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Grassroot News, N. H'.— When a
relationship can span over three dec
ades, the love, dedication and trust
is truly unique to these times. The
backbone o f our community is the
aggregate sum o f good C hristian
m arriages. M r. and M rs. S. Q .
Broadous are such a couple. M r .
Broadous, 72, is a retired barber
and photographer. M rs. Ernestine
Broadous, 52, is an instructor’s aide
at Boise School.
In the early *50s they were in
troduced in Arkansas. M r. Broad
ous remembers: " W e ll, my first
wife died and I was getting lonely. A
friend o f mine told me about a
woman who was a m atron at a
boarding school. She said that she
was a fine lady and I wanted to meet
h er." M r. Broadous said that Mrs.
Broadous seemed like a "good old
girl.”
“ When he was introduced to me I
really wasn’t interested in getting
m arried. Back then I was to ta lly
committed to the children. I didn’t
have time to acquaint myself with
any o f the young men in the com
m u n ity. A fte r meeting him he
seemed to be really interested and
we began to correspond. He seemed
to really mean business. He would
call me at night and I thought that
marriage was not the way for me
because I wanted to finish school.
He told me that he was going to
come to Portland and that he could
get married before he le ft .” M rs.
Broadous finished school and in
1953 she came to Portland.
M r. Broadous recalls that up to
this tim e he had never met M rs.
Broadous’ people. " A fte r she con
sented to be my w ife I w rote her
mother and gave references on my
behalf.”
" T h e strange thing about our
m arriage,” M rs. Broadous began,
“ is that we went through the cere
mony three times. The first time we
went through it we d id n ’ t have
enough witnesses. The second time
we didn’t have the right person to be
the witness and fin a lly we got the
right witnesses.”
M r. Broadous said that the Rever
end who perform ed the ceremony
told him, “ There’s no way you will
ever get away from that woman be
cause you tied the knot three
times."
The Broadouses are good church
going people. “ I f it was not for the
church I don’t think we would have
made it. W e have the same interest
in that we’re both religious and are
o f the same denom ination. W e a l
ways had fam ily pray in our home.
And we know that if a family prays
together, the family stays together.”
In marriages that have lasted as
long as the Broadouses when the
children get grown and leave it a f
fects the relationship. M rs. Broad
ous says that it had no effec t on
theirs. " A b o u t that tim e my hus
band was having medical problems.
A nd it just caused me to do more
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for him .”
The core o f their marriage is love.
"W h en he’s gone, I wonder where
he is. I even know when he’ s not
feeling well. I don’t know what it is
but i t ’ s something that you just
grow together as one.” M r. Broad
ous defines their love as when she’s
gone there seems to be a vacancy.
“ When she returns it’s filled up.”
W hat advice could this lifelong
couple o ffe r others who want to
make their relationship as perm a
nent as theirs? M r. Broadous says,
“ Marriage is honorable. God said it
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ERNESTINE BROADOUS
wouldn t do for man to live alone.
He said what God has put together
iet no man put asunder. N ow , this
doesn’ t mean that there w o n ’ t be
problems. But these misunderstand
ings aren’t enough to say I ’m gone.
It ’s until death that we part. Just re*
member your marriage vows.”
M rs. Broadous advises, " L o v e
one another and do things together.
Some families never do anything to
gether. G o places together and
share d aily experiences w ith your
fa m ily .” The fo rm u la fo r a long
and happy marriage is the example
o f M r. and Mrs. S. Q. Broadous.
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The dream o f ro m an tic love is
taken more seriously in A m erica
than it is anywhere else in the world.
Falling in love at first sight and “ in
stant” love are pan o f the world in
which we live— hence our high di
vorce rate.
I talked to Ponlanders about love
and romance and they had some in
teresting, thought provoking things
to say. The sharing o f these exper
iences with you will hopefully help
you take a more positive look at
your “ good thing.”
Good relationships enhance our
lives and help us form a base o f sup
port that helps us keep it together as
we make our way in the world. We
have to work hard to fill our love re
lationships with as much peace and
joy as possible.
It takes two to make a relation
ship and two to m ain tain and
strengthen it. Everyone I talked to
agreed that kindness and caring are
essential expressions o f love and
they make a good thing great:
“ Treat her the way you want to
be treated.”
" F in d out what his wants and
needs are.”
“ I f you want your relationship to
im prove you must be w illin g to
work hard at it.”
“ Show you csre— it always comes
back.”
Neither partner in the love affair
should have to assume sole responsi
bility for it, but both must be willing
to give and receive.
Portland lovers feel that the most
important thing in any relationship
is keeping the lines o f communica
tion open. Talking things out with
your loved-one is essential i f you
hope to improve your relationship.
This can be difficult with the pace o f
life most o f us keep, but there are
lots o f ways o f communicating:
“ I f we don’t get a chance to talk
much at home we call each other on
the telephone— just five or ten min
utes can work wonders!”
“ Letters are a nice way to com
municate.”
" I like wine and fireside conver
sation.”
