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September 21, 1990 PACE 7 Spilyay Tymoo Warm Springs, Oregon I Assess your Divorce means a change in marital status, living arrangements and your financial situation, When divorce occurs, it's time for a careful assessment of a couple's financial assets and liabilities as well as making plans for the future that are in the best interests of all parties involved. To help couples clarify their financial situation during an emo tional time, the OSU Extension Service has published an Oregon Guide about "Making Financial Decisions When Divorce Occurs." The publication includes direc tions for computing child support under state guidelines adopted in October 1989, the most recent date. Prepared by Alice Mills Mor row, Extension family economics specialist, attorney and Certified Consider these facts While most of an egg's nutrients are found in the yolk including all the fat and cholesterol the protein and riboflavin are evenly divided between the yolk and white. The white is almost pure protein. As they age, women tend to get more wrinkles than men. That's because most men have a thicker dermis (the layer just under the surface), which may stay elastic longer than a woman's. Lightning killed 86 Americans in 1987, more than in any year in a decade. Florida led the nation with 1 1 deaths. If, during a thunder storm, you're in a house without a lightning rod, stay away from metal objects, telephones, plumbing, and open windows and doors. One plain 3.5-ouncc doughnut has as many calorics as four slices of bread with jam (half a tablespoon per slice) about 400 calorics. Half the calories in a doughnut come from fat, but only 10 in bread and jam. The tobacco industry is the single largest advertiser in the print media and on billboards in the U.S. Its total advertising and promotion budget adds up to about $40 annually for every smoker in the'U.S. Keep toothpicks out of the reach of children under five, who are 20 times more likely to injure an eye or ear with a toothpick than other people are. Ripe oranges sometimes undergo a process known as regreening. This occurs when a ripe orange pulls some green chlqrophyll from its . stem and leaves back into its peel. Such greenish oranges are extra ripe and thus often sweeter than other oranges. A recent survey of major U.S. insurance companies found that a 35 year-old man with uncontrolled high blood pressure of 17095 would pay more thai twice as much for life insurance as a man with normal blood pressure. A serving of uncooked broccoli or cauliflower (one cup, cut up) contains more vitamin C than an orange more than enough to meet the daily Recommended Dietary Allowance. It is also high in fiber and, like other "cruciferous" vegetables, may protect against certain forms of cancer. The most dangerous time to drive is two o'clock Sunday morning, according to the National Safety Council. Originally seen as wholesome alternatives to candy bars, today's granola bars usually contain a small amount of oats or wheat afloat in caramel, chocolate, marshmallow, saturated oils and sweeteners. Smokers arrive at old age with 20 to 3.0 less bone mass than nonsmokers. This results in a more fragile skeleton and a greater risk ot , fractures. Avoid aspirin that has a vinegary odor. This indicates that the tablets have deteriorated and formed salicylic acid, which is very irritating to the stomach. Decorating workshop set Decorating Sweatshirts Work shop, open to all adults and teen agers, will be held Thursday, Sep tember 27, at 6:30 p.m., at the 4-H room (below Day Care). Instruc tors will be Jennifer Hatfield and Lynn Breese. Participants need to bring to Discipline essential for childrens' development, well Learning to discipline children is a real challenge. Be patient with yourself. By studying these sugges tions for discipline, you have taken a first step. Your understanding of discipline is essential to the devel opment of guidance skills. Effec tive management skills are learned and require practice. Review the suggestions for parent behavior and guidance techniques. Some of these you are already using. Per haps you have not tried some or perhaps your attempt to use some has not been totally successful. Select two suggestions from this lesson and make a plan to use the technique in providing guidance. Review your success of failure. Don't discard the approach with out a second try. Good discipline takes time. Your feelings of self-assurance are important. Being honest with your child is an expression of your self-assurance. Remember, your child has a right to guidance which provides protection, security, health and well-being, and growth and devel opment. Let your goal be guidance which additionally expresses love, respect and approval. Discipline is needed. There is no doubt about that. Society couldn't exist if people acted without regard for others. Why, then, is there so much disagreement about this subject? One reason is that many people don't understand what discipline means. The word "discipline" comes from "disciple," someone who follows the teachings of another. Discipline, therefore, is a learning experience, not punish ment nor tears, but a chance to learn how to live in a social world. Goals of discipline What are you teachins w hen you financial needs when divorce occurs Financial Planner, the publication includes several worksheets .de signed to help the couple get' an accurate picture of their finances. T he period before divorce is dif ficult. Each party is expected to make rational decisions at a time of emotional turmoil and in a