SPILYAY TYMOO
Warm springs, Oregon
April 6, 2000 5
News from the IHS Health & Wellness Center: Children, the silent victims of relation silence-
by Rachel E. Locker MD
Domestic violence or relationship
violence involves the physical,
mental, or emotional ahuse of one
?ortner in an intimate relationship,
"his may be a dating relationship,
marriage, separation or even divorce
situation. Such abuse is not due to an
anger management or drinking
problem but is meant to maintain
control in the relationship through
fear and intimidation. The obvious
victim in these situations is the partner
(usually the woman) who turns up
with a black eye or a broken arm.
What about the children in these
families?
We hear more and more each day
about violence on TV and in the
movies, and what is this doing to our
children and our society? Is this the
cause for all the recent school
shootings and violent acts from our
youth? What about the violence our
children witness in the home?
Children witnessing violence be
tween the adults in the home are
seeing it from the most important
people in their lives. These are the
people they depend on to teach them
about life and to be their role models.
We often fail to think about the effect
of violence beyond the visible,
physical trauma. Violence in the
home has tremendous impacts on the
developing minds of children. This
includes the emotional, physical and
mental well being of the child as well
as their ability to learn. This in turn
has a major impact on the future of
the children and the community they
live in.
It should be recognized that chil
dren may be victims in violent homes
as well the parent. In homes where
there is violence between the par
ents, a child is 15 times more likely
to be physically abused. Violent
threats may be made against children
as a way to gain control over the
victim. They may also be uninten
tionally injured in an attack while
trying to protect the victim.
Children can be traumatized and
terrorized whether they are the targets
of the violent outburst or not. The
batterermight use the child to control
the victim whether the couple is living
together or separated. This may in
clude isolation of the children from
peers or extended family along with
the victim. The child may be made to
take part in or forced to watch the
physical or emotional assaults against
the victim. The batterer may try to
turn the children against the abused
parent through verbal assaults and
lectures to the children about the
victim and her behavior. The batterer
may blame the children, telling them
their "bad"bchavior is the reason the
victim was attacked. The batterer
may interrogate the children about
the victim's behavior when he is not
around.
Children are often the forgotten
victims in relationship violence. They
may not have the bumps and bruises;
they may not have even seen what
happened while they were hiding
under the bed. Regardless they are
always affected in some way by
violence in the home. The type and
extent of damage depends on 3 main
factors: The child's age, gender and
stage of development; the social
situation and; the type and extent of
abuse and control used by the batterer.
During infancy the child must
develop emotional attachment, which
is in turn followed by healthy de
velopment. Domestic violence in
terrupts the infant's attachment to the
batterer and possibly the victim. The
batterer may purposefully interrupt
the victim's care of the infant, refusing
to allow feeding, and nurturing. Vio
lence may not permit bonding with
either parent to occur. The result of
this is difficulty in forming relation
ships later in life and delayed de
velopment of skills and abilities
for the age. This might include
crawling and walking.
Between ages 5 and 10 the main
development of the child includes
learning (reading, writing) and de
velopment of a roles (male, female
etc.) Violence in the home can in
terfere with both of these tasks. A
child may have difficulty learning
basic concepts in school if he is
concerned about what is happening
to mom at home.
As teenagers we learn to become
independent and function without our
parents. What occurs in teen rela
tionships will often mimic what oc
curs in the parents-relationships. The
teen may side with (he abusive par
ent, seeing them as powerful, and
themselves become abusive to their
partner. They may also identify with
the victim and enter into an abusive
relationship as the victim.
Children, like adults, have nu
merous ways of dealing with and
expressing fear. Some such ways we
see include eating and sleeping dis
orders, depression, emotional
neediness, withdrawal, aggressive
acting out, destructive rages, detach
ment, nightmares, physical com
plaints (headaches, stomach pain) .
with no cause found. In addition
nervous habits such as finger biting,
stuttering and shaking may develop.
Suicidal thoughts and attempts are
perhaps the most serious expression
of a child's anxiety.