Don’t take things for granted and
think you know your partner inside
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and out. Good relationships seem
“ I refuse to cook— it works everv
effortless to those on the outside but
tim e!”
a lot o f care goes into them:
Loving someone means helping
“ I like to be told *1 love you’ a lot
them to be more themselves, which
so I don’t have to guess. 1 also show
isn’ t necessarily how y o u ’d lik e
and tell my husband that I love him
them to be, although many times
over and over.”
they tu rn out the same. It is love
” 1 need a candle light dinner and that makes our existence seem to
a dozen long-stemmed roses every
have a sense o f purpose.
once in a while.”
T a lk and listen to each o th er,
M en and women are socialized
change
and grow together, keep in
differently. They are taught to think
touch with each o th e r’s needs, de
d iffe re n tly about relationships.
sires, and dreams. “ D o n ’t make the
M any times this leads us to a point
m
istake o f th in kin g you have it
in our relationship that seems like
made
once you find a com patible
we won’ t make it through it. Cou
m
ate.”
I was told by a veteran o f a
ples tell me that difficulties can be
20-year-marriage.
“ Even the things
avoided by trying to work out prob
that you now find the most enjoy
lems as they develop, focus on the
able can seem to lose their freshness.
problems and your feelings about
W ith a little im agination you can
them . H ere is how some people
keep
the relationship exciting for
work out lovers’ spats:
both
o
f you.”
" W e make a date— just as if we
didn’t live with each other. It makes
The love between two people can
you smile, it fills you with anticipa
help you build a bridge o f tender
tion and rem inds you o f what a t
ness that reaches into the heart and
tracted you to each other.”
soul o f both partners. I think Adlai
“ One o f us will spend a couple o f
Stevenson sums it all up quite well:
days in a h o te l— usually we can’t
"B y lo v e .. . I do not mean senti
stay apart m ore than a couple o f
mentality or possessive emotion; but
nights and both o f us wind up in the
the steady recognition o f o th ers’
hotel o rdering champagne from
uniqueness, and a sustained inten
room service.”
tion to seek their good.”
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Antony and Cleopatra: East meets west
Egyptian battleships except for the
been ten d erly holding each other
him forever. He could not bear part
ones that were to go to Egypt with
close,
they spent a restless night sep
Cleopatra, Queen of Egypt, was a
ing from his w ife unforgiven. His
her in a position that they would
arated from each other.
dark-haired beauty with big dark
passionate desire to be with her in a
have to take the m ajor part o f the
On the fo llo w in g m orning they
loving farewell mixed with his anger
eyes, an exceptional woman who
fighting. (The Egyptian ships were
still had not made up and Antony
won the hearts o f two o f the greatest
at her ability to leave him at a time
the most p o w erfu l in A n to n y ’ s
exhausted from a sleepless night and
soldiers in history— Julius Caesar
when he was facing death, exploded
fleet.)
a hangover went out to do battle
and Mark Antony.
in to im pulse. He summoned the
Cleopatra added injury to insult
w ith O ctavian fo r c o n tro l o f the
M ark Antony’s “ love jones” for
fastest ship in his fleet and wen, to
when
she reminded him , too, that
world, not caring if he won or lost
Cleopatra caused him many prob
Cleopatra— abandoning the battle.
her reason for going to Egypt, was
this prize which once represented
lems. On the night before the fa
A ll through the night Antony sat
not
merely to add strength to his po
the peak o f his ambition.
mous Battle o f Actium , September
there, w aitin g for C le o p a tra to
sition by rid ding him o f the only
A ll that mattered to A ntony was
2nd, 31 B .C ., Cleopatra had an ar
make some sign. She refused, and in
person (C leo p atra ) who A n to n y ’ s that C le o p a tra should not leave
gument with A ntony that changed
bitter retaliation, Antony refused to
arch-rival Octavian had been able to
the course o f history.
him while he was so fu ll o f anger
consider any means o f returning to
arouse public opinion against, but
and had so much longing fo r her
It seems that on this fateful even
Actium to resume the war.
also to get some rest from the do
love. He had his mind made up that
ing A ntony blamed C leopatra for
mestic quarrels which made their re
O c ta vian ’ s men were victorious
i f by the end o f the day he was still
alienating his friends from him. The
lationship
so
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f
a
misery
to
two
hours later. A ntony’s fleet had
Queen retaliated saying that he him
alive, he would see Cleopatra again
her.
given up the fight and surrendered.
before her departure and kiss and
self was alone to blame for the loss
It is generally thought that they
C le o p a tra and her lo v e r’ s spite
make up.
o f confidence in him.
quarreled deep in to the night and
had proven to be their downfall.
Cleopatra was angry too that An
Cleopatra, meanwhile, was tired
that both o f them were exhausted by
The defeat in the Battle o f Acjium
tony was about to put all o f the
o f delaying her departure. Antony
was no, enough to keep Antony and
had told her that he never wished to
C le o p a tra apart fo rev er. T im e
speak to her again. She felt that it
healed the lovers’ wounds and for a
would serve him rig h t i f she just
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while all was well.
slipped away without his even notic
A ntony and C leopatra died in a
ing her departure.
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m anner sim ilar to two other well-
Those thoughts led Cleopatra to
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known lovers: Romeo and Juliet.
make a reckless decision.
Antony, falsely hearing that Cleo
Antony, at the height o f the bat
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the insanity o f his love a ffa ir over
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whelmed his tired mind. Cleopatra
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