September 21, 1990 PACE 7
Spilyay Tymoo
Warm Springs, Oregon
I
Assess your
Divorce means a change in
marital status, living arrangements
and your financial situation, When
divorce occurs, it's time for a
careful assessment of a couple's
financial assets and liabilities as
well as making plans for the future
that are in the best interests of all
parties involved.
To help couples clarify their
financial situation during an emo
tional time, the OSU Extension
Service has published an Oregon
Guide about "Making Financial
Decisions When Divorce Occurs."
The publication includes direc
tions for computing child support
under state guidelines adopted in
October 1989, the most recent
date.
Prepared by Alice Mills Mor
row, Extension family economics
specialist, attorney and Certified
Consider these facts
While most of an egg's nutrients are found in the yolk including all
the fat and cholesterol the protein and riboflavin are evenly divided
between the yolk and white. The white is almost pure protein.
As they age, women tend to get more wrinkles than men. That's
because most men have a thicker dermis (the layer just under the
surface), which may stay elastic longer than a woman's.
Lightning killed 86 Americans in 1987, more than in any year in a
decade. Florida led the nation with 1 1 deaths. If, during a thunder
storm, you're in a house without a lightning rod, stay away from metal
objects, telephones, plumbing, and open windows and doors.
One plain 3.5-ouncc doughnut has as many calorics as four slices of
bread with jam (half a tablespoon per slice) about 400 calorics. Half
the calories in a doughnut come from fat, but only 10 in bread and
jam.
The tobacco industry is the single largest advertiser in the print media
and on billboards in the U.S. Its total advertising and promotion budget
adds up to about $40 annually for every smoker in the'U.S.
Keep toothpicks out of the reach of children under five, who are 20
times more likely to injure an eye or ear with a toothpick than other
people are.
Ripe oranges sometimes undergo a process known as regreening.
This occurs when a ripe orange pulls some green chlqrophyll from its
. stem and leaves back into its peel. Such greenish oranges are extra ripe
and thus often sweeter than other oranges.
A recent survey of major U.S. insurance companies found that a 35
year-old man with uncontrolled high blood pressure of 17095 would
pay more thai twice as much for life insurance as a man with normal
blood pressure.
A serving of uncooked broccoli or cauliflower (one cup, cut up)
contains more vitamin C than an orange more than enough to meet
the daily Recommended Dietary Allowance. It is also high in fiber and,
like other "cruciferous" vegetables, may protect against certain forms of
cancer.
The most dangerous time to drive is two o'clock Sunday morning,
according to the National Safety Council.
Originally seen as wholesome alternatives to candy bars, today's
granola bars usually contain a small amount of oats or wheat afloat in
caramel, chocolate, marshmallow, saturated oils and sweeteners.
Smokers arrive at old age with 20 to 3.0 less bone mass than
nonsmokers. This results in a more fragile skeleton and a greater risk ot ,
fractures.
Avoid aspirin that has a vinegary odor. This indicates that the tablets
have deteriorated and formed salicylic acid, which is very irritating to
the stomach.
Decorating workshop set
Decorating Sweatshirts Work
shop, open to all adults and teen
agers, will be held Thursday, Sep
tember 27, at 6:30 p.m., at the 4-H
room (below Day Care). Instruc
tors will be Jennifer Hatfield and
Lynn Breese.
Participants need to bring to
Discipline essential for childrens' development, well
Learning to discipline children is
a real challenge. Be patient with
yourself. By studying these sugges
tions for discipline, you have taken
a first step. Your understanding of
discipline is essential to the devel
opment of guidance skills. Effec
tive management skills are learned
and require practice. Review the
suggestions for parent behavior
and guidance techniques. Some of
these you are already using. Per
haps you have not tried some or
perhaps your attempt to use some
has not been totally successful.
Select two suggestions from this
lesson and make a plan to use the
technique in providing guidance.
Review your success of failure.
Don't discard the approach with
out a second try.
Good discipline takes time.
