Spílydy
Tyvnoo,
Warm Springs, Oregon
February
23, 2011
Recognizing risk of teen dating violence
What is teen dating violence?
Teen dating violence is abu
sive and violent behavior in teen
dating relationships.
It reflects the perpetrator’s
desire to control and dominate
the victim.
It happens in both hetero
sexual and homosexual relation
ships.
It covers a wide range of
behavior that includes verbal
and em otional abuse, sexual
abuse and physical violence.
Verbal or emotional abuse
includes name-calling, threats,
screaming, yelling, ridiculing,
criticizing, emotional blackmail
ing and stalking;
Sexual abuse includes verbal
sexual abuse such as sexual slurs
or attacks on the victim’s gen
der or sexual orientation, un
wanted sexual touching and kiss
ing, intimidation to force the
victim to engage in any kind of
sexual activity and rape.
Physical abuse includes shov
ing, punching, slapping, pinch
ing, hitting, kicking, hair pulling,
choking, use of a weapon, and
any other acts causing physical
harm.
Nearly 1.5 million high school
students nationwide experienced
physical abuse from a dating
partner in a single year. 1 in 3
adolescent girls in the United
States is a victim of physical,
emotional or verbal abuse from
a dating partner, a figure that
far exceeds victimization rates
for other types of violence af
fecting youth.
One in 10 high school stu
dents has been hit, slapped or
physically hurt purposefully by
a boyfriend or girlfriend.
One quarter of high school
girls have been victims of physi
cal or sexual abuse or date rape.
A teen’s confusion about the
law and the desire for confiden
tiality are two of the most sig
nificant barriers to young vic
tims o f violence seeking help.
81 percent of parents surveyed
either believe teen dating vio
Teen Dating Violence Facts
As technologies like cell
phones and social networking
become a common form of
com m unications, they can
also be used to abuse and con
trol: 1 in 3 teens (30 percent)
say they are text messaged 10,
20 or 30 times an hour by a
partner inquiring where they
are, what they’re doing, or
who their with.
Sixty-eight percent say boy
friends/ girlfriends sharing pri
vate or em barrassing pic-
tures/videos on cell phones
and computers is a serious
problem. Seventy-one percent
of teens regard boyfriends/
girlfriends spreading rumors
about them on cell phones and
social networking sites as a
serious problem.
Teens, ask yourself these
questions:
Is my boyfriend/girlfriend
jealous, possessive? Control
ling and bossy? Quick tem
pered, with a history of fight
ing? Violent towards me or
other people?
Does my dating partner
give me orders and make all
the decisions? Check up on
me all the time? Try to hu
miliate me? Call me names
and insult me? Force me to
have sex when I don’t want
to? Use alcohol or drugs and
pressure me to do the same?
Like to wrestle with me “play
fully” and hurt me?
Has my dating partner threat
ened to com m it suicide if I
leave the relationship or don’t
do what he/she wants? A t
tem pted suicide because I
w o u ld n ’t do w hat he/she
wanted? Harassed or threatened
me or a former dating partner?
Refused to accept the relation
ship isn’t working or is over?
Why would I stay in an abu
sive relationship? You may be
convinced the bad behavior will
sto p -b ecau se your partner
apologizes, gives you gifts, and
promises to behave better in the
future. You may not see the
behavior as part of a pattern of
abuse; you may believe you are
at fault and provoked the abuse;
you may love your partner and
not want to lose him/her; you
may know your partner was in
the wrong, but are upset, fright
ened, and don’t know what to
do or where to turn.
Why do some teen boys be
have violently towards dating
partners?
T hey asso ciate p h ysical
strength and aggression with
“masculinity” or “machismo”.
And may teen boys believe men
have to dominate and control
women to gain the respect of
their peers and that they are
lence is not an issue or admit
they don’t know if it’s an issue.
Fifty-seven percent of teens
know someone who has been
physically, sexually, or verbally
abusive in a dating relationship.
Only 33 percent of teens who
were in an abusive relationship
ever told anyone about the
abuse.