Research shows that children who
witness domestic violence are af
fected in the same way as children
who are physically or sexually
abused. A childfs experience with
domestic violence results in changes
in how they see themselves and oth
ers. They may see themselves as the
cause for the violence against the
victim. It also harms the childfs de
velopment of the ability to solve
problems in a healthy way. Instead
these children will learn to use very
passive or very aggressive behaviors
to solve problems. Alcohol and drug
abuse, imprisonment, violent rela
tionships and teen pregnancy all oc
cur more commonly in young persons
who grow up in violent homes. 63
of boys ages 1 1-20 in jail for murder
are there because they killed the per
son who was abusing their mother.
70 of patients in batterers treat
ment programs witnessed violence
between their own parents. 80 of
runaways are from homes where do
mestic violence is occurring.
Children are the most important
resource for any community's future
health and prosperity. Growing up
in a violent household can drastically
affect a child's physical, mental and
emotional well-being. Relationship
violence is not unique to any one
race, religion, or social class. It
happens everywhere. This docs not
make it OK. If you or someone you
know is in violent relationship help
is available.
Please seek help: for your health,
your children's health, and your
community's health.
Warm Springs Victims Assistance
553-2293
Central Oregon Battery and Rape
Alliance 475 1 880 or 1-800-356-2369
Warm Springs Health and
Wellness Center 553-2465
Conference scheduled for April 27, 2000
Whale of the Children 2000
Touching the Circle
HeHe Longhouse, Warm Springs,
OR
Thursday April 27th-
6 p.m.-Light Healing FireOpen
ing ceremony by Iris (Kalama) Smith
(Snacks)
7 p.m.-Presentation: Help Fami
lies & Vets off the streetsHealing
Circle Larson Kalama, Sr.
Closing prayer-Wilma (Smith)
Picard
Friday April 28th
Breakfast
9 a.m.-Healing Circle for War
riors, Women & Children (held sepa
rately) Lite Lunch-Prior to Sweat
Dinner-After Sweat
6:30p.m.-Flute Circle
8 p.m. -Mini Powwow (inviting
all drums)
Saturday April 29th "Kids Day"
Breakfast
9:45 a.m. Introduction(s): Larson
Kalama Sr. to introduce teachers.
Sweat Lodge introduction to youth:
Foster Kalama.
10:40 a.m.-Begin First Session
Lunch
1:45 p.m.-End Fourth Session
1:50 p.m. Return to Longhouse
2 p.m. Sweat Lodge for Kids
3:45 p.m.-Main & Final Session
Dinner
Special Gathering: To be announced
Men will sweat at sunrisewomen
in the evenings.
A familyguardian andor desig
nated adult must accompany and be
responsible for their child(ren) at all
times.
Requesting any and all assistance
with raffle items & food. Agenda
subject to change!)
Contact: Larson Kalama Sr. (541)
553-1317; Leminnie Smith (541)
475-1798 evenings; Other commit
tee members: Ross Kalama, Sr.;
Wilma Picard; Denise Picard-Smith;
Bob Colson; Dominic Weibersch;
Glenn Blacketer; Cody Black Jr.;
Foster Kalama; Phillip Wright;
Randy Smith and Grey Eagle.
This event is open to all interested!!!
Warm Springs Head Start
Health Fair
April 20, 2000 or
May 18, 2000
By appointment only.
To sign up for an
appointment, contact ECE at
553-3241.
The Health Fair is set up for
children 4 years old's getting
ready to go into Kindergarten
and for children 3 years old
on or before September 1st
, entering Head Start' .' ,
Seeking artists
The Natural Resources and For
estry branches are looking for a tribal
member artist who would be willing
to create a series of illustrations for
the updated IRMP I document to be
released in 2001.
Approximately 25 drawings of
various size will be used to illustrate
specific sections within the plan.
These sections will cover topics re
lated to fish, wildlife, water, timber,
economics, transportation, cultural
resources, conditional use areas,
for"age,,fire, recreation, soil and other
issues ,pertaining, to integrated, re
sources management of the
reservationfs forested lands.