Your feelings of self-assurance are
important. Being honest with your
child is an expression of your
self-assurance.
Remember, your child has a
right to guidance which provides
protection, security, health and
well-being, and growth and devel
opment. Let your goal be guidance
which additionally expresses love,
respect and approval.
Discipline is needed. There is no
doubt about that. Society couldn't
exist if people acted without regard
for others. Why, then, is there so
much disagreement about this
subject?
One reason is that many people
don't understand what discipline
means. The word "discipline"
comes from "disciple," someone
who follows the teachings of
another. Discipline, therefore, is a
learning experience, not punish
ment nor tears, but a chance to
learn how to live in a social world.
Goals of discipline
What are you teachins w hen you
financial needs when divorce occurs
Financial Planner, the publication
includes several worksheets .de
signed to help the couple get' an
accurate picture of their finances.
T he period before divorce is dif
ficult. Each party is expected to
make rational decisions at a time of
emotional turmoil and in a setting
that docs not lend itself to rational
discussion. Remember that most
couples experience increased fi
nancial pressures at this time. Do
not let emotions result in missed
payments, lapsed insurance, or
unnecessary additional financial
pressures. Develop a temporary
income and expense plan to keep
up to date with financial obliga
tions and, if possible, avoid in
curring additional debt. Each
spouse keep records of all ex
penses he or she paid.
class the following items: old, plain
t-shirt or sweatshirt, masking tape,
scissors.
Come learn fun, beautiful and
easy ways to decorate sweatshirts
and t-shirts for yourself and others.
Jennifer and Lynn will demon
strate how to use appliques, paints.
discipline? Self-discipline. Disci
pline should help children take
over the responsibility for their
own behavior. They have to learn
to rely on themselves rather than
on you or other adults to tell them
what to do.
While children are still learning
self-control, they need to be pro
tected from hurting themselves and
other people. They have to be
shown how to behave in appropri
ate ways.
The short-term goal of disci
pline, then, is to control children's
behavior while explaining what is
appropriate .behavior on a daily
basis.
Causes of problem behavior
Often in working toward these
long- and short-term goals, it helps
to look for the causes behind your
children's behavior. There are usu
ally good reasons why they act the
way they do. In fact, when they
misbehave, they are often trying to
accomplish things you want for
them: to be independent, express
feelings, or learn new skills, for
example.
The next time your child misbe
haves, ask yourself these questions:
Am I expecting my child to do
more than he or she is capable of?
Are his or her possessions or
feelings of self-worth being threat
ened? Is he or she trying to learn
something or practicing a new
skill?
You dont have to like all your
child's behavior. But by under
standing the causes behind it, you
are likely to find an effective tech
nique for changing it.
Constructive discipline
There is no one right way to
discipline. Rather, there are a
variety of techniques that can stop
misbehavior and at the same time
A divorcing couple needs to de
termine how to divide family prop
erty and w ho will pay family debts.
Before doing this, you will need a
list qf the property owned, its es
timated value and a list of debts. In
estimating value, cither "fair mar
ket value" or "replacement cost"
can be used; however they have to.
be valued the same way by hus
band and wife.
Both husband and wife may
have retirement plans, and life in
surance. These also enter into di
vorce settlements. Details can be
gathered from personnel offices at
the placc.of employment. Some ot
the questions to ask relate to with
drawal rights, vesting, maturity
dates and lump sum payment re
quirements. Both parents arc responsible for
the financial support of their minor
children. Oregon child support ,
guidelines went into effect October
3, 1989 ar..f arc used to determine
the amount of child support. The
amount of support is based on
family sie and the income of both
parents and is divided between the
parents according to the respective
Yellow blue jeans?
Are your stone-washed jeans
turning yellow? If you followed the
care instructions on the label, but
still have yellow jeans, it may not
be your fault.
Yellowing occurs when bleach
residue is not removed from the
denim fabric during manufactur
ing. The residue turns the fabric
yellow when it is exposed to warm
water, detergent, heat from the
dryer, or even light. It causes per
manent damage to the fabric.
