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SPILYAY TYMOO Warm springs, Oregon April 6, 2000 5 News from the IHS Health & Wellness Center: Children, the silent victims of relation silence- by Rachel E. Locker MD Domestic violence or relationship violence involves the physical, mental, or emotional ahuse of one ?ortner in an intimate relationship, "his may be a dating relationship, marriage, separation or even divorce situation. Such abuse is not due to an anger management or drinking problem but is meant to maintain control in the relationship through fear and intimidation. The obvious victim in these situations is the partner (usually the woman) who turns up with a black eye or a broken arm. What about the children in these families? We hear more and more each day about violence on TV and in the movies, and what is this doing to our children and our society? Is this the cause for all the recent school shootings and violent acts from our youth? What about the violence our children witness in the home? Children witnessing violence be tween the adults in the home are seeing it from the most important people in their lives. These are the people they depend on to teach them about life and to be their role models. We often fail to think about the effect of violence beyond the visible, physical trauma. Violence in the home has tremendous impacts on the developing minds of children. This includes the emotional, physical and mental well being of the child as well as their ability to learn. This in turn has a major impact on the future of the children and the community they live in. It should be recognized that chil dren may be victims in violent homes as well the parent. In homes where there is violence between the par ents, a child is 15 times more likely to be physically abused. Violent threats may be made against children as a way to gain control over the victim. They may also be uninten tionally injured in an attack while trying to protect the victim. Children can be traumatized and terrorized whether they are the targets of the violent outburst or not. The batterermight use the child to control the victim whether the couple is living together or separated. This may in clude isolation of the children from peers or extended family along with the victim. The child may be made to take part in or forced to watch the physical or emotional assaults against the victim. The batterer may try to turn the children against the abused parent through verbal assaults and lectures to the children about the victim and her behavior. The batterer may blame the children, telling them their "bad"bchavior is the reason the victim was attacked. The batterer may interrogate the children about the victim's behavior when he is not around. Children are often the forgotten victims in relationship violence. They may not have the bumps and bruises; they may not have even seen what happened while they were hiding under the bed. Regardless they are always affected in some way by violence in the home. The type and extent of damage depends on 3 main factors: The child's age, gender and stage of development; the social situation and; the type and extent of abuse and control used by the batterer. During infancy the child must develop emotional attachment, which is in turn followed by healthy de velopment. Domestic violence in terrupts the infant's attachment to the batterer and possibly the victim. The batterer may purposefully interrupt the victim's care of the infant, refusing to allow feeding, and nurturing. Vio lence may not permit bonding with either parent to occur. The result of this is difficulty in forming relation ships later in life and delayed de velopment of skills and abilities for the age. This might include crawling and walking. Between ages 5 and 10 the main development of the child includes learning (reading, writing) and de velopment of a roles (male, female etc.) Violence in the home can in terfere with both of these tasks. A child may have difficulty learning basic concepts in school if he is concerned about what is happening to mom at home. As teenagers we learn to become independent and function without our parents. What occurs in teen rela tionships will often mimic what oc curs in the parents-relationships. The teen may side with (he abusive par ent, seeing them as powerful, and themselves become abusive to their partner. They may also identify with the victim and enter into an abusive relationship as the victim. Children, like adults, have nu merous ways of dealing with and expressing fear. Some such ways we see include eating and sleeping dis orders, depression, emotional neediness, withdrawal, aggressive acting out, destructive rages, detach ment, nightmares, physical com plaints (headaches, stomach pain) . with no cause found. In addition nervous habits such as finger biting, stuttering and shaking may develop. Suicidal thoughts and attempts are perhaps the most serious expression of a child's anxiety. Research shows that children who witness domestic violence are af fected in the same way as children who are physically or sexually abused. A childfs experience with domestic violence results in changes in how they see themselves and oth ers. They may see themselves as the cause for the violence against the victim. It also harms the childfs de velopment of the ability to solve problems in a healthy way. Instead these children will learn to use very passive or very aggressive behaviors to solve problems. Alcohol and drug abuse, imprisonment, violent rela tionships and teen pregnancy all oc cur more commonly in young persons who grow up in violent homes. 