The illustrations will be repro
duced in black and white, so draw
ings or sketches are the preferred
medium for submissions to the se-,
lection panel. Interested parties will
be asked to produce two examples of
their work depicting 1) a forested
landscape and 2) wildlife.
Submissions of artwork should
be made to Bodie Shaw, assistant
Forestry manager, whose office is
located in the southeast corner of the
Forestry complex. The suggested
format for submissions is 8x10
inches. The artist's name, address
and telephone number should appear
in the lower left-hand corner of each
drawing.
.., The artist chosen to illustrate the
IRMP dqcument will be paid a pre
determined fee for their services.
Works purchased for this project will
become the property of the tribal
Natural Resources Branch.
The deadline for submissions is
May 22. The selection panel will
announce the name of the winning
artist no later than June 15.
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To my bundle of "JOY"
Happy 2nd Birthday Sonny
You ve come a long way
and brought plenty of
laughter and joy to my life.
I love you Sonny
Momm (Carol)
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Happy Birthday
to "Cool" & Willis
Hey, a double shot
birthday wish.
With love from
Mom, dad (JT), Wes,
Buddy, Wayne, Sage,
Dionne, Evey, Meredith,
Annette, Dixon & last
but not least Tippy
"Thank you for
Here it is going into the fourth
month being in this job of collections
officer. I've had a good turn out of
people coming in to sign payment
agreements, per capita and payroll
deductions. So far, I have had twenty
or twenty-five people come in who
are current tenants, and ten or twelve
people on the vacated accounts. I
have not had any problems with
anyone so far, and I'd really like to
let the people know that they need to
take care of their account. The sooner
Happy Belated 15th Birthday
to my brother
Gibson Lawrence Danzuka
March 10, 2000
I Love You Lots, Thank for
Always helping out with your
nephew. We appreciated it alot....
Love you Always,
Marcellina Picard
Happy Birthday to my
"sistef aina April 8th,
Cjod bless you & yours and remember
we Cove you tbtsl
Una, "Easton & fads
Happy Birthday to these special
people:
March
lOth-Rose Williams (Ma)
18th-Debbie Williams '
19th-Parkay Kalama
22nd-Bucky Switzler
30th-Peggy W.Guerin
April
3rd-Bruce Smith
4th-MushyM.
Hope your day was blessed! Lotsa
love & prayers,
Tina, Easton & kids
Happy Birthday
Uncle Wesley Smith
March 22, 2000
Love,
Lennox Awan Lewis & Marcy
Congratulations
Uncle Wesley & Jamaica
On your new baby boy
Khyree T. Smith
March 12,2000
Love Always,
Lennox Awan & Marcellina
being prompt"
we get our Tribal account receivable
down, the sooner we will be able to
get more housing for the people. I am
willing to talk with you and work out
some kind of plan. So if you would
like to call me or come to the housing
office and see me, I'm here to help
you in anyway I can. Our phone
number is 553-3250.
Respectfully submitted,
Carol Craig
Collections Officer
WS Housing Authority
Happy 4th 'Birthday, April4th to
Joseph Angel Squatty way up north!
Hope your day was a good one. 'We love
you!
grandma, Tapa & fds
Happy 'Belated 'Birthday to my
"Baby son" Aaron 'Rpius Squally
March 28th.
We send our love and much prayers
for you everyday. "We love and miss you
very muck Hope your day was great!
Love, Mom, "Easton, Shanell,
Colleen, Terry III, Terry Jr.,& the rest
of lRe family here.
