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"''TV "W 1 THERE art a few fact about ' punishment that mothers should know, and I want to tell them. They are gathered from the opinion of medical authorities, men whose works every mother does not have time to read, while I am In a po sition to hear many things not pub lished broadcast. You know. In the first place, that chil dren have no fear; that the sensation they afterward feel, on being fright ened. Is an acquired thing. Implanted In their minds by those whp have them In charge. It would surely never occur to any child to fear a policeman or the dark. Such thoughts are suggested by motheis and nurses, and In doing this they destroy the perfect trustfulness of the baby mind, on of the chief charms of childhood. I always think that o many trouble and responsibilities come to the average person, after he or she Is grown, that the little pleasures of childhood should be Increased, If possible, so .the individ ual may. at least carry pleasant mem ories through all of life. 1 , am eure h fn tht rood mothers will agree f with me. They know that any sacrifice - la rsnaM ten thousandfold tui m v- " In love. They also know that every one should have a chance to develop, and that whatever necessary punishment Is administered should be perfectly harm less, something that will Impress the incident on the memory, but will work no lasting harm either to mind or body. EARLY DISCIPLINE The first twelve years of a child's life are abnormal. It Is then that the bear lag Is generally keen, and that the memory retains lasting Impressions. Pvery one knows that a child of three will have learned a whole language In a year; a feat that may not be equaled by any older person. It Is at this time, then, that the infant mind should not b unduly excited, either by Joy or sorrow, that the greatest care must be taken so that mental and physical growth will be unimpeded.' . But as the child may not at first be able to distinguish between right and wrong, it seems necessary that some punishment be devised, and It Is said , that the omly one that will not Injure the child Is the old-fashioned, but ef fective, spanking. Not with a slipper, however, as mother cannot tell how rnuch she may be hurting. The best way is not old-fashioned, but new-fashioned a rolled-up newspaper, which, au thorities ay, Is the Ideal spanksr. It cannot hurt too much, yet it has the very best effect. Of course, there are . other punishments that exactly fit the crime, and are therefore very sensible. These are numerous and must be thought of by the mother herself. In the first place, never pull a child by the ear. The eardrum is very delicate even later In life. With a child such treatment may result In permanent deafness. Would any mother wish such a catastrophe T Do not shake a child. The little bones are springy and easily misplaced, and the agitation naturally is confusing. By the time any one has gone through a thorough shaking h 1 unable to reason. Try It yourself and sea. - CHILDREN'S NERVES km fntnw nt the nerves am altu&iiu. tit the center of the back between the shoulder blades, do not push children In U11S nay 1 UMKca iuviu uci uua, van If it does not overbalance them and cause a fall, .?ou may think that you are using very little force, that it could not possibly be even felt. - Try running against a chair or a door In the dark and sea how much muscle you us even when cautiously crossing the room. - This will help you. better to understand . my argument' . Of course, boxing the tars Is Just as ijiarmful as nulling them; In fact. It 1 far mora ad, for the sudden concussion of air on the eardrum has caused many -t a case of deafness. However, this Is a BP , . '7i L - ( J form of punishment that has happily almost gone out of fashion. And last of all comes the almost in human practice of shutting a baby In the dark closet. In doing this you Im plant the germ of fear In the heart of a Th$ Triali of a Debutante IOFTEJ think of the little girls who ' are thlr year to make their first bow to society. The world seems so large, and their little Uvea have, up to the moment of the tlrst party, been so small, that it seems remarkable they get along as welt as they do. Even the wisest are sure to And many thing they ara not prepared for. To help them, I am going to mention a few rules which she who wishes to be a success must bear in mind. In the first place, touch, no wine. That is the one. unbreakable law for . tha first-year girl No matter how formal the dinner, how many wines ara offered and how many of the other women present Ignore the rule, do not touch your wine. If you even pretend to drink It. harm Is done. As well drink all the wine on the table as touch your lips to the brim of your .glass. . After ward, IflVou mi'", the ather guests, . or. at leist. oh of them, will say : "See how hllaVlous a little wine make Miss , Robinson. Is not it a pity h doe not know any better V- .