50 percent of youth report
ing both dating violence and rape
also reported attempting suicide
compared to 12.5 percent of
non-abused girls and 5.4 percent
of non-abused boys.
Who is most at risk?
Boys are more likely to be
pinched, slapped, scratched, or
kicked by dating partners.
Girls are much more at risk
for severe violence, sexual vio
lence, and injuries requiring
m edical attention; and more
likely to be punched and forced
to engage in unwanted sexual
activity.
Some girls become pregnant
as the result of rape or because
their boyfriends won’t let them
use contraceptives; pregnant
teens are at greater risk for
you’re the perfect one. Friends
always, Ray.
Mom, Ron and Jase, have a
great hearts day! Luv ya,
Raynele.
Happy sweethearts day, JoJo
and Kelli. Lotsa luv, your sis Ray.
To my brother Joeldon: You
have never let us down. Thank
you for always here. Happy Val
entines you cheery guy. Lotsa luv,
the Palm ers and Andrews at
9070.
Happy sweethearts day! You
are always here for us and we
have you lots, brother Merlin
Tom. Love, Raynele and Kidz.
Happy Valentines Day to all
my closest friends. You know
who you are! L uvya, Ray
Palmer.
Diabetes education topics for 2011
Diabetes prevention spécial
es have scheduled dinner meet-
igs for 2011.
The meetings will be at the
(hrm Springs Senior Center
tom 5-6:30 p.m. on the third
uesdays of each month.
No m eetings scheduled in
'eb ru ary and D ecem ber,
aough the Heart Smart Dinner
till be on Feb. 15.
Dinner is served along with
ood information and the op-
ortunity to talk with others
/ho are managing their diabe-
^s or caring for diabetic family
tembers.
H ere is the sch edule o f
peakers and topics for this
ear’s diabetes awareness and
apport group dinner and edu-
ation meetings:
M arch 15: E rin R essler,
“Supplements, vitamins, etc.”
April 19: Edmund Francis
and Ron Berry, “Fitness at all
levels and how exercise affects
diabetes.”
May 17: Jeri Kollen: “Kid
ney, heart and liver affected by
diabetes.”
June 21: M ontell E lliott,
“Preventing diabetes.”
July 19: Diane Fuller, “Ac
cess to care at Warm Springs
clinic.”
August 16: Linda Porter,
“Food safety.”
Sep tem ber
20:
Jan
Goodwin, “Dialysis center pre
sentation.”
October 18: Wilson Wewa,
“Dreams, nightmares, hauntings
and paranormal.”
November 15: Ron Berry,
“Preventing falls.”
Tele Co Corner
Wireless system will
serve tribal members
April will be Child Abuse
P reven tio n M onth, and
Children’s Protective Services
is seeking artwork from youth
ages 2-18 to commemorate
the month.
The theme is “child abuse
prevention,” and the winner
will have his or her artwork
on all CPS advertisements, T-
shirts and flyers for one year.
by M arsha Spellman
M arketing & Regulatory
Director, WSTC
In the last Telecom Corner, I
discussed the use of fiber optic
cable to transmit large amounts
of data. This fiber forms the
backbone of our new telecom
network.
The fiber network will be con
nected to the Warm Springs Tele
phone Company’s anchor busi
ness and governmental custom
ers like Kah-Nee-Ta, tribal ad
ministration and the Health and
Wellness Center.
If we had all the money in
the world, we would build out
the entire network with fiber
optic cable, including fiber to the
home. Alas, we don’t have all the
money, so we had to design this
new network to offer the same
capability at a more affordable
cost.
I want to tell you how we will
For more information, go
deliver
the service via the net
to:
work, to your home.
thesafespace.org
Qwest, as most telephone
Or:
companies, is currently using
www.breakthecycle.org
narrow-band copper wire, called
This message is brought to you
by the National Center fo r Vic
“twisted pair,” to transmit your
tims o f Crime, and Warm Springs
phone calls from the backbone
Victims o f Crime Services.
to your home.