Happy Belated Birthday
Haw-Hal April 2
Seems Uke it was only yesterday we
ulebrated your first birthday! May Qod
bless you & keep you Always, Mom &
Dad
The 7th Annual Tribal Member Art Show
io an i riDal member artists and craftsmen,
The Museum At Warm Springs has mailed out reminders to past participants of the Tribal Member Art Exhibit
September 3, 2000. All applications must be in to the Museum office May 1 2, 200 by 5 p.m. May 1 1 th and 12th will
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The art work for sale will have the opportunity to participate in three awards categories with 10 of anv sales
mhmAmcsL A prestigious award that is given to the most outstanding art submitted as selected by
the judge. The chosen work will be used as the primary publicity piece for this exhibit V
HffnonNt Mfntwn Award; .This award will be selected by the judge as outstanding work
rvr m - LBf iWff Aw,ri: Recgnizing that career in art may be difficult, Timberline Chief Executive
ufrtKf?T? created1tthe,Timbciline Pu"ase Awards to provide a fining taTaSS
o pursue the rart work. Kohnstomm will select and purchase art for resale in the Timberline Lodge gift shop. Works
selected for the category must be for sale. . 6 v
nr I ?Ji0wi?f 'S a.CPy,0f C Conna? wd APPlicatio". which can be clipped and used. If you have any questions
or need additional applications call the Museum (541) 553-3331 or stop and pick up copies. Huons
"Artists in 2000"
7th Annual Tribal Member Art Exhibit
. , ,. Guidelines-Contract-Application
Guidelines:
WarmASpringsK f r ldCr mUS' bC T"bal member of Confederated Tribes of the
' A.Pplication .dfadline 's May 12, 2000. The application will need to be completed, contract signed and brought
to the Museum with art work by 5 p.m. on the above date. uiuKni
nJ't A- be subn!itted y l.he artists themselves either by mail, UPS, or in person. All pieces submitted
can t be entered if they were in any prior exhibit at the Museum.
4. Only submit art that can remain in the exhibit for its entire duration, June 5 through September 3, 2000. Art
work must be numbered or labeled with artist's name, address, and phone number
5. Artist must complete the artist statement on the application. A brief history of yourself, art form, how long, and
what year you learned. All art work will be insured by the Museum.
6. Artist is responsible for bringing their selected pieces to the Museum for the jury date on May 12 2000 AH
shipping cost to and from the Museum are the artists responsibility. yiwu.ui
Septembe Tooo" MembCr EXh'bk Wi" "eed l P'Cked "P ne WCek aftef thc cxhibit is over
8. Three awards are given, Judge's Choice, Honorable Mention Awards and Timberline Purchases Awards (work
selected in the Timberline category must be available for sale). 1
9. The Museum At Warm Springs has a new requirement: IF you sell any art work during the 7th Annual Tribal
Member Art Exhibit you pay 10 of your sales to the Museum! 8
Contract:
My art piece(s) are automatically accepted in the 7th Annual Tribal Member Art Exhibit, I will agree to the above
attoS ofS show8" 10 6 my SdeCted Wrk(S) thC CarC f ThC MuSeUm At Warm Springs for the entire
.Signature
Date
Application:
!Sr-e 7th Tribal Member Art Exhibit, opening reception on June 5 and closing September 3,
2000. The application deadline is May 12, 2000.
Artist Information
Name:
Phone:
Address:
Work phone:.
City & State:.
Art Work
Mess. phone:
1. Title:
.Media:
Selling price:
2. Title:
. Not for sale:
. Insurance value:
.Media:
Selling price:.
. Not for sale:
. Insurance value:
3. Title:
.Media:
Selling price:.
4. Title:
. Not for sale:
. Insurance value:
.Media:
Selling price:.
5. Title:
. Not for sale:
. Insurance value:
.Media:
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selling price:.
. Not for sale:
Insurance value:.
husband "Easton on April 2nd
Hope you enjoy many more.
Lotsa Cove, Jour wife, Tina, ShaneS,
Colleen, Terry III, Aaron & family, Terry
Jr., Mystee, Sweetheart, pclq, Socfs &
Chewy.
Title-name of your art; Media-materials your art is made from, Selling price-if your art is not
for sale, check with an X, Insurance value-what monetary value you put on art work. Even if it is
not for sale, please put an insurance value on your work.
Artist Statement:
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