The Family Council
Effetnr's note: The Family Council consists of a judge, a psychiatrist.
vre clergymen, a newspaper editor a women's editor and two writers, tach
article Is a summary of an actual report. The Family Council does not jive
advice; it merely reports on problems that have been dealt with by
responsible agencies and counselors.
Monday, July 29. 1957
MEDFOHD (OREGON) MAIL THIBUWE SEVDC
Flic J. I want to call her
omy wife.
Jl H. I can't walk out
now.
Fsrtix J. I am a man of 43
who has waited for one woman
for nearly 20 years and now
I wonder whether we'll ever
be together.
Julia was already the mother
of four children when we met.
We were so much in love that,
in spite of her love for her fam
ily, Julia risked everything to
have an affair with me. She said,
however, that she just couldn't
break up her home because of
the children. I said I would wait
for her until the children were
Now two of the children are
married and two are away at
college. Julia and I have lots of
time together because her hus
band is away often on business
trips. But I am tired of this two
faced life. I want to be able to
call Julia my wife. Yet she
keeps putting off the break
with her husband.
0 Julia H. I have suffered
even more than Felix because
of "this two-faced life." It cer
tainly wasn't easy, yet I man
aged to conceal everything from
my family. My husband believes
1 love him and the children
have had a healthy, happy home
life. My sacrifice wasn't an easy
one or a small one. Felix doesn't
understand - what I've been
through.
Now my two daughters are
in college and I know that a
break between their father and
me would be a terrible shock
to them at this time. We' have
waited so long, I would like to
see the girls married before I
finally break with my husband.
There is another factor, and
that is, that my husband hasn't
been too well during the past
year. I'm not the type to walk
out when I'm needed.
Th Council: It is quite re
markable that a woman who
has treated herself to the full
security of marriage plus a
lover on the side for nearly 20
years, can talk of "my sacri
fice." It is equally remarkable that
such a woman could have found
two ideal victims for such a
set-up a gullible or disinterest
ed husband and a lover who
enjoys punishment.
It is possible that Felix was
no more serious than Julia about
going through with this relation
ship when he was younger. But
now that he sees he has missed
the boat in life and has no re
sources but Julia, he is ready
to settle down in earnest.-
If this is the case, Felix has
been caught in his own trap.
We don't buy Julia's tender con
cern over her husband and
daughters. Nothing stops her
from taking what she wants
when she wants it. Felix should
face the facts. Julia is tired of
him. What would be the point
of marrying him now? She's
better off sticking to the se
curity of Hubby and looking
around for something new and
more interesting in the way of
extra-curricular activities.
Julia's life is a lie from the
ground up. She has cast herself
in the role of heroine, yet she is
a villainess. She lies to herself
when she says that her husband
believes that she loves him and
that her children have had a
"healthy, happy home life." It
may not show, but this family's
life has been emotionally riddled
by deceit. Some day the effects
may appear on the surface.
(Copyright 1957,
General Features Corp.)
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By EUGENE BURNS
Ranger-Naturalist
More than just good compan
ions, dots . can be downright
good medicine for men with
broken bodies. Let me tell you
how one of the war's most dra
matic "recovery" stories, led
to many others.
A World War II pilot who had
cracked up in a plane was hos
pitalized with one badly shat
tered leg and the other in little
better shape. .He was very des
pondent. Attempting to cheer
him up, another wounded air
man got exactly nowhere. In as
piration, he gave a parting shot:
"Colins, you just anturally don't
give the docs a chance to get
you well. You're not interested
in getting well. You know, you
have to get interested in some-
thing. Even if it's only a dog.'
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teer worker with a big heart
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The worker took her problem
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the late Mrs. Marvin Preston,
President of the Westchester
County, New York, Sgciety for
the Prevention of Cruelty to
Animals, who had her own ken
nels.
Mrs. Preston got on it immedi
ately. She found the pup, a fine
animal with a long anr" notable
lineage with the aristocratic
name. Fritz von Grafnar.
With next momingls early
breakfast, the young lieutenant
heard that the pup was on the
way by car. By 10. he was out
on the porch waiting. Whenever
an auto drove up. he would
heave himself to his feet, steady
ing himseif with a can?. That
day, he'd put his crutches aside.
Sure it was silly, he later ad
mitted, but darn it. he did'nt
want that pup to see him for the
Lrst time looking helpless on
crutches.
' When the car drew up with
two women in front and a ball
of lively fur in the back, the
lieutenant was on the steps to
meet. it. He opened the door and
hoisted himself up into the back
seat for couldn't he and his dog
meet each other better that way.
In an instant Fritz was in
his master's arms, and fond
tongue licking at his cheeks and
tne man s arms went out around
the tiny dog. The women were
openly weeping: there were
tears, too, in the wounded man's
eves.
Would Have Been Worth Effort
If Lt. Colin had kept "Fritz"
just as a pet to play with, that
alone would have been worth
the effect on his morale. But he
did better than that, grooming
him and, young as the pup was,
training him remarkably. Fritz
in turn, worked wonders on his
master. Colin's recovery which
doctors had estimated would
take 10 months, was achieved in
just 4 when he and' Fritz left
the hospital the flyer was walk
ing without a cane.
But the dog's healing paw
reached farther than Lt. Colin.
This happened in 1944 and
from that beginning commenced
a series of hundreds and thou
sands of cures extraordinarily
accelerated by dogs. It cured
men who had jungle fever; men
who were broken in spirit from
too much killing; men who worn
out fighting: men who were
wounded; men who needed re
adjustment; men filled with
helpless apathy. And these
"Dogs for Convalescents" were
soon in great demand. But pure
breds because the wounded
did better when they could take
a pride in their dogs' appear
ance. And the dogs in turn, re
quires exercise. They needed
collars, and leashes made in
leathercraft classes. They need
ed obedience training. All re
quired for restoring men to soc
iable campionship.
(Copyright 1957, by
Eugene Burns)
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