The worker took her problem to exactly the right person the late Mrs. Marvin Preston, President of the Westchester County, New York, Sgciety for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals, who had her own ken nels. Mrs. Preston got on it immedi ately. She found the pup, a fine animal with a long anr" notable lineage with the aristocratic name. Fritz von Grafnar. With next momingls early breakfast, the young lieutenant heard that the pup was on the way by car. By 10. he was out on the porch waiting. Whenever an auto drove up. he would heave himself to his feet, steady ing himseif with a can?. That day, he'd put his crutches aside. Sure it was silly, he later ad mitted, but darn it. he did'nt want that pup to see him for the Lrst time looking helpless on crutches. ' When the car drew up with two women in front and a ball of lively fur in the back, the lieutenant was on the steps to meet. it. He opened the door and hoisted himself up into the back seat for couldn't he and his dog meet each other better that way. In an instant Fritz was in his master's arms, and fond tongue licking at his cheeks and tne man s arms went out around the tiny dog. The women were openly weeping: there were tears, too, in the wounded man's eves. Would Have Been Worth Effort If Lt. Colin had kept "Fritz" just as a pet to play with, that alone would have been worth the effect on his morale. But he did better than that, grooming him and, young as the pup was, training him remarkably. Fritz in turn, worked wonders on his master. Colin's recovery which doctors had estimated would take 10 months, was achieved in just 4 when he and' Fritz left the hospital the flyer was walk ing without a cane. But the dog's healing paw reached farther than Lt. Colin. This happened in 1944 and from that beginning commenced a series of hundreds and thou sands of cures extraordinarily accelerated by dogs. It cured men who had jungle fever; men who were broken in spirit from too much killing; men who worn out fighting: men who were wounded; men who needed re adjustment; men filled with helpless apathy. And these "Dogs for Convalescents" were soon in great demand. But pure breds because the wounded did better when they could take a pride in their dogs' appear ance. And the dogs in turn, re quires exercise. They needed collars, and leashes made in leathercraft classes. They need ed obedience training. All re quired for restoring men to soc iable campionship. (Copyright 1957, by Eugene Burns) Free: By special arrangement with the editors of the Encyclo pedia Americana, my panel of judges will award each week to the reader who sends me the best true-life nature adventure, and wildlife, a complete 30 volume set of this world-famous reference work in a handsome Sealcraft .binding. Each week new submissions will be con sidered. Sorry, I simply can't answer your many friendly let ters. 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