setting that docs not lend itself to rational discussion. Remember that most couples experience increased fi nancial pressures at this time. Do not let emotions result in missed payments, lapsed insurance, or unnecessary additional financial pressures. Develop a temporary income and expense plan to keep up to date with financial obliga tions and, if possible, avoid in curring additional debt. Each spouse keep records of all ex penses he or she paid. class the following items: old, plain t-shirt or sweatshirt, masking tape, scissors. Come learn fun, beautiful and easy ways to decorate sweatshirts and t-shirts for yourself and others. Jennifer and Lynn will demon strate how to use appliques, paints. discipline? Self-discipline. Disci pline should help children take over the responsibility for their own behavior. They have to learn to rely on themselves rather than on you or other adults to tell them what to do. While children are still learning self-control, they need to be pro tected from hurting themselves and other people. They have to be shown how to behave in appropri ate ways. The short-term goal of disci pline, then, is to control children's behavior while explaining what is appropriate .behavior on a daily basis. Causes of problem behavior Often in working toward these long- and short-term goals, it helps to look for the causes behind your children's behavior. There are usu ally good reasons why they act the way they do. In fact, when they misbehave, they are often trying to accomplish things you want for them: to be independent, express feelings, or learn new skills, for example. The next time your child misbe haves, ask yourself these questions: Am I expecting my child to do more than he or she is capable of? Are his or her possessions or feelings of self-worth being threat ened? Is he or she trying to learn something or practicing a new skill? You dont have to like all your child's behavior. But by under standing the causes behind it, you are likely to find an effective tech nique for changing it. Constructive discipline There is no one right way to discipline. Rather, there are a variety of techniques that can stop misbehavior and at the same time A divorcing couple needs to de termine how to divide family prop erty and w ho will pay family debts. Before doing this, you will need a list qf the property owned, its es timated value and a list of debts. In estimating value, cither "fair mar ket value" or "replacement cost" can be used; however they have to. be valued the same way by hus band and wife. Both husband and wife may have retirement plans, and life in surance. These also enter into di vorce settlements. Details can be gathered from personnel offices at the placc.of employment. Some ot the questions to ask relate to with drawal rights, vesting, maturity dates and lump sum payment re quirements. Both parents arc responsible for the financial support of their minor children. Oregon child support , guidelines went into effect October 3, 1989 ar..f arc used to determine the amount of child support. The amount of support is based on family sie and the income of both parents and is divided between the parents according to the respective Yellow blue jeans? Are your stone-washed jeans turning yellow? If you followed the care instructions on the label, but still have yellow jeans, it may not be your fault. Yellowing occurs when bleach residue is not removed from the denim fabric during manufactur ing. The residue turns the fabric yellow when it is exposed to warm water, detergent, heat from the dryer, or even light. It causes per manent damage to the fabric. Your local store may be willing to offer a refund. But you will probably need to complain to the manufacturer. You may want to file a Complaint with the Federal Trade Commission. Send the brand name, RN number (on the care label), and statement of the problem to the Federal Trade Commission Enforcement Divi sion, Washington, D.C. 20580. Shop for the Keep the environment in mind when you go grocery shopping. Con sider the recyclability of packaging as you make your food selections. You can help reduce solid waste by buying food products in pack aging that can be recycled. For example, plastic milk jugs can often be recycled. Because some other plastics may create a solid waste problem, buying foods, such as peanut butter and catsup, in giass jars may be a more environmen- for Sept. 27 and glitter to dress up t-shirts and sweat shirts. Christmas is just around the corner. Jenniferand Lynn will give you lots of quick low cost gift ideas that vou can make yourself. Please preregister by Tuesday, September 25. Call 553-3238. encourage self-discipline. Some of the choices available to you are: Let your child make some deci sions and choices. Give reasons for your rules. Take your child away from trouble. Redirect the child. Let your child learn from the results of misbehavior. Punish the child by taking away privileges. If punishment is used too often it can lose its effectiveness and may even have negative side effects. It can arouse anger or cause the child to forget why he or she was punished in the first place. Don't be surprised if children sometimes repeat misbehavior. Just keep trying, keeping in mind your long- and short-term goals and the different techniques avail able to you, as discussed below. Discipline techniques What techniques you choose will depend upon you, your child, and particular situation. In general, younger children need more direct control. As they grow older, you can make more use of reasons, choices, and natural outcomes. I lere are some examples