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PaaeJ^ortland^toerverJ^ebnjm^JMSSi Now it's your (urn to be beautiful.1 All About Love meRLenoRmAn 1 hr Place f ir (hr (Sudani Kav “ Large selection«! wigs and hair pieces. Ear piercing always available. Love through the years. . . Grassroot News, N. H'.— When a relationship can span over three dec ades, the love, dedication and trust is truly unique to these times. The backbone o f our community is the aggregate sum o f good C hristian m arriages. M r. and M rs. S. Q . Broadous are such a couple. M r . Broadous, 72, is a retired barber and photographer. M rs. Ernestine Broadous, 52, is an instructor’s aide at Boise School. In the early *50s they were in troduced in Arkansas. M r. Broad ous remembers: " W e ll, my first wife died and I was getting lonely. A friend o f mine told me about a woman who was a m atron at a boarding school. She said that she was a fine lady and I wanted to meet h er." M r. Broadous said that Mrs. Broadous seemed like a "good old girl.” “ When he was introduced to me I really wasn’t interested in getting m arried. Back then I was to ta lly committed to the children. I didn’t have time to acquaint myself with any o f the young men in the com m u n ity. A fte r meeting him he seemed to be really interested and we began to correspond. He seemed to really mean business. He would call me at night and I thought that marriage was not the way for me because I wanted to finish school. He told me that he was going to come to Portland and that he could get married before he le ft .” M rs. Broadous finished school and in 1953 she came to Portland. M r. Broadous recalls that up to this tim e he had never met M rs. Broadous’ people. " A fte r she con sented to be my w ife I w rote her mother and gave references on my behalf.” " T h e strange thing about our m arriage,” M rs. Broadous began, “ is that we went through the cere mony three times. The first time we went through it we d id n ’ t have enough witnesses. The second time we didn’t have the right person to be the witness and fin a lly we got the right witnesses.” M r. Broadous said that the Rever end who perform ed the ceremony told him, “ There’s no way you will ever get away from that woman be cause you tied the knot three times." The Broadouses are good church going people. “ I f it was not for the church I don’t think we would have made it. W e have the same interest in that we’re both religious and are o f the same denom ination. W e a l ways had fam ily pray in our home. And we know that if a family prays together, the family stays together.” In marriages that have lasted as long as the Broadouses when the children get grown and leave it a f fects the relationship. M rs. Broad ous says that it had no effec t on theirs. " A b o u t that tim e my hus band was having medical problems. 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But these misunderstand ings aren’t enough to say I ’m gone. It ’s until death that we part. Just re* member your marriage vows.” M rs. Broadous advises, " L o v e one another and do things together. Some families never do anything to gether. G o places together and share d aily experiences w ith your fa m ily .” The fo rm u la fo r a long and happy marriage is the example o f M r. and Mrs. S. Q. Broadous. MORGAN’S ALLEY 515 S.W. BROADWAY 14K yeSow aofcl. ptaDnura. I In love is what la m with vou Like magic we can f l y ___ The dream o f ro m an tic love is taken more seriously in A m erica than it is anywhere else in the world. Falling in love at first sight and “ in stant” love are pan o f the world in which we live— hence our high di vorce rate. I talked to Ponlanders about love and romance and they had some in teresting, thought provoking things to say. The sharing o f these exper iences with you will hopefully help you take a more positive look at your “ good thing.” Good relationships enhance our lives and help us form a base o f sup port that helps us keep it together as we make our way in the world. We have to work hard to fill our love re lationships with as much peace and joy as possible. It takes two to make a relation ship and two to m ain tain and strengthen it. Everyone I talked to agreed that kindness and caring are essential expressions o f love and they make a good thing great: “ Treat her the way you want to be treated.” " F in d out what his wants and needs are.” “ I f you want your relationship to im prove you must be w illin g to work hard at it.” “ Show you csre— it always comes back.” Neither partner in the love affair should have to assume sole responsi bility for it, but both must be willing to give and receive. Portland lovers feel that the most important thing in any relationship is keeping the lines o f communica tion open. Talking things out with your loved-one is essential i f you hope to improve your relationship. This can be difficult with the pace o f life most o f us keep, but there are lots o f ways o f communicating: “ I f we don’t get a chance to talk much at home we call each other on the telephone— just five or ten min utes can work wonders!” “ Letters are a nice way to com municate.” " I like wine and fireside conver sation.” Don’t take things for granted and think you know your partner inside $39.50 ► and out. Good relationships seem “ I refuse to cook— it works everv effortless to those on the outside but tim e!” a lot o f care goes into them: Loving someone means helping “ I like to be told *1 love you’ a lot them to be more themselves, which so I don’t have to guess. 