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Reprisal At Breakfast A Broken Romance Is Patched Up By Phil Between His Two Best Friends And Providence Helps FRANCES watched the door every time It opened. Oh. she illdn't watch It so anyone else .vould notice, hut I've known Fran so long I could tell. She looked especially lovely that evening, as though sho taken oven more care than usual with her appearance. Lovely, but, It seemed to me, a little out of character. There were a lot of things much more Important to Fran than clothes Probably nobody else noticed that anything was wrong. But yon see. I grew up with Fran. I nursed her through grammar school, was an noyed by her tagging along every where I went when I reached the seventh and eighth grades, saw her through high school, and watched hdr fall In love with Danny Rold. I know Fran as well as anyone can possibly know another. I count her among my dearest friends. That's why I hated so to see her hurt. Frances Arnold moved to our block when I was In the fourth grade. Sho came to school one morning, a skinny, long-legged child with a mop of reddish brown curly hair and big dark eyes, all dancing and merry. I'd had Instructions from the family to stop by her house and take her to school the first day. Of course, at my age I hated the idea of taking a girl to school and some how managed to avoid it. I. was afraid of being kidded by my classmates, So the first time I . saw Fran was at recess. She was standing In one corner of the yard looking wistful, and In spite of the fact that she was tall for her age, very small and pathetic. Braving the scorn of the gang, I asked her to Join us In a game of Prisoner's Base. From that day on through grammar school I had. a slave. Oh, she was fiery when she wanted to be, and often enough her eyes would flash and she would announce that I was the most horrid boy In school and that she would have nothing more to do with me. But wo always got over our little rows and during my senior year at high school I fell faintly In love with her. She played a swell game of tennis, swam like a professional, loved horseback riding and was a good dancer. By that time she was quite grown up. Tall and slender, she had 'the loveliest figure I've ever seen. Long and strong and graceful. Her hair had calmed down a bit but her eyes danced as merrily as ever. I took hor to our school games and dances and kissed hor very bashfully a few times and then went off to college. Wo got through the puppy lovo stago nicely and began exchang ing lottors Just friendly letters very adult and serious ones, we thought I'd discuss at great length what I was going to do with my life and sho'd send back pages of advice. Once In a while hor letters would got very seri ous, Sho unloadad all her trou bles on me. Sho fell in love three times, I rcmenibor, the year when she was seventeen. Each time hor heart was broken. But she man ngod to recover In amazingly ahort periods and go back to her games and dancing and picnick ing and swimming. So I never worried much over her love life. Wo'd soon one another a lot during vacations. We swam and danced and skied anil rode. A ' swell sport. I rcmcmbor one day we were cantering along In the hills back of tho country club. -Fran was riding along the trail ahead of me. All of a sudden sho sort of reeled and the next thing I knew she was crumpled up on tho ground, very palo ami com pletely uni-onsleious. She'd struck hor head on a low hanging branch. I was scared to death but Fran took It llko a Spartan. Tlint was tho way things wero with us. Junior year I Invited her up for our big football game. I was rooming with Danny Held, cap tain of tho tonin and my best friend. 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Fran arrived on Friday, the even ing before the game. I didn't have a car then. Dad had got some screwy notion in his head that ah autoinobilo would take my mind off my studios, or something and didn't rolont until Senior year. So Danny and I went down to the station to meet Fran, went In his car. The train was loaded with girls and old grads and mothers and fathers and rooters. The platform was Bwarming with people down meeting thorn. Danny and I stood around and finally picked Fran out of the crowd. She was looking her best, gay and excited, all set for the biggest wcok-ond of her short life. We got her bag and I shouted her name at Danny and Danny's at her and that had to do for an Introduction In all that bustle and confusion. That's an other thing I always liked about Fran. Have you ever noticed how much stuff girls always have to cart around? I mean at dances, someone Is always asking you to hold a handbag, or keep a lipstick In your pocket or