of various techniques. (Names are arbitrary.) Let the child make some deci sions and choices. The best way to teach responsibility is to give the child as much as possible.. June helped plan her third birthday party with her mother. Mrs. Hamning asks June to decide whether they should serve lemon ade or fruit juice. Jon, a 5-year-old, is taking a bath and splashing water all over. His father asks, "Do you want to close the shower curtain now or wipe up the water w hen you finish? Give reasons for your rules. Let the child know why something gross incomes. In addition to the usual expenses, parents will want to consider medical and dental expenses, post high school educa tion, the timing and method of payments, budgeting and record keeping, futurechanges in support, taxes, life insurance and estate planning. After divorce, each person will create a new life including a new financial life. If there are children and or if there are financial trans actions that continue after divorce, one's relationship takes on more the identity of a business relation ship. Be business-like with your new "business partncr.Tommuni calo directly. Keep records of costs involved. Limit the discussion time and topics to those directly in volved to the financial decisions involved. Counselor training a big success Camp counselor training this year was a huge success and will be remembered for years to come. The campers who attended are really the heroes and contributors to this fun-filled weekend, Irom learning about the flag ceremony , and what the three flags are, the . United States, the Warm Springs Confederated Tribes and the 4-H Flag, to learning what to do with a homesick camper. But the most outstanding event of the weekend was the training we had in learning how to lead a group of campers in how to play games. One of the two games that comes to mind is Capture the Flag led by none other than Keith Baker and his trusty S.A.R. 4-H Club. This game took place about 9:30 P.M. in the evening and lasted for two hours. It took another three hours to calm everyone down, but what fun we all had. The next game that will be remembered down through the years to come is "The" Pillow Fight." The players were blind folded and trying to find each other, with a referee that was not blind-folded and hitting the other two campers that were blind-fold environment tallv sound option. Glass jars can either be recycled or else reused for storage. Look for alternatives to polysty rene which does not degrade as readily as paper in landfills. Buy eggs in cardboard cartons. For picnics, use paper plates and cups or reusable durable plastic ware. Some companies are marketing their products in recycled packag ing (sometime labeled with a sym- Just for kids.... Kids love to find and read notes. Make a habit to leave notes for your kids every day. Invest in a wide-mouth thermos to give your kids tasty, hot snacks with no mess. First, fill with boiling water and let stand five minutes; then empty and fill with soup or a hot drink. Whatever you make will stay hotter longer. must be or can't be done. Under standing the reasons for rules makes it easier to remember them. On the way to the park, 3-year-old Larry runs toward the street. His father yells at him and pulls him back, then explains what might have happened if Larry had run into the street and why he must look both ways first. As she is paying for her pur chases at the drug store, Mrs. Sanchez sees an elderly lady trying to open the door. Maria is looking at toys and doesn't want to go. Mrs. Sanchez explains that the woman is not strong enough to open the door and that people have to help each other out. Take him or her away from trouble. If a child is too young to understand, or there is no way to. change the cause, it may be easier to change the situation. Nine-month-old Sacha crawls after lamp cords, ash trays, and other dangerous items. Her par ents remove such items from her reach. Two-year-old Tommy starts cry ing when his older sisters will not let him join their tea party. His father takes him into the other room and plays a game with him. Redirect the child. Look at what he or she is trying to do. Often you can find a way to let the child do it in a better place or a safer way. Eighteen-month-old Jesse loves to knock over his cup of milk or juice and watch how it spills. His father puts him in the bathtub and gives him containers to pour water in and out. When Mr. Smith takes I -year-old Jennifer with him to the gro cery store, she reaches for every thing on the shelves.' Now Mr. Smith always gives her one or two of the colorful boxes from his cart fill Let your children select their own clothing Clothes are an important part of a child's beginnings in school. Clothing affects a child's happi ness, poise, and self-confidence a round other children in the school setting. It helps if parents know what their child's peers are wearing. A child who dresses differently may ed. This will always be remem bered as the event of the weekend and what fun we all had watching this group lead the game. The Camp counselors also learned how to put a teepee up and how to take it down. Camp Counselors for 1990 are Marc Arther, Chris Jack, III, Vange Jack, Shawna Jackson, Juanita Kalama, Willard Suppah, Wynema Wolfe and Eileen Frank. A big thank you to all the camp counselors. You took on the chal lenge of learning about yourself and what you can really learn when you want to. Recipe is either dip or salad Harvest cottage cheese salad Take this colorful mixture to the office for lunch or use it as a dip with crisp vegetables. 