63 of boys ages 1 1-20 in jail for murder are there because they killed the per son who was abusing their mother. 70 of patients in batterers treat ment programs witnessed violence between their own parents. 80 of runaways are from homes where do mestic violence is occurring. Children are the most important resource for any community's future health and prosperity. Growing up in a violent household can drastically affect a child's physical, mental and emotional well-being. Relationship violence is not unique to any one race, religion, or social class. It happens everywhere. This docs not make it OK. If you or someone you know is in violent relationship help is available. Please seek help: for your health, your children's health, and your community's health. Warm Springs Victims Assistance 553-2293 Central Oregon Battery and Rape Alliance 475 1 880 or 1-800-356-2369 Warm Springs Health and Wellness Center 553-2465 Conference scheduled for April 27, 2000 Whale of the Children 2000 Touching the Circle HeHe Longhouse, Warm Springs, OR Thursday April 27th- 6 p.m.-Light Healing FireOpen ing ceremony by Iris (Kalama) Smith (Snacks) 7 p.m.-Presentation: Help Fami lies & Vets off the streetsHealing Circle Larson Kalama, Sr. Closing prayer-Wilma (Smith) Picard Friday April 28th Breakfast 9 a.m.-Healing Circle for War riors, Women & Children (held sepa rately) Lite Lunch-Prior to Sweat Dinner-After Sweat 6:30p.m.-Flute Circle 8 p.m. -Mini Powwow (inviting all drums) Saturday April 29th "Kids Day" Breakfast 9:45 a.m. Introduction(s): Larson Kalama Sr. to introduce teachers. Sweat Lodge introduction to youth: Foster Kalama. 10:40 a.m.-Begin First Session Lunch 1:45 p.m.-End Fourth Session 1:50 p.m. Return to Longhouse 2 p.m. Sweat Lodge for Kids 3:45 p.m.-Main & Final Session Dinner Special Gathering: To be announced Men will sweat at sunrisewomen in the evenings. A familyguardian andor desig nated adult must accompany and be responsible for their child(ren) at all times. Requesting any and all assistance with raffle items & food. Agenda subject to change!) Contact: Larson Kalama Sr. (541) 553-1317; Leminnie Smith (541) 475-1798 evenings; Other commit tee members: Ross Kalama, Sr.; Wilma Picard; Denise Picard-Smith; Bob Colson; Dominic Weibersch; Glenn Blacketer; Cody Black Jr.; Foster Kalama; Phillip Wright; Randy Smith and Grey Eagle. This event is open to all interested!!! Warm Springs Head Start Health Fair April 20, 2000 or May 18, 2000 By appointment only. To sign up for an appointment, contact ECE at 553-3241. The Health Fair is set up for children 4 years old's getting ready to go into Kindergarten and for children 3 years old on or before September 1st , entering Head Start' .' , Seeking artists The Natural Resources and For estry branches are looking for a tribal member artist who would be willing to create a series of illustrations for the updated IRMP I document to be released in 2001. Approximately 25 drawings of various size will be used to illustrate specific sections within the plan. These sections will cover topics re lated to fish, wildlife, water, timber, economics, transportation, cultural resources, conditional use areas, for"age,,fire, recreation, soil and other issues ,pertaining, to integrated, re sources management of the reservationfs forested lands. The illustrations will be repro duced in black and white, so draw ings or sketches are the preferred medium for submissions to the se-, lection panel. Interested parties will be asked to produce two examples of their work depicting 1) a forested landscape and 2) wildlife. Submissions of artwork should be made to Bodie Shaw, assistant Forestry manager, whose office is located in the southeast corner of the Forestry complex. The suggested format for submissions is 8x10 inches. The artist's name, address and telephone number should appear in the lower left-hand corner of each drawing. .., The artist chosen to illustrate the IRMP dqcument will be paid a pre determined fee for their services. Works purchased for this project will become the property of the tribal Natural Resources Branch. The deadline for submissions is May 22. The selection panel will announce the name of the winning artist no later than June 15. - , To my bundle of "JOY" Happy 2nd Birthday Sonny You ve come a long way and brought plenty of laughter and joy to my life. I love you Sonny Momm (Carol) 7m mi t V kV Happy Birthday to "Cool" & Willis Hey, a double shot birthday wish. With love from Mom, dad (JT), Wes, Buddy, Wayne, Sage, Dionne, Evey, Meredith, Annette, Dixon & last but not least Tippy "Thank you for Here it is going into the fourth month being in this job of collections officer. I've had a good turn out of people coming in to sign payment agreements, per capita and payroll deductions. So far, I have had twenty or twenty-five people come in who are current tenants, and ten or twelve people on the vacated accounts. I have not had any problems with anyone so far, and I'd really like to let the people know that they need to take care of their account. The sooner Happy Belated 15th Birthday to my brother Gibson Lawrence Danzuka March 10, 2000 I Love You Lots, Thank for Always helping out with your nephew. We appreciated it alot.... Love you Always, Marcellina Picard Happy Birthday to my "sistef aina April 8th, Cjod bless you & yours