something. But Fran Is different, which practi cally makes her a super woman. That week-end, I remember, she had one large bag That was all. And yet, It seems to me, she had . on a different outfit for every oc casion. I didn't have time to notice much of anything until we finally got under way. Then I noticed that Danny, who was a good driver; Just missed two carloads of our friends, the curb and a telegraph polo. He and Fran were sort of gazing into one another's eyes in that goofy way. I was tickled to death and couldn't Imagine anything better than my two best friends going for one another. There was an Informal dance at the house that night. Of course Danny didn't go on account of having to play the next day. "How do you llko Dan?" I asked. I'd told her all about him In my letters so sho knew ho was the campus hero and, surprisingly enough, very modest about it almost bashful. But Fran wasn't committing herself, even to me. "Ho's very attractive. I like him." We saw Danny a few minutes before tho game. It was perfect football weathor and a swell game. I didn't have much tlmo to notice Fran particularly but every tlmo I glanced at hor she scorned to be following one player with her oyes. After tho game 1 didn't see much of her. That night I took her to tho dance and she really looked swell. But there I lost her. "All Children Lie" But By Paula Norton II i.LL CHILDREN LIE." So says Sldonic Matsnor Gru enberg, director of Child Study Association of America. Surely, this is Indeed a pretty brond statement. There Is a dif ference between a downright lie with intent to deceive, and a "lib" concocted to make life more glamorous. A child's standards of truth are not all the same as an adults And truly most children often find an unlrulli far nioro convenient than the cold fact. They must ho taught the differ ence Some children lie before they aro old enough to talk. Wo may call It pretending, but It is acting an untruth. Any bright baby soon learns that he can get a lot of at tention by setting up distress sig nals. When the young hopeful craves company he simply storts yelling . . the same yell he uses when he is really In pain. Mania comes running to tho "rescue" and tho llttlo pretender soon lenrns that he gets as much at tention when he fnkes or pretends as he gets when a safety pin has slipped Its catch. Just why children Ho is a ques tion thnt has many answers. It Is necessary to be under standing about a child's lies and to place tho proper amount of Im portance on the particular lies of a particular child. Ihcro are many different types of lies and a parent should lake Into consid eration the motive for the He and tho Individual traits of each young "fibber" One form of lying is the re treat from reality ... It was so with Marlon This little twelve- COLD IN HEAD Here's quick relief. KonJon'i clean held . . . relieve! sniffy me ,-. Ak your druiiitt. KONDON'S NASAL JELLY Plain tphaalrlrM "I Built a Very Bad Fire One She and Danny were together every chance they could get. Of course, I put on a long face and gave her the devil for her bad manners 7I mean I took her to the dance and she hardly looked at me. She didn't mind a bit. I made absolutely no impression on her. That's what an old friend 'gets. I was left at the dance with out a girl. Luckily Dan had gone stag or I'd have had a "woman scorned" on my hands. Along about midnight Dan ap proached me with pleading In his eyes: ' "Come on, Phil. Be a good egg. You haven't any heart Interest in Fran. Why don't you Just fade and I'll take care of her for the rest of tho evening." "Sure," I answered. I like Fran a lot but I thought she had fallen for Danny and wanted to be with him so I was willing to clear the coast for hor. As a matter of fact, I know she "wont for him In a big way." But when I suggested that she might prefer that I sort of fade out of the picture she came back with a flat "No." I confess I don't understand women "not even Fran. But I suppose she had some idea of hot letting him be sure of her right away in order to keep tils interest. So I stayed and it was a damn dull evening after about one o'clock. I drifted aimlessly about. People wore disappearing into the garden or sitting around on porch swings or dancing over and over with the sanio person. Once in a while I'd get a dance with Fran, who was very popular, and the rest of the time stood around smoking and drinking a little more than usual. Finally tho party broke up and we all went down to Joe's and had year-old Is a special friend of mine who tolls "tall talcs." One day sho is going to have a grand birthday party, the next day her aunt has sent her a new silk dross, blue beads have Just arrived from her rich uncle In Now