- - -r- VX i IIUII i THE OREGON; SUNDAY ' JOURNAL; PORTLAND SUNDAY HORNING, NOVEMBER 15, 1908 Cj ONGEliNING V ?f If- : 5 ,i 1 ' I , r' little child. Once planted, you take away the spirit of Independence and make a poor fearful thing that is un able to face the crises of life. Further more, children thus treated work them selves Into a nervous state, unless they If you are very quiet, the one busy body will surely remark: "How strange ly a little wins affects that poor glrL I should think she would never want to touch It." Your second year you may do as you like, but at first you are supposedly merely ingenue. Keep that In mind. It Is the same in every city of the country. In every little town. At entertainments always be particu larly nice to your hostesses and all the older women present Remember, your Invitations are not sent out by the men. -nor even by your girl friends. The moth ers, aunts. ' sisters and cousins are tha people upon whom you must depend. Never did a girl have a good time who gelled only upon her men friends to help her, out Cultivate every one you meet, no matter who she Is or how aged she may seem to you, and your way will be paved with roses. Never be too busy to answer your ln .vltationa promptly, to pay yonT party calls and to write little notes of thanks when necessary. Tour time may be full, but these are details that it would be the greatest mistake to neglect - Tou ' cannot see this now, but you will when you are1 hostess yourself. Always arrive on tiro at luncheons or dinners. These two entertainments are the only one where promptness 1 aentlal. although the same rule applies to card parties. As debutantes seldom re entertained In this way. however, w need not take them much Into con sideration. By being prompt I do not Ml Ti Health By MRS JiLNRY SYMES HILDREN 1 ' CL ' " vt WJ -pt - v if1 , are very phlegmatic, that it takes days to Overcome. Why do children not suffer from nervous prostration? Have you thought of that ? Do you net think that there may be many such cases started In childhood? Is it not possible that many mean that you shall arrive ahead of time. The Ideal dinner guest reaches the house Just five minutes before tha. hour mentioned in the Invitation. This leaves Just a moment to allot eawh woman to her partner and to enter the dining room at the right second." If the guests arrive early the situation often becomes strained, an atmosphere that the good hostess Is quick to feeL . SELF-CONTROL A NECESSITY There Is much to say on the subject of the entertainments themselves. At luncheons be nice to all the girls. If there are only girls present If you are seated beside your particular esemy, do not let the fact either spoil your time or hers. It is your duty to your hostess to do your part toward making the occa sion one of pleasure. Leave all your personal affairs on the doorstep and all your likes and dislikes In camphor In 7 ths cedar chest up In the ettio at home. Tou have no use for such things in your debutante year. After luncheon do not break up the par ty to attend some other entertainment; even though you are really pressed for time. It 1 your, duty to make yourself agreeable. It i not of eoure. neces sary to remain the whole afternoon, but urely Vh1 noup niay. be apared from the . day of . pleasure to repay your . liT-.hesteesvJ - s j juiy." seen glrla leave during- the I luncheon, ometimea in the middle, to rush home to dress for some other en. BBrBeBsaasBF''W and Beauty pi 3$ tV - j 'I f it? x children suffer from nerves, although too young to be abl to correctly de scribe their sensation? Is not a fear less man or woman an Individual to be admired and envied? I know you will all agree with me. tertainment This was not showing or dinary courtesy. If you accept an in vitation to a luncheon, at a certain hour, it la only proper that you should stay until It is over. The second en tertainment will come In its turn. No hostess who plans a dainty meal for her guests likes to see them all or any one of them alight It to accept the hos pitality of some one els. I would like all my friends to write to me on this subject I think it would be an interesting points dlscussT If you attend a dinner before the theater do net fidget in your seat and express in a loud voice your wish that dinner were over, that you "wish to see the first act" When you are In an other person's house you are entirely In her hands. If she wishes to buy a box at the theater and then keep her guests at dinner until the show is over, she only does It because It Is her Idea of giving her guests a good time. If you are not enjoying the . dinner tt Is prob ably your own fault for a number of young people can always manage to enjoy themselves. ' If at a dance you are not aa popular as you hoped to be, do not make the. fast obvious. Tou may gO home If you are aot a belle, but do not repine. If yon are a belle, do-not be afraid to share your partners with- other less fortunate girls. Buch genstpsity will insure your popularity in future. It Is in a way a self protection. And. last of att, dO not discus yen hostesses or past entertainment with OPA 1 W jfir X.I-' MRS. SYMES' OWING to the large amount of mail received and the limited space given this department, it Is absolutely Impossible to answer letters In the (Sunday Issue fol lowing their receipt The letters must be answered in turn, and this ofttlmes requires three or four weeks. All correspondents who desire an Im mediate answer must inclose a self-addressed stamped envelope- for a reply. This rule must also be complied with In regard to personal letters. Too Young for Cosmetics Would you kindly advlae me whst to do In a cim when th skin -t..b drying up an becoming; parenedl I nave UMd cold cem and only the .best of face powder, but It em my akin Is orylng up. and I am only 51 years old. but It irema tp be wrinkling. I maisace my face every nlsht with cold cream, but all to no avail. I always use the cream before putting powder on If you are trying to keep your akin from becoming dry I advise you not to use powder on it. Keep on using cold cream and wash your face In the morn ing with cold wateF-not hot. Do not massage your face merely rub the cream well Into the skin. Request for Names 1 wish to know If you could tell me of any epeclallet in this city who alters defects and laaprpvee one's features. I