Your local store may be willing
to offer a refund. But you will
probably need to complain to the
manufacturer. You may want to
file a Complaint with the Federal
Trade Commission. Send the
brand name, RN number (on the
care label), and statement of the
problem to the Federal Trade
Commission Enforcement Divi
sion, Washington, D.C. 20580.
Shop for the
Keep the environment in mind
when you go grocery shopping. Con
sider the recyclability of packaging
as you make your food selections.
You can help reduce solid waste
by buying food products in pack
aging that can be recycled. For
example, plastic milk jugs can often
be recycled. Because some other
plastics may create a solid waste
problem, buying foods, such as
peanut butter and catsup, in giass
jars may be a more environmen-
for Sept. 27
and glitter to dress up t-shirts and
sweat shirts.
Christmas is just around the
corner. Jenniferand Lynn will give
you lots of quick low cost gift ideas
that vou can make yourself.
Please preregister by Tuesday,
September 25. Call 553-3238.
encourage self-discipline. Some of
the choices available to you are:
Let your child make some deci
sions and choices.
Give reasons for your rules.
Take your child away from
trouble.
Redirect the child.
Let your child learn from the
results of misbehavior.
Punish the child by taking away
privileges.
If punishment is used too often it
can lose its effectiveness and may
even have negative side effects. It
can arouse anger or cause the child
to forget why he or she was
punished in the first place.
Don't be surprised if children
sometimes repeat misbehavior.
Just keep trying, keeping in mind
your long- and short-term goals
and the different techniques avail
able to you, as discussed below.
Discipline techniques
What techniques you choose will
depend upon you, your child, and
particular situation. In general,
younger children need more direct
control. As they grow older, you
can make more use of reasons,
choices, and natural outcomes.
I lere are some examples of various
techniques. (Names are arbitrary.)
Let the child make some deci
sions and choices. The best way to
teach responsibility is to give the
child as much as possible..
June helped plan her third
birthday party with her mother.
Mrs. Hamning asks June to decide
whether they should serve lemon
ade or fruit juice.
Jon, a 5-year-old, is taking a
bath and splashing water all over.
His father asks, "Do you want to
close the shower curtain now or
wipe up the water w hen you finish?
Give reasons for your rules. Let
the child know why something
gross incomes. In addition to the
usual expenses, parents will want
to consider medical and dental
expenses, post high school educa
tion, the timing and method of
payments, budgeting and record
keeping, futurechanges in support,
taxes, life insurance and estate
planning.
After divorce, each person will
create a new life including a new
financial life. If there are children
and or if there are financial trans
actions that continue after divorce,
one's relationship takes on more
the identity of a business relation
ship. Be business-like with your
new "business partncr.Tommuni
calo directly. Keep records of costs
involved. Limit the discussion time
and topics to those directly in
volved to the financial decisions
involved.
Counselor training a big success
Camp counselor training this
year was a huge success and will be
remembered for years to come.
The campers who attended are
really the heroes and contributors
to this fun-filled weekend, Irom
learning about the flag ceremony ,
and what the three flags are, the .
United States, the Warm Springs
Confederated Tribes and the 4-H
Flag, to learning what to do with a
homesick camper.
But the most outstanding event
of the weekend was the training we
had in learning how to lead a group
of campers in how to play games.
One of the two games that comes to
mind is Capture the Flag led by
none other than Keith Baker and
his trusty S.A.R. 4-H Club. This
game took place about 9:30 P.M.
in the evening and lasted for two
hours. It took another three hours
to calm everyone down, but what
fun we all had. The next game that
will be remembered down through
the years to come is "The" Pillow
Fight." The players were blind
folded and trying to find each
other, with a referee that was not
blind-folded and hitting the other
two campers that were blind-fold
environment
tallv sound option. Glass jars can
either be recycled or else reused for
storage.
Look for alternatives to polysty
rene which does not degrade as
readily as paper in landfills. Buy
eggs in cardboard cartons. For
picnics, use paper plates and cups
or reusable durable plastic ware.