York, etc. When Marlon imparts this thrilling Information, the light of prideful possession shines from her blue eyes and sho Is all un mindful of her shabby clothes. Her home life is a drab affair where the bare noccssitles of life me im iu cumo uy. Ono day, when she had come to the doleful gurgle of the last drip in an ice-cream soda straw I said, "Marlon, most of tho things you tell about your uncle in New York and all, are Just nmke-be-licvo, aren't they?" I tried to make her feel that we were sharing a Joke and that sho had not meant to deceive. She crumbled the empty straw and looked up at me with wide frank eyes. "No," sho said, "they're lies." Before I could recover sho added, "f like to tell lies." "Why " "Because It makes things nioro fun than the real things that hap pen." THIS Is no uncommon form of lying In any dull and color less life, in the child or adult world. Such lies make for glamor and cxcltmont . . . the richer life. Tho boast ot an Imaginary silk dress that awaits an imaginary birthday party, makas a -shabby little girl more Interesting to her school-yard playmates. There is a need, a great heed in such a child's life. Among very small children, tf they are Imaginative at all, there Is a world of fancy. When a small boy tells his mother he has Just shot a Hon In the hack yard, that mother would hardly be Justified in punishing him for lying. After all a child of five might very eas ily Imagine he DID shoot a lion. Such a day-dream is not a con scientious Ho. This Is no time to s FIVE That Smoked and Choked People Gang look Ihings scrambled eggs and so to bed. I never did see Fran alone af- . ter that. Dan was with us every where wo went. We took our lunches and went on a long tramp in the woods. Dan was sort of a "nature lover," liked the great outdoors and sports and all that He and Fran fat on a log fating and Danny was begging her to write to him when she got home He was completely sunk by that time and she was going down for the third time. You could see it In her eyes. I've never seen anyone look 30 happy. That evening we took Fran down to the train. The last thing I heard her say was:" "Yes. I will. I promise." So my mail began to fall off and Danny's Increased. He spent hours writing to her. And then he began to drop subtle hints about remembering Valleyville (that was my home town) and how he'd like to see It again. Then he an- nounced, oh very pathetically, that his family would bo away over the Christmas holidays so he guessed ho would stay on at school. A dismal prospect. Finally I couldn't bear his mooning around any longer and did what I'd been planning to do all along invite him to stay with me over tho holidays. We did have a grand time. ' After Christmas 1 didn't return home until summer I was pretty busy that semester. I had a cou ple of units to make up that I wanted to take and was pretty weak In one of , my science courses so I spent a good deal of tlmo In the library. Danny was in different classes and, though we were friendly as ever, we That Is Easily Corrected make him "lie-conscious." As he grows older ho will gradually' come to know the difference be tweon a fact and an imagined . happening. It is simple enough to explain to him that it is fine to imagine things, but they must not bo told as If they were "real." Embellishing the truth, is an other form of lying common to , many children. Their exaggera tions often come from their desire to make things appear as they would like them to be. Some children will lie to 'the people they fear or do not like when they would not think of lying to those they love or trust. A child must feel as much friendly sympathy in his parents and teachers as he does In those friends he fools are understand ing. He will lie to his parents for fear they might make a fuss If ho told them the truth, for no child likes a "scone." All pf which proves how Important It Is that a child have parents and teachers who Inspire confidence , , parents and teachers ho will admire and want to please. A MOST dangerous form of lying, Is the falsehood told to cover someone else's wrong do ing. I once witnessed a trial In a Juvenile Court which revealed such a case. A mother, filled with hatred for the neighbors she felt were "against her" committed a crime of malicious mischief. Her fourteen-year-old daughter "confes sed" and was tried. Stoically she maintained her guilt and was fac ing a sentence In reform school when the mother's story was broken down and the truth was learned. Here Is a case of lying out of loyalty, loyalty carried to ex treme surely. This child had lied. It developed all of her life. Lies had become so much a habit with her, she could concoct any story that fitted her needs and con