1 also show isn’ t necessarily how y o u ’d lik e and tell my husband that I love him them to be, although many times over and over.” they tu rn out the same. It is love ” 1 need a candle light dinner and that makes our existence seem to a dozen long-stemmed roses every have a sense o f purpose. once in a while.” T a lk and listen to each o th er, M en and women are socialized change and grow together, keep in differently. They are taught to think touch with each o th e r’s needs, de d iffe re n tly about relationships. sires, and dreams. “ D o n ’t make the M any times this leads us to a point m istake o f th in kin g you have it in our relationship that seems like made once you find a com patible we won’ t make it through it. Cou m ate.” I was told by a veteran o f a ples tell me that difficulties can be 20-year-marriage. “ Even the things avoided by trying to work out prob that you now find the most enjoy lems as they develop, focus on the able can seem to lose their freshness. problems and your feelings about W ith a little im agination you can them . H ere is how some people keep the relationship exciting for work out lovers’ spats: both o f you.” " W e make a date— just as if we didn’t live with each other. It makes The love between two people can you smile, it fills you with anticipa help you build a bridge o f tender tion and rem inds you o f what a t ness that reaches into the heart and tracted you to each other.” soul o f both partners. I think Adlai “ One o f us will spend a couple o f Stevenson sums it all up quite well: days in a h o te l— usually we can’t "B y lo v e .. . I do not mean senti stay apart m ore than a couple o f mentality or possessive emotion; but nights and both o f us wind up in the the steady recognition o f o th ers’ hotel o rdering champagne from uniqueness, and a sustained inten room service.” tion to seek their good.” ra ELECTRONIC SERVICE 5609 N.E. 30th AVENUE A ♦1* theses ^ V’ 1 Lr cs»' For the best in hair care, come in and check us out. W e Sattsfyl Dean's Beauty Salon & Barber 213-215 N .E. 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(The Egyptian ships were still had not made up and Antony won the hearts o f two o f the greatest at her ability to leave him at a time the most p o w erfu l in A n to n y ’ s exhausted from a sleepless night and soldiers in history— Julius Caesar when he was facing death, exploded fleet.) a hangover went out to do battle and Mark Antony. in to im pulse. He summoned the Cleopatra added injury to insult w ith O ctavian fo r c o n tro l o f the M ark Antony’s “ love jones” for fastest ship in his fleet and wen, to when she reminded him , too, that world, not caring if he won or lost Cleopatra caused him many prob Cleopatra— abandoning the battle. her reason for going to Egypt, was this prize which once represented lems. On the night before the fa A ll through the night Antony sat not merely to add strength to his po the peak o f his ambition. mous Battle o f Actium , September there, w aitin g for C le o p a tra to sition by rid ding him o f the only A ll that mattered to A ntony was 2nd, 31 B .C ., Cleopatra had an ar make some sign. She refused, and in person (C leo p atra ) who A n to n y ’ s that C le o p a tra should not leave gument with A ntony that changed bitter retaliation, Antony refused to arch-rival Octavian had been able to the course o f history. him while he was so fu ll o f anger consider any means o f returning to arouse public opinion against, but and had so much longing fo r her It seems that on this fateful even Actium to resume the war. also to get some rest from the do love. He had his mind made up that ing A ntony blamed C leopatra for mestic quarrels which made their re O c ta vian ’ s men were victorious i f by the end o f the day he was still alienating his friends from him. The lationship so much o f a misery to two hours later. A ntony’s fleet had Queen retaliated saying that he him alive, he would see Cleopatra again her. given up the fight and surrendered. before her departure and kiss and self was alone to blame for the loss It is generally thought that they C le o p a tra and her lo v e r’ s spite make up. o f confidence in him. quarreled deep in to the night and had proven to be their downfall. Cleopatra was angry too that An Cleopatra, meanwhile, was tired that both o f them were exhausted by The defeat in the Battle o f Acjium tony was about to put all o f the o f delaying her departure. Antony was no, enough to keep Antony and had told her that he never wished to C le o p a tra apart fo rev er. T im e speak to her again. She felt that it healed the lovers’ wounds and for a would serve him rig h t i f she just ¡ 3 Ä D W i g W while all was well. slipped away without his even notic A ntony and C leopatra died in a ing her departure. ANO m anner sim ilar to two other well- Those thoughts led Cleopatra to / D i ** ' known lovers: Romeo and Juliet. make a reckless decision. Antony, falsely hearing that Cleo Antony, at the height o f the bat PROFESSIONAL SERVICE AT REASONABLE PRICKS p atra had k ille d h erself, stabbed tle, saw C leopatra taking o ff, and himself with his sword, while he was the insanity o f his love a ffa ir over just barely alive he was taken ,o whelmed his tired mind. Cleopatra where C le o p a tra had been hiding PORTLAND, OR 97211 DOC BALDWIN was going out o f his life w ithout fro m O c ta vian . T h a t night C le o OWNER C E T. even attempting to make up; deeply _ 2818273 p atra, Queen o f Egypt, killed her hurt by his insults, she was leaving self. 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