As I explained previously,
copper wire is only able to trans
m it a fraction o f the data at
much
slower speeds than fiber
physical assault by intimate part
ners. Girls experience more optic cables.
psychological abuse from dating
Cable TV companies use a
partners than boys; and young different type of cable, called
women ages 16-24 years, expe co-axial cable, which is much
rience the highest rates of rela better than copper, but still not
tionship violence.
as good as fiber.
For more information, go to:
Tribal businesses, administra
thesafespace.org
tive and agency offices need to
Or:
receive and send large amounts
breakthecycle.org
of data, so these customers will
be connected by fiber. However,
(Submitted by the National Center we have chosen another option
f o r Victims o f Crime and Warm for tribal members.
Springs Victims’ o f Crime Services,
We will use “point to multi
541 - 553 - 2293 .)
point fixed wireless” to reach all
the residential areas on the res
ervation.
While our ultimate goal is to
provide fiber optic cable to ev
CPS art work by March 1
Hope you had a great Valentine's Day!
Happy Valentine’s Day to my
sid ekick. Luv ya, D arreck
Palmer. Love, Mom.
Kel & Shay, Happy Hearts
Day and congrats on your en
gagement. Luv ya, Mom.
H-Dogg: Happy Valentines
Day! Thanks for always holding
your family together. Luv ya lots,
Mom.
D re-D ogg: Have a Happy
Valentines with all your sweet
hearts. Luv ya, Mom.
Poncho and K atie, Happy
Valentines and Happy Anniver
sary. Luvya, Mom Ray.
To m y best friend A lley:
Happy Valentines Day! Luv ya,
Ray Palmer.
JV Culps: Happy Valentines!
Hope you found who you were
loo kin g for. We both know
entitled to demand sex from
their girlfriends.
Very few teens tell their par
ents or other adults they are
involved in abusive relation
ships, some tell their friends,
others tell no one. The secre
tiveness is failure to under
stand they are victims, embar
rassment, shame, confusion,
threats from the abuse, fear
the abuser will take revenge
if they say anything, concern
their parents will prevent them
from seeing the abuser, con
cern they will lose privileges
such as use of a car or free
dom to go out as they please.
Steps Victims can take:
Get help.
Focus on Safety.
Parents/guardians, you can
help your teen get help and
focus on safety.
C ontact W arm Springs
Victims’ of Crime Services,
541-553-2293 or 1132 Paiute
Street.
Page 5
The deadline to submit
artwork is 4:30 p.m. on Tues
day, March 1. Artwork can
be turned in at the CPS of
fice on the cam pus, 1109
Wasco St.
For more inform ation,
co n tact
M innie
L.
Wallulatum, family preserva
tion coordinator, at CPS,
541-553-3209.
ery home on the reservation, this
technology uses w hat some
people call a wireless fiber.
What is point to multi point
fixed wireless?
This technology uses a fixed
wireless link from the network
to your home. This is not like
your mobile phone—which is
also wireless, but your cell phone
moves around with you.
This system uses a fixed wire
less connection that goes from
a communications tower to your
home, from point A to point B.
You will not even know it is
wireless, your phone will oper
ate just like a regular house
phone. This means that you will
only use this phone in your
home, with extensions in vari
ous rooms if you want.
This connection will also be
used to deliver your Internet
service. For W arm Springs,
since homes are often far apart
from each other, and since the
cost of running fiber to each
home is very expensive, this will
allow us to deliver a really good
signal to your home, without
digging up roads and putting up
more wires.
Therefore, “point to multi
point fixed wireless” is the best
option for providing access to
all residents.
The new wireless system will
enable us to provide both tele
phone service as well as high
speed, broadband Internet ac
cess.
It will also greatly advance
the potential of emergency re
sponse on the reservation. By
providing this new service, all
members of the tribe will now
be able to contact help in times
o f em ergency, call to the
children’s school, or just chat
with your friends.
Next article I will tell you
more about the new Central
Office that we are going to build
on the Reservation.
Service will begin to be avail
able in Fall of 2011.
Alcoholics
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Warm Springs Community Counseling
Wednesday - 12-Noon & 7:00 p.m.
Saturday - 1 0 a.m.
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