have) been told that there la one In this city who perform the operation In a very elmola manner with a One paraffins needle. I have a very lar Roman noee, with a dliflcurlnK scar on the bridge, and It la for this reaeon I am anxious to se cura the Information asked for above. c ANXIOUS. I am very sorry, but I am unable to give any names or addresses In this column or through private letter, so I cannot recommend any specialist to you. However. I am sure that if you go to a reputable doctor he will give you the name of a specialist for you to consult. The Useful Peroxide Will you please tell me If peroxide of hydrogen will bleach the akin and super fluous hair; also If It will stop the growth, of hair. m M. U K. I am giving you a formula for face bleach which I think will whiten your skin and also bleach the superfluous hair I do not think, however, it will your friends, unless you make It a rule to say nothing but what is nice and kind. It is an old rule of the Arabs to say only good things of people whose salt they have eaten, and surely, no mat ter how great the provocation, you may be as good as an Arab. Every disagree able thing you say will surely find it way back to the person you have been f PERPLEXITIES SOLVED A Lonely Girl I TRAVEL abroad a great deal with my father. Wben he goes out 1 am left alone m the hotel and feel very lonely. Could I talk to the other rPjeOTJiot I do not see any reason why you should not talk to women whom you meet but 1 Bboull not attempt to ad dresi a man. if you make the ac ouaintance of one woman In the notei Tchances are she will Introduce you to more, and then you will not be bo lonely. Between Dances Is It the fashion to walk around the ballroom with your partner orroO It ts all right to walk around theben room with your partner until the begin ning of the next dance. It is better, however for the lady to suggest that he7 oartner take her back to ber Chap Sron? ita an important I"" that a girl should not dance twice In succes sion with the same man. Always re turn to the chaperon after every dance. Mystic Symbols rvh.t dnR. 9. V, P. nieant X know It is u.M m a.t that an. answer to an InvSatlo "WAlii & W what It means. WANTS TO Knuw, The Initials R. 6V V. P. are used to Indicate the Vrinfth jphras. "Kespon "iesviTavou plalW?. The French people eSTomTi of course, use the abbreviate I 3 ' if ANSWERS prevent the hair from growing. Un less the growth la very bad I advlaa yon not to touch it. Liquid "Whitenex. Water (previously balled and , strained) J; 5"f Alcohol -.... drops Oxide of slno .-.. Bichloride of mercury fr1"" Olyoerlne ....- droJ Keep the solution out of the way ot sau Cure for Bunion - - I have a very bad bunion. - Csa yea (fre me something to cure "'jtc. I am giving you the best wnulj have for bunion cure. I think It WlU be beneficial. , Bunion Cure. carbollo acid... J J&JJJ! IMS'.0' ,.?a.ln.,:.-.:-.:v-.:"r. i SSio SSS. Apy with a ciuners-W brush dally. Walnut Hair Stain , : Will you kindly rive me tt walnut hair stain, and oblige KLYRIA. , I am giving you the recipa for thj walnut hair stafn. Apply It to the hair with a small brush. Walnut Stain for Hair. Four ounces of walnut skin. ta-a palp, to which 1 added pure alcohol. M UUe?atasd eight days and strata. Eyebrow? and Hands Lately I applied olive otl'and vaseUs t mv eyelashes and brows to nuvka then grow I must have let It run tout too far. for It has caused the hair to stow long over my nose. Kindly tell how to remove them. Idy hands are very fleshy and my lucklefW lTT I am very eorry that I cannot suggest snv way to remove the hair which ha grown over the bridge of your nose, exeept to pull the hairs out, If you use a depilatory in such a place the result would be a growth- of very atlft hair which would look far worsa than the first. If. however, ycro pull the hairs out once in a whlla you will soon decrease their growth, - and It will not hni-r vera much. I do not know what to tell you to re duce your hands. They seem to be born, not made, and If you keep them in good condition and keep tha skin soft by tha application of cold cream I do not think you can do any more to improve their look. v:;r;. talking of. and It will do you Incalcu lable Injury. If you do not care to ae cept an invitation, decline it, but dis cuss with no one your reasons for do ing so. If you have accepted) hospital lty of any one. speak only good things of your bensfactor. Only girU who follow these, rul become popular. ' j ; form, and a great many people frv this country are;, particular about having the entire phrase spelt out or else hav ing printed at ths foot of the- tnvlta tlon. "An early reply la requeued." On the whole. I think this Is a very good Idea. When we have English words there is no reason why we should rely upon the French. Inviting the Clergyman, Who Invites the derg-yaian to tierfrvrae ins weaawg ceremony 7 . FRANK r. It is usually the bridegroom's duty to secure the services of the clergyman the moment the wedding day 1 decided upon, and, unless he. live at a great dis tance, the bridegroom "should call per sonally and engage htm. . If, however, the clergyman la a friend of both bride and bridegroom- -it-would It eourtvoue for them both to call together and as him to marry thenu ' - - , Party Calls Wh too klhdlr tell at If a cell is n airy after a tea or a reutrtt-mT . VV.;..A-' -ONiJRAMV. - If you have attndid he ersWtu meat It I not necry to ta,i. . r "the invitation U really Jjm at- - tor a woman' friends to f , , ! only two mrtaitimtiv,a , ,, 'procedure is allowabni. .' ' . sen,- a card party, a w .; or any aueti air a i u t-.l u , ry. UVr VII .Vlt... L'. fW, UMT, . - -
