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About Spilyay tymoo. (Warm Springs, Or.) 1976-current | View Entire Issue (Feb. 23, 2011)
Spílydy Tyvnoo, Warm Springs, Oregon February 23, 2011 Recognizing risk of teen dating violence What is teen dating violence? Teen dating violence is abu sive and violent behavior in teen dating relationships. It reflects the perpetrator’s desire to control and dominate the victim. It happens in both hetero sexual and homosexual relation ships. It covers a wide range of behavior that includes verbal and em otional abuse, sexual abuse and physical violence. Verbal or emotional abuse includes name-calling, threats, screaming, yelling, ridiculing, criticizing, emotional blackmail ing and stalking; Sexual abuse includes verbal sexual abuse such as sexual slurs or attacks on the victim’s gen der or sexual orientation, un wanted sexual touching and kiss ing, intimidation to force the victim to engage in any kind of sexual activity and rape. Physical abuse includes shov ing, punching, slapping, pinch ing, hitting, kicking, hair pulling, choking, use of a weapon, and any other acts causing physical harm. Nearly 1.5 million high school students nationwide experienced physical abuse from a dating partner in a single year. 1 in 3 adolescent girls in the United States is a victim of physical, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner, a figure that far exceeds victimization rates for other types of violence af fecting youth. One in 10 high school stu dents has been hit, slapped or physically hurt purposefully by a boyfriend or girlfriend. One quarter of high school girls have been victims of physi cal or sexual abuse or date rape. A teen’s confusion about the law and the desire for confiden tiality are two of the most sig nificant barriers to young vic tims o f violence seeking help. 81 percent of parents surveyed either believe teen dating vio Teen Dating Violence Facts As technologies like cell phones and social networking become a common form of com m unications, they can also be used to abuse and con trol: 1 in 3 teens (30 percent) say they are text messaged 10, 20 or 30 times an hour by a partner inquiring where they are, what they’re doing, or who their with. Sixty-eight percent say boy friends/ girlfriends sharing pri vate or em barrassing pic- tures/videos on cell phones and computers is a serious problem. Seventy-one percent of teens regard boyfriends/ girlfriends spreading rumors about them on cell phones and social networking sites as a serious problem. Teens, ask yourself these questions: Is my boyfriend/girlfriend jealous, possessive? Control ling and bossy? Quick tem pered, with a history of fight ing? Violent towards me or other people? Does my dating partner give me orders and make all the decisions? Check up on me all the time? Try to hu miliate me? Call me names and insult me? Force me to have sex when I don’t want to? Use alcohol or drugs and pressure me to do the same? Like to wrestle with me “play fully” and hurt me? Has my dating partner threat ened to com m it suicide if I leave the relationship or don’t do what he/she wants? A t tem pted suicide because I w o u ld n ’t do w hat he/she wanted? Harassed or threatened me or a former dating partner? Refused to accept the relation ship isn’t working or is over? Why would I stay in an abu sive relationship? You may be convinced the bad behavior will sto p -b ecau se your partner apologizes, gives you gifts, and promises to behave better in the future. You may not see the behavior as part of a pattern of abuse; you may believe you are at fault and provoked the abuse; you may love your partner and not want to lose him/her; you may know your partner was in the wrong, but are upset, fright ened, and don’t know what to do or where to turn. Why do some teen boys be have violently towards dating partners? T hey asso ciate p h ysical strength and aggression with “masculinity” or “machismo”. And may teen boys believe men have to dominate and control women to gain the respect of their peers and that they are lence is not an issue or admit they don’t know if it’s an issue. Fifty-seven percent of teens know someone who has been physically, sexually, or verbally abusive in a dating relationship. Only 33 percent of teens who were in an abusive relationship ever told anyone about the abuse. 50 percent of youth report ing both dating violence and rape also reported attempting suicide compared to 12.5 percent of non-abused girls and 5.4 percent of non-abused boys. Who is most at risk? Boys are more likely to be pinched, slapped, scratched, or kicked by dating partners. Girls are much more at risk for severe violence, sexual vio lence, and injuries requiring m edical attention; and more likely to be punched and forced to engage in unwanted sexual activity. Some girls become pregnant as the result of rape or because their boyfriends won’t let them use contraceptives; pregnant teens are at greater risk for you’re the perfect one. Friends always, Ray. Mom, Ron and Jase, have a great hearts day! Luv ya, Raynele. Happy sweethearts day, JoJo and Kelli. Lotsa luv, your sis Ray. To my brother Joeldon: You have never let us down. Thank you for always here. Happy Val entines you cheery guy. Lotsa luv, the Palm ers and Andrews at 9070. Happy sweethearts day! You are always here for us and we have you lots, brother Merlin Tom. Love, Raynele and Kidz. Happy Valentines Day to all my closest friends. You know who you are! L uvya, Ray Palmer. Diabetes education topics for 2011 Diabetes prevention spécial es have scheduled dinner meet- igs for 2011. The meetings will be at the (hrm Springs Senior Center tom 5-6:30 p.m. on the third uesdays of each month. No m eetings scheduled in 'eb ru ary and D ecem ber, aough the Heart Smart Dinner till be on Feb. 15. Dinner is served along with ood information and the op- ortunity to talk with others /ho are managing their diabe- ^s or caring for diabetic family tembers. H ere is the sch edule o f peakers and topics for this ear’s diabetes awareness and apport group dinner and edu- ation meetings: M arch 15: E rin R essler, “Supplements, vitamins, etc.” April 19: Edmund Francis and Ron Berry, “Fitness at all