vince herself that it was true. The lle-hablt had been formed early STAR FICTION and Made Their Eyes All Red rainy Uraccrully. didn't see so much of one another in spite of the fact that we still roomejl together. Once in a while I'd get a letter from Fran and I'd see Danny writing lengthy letters so I concluded all was well in that quarter. I wasn't surprised when Danny announced, along about the end of April, that he'd gotten a job for the summer In Valleyville. . We took the same train home, and to make a long story short had a swell summer. By .the end of dt Danny and Fran were en gaged. We were over at Fran's one night shortly before we were to go back to school. Danny had gone out to got some cheese and beer and so on and I got to talk ing with Fran. It was comfortable and we were sitting lazily about and the talk drifted from one thing to another. "You've neglected me pretty badly this' summer, you know. Am I not the Father Confessor anymore?" I enquired. She didn't bother to answer so I rambled on. "Going to Miss Austin's or have you changed your mind?" I don't know why I said It. But Fran looked seriously into the fire and announced that she had changed her mind. "I've decided to go up to the University. I think it will be much more fun than poking through a girl's school, don't you?" Of course I thought it was a ' marvelous idea and demanded to know why she hadn't let me In on the good news before. It seems, though, that she'd just that min ute made up her mind. So when Danny got in we had a fine party to celebrate and two weeks later set off merrily. v and had grown to be second na ture. The lie to escape punishment is perhaps the commonest of all lies. In curing a child of this type of lie a parent can at the same time develop his courage. He can be taught that it is braver and more admirable to face his punishment than to sneak out by way of a falsehood. And. he must first feci that that punishment is Just. Children must be taught truth, and a love of truth can not be developed In one lesson. This Is a Job for a patient, understanding parent Most Important of all, that parent must avoid telling un truths himself. The Importance of the good ex ample, In leaching truth Is one not to be Ignored. Naturally your child's home above all places is where he should find the truth. When he hoars you toll the street car conductor his age Is four years when he knows it is six, he knows you are lying. When he hears you tell the next door neighbor you and his father never disagree, he knows you are lying. When you tell him that if ho runs away to the Park he'll be put In Jail by a big policeman, and nothing of the sort happens, he has caught you In a lie. When you promise him he can go fish ing with his Dad and then do not keep that promise you have lied again. When you promise to pun ish him If he tears his new sweater then you do not carry out" your promise he may fool he is lucky but he knows you lied. When your child hears you in dulging In falsehoods, (and how many times a day does this hap pen?) he can hardly be expected to have much respect for the truth. Though It Is truo your child ex aggerates and tends to pursue the line of least resistance, surely, with the proper example and pa tient understanding, your children can be taught the Importance ana desirability of truth is opposed to downrif ht falsehood. By Jane de cj and Smarting. . . Most of the Yqu probably wonder why I've rambled on at this rate. But when two swell people get themselves . engaged, and you're all set up about it, and then something goes wrong and they get very, very polite with one another it gives you a funny feeling. Because that's Just the way those two got All the time they'd known one an other they'd been honest But Dan all of a sudden went off on a tan gent when Claire Henderson came up to school. To do her justice, Claire was a pretty smooth num ber. And she had a way with her. Danny was still the big football hero and she went for him. And to do him justice, he didn't have a chance. Claire never practiced hor particular line on me, but if she had I'd probably have fallen for her, too. I felt very badly about It, and was a bit disgusted. Yet all the time I knew it wouldn't last. And though it sounds silly, perhaps, to say it, Fran and Danny were two people that were made for each other. Dan, I could see, was pretty ashamed and began to avoid me. Fran was a proud little devil. But when I saw that hurt look in her eyes I began to feel lower and lower. That was the way things were that night. Fran had plenty of dates and she'd begun to go out with other people. At first she was sort of bewildered, then she was hurt, then she tried to be cool and slightly defiant. She did