1 container (16 oz.) lowfat cottage cheese Va cup plain lowfat yogurt 1 cup diced or shredded carrots cup chopped tomato V cup chopped green pepper while at the grocery store bol). You can support their efforts with your pocketbook. If you aren't able to buy foods in packaging that can be recycled, it's better to choose products with less packaging. Many microwavable products have multiple layers of plastic and cardboard packaging. Individually packaged foods (such as cheese slices or single servings of foods) also contribute more solid waste. Getting the most food in the least packaging is best. Buy food, such as tea, in bulk when feasible. Frozen concentrated juice has less packaging than juice in jars or small cans. Reusing packaging material can be a form of family recycling. Plas tic bags, such as bread bags and those used to bring produce home, can be washed and reused. Alumi num foil can also be washed and reused to cover pans in the oven. - being, direction in life to look at and hapdle. " Let him or her learn from the results. When he or she is old enough to understand, and the results won't be dangerous, experi ence can sometimes be the best teacher. Mrs. Barry warns 3-year-old . Paula that if she keeps banging her toy truck it will break. Paula keeps banging the truck. It breaks. Every time they go somewhere, Mr. Washington has to hurry Michael along and help him finish dressing. One day as they are getting ready to go swimming he does not nag Michael. They miss the bus and have to walk in the hot sun. Punish the child. Punishment is the removal of pleasant experien Exercise helps strengthen body; impro ves your health Your body works better when you use it. Exercise helps your heart, lungs and muscles work hard, which is the best reason for .exercising. Other benefits from exercise are: Lowered blood pressure and stress. Stronger muscles. More energy and flexibility. Weight control. Better posture. There are three basic kinds of exercise. Each one benefits you in different ways. Exercises that help you move, bend, stretch and twist easily keep your muscles flexible. Examples of these are yoga and stretching exercises. Exercises that help you build muscle strength and endurance in clude pushups, sit-ups. weightlift- Information Provided By: OSU Warm Springs Extension 1134 Paiute Street PO Box 430 Warm Springs, OR 97761 (503) 553-32383239 face ridicule and have difficulty 'adjusting socially. Of course, some originality or individuality is neces sary to encourage self-identity. Monograms (for safety, use ini tials rather than names), decals, and accessories can provide an individual look. The desire to dress like one's peers should be expected. Parental consideration of the child's psychological needs will help in letting the child develop independence and a good self image. Consider your child's likes and dislikes in color, design, and fabric texture. Involve your child in selecting clothes to buy and wear. This is a good opportunity to teach yourchild how to coordinate items in his or her wardrobe. Limiting choices to mix and . match combinations may reduce later discussion about what goes with what. Your child's age, per ' sonal coloring, and body build are important tactors in choosing fab rics and styles that are complimen tary. Discuss these aspects with the child as part of the buying decision. Va cup chopped parsley 3 tbsp. thinly sliced scallion (green onion) 1 tsp. basil leaves, crushed In a medium bowl combine cot tage cheese, yogurt, carrots, toma to, green pepper, parsley, scallion and basil; mix well. Cover and refrigerate until ready to serve. Yield: 3 cups Re-use plastic margarine tubs rather than buying new plastic containers for food storage. , Other food-related decisions can affect the environment as well. For example, cloth towels and napkins are better choices than paper pro ducts to both save trees and reduce solid waste. Waxed paper is a bet-. ter choice than plastic wrap from an environmental perspective. Use glass dishes with lids in the micro- wave rather than plastic wrap. Even the way we dispose of food can affect the environment. Re-use paper bags for trash disposal rather than buying plastic trash bags that don't degrade. Consider whether you need to acquire all those bags. Try carrying a cloth tote bag for small purchases. Being conscious of environmen tal concerns as you shop is a good first step toward making changes. ces. Some forms of punishment may be appropriate in certain situations: Six-month-old Chad crawls up to a pair of hot tongs near the outdoor grill and starts to touch them. Ms. Walker scolds him say ing. "No, no! Hot, hot!" Three-year-old Laura keeps throwing sand at her friends after Mrs. Walters tells her to quit. Mrs. Walters removes Laura from the interaction and from her toys, and leaves her alone in her room for 3 minutes. Mr. Holbrook has told Peter several times not to ride his bicycle in the street. Peter rides out into the street again. Mr. Holbrook tells Peter that he may not ride his bicycle for a week. ing, and activities like tennis, soft ball and bowling. The best exercises to make your heart and lungs strong are aerobic exercises. Fast walking, jogging running, riding a bike and swim- ming are examples. In order to benefit from aerobic exercises, you must do them at least three times a week for at least 15-30 minutes. Problems that may come from not exercising are: Weak muscles. Bones that break easily. Chronic low back pain. Stiff joints and muscles that ache. Lack of energy. Aging too early. DO IT TODAY Take a walk after dinner. Talk a friend into joining you.