Some companies are marketing
their products in recycled packag
ing (sometime labeled with a sym-
Just for kids....
Kids love to find and read notes.
Make a habit to leave notes for
your kids every day.
Invest in a wide-mouth thermos
to give your kids tasty, hot snacks
with no mess. First, fill with boiling
water and let stand five minutes;
then empty and fill with soup or a
hot drink. Whatever you make will
stay hotter longer.
must be or can't be done. Under
standing the reasons for rules
makes it easier to remember them.
On the way to the park, 3-year-old
Larry runs toward the street.
His father yells at him and pulls
him back, then explains what
might have happened if Larry had
run into the street and why he must
look both ways first.
As she is paying for her pur
chases at the drug store, Mrs.
Sanchez sees an elderly lady trying
to open the door. Maria is looking
at toys and doesn't want to go.
Mrs. Sanchez explains that the
woman is not strong enough to
open the door and that people have
to help each other out.
Take him or her away from
trouble. If a child is too young to
understand, or there is no way to.
change the cause, it may be easier
to change the situation.
Nine-month-old Sacha crawls
after lamp cords, ash trays, and
other dangerous items. Her par
ents remove such items from her
reach.
Two-year-old Tommy starts cry
ing when his older sisters will not
let him join their tea party. His
father takes him into the other
room and plays a game with him.
Redirect the child. Look at what
he or she is trying to do. Often you
can find a way to let the child do it
in a better place or a safer way.
Eighteen-month-old Jesse loves
to knock over his cup of milk or
juice and watch how it spills. His
father puts him in the bathtub and
gives him containers to pour water
in and out.
When Mr. Smith takes I -year-old
Jennifer with him to the gro
cery store, she reaches for every
thing on the shelves.' Now Mr.
Smith always gives her one or two
of the colorful boxes from his cart
fill
Let your children select
their own clothing
Clothes are an important part of
a child's beginnings in school.
Clothing affects a child's happi
ness, poise, and self-confidence a
round other children in the school
setting.
It helps if parents know what
their child's peers are wearing. A
child who dresses differently may
ed. This will always be remem
bered as the event of the weekend
and what fun we all had watching
this group lead the game. The
Camp counselors also learned how
to put a teepee up and how to take
it down.
Camp Counselors for 1990 are
Marc Arther, Chris Jack, III,
Vange Jack, Shawna Jackson,
Juanita Kalama, Willard Suppah,
Wynema Wolfe and Eileen Frank.
A big thank you to all the camp
counselors. You took on the chal
lenge of learning about yourself
and what you can really learn when
you want to.
Recipe is either dip or salad
Harvest cottage cheese salad
Take this colorful mixture to the
office for lunch or use it as a dip
with crisp vegetables.
1 container (16 oz.) lowfat
cottage cheese
Va cup plain lowfat yogurt
1 cup diced or shredded carrots
cup chopped tomato
V cup chopped green pepper
while at the grocery store
bol). You can support their efforts
with your pocketbook.
If you aren't able to buy foods in
packaging that can be recycled, it's
better to choose products with less
packaging. Many microwavable
products have multiple layers of
plastic and cardboard packaging.
Individually packaged foods (such
as cheese slices or single servings of
foods) also contribute more solid
waste.
Getting the most food in the
least packaging is best. Buy food,
such as tea, in bulk when feasible.
Frozen concentrated juice has less
packaging than juice in jars or
small cans.
Reusing packaging material can
be a form of family recycling. Plas
tic bags, such as bread bags and
those used to bring produce home,
can be washed and reused. Alumi
num foil can also be washed and
reused to cover pans in the oven.
- being, direction in life
to look at and hapdle. "
Let him or her learn from the
results. When he or she is old
enough to understand, and the
results won't be dangerous, experi
ence can sometimes be the best
teacher.
Mrs. Barry warns 3-year-old
. Paula that if she keeps banging her
toy truck it will break. Paula keeps
banging the truck. It breaks.