cover up nicely. Only once In a while sho broke down when she was around me. After all, we were old friends and I felt I had some priv ileges. This particular night things wore at their worst. I took Fran to a party given by some friends of ours. As I said before, she was looking pretty smooth and she tried hard to be gay. She didn't drink much, never did. But that night I noticed sho was having a few more than usual. But It didn't seem to have much effect on her. Of course, I noticed all these things. No one else did. I knew she'd dressed with particular care hoping that Danny would come In. That was why she was so gay. She had so much pride it hurt She'd be chatting with a bunch, being very lighthearted and all and then the door would open and she'd look up hopefully. Her eyes weren't dancing and merry any more, though she tried hard, and when the newcomer would turn out to be Tim or BUI or some of the gang, they'd get that hopeless look In them again. L began to get nervous. I don't Just know why. But I had that jittery feeling. I tried to get Fran to go home but she wouldn't budge. Then about midnight the door opened. Fran looked up hopefuHy and Just for a second lost her poise. Claire stood very dramatically In the doorway with Dan In tow. She was the type that never Just camo into a room. She had to make an entrance. I could have murdered her. As for Dan, I sim ply felt like taking him out in back and knocking some sense Into him. Well, we got through the" even ing somehow. Fran was very cool and said all the proper things. She even danced a couple of times with Danny. They didn't talk much but I'd get a little of their conversation as 1 passed them. It was pretty bad. Danny very polite and strained and sort of trapped as though he'd gotten Into something he'd like to get out of, but didn't know how. Fran was Just polite. Nothing more. It must have been hellish for her. I'd watched her pretty carefully and finally she came up to me "Let's go home. Phil. The go ing's getting pretty tough. I can't take It any more." She made a feeble effort at a smile and I hustled her out Into the car. When, half way to her house, I found she was crying I decided that a little of the well- known Mcintnak neededndT? into action. " was a "Eood w was it. and nTZ P'an- We had vacation ran. .."" fiomo end taOIrJ Sme to come dow. vacation with 'nvited wercD ew Cairo wc& f smart girl and etthecampS home town. 1 .J??' Parties, but the toT.' week-end was mornlno- K...,., . " s Well, the wholecw trick on Oain. n... .," tair. I routed om 1 an unffnriiu t, ' o j ,tuur. lliv to could have killed me L a swell dRv . . " spue several had pretty w t and annnun the twittering of sounded likeriveuniJ them. I foreot , flnlr. , ... don't look their best J morning. She'd tin W'J bit to drink the im J1 seen to that Fran beautiful, but 8he's , tractive girl. Sort of ftm, J " "p ono ner Hair mi ally and her compter. , super. She's not tit tn, annoyingly cheerful i v. ing, but just right w grove where, the breufu 10 oe neld wu quid way out of town, ttv, there and got the stuflou 1 cars I saw to It that J walk quite a long way Id was satisfied with mi grounds. By that tta mil was tired and hungry. I built a very bad Sn-Q smoked and choked mci made their eyes allredKirj ing. I got very ctar, knocked the coffee pM nJ soon as the air was fled rl tempting aroma. I had rJ all spoons and knlva and 1 out of the baskets as m was out of the cook's aighl I think you can taipil rest. Most of thegangtoola fairly gracefully. DamijtEl as I knew they would tt good sports about it Cto been Irritated by thertoM end anyhow. She bad ptai grand vacation of her mil set that when I Invited he and she was annoyed tt la to come. The last straw cam Claire went down to tin on wash the dirt and jam in off her hands. I didn't tmj you could call It an acts 4 mean, after all, I dldnt m Into the creek, we Xtt draw the lineromewliot-al slipped and fell ia She w temper completely, Umais and announced that It ia lousy party, a grtoidH itm-one who thought u breakfaat fun could have tt As for 1 was through." At tot! Danny chipped In and buked her. I knew then a coin an expression, "tin In the fire." They MO row and we all ; mv ml You've ibW mossed the rest A later Danny.and Fran ih. niH hnsla Hed h"' .r it nnv way. I "A man who played God I ,hintr rot Itralft'" a little sooner. The M scheduled for i,,oimn una rs 1 arter s""" best man. So. smonr nttri .. . nut and M Ing for tergainslnWl Famous Quotatio . . life for' 1 nan uv, - - a:.., aaothen"1" Alirau"""'- j But that lifemayh!"H shadow J To temper ther I would prayow-" from evil But my PJ In mv3. Ah! a seraph nnyP But a sinner r self. aiaai nr" I 24 -ir r B ar! """ DENTURE m