levels and how exercise affects diabetes.” May 17: Jeri Kollen: “Kid ney, heart and liver affected by diabetes.” June 21: M ontell E lliott, “Preventing diabetes.” July 19: Diane Fuller, “Ac cess to care at Warm Springs clinic.” August 16: Linda Porter, “Food safety.” Sep tem ber 20: Jan Goodwin, “Dialysis center pre sentation.” October 18: Wilson Wewa, “Dreams, nightmares, hauntings and paranormal.” November 15: Ron Berry, “Preventing falls.” Tele Co Corner Wireless system will serve tribal members April will be Child Abuse P reven tio n M onth, and Children’s Protective Services is seeking artwork from youth ages 2-18 to commemorate the month. The theme is “child abuse prevention,” and the winner will have his or her artwork on all CPS advertisements, T- shirts and flyers for one year. by M arsha Spellman M arketing & Regulatory Director, WSTC In the last Telecom Corner, I discussed the use of fiber optic cable to transmit large amounts of data. This fiber forms the backbone of our new telecom network. The fiber network will be con nected to the Warm Springs Tele phone Company’s anchor busi ness and governmental custom ers like Kah-Nee-Ta, tribal ad ministration and the Health and Wellness Center. If we had all the money in the world, we would build out the entire network with fiber optic cable, including fiber to the home. Alas, we don’t have all the money, so we had to design this new network to offer the same capability at a more affordable cost. I want to tell you how we will For more information, go deliver the service via the net to: work, to your home. thesafespace.org Qwest, as most telephone Or: companies, is currently using www.breakthecycle.org narrow-band copper wire, called This message is brought to you by the National Center fo r Vic “twisted pair,” to transmit your tims o f Crime, and Warm Springs phone calls from the backbone Victims o f Crime Services. to your home. As I explained previously, copper wire is only able to trans m it a fraction o f the data at much slower speeds than fiber physical assault by intimate part ners. Girls experience more optic cables. psychological abuse from dating Cable TV companies use a partners than boys; and young different type of cable, called women ages 16-24 years, expe co-axial cable, which is much rience the highest rates of rela better than copper, but still not tionship violence. as good as fiber. For more information, go to: Tribal businesses, administra thesafespace.org tive and agency offices need to Or: receive and send large amounts breakthecycle.org of data, so these customers will be connected by fiber. However, (Submitted by the National Center we have chosen another option f o r Victims o f Crime and Warm for tribal members. Springs Victims’ o f Crime Services, We will use “point to multi 541 - 553 - 2293 .) point fixed wireless” to reach all the residential areas on the res ervation. While our ultimate goal is to provide fiber optic cable to ev CPS art work by March 1 Hope you had a great Valentine's Day! Happy Valentine’s Day to my sid ekick. Luv ya, D arreck Palmer. Love, Mom. Kel & Shay, Happy Hearts Day and congrats on your en gagement. Luv ya, Mom. H-Dogg: Happy Valentines Day! Thanks for always holding your family together. Luv ya lots, Mom. D re-D ogg: Have a Happy Valentines with all your sweet hearts. Luv ya, Mom. Poncho and K atie, Happy Valentines and Happy Anniver sary. Luvya, Mom Ray. To m y best friend A lley: Happy Valentines Day! Luv ya, Ray Palmer. JV Culps: Happy Valentines! Hope you found who you were loo kin g for. We both know entitled to demand sex from their girlfriends. Very few teens tell their par ents or other adults they are involved in abusive relation ships, some tell their friends, others tell no one. The secre tiveness is failure to under stand they are victims, embar rassment, shame, confusion, threats from the abuse, fear the abuser will take revenge if they say anything, concern their parents will prevent them from seeing the abuser, con cern they will lose privileges such as use of a car or free dom to go out as they please. Steps Victims can take: Get help. Focus on Safety. Parents/guardians, you can help your teen get help and focus on safety. C ontact W arm Springs Victims’ of Crime Services, 541-553-2293 or 1132 Paiute Street. Page 5 The deadline to submit artwork is 4:30 p.m. on Tues day, March 1. Artwork can be turned in at the CPS of fice on the cam pus, 1109 Wasco St. For more inform ation, co n tact M innie L. Wallulatum, family preserva tion coordinator, at CPS, 541-553-3209. ery home on the reservation, this technology uses w hat some people call a wireless fiber. What is point to multi point fixed wireless? This technology uses a fixed wireless link from the network to your home. This is not like your mobile phone—which is also wireless, but your cell phone moves around with you. This system uses a fixed wire less connection that goes from a communications tower to your home, from point A to point B. You will not even know it is wireless, your phone will oper ate just like a regular house phone. This means that you will only use this phone in your home, with extensions in vari ous rooms if you want. This connection will also be used to deliver your Internet service. For W arm Springs, since homes are often far apart from each other, and since the cost of running fiber to each home is very expensive, this will allow us to deliver a really good signal to your home, without digging up roads and putting up more wires. Therefore, “point to multi point fixed wireless” is the best option for providing access to all residents. The new wireless system will enable us to provide both tele phone service as well as high speed, broadband Internet ac cess. It will also greatly advance the potential of emergency re sponse on the reservation. By providing this new service, all members of the tribe will now be able to contact help in times o f em ergency, call to the children’s school, or just chat with your friends. Next article I will tell you more about the new Central Office that we are going to build on the Reservation. Service will begin to be avail able in Fall of 2011. 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