and remember we Cove you tbtsl Una, "Easton & fads Happy Birthday to these special people: March lOth-Rose Williams (Ma) 18th-Debbie Williams ' 19th-Parkay Kalama 22nd-Bucky Switzler 30th-Peggy W.Guerin April 3rd-Bruce Smith 4th-MushyM. Hope your day was blessed! Lotsa love & prayers, Tina, Easton & kids Happy Birthday Uncle Wesley Smith March 22, 2000 Love, Lennox Awan Lewis & Marcy Congratulations Uncle Wesley & Jamaica On your new baby boy Khyree T. Smith March 12,2000 Love Always, Lennox Awan & Marcellina being prompt" we get our Tribal account receivable down, the sooner we will be able to get more housing for the people. I am willing to talk with you and work out some kind of plan. So if you would like to call me or come to the housing office and see me, I'm here to help you in anyway I can. Our phone number is 553-3250. Respectfully submitted, Carol Craig Collections Officer WS Housing Authority Happy 4th 'Birthday, April4th to Joseph Angel Squatty way up north! Hope your day was a good one. 'We love you! grandma, Tapa & fds Happy 'Belated 'Birthday to my "Baby son" Aaron 'Rpius Squally March 28th. We send our love and much prayers for you everyday. "We love and miss you very muck Hope your day was great! Love, Mom, "Easton, Shanell, Colleen, Terry III, Terry Jr.,& the rest of lRe family here. Happy Belated Birthday Haw-Hal April 2 Seems Uke it was only yesterday we ulebrated your first birthday! May Qod bless you & keep you Always, Mom & Dad The 7th Annual Tribal Member Art Show io an i riDal member artists and craftsmen, The Museum At Warm Springs has mailed out reminders to past participants of the Tribal Member Art Exhibit September 3, 2000. All applications must be in to the Museum office May 1 2, 200 by 5 p.m. May 1 1 th and 12th will ttn The art work for sale will have the opportunity to participate in three awards categories with 10 of anv sales mhmAmcsL A prestigious award that is given to the most outstanding art submitted as selected by the judge. The chosen work will be used as the primary publicity piece for this exhibit V HffnonNt Mfntwn Award; .This award will be selected by the judge as outstanding work rvr m - LBf iWff Aw,ri: Recgnizing that career in art may be difficult, Timberline Chief Executive ufrtKf?T? created1tthe,Timbciline Pu"ase Awards to provide a fining taTaSS o pursue the rart work. Kohnstomm will select and purchase art for resale in the Timberline Lodge gift shop. Works selected for the category must be for sale. . 6 v nr I ?Ji0wi?f 'S a.CPy,0f C Conna? wd APPlicatio". which can be clipped and used. If you have any questions or need additional applications call the Museum (541) 553-3331 or stop and pick up copies. Huons "Artists in 2000" 7th Annual Tribal Member Art Exhibit . , ,. Guidelines-Contract-Application Guidelines: WarmASpringsK f r ldCr mUS' bC T"bal member of Confederated Tribes of the ' A.Pplication .dfadline 's May 12, 2000. The application will need to be completed, contract signed and brought to the Museum with art work by 5 p.m. on the above date. uiuKni nJ't A- be subn!itted y l.he artists themselves either by mail, UPS, or in person. All pieces submitted can t be entered if they were in any prior exhibit at the Museum. 4. Only submit art that can remain in the exhibit for its entire duration, June 5 through September 3, 2000. Art work must be numbered or labeled with artist's name, address, and phone number 5. Artist must complete the artist statement on the application. A brief history of yourself, art form, how long, and what year you learned. All art work will be insured by the Museum. 6. Artist is responsible for bringing their selected pieces to the Museum for the jury date on May 12 2000 AH shipping cost to and from the Museum are the artists responsibility. yiwu.ui Septembe Tooo" MembCr EXh'bk Wi" "eed l P'Cked "P ne WCek aftef thc cxhibit is over 8. Three awards are given, Judge's Choice, Honorable Mention Awards and Timberline Purchases Awards (work selected in the Timberline category must be available for sale). 1 9. The Museum At Warm Springs has a new requirement: IF you sell any art work during the 7th Annual Tribal Member Art Exhibit you pay 10 of your sales to the Museum! 8 Contract: My art piece(s) are automatically accepted in the 7th Annual Tribal Member Art Exhibit, I will agree to the above attoS ofS show8" 10 6 my SdeCted Wrk(S) thC CarC f ThC MuSeUm At Warm Springs for the entire .Signature Date Application: !Sr-e 7th Tribal Member Art Exhibit, opening reception on June 5 and closing September 3, 2000. The application deadline is May 12, 2000. Artist Information Name: Phone: Address: Work phone:. City & State:. Art Work Mess. phone: 1. Title: .Media: Selling price: 2. Title: . Not for sale: . Insurance value: .Media: Selling price:. . Not for sale: . Insurance value: 3. Title: .Media: Selling price:. 4. Title: . Not for sale: . Insurance value: .Media: Selling price:. 5. Title: . Not for sale: . Insurance value: .Media: ""i re selling price:. . Not for sale: Insurance value:. husband "Easton on April 2nd Hope you enjoy many more. Lotsa Cove, Jour wife, Tina, ShaneS, Colleen, Terry III, Aaron & family, Terry Jr., Mystee, Sweetheart, pclq, Socfs & Chewy. Title-name of your art; Media-materials your art is made from, Selling price-if your art is not for sale, check with an X, Insurance value-what monetary value you put on art work. Even if it is not for sale, please put an insurance value on your work. Artist Statement: 1 i 1