Every time they go somewhere,
Mr. Washington has to hurry
Michael along and help him finish
dressing. One day as they are
getting ready to go swimming he
does not nag Michael. They miss
the bus and have to walk in the hot
sun.
Punish the child. Punishment is
the removal of pleasant experien
Exercise helps strengthen
body; impro ves your health
Your body works better when
you use it. Exercise helps your
heart, lungs and muscles work
hard, which is the best reason for
.exercising. Other benefits from
exercise are:
Lowered blood pressure and
stress.
Stronger muscles.
More energy and flexibility.
Weight control.
Better posture.
There are three basic kinds of
exercise. Each one benefits you in
different ways. Exercises that help
you move, bend, stretch and twist
easily keep your muscles flexible.
Examples of these are yoga and
stretching exercises.
Exercises that help you build
muscle strength and endurance in
clude pushups, sit-ups. weightlift-
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face ridicule and have difficulty
'adjusting socially. Of course, some
originality or individuality is neces
sary to encourage self-identity.
Monograms (for safety, use ini
tials rather than names), decals,
and accessories can provide an
individual look. The desire to dress
like one's peers should be expected.
Parental consideration of the
child's psychological needs will
help in letting the child develop
independence and a good self
image. Consider your child's likes
and dislikes in color, design, and
fabric texture. Involve your child
in selecting clothes to buy and
wear. This is a good opportunity to
teach yourchild how to coordinate
items in his or her wardrobe.
Limiting choices to mix and .
match combinations may reduce
later discussion about what goes
with what. Your child's age, per
' sonal coloring, and body build are
important tactors in choosing fab
rics and styles that are complimen
tary. Discuss these aspects with the
child as part of the buying decision.
Va cup chopped parsley
3 tbsp. thinly sliced scallion
(green onion)
1 tsp. basil leaves, crushed
In a medium bowl combine cot
tage cheese, yogurt, carrots, toma
to, green pepper, parsley, scallion
and basil; mix well. Cover and
refrigerate until ready to serve.
Yield: 3 cups
Re-use plastic margarine tubs rather
than buying new plastic containers
for food storage. ,
Other food-related decisions can
affect the environment as well. For
example, cloth towels and napkins
are better choices than paper pro
ducts to both save trees and reduce
solid waste. Waxed paper is a bet-.
ter choice than plastic wrap from
an environmental perspective. Use
glass dishes with lids in the micro-
wave rather than plastic wrap.
Even the way we dispose of food
can affect the environment. Re-use
paper bags for trash disposal rather
than buying plastic trash bags that
don't degrade. Consider whether
you need to acquire all those bags.
Try carrying a cloth tote bag for
small purchases.
Being conscious of environmen
tal concerns as you shop is a good
first step toward making changes.
ces. Some forms of punishment
may be appropriate in certain
situations:
Six-month-old Chad crawls up
to a pair of hot tongs near the
outdoor grill and starts to touch
them. Ms. Walker scolds him say
ing. "No, no! Hot, hot!"
Three-year-old Laura keeps
throwing sand at her friends after
Mrs. Walters tells her to quit. Mrs.
Walters removes Laura from the
interaction and from her toys, and
leaves her alone in her room for 3
minutes.
Mr. Holbrook has told Peter
several times not to ride his bicycle
in the street. Peter rides out into
the street again. Mr. Holbrook
tells Peter that he may not ride his
bicycle for a week.
ing, and activities like tennis, soft
ball and bowling.
The best exercises to make your
heart and lungs strong are aerobic
exercises. Fast walking, jogging
running, riding a bike and swim-
ming are examples. In order to
benefit from aerobic exercises, you
must do them at least three times a
week for at least 15-30 minutes.
Problems that may come from
not exercising are:
Weak muscles.
Bones that break easily.
Chronic low back pain.
Stiff joints and muscles that
ache.
Lack of energy.
Aging too early.
DO IT TODAY
Take a walk after dinner.
Talk a friend into joining you.