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6A FEATURES Many unwanted invitations Dear Annie: I read your I do not plan on attending column in my local paper, any of the events. The dilemma and you seem to respond in I am facing is whether to send an unbiased manner, so I am gifts. I was always taught that turning to you for advice. if I receive an invitation to an Over the past few months, event, I should give a present I have received invitations to even if I am unable to attend. a 1-year-old’s birth- However, I am con- DEAR fused about what is day party, a grad- uation and a wed- expected in situations ANNIE ding reception (not such as these. the wedding). In I want to do the each case, the inviter right thing but not feel was an acquaintance taken advantage of. whom I know casu- — Unsure in Texas ally. I don’t consider Dear Unsure: any of them to be a An invitation is not Lane close friend, espe- Annie an obligation. That Creators Syndicate Inc. cially the graduate, goes for both gifts whom I am “friends” and attendance. You with on social media but hav- should worry about buying en’t seen or spoken to in over a gift only if you’re going to a year and a half. attend, and you should attend All of the invitations were only if you truly care to. If not, sent electronically. I am won- sending your regrets and best dering whether the new world wishes is more than sufficient. of technology has cheapened Dear Annie: How do I tell the tradition of celebrations. a guy I just started dating that I can’t help but feel that the I can’t stand his mustache? invitations were not sincere First of all, it is not attractive and I was just included on at all. Then there is the mat- mass lists of invitees gathered ter of how, when he kisses me, from social media. Receiving it feels like sharp spikes going them has made me feel used, into my skin. I have dated and kissed other guys with mus- in a way. taches and did not feel the same discomfort, so I’m not sure what the deal is. I like him and enjoy his company. I don’t want to hurt his feelings. What can I do? — ‘Stache-Scratched Dear ‘Stache-Scratched: Speak up in behalf of your upper lip. After all, it would be hurtful to your new boy- friend if you wriggled away whenever he went in for a kiss and he didn’t know why. There are plenty of remedies he could try — such as trim- ming less often and softening it with conditioner or coco- nut oil — short of shaving his mustache. Although you’d prefer he just shave it because you don’t like the way it looks, that’s not your call. To insist that a partner change his or her appearance is to be controlling. You can politely make your feelings known. (For example, you could say, “I would love to see you with- out a mustache. I bet you’d look even handsomer.”) But ultimately, it’s up to him. Who knows? With time, the mus- tache might actually grow on you. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MAY 28, 2018 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). In situations in which one person’s preference or opinion is tacitly understood to carry more weight than everyone else’s — enough! This is getting old! You might dismantle the unjust power structure by simply refusing to take part in it. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’ll invest your attention and hours in what makes you happy. It’s a great strategy. You can’t go wrong with this — not in the long term, and not over the course of this day. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What good is it to feel another person’s pain unless one is also moved to help relieve it? Your compassion hits you like a call to action today, and this could significantly alter your original plans. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Technically, discoveries are made by those who got there first, though they are often credited to those who got there loudest, most powerfully and with great support. Question of the day: How important is it to stake your claim? LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’ll get together with people who happen to be in a differ- ent mood than you are. So, whose mood prevails? Do both meet somewhere in the middle? Hopefully, the better mood will lift the other. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Work fast so you can play slow, or at least play without distraction for nice blocks of time. This will be a reward to savor, and, better yet, it will lead to more of the same. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Loving people do not always get to choose how that love gets distributed. You’ll set out to direct your focus on one who always rewards it, and yet there will be others who need you more. That’s just FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE how it goes. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). As much as you would like to be able to explore every option, there won’t be time for meandering. Your intuition will come in the form of a preference. It will be practically impossible to miss this one. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ll be in a position to lead. The first order of business is to help the others see what there is to want. Create an appetite for what’s in it for them. Tell a part of the story that will make people wonder what’s next. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). While re- jection is a necessary part of life, there’s no reason to put yourself in the position to risk rejection today. You’ll talk to people who want to be talked to. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Check in with each member of your group to make sure everyone is on the same page. When you all work together you’ll turn out a result all will be proud to claim. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). When the situ- ation doesn’t feel right, that doesn’t make it wrong; it’s just not for you. Trust that enough to walk away so you can find something that is right for you. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 29). There are deep habits and essential interactions forming in the first part of this solar return, so try and repeat only the actions you firmly believe contribute to your happiness and well-being. A windfall comes in September, and an even better deal happens in Decem- ber. Also, you’ll throw a party that will cement your status. Pisces and Aries adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 40, 12, 6 and 30.