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Many unwanted invitations
Dear Annie: I read your
I do not plan on attending
column in my local paper, any of the events. The dilemma
and you seem to respond in I am facing is whether to send
an unbiased manner, so I am gifts. I was always taught that
turning to you for advice.
if I receive an invitation to an
Over the past few months, event, I should give a present
I have received invitations to even if I am unable to attend.
a 1-year-old’s birth-
However, I am con-
DEAR
fused about what is
day party, a grad-
uation and a wed-
expected in situations
ANNIE
ding reception (not
such as these.
the wedding). In
I want to do the
each case, the inviter
right thing but not feel
was an acquaintance
taken advantage of.
whom I know casu-
— Unsure in Texas
ally. I don’t consider
Dear
Unsure:
any of them to be a
An invitation is not
Lane
close friend, espe- Annie
an obligation. That
Creators
Syndicate
Inc.
cially the graduate,
goes for both gifts
whom I am “friends”
and attendance. You
with on social media but hav- should worry about buying
en’t seen or spoken to in over a gift only if you’re going to
a year and a half.
attend, and you should attend
All of the invitations were only if you truly care to. If not,
sent electronically. I am won- sending your regrets and best
dering whether the new world wishes is more than sufficient.
of technology has cheapened
Dear Annie: How do I tell
the tradition of celebrations. a guy I just started dating that
I can’t help but feel that the I can’t stand his mustache?
invitations were not sincere First of all, it is not attractive
and I was just included on at all. Then there is the mat-
mass lists of invitees gathered ter of how, when he kisses me,
from social media. Receiving it feels like sharp spikes going
them has made me feel used, into my skin. I have dated and
kissed other guys with mus-
in a way.
taches and did not feel the
same discomfort, so I’m not
sure what the deal is.
I like him and enjoy his
company. I don’t want to hurt
his feelings. What can I do?
— ‘Stache-Scratched
Dear ‘Stache-Scratched:
Speak up in behalf of your
upper lip. After all, it would
be hurtful to your new boy-
friend if you wriggled away
whenever he went in for a
kiss and he didn’t know why.
There are plenty of remedies
he could try — such as trim-
ming less often and softening
it with conditioner or coco-
nut oil — short of shaving
his mustache. Although you’d
prefer he just shave it because
you don’t like the way it
looks, that’s not your call. To
insist that a partner change
his or her appearance is to be
controlling. You can politely
make your feelings known.
(For example, you could say,
“I would love to see you with-
out a mustache. I bet you’d
look even handsomer.”) But
ultimately, it’s up to him. Who
knows? With time, the mus-
tache might actually grow on
you.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MAY 28, 2018
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). In situations in
which one person’s preference or opinion is
tacitly understood to carry more weight than
everyone else’s — enough! This is getting
old! You might dismantle the unjust power
structure by simply refusing to take part in it.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’ll invest your
attention and hours in what makes you happy.
It’s a great strategy. You can’t go wrong with
this — not in the long term, and not over the
course of this day.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What good is it to
feel another person’s pain unless one is also
moved to help relieve it? Your compassion
hits you like a call to action today, and this
could significantly alter your original plans.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Technically,
discoveries are made by those who got there
first, though they are often credited to those
who got there loudest, most powerfully and
with great support. Question of the day: How
important is it to stake your claim?
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’ll get together
with people who happen to be in a differ-
ent mood than you are. So, whose mood
prevails? Do both meet somewhere in the
middle? Hopefully, the better mood will lift the
other.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Work fast so
you can play slow, or at least play without
distraction for nice blocks of time. This will be
a reward to savor, and, better yet, it will lead
to more of the same.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Loving people do
not always get to choose how that love gets
distributed. You’ll set out to direct your focus
on one who always rewards it, and yet there
will be others who need you more. That’s just
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
how it goes.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). As much as
you would like to be able to explore every
option, there won’t be time for meandering.
Your intuition will come in the form of a
preference. It will be practically impossible to
miss this one.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ll be in
a position to lead. The first order of business
is to help the others see what there is to
want. Create an appetite for what’s in it for
them. Tell a part of the story that will make
people wonder what’s next.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). While re-
jection is a necessary part of life, there’s no
reason to put yourself in the position to risk
rejection today. You’ll talk to people who want
to be talked to.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Check in with
each member of your group to make sure
everyone is on the same page. When you all
work together you’ll turn out a result all will
be proud to claim.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). When the situ-
ation doesn’t feel right, that doesn’t make it
wrong; it’s just not for you. Trust that enough
to walk away so you can find something that
is right for you.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 29). There
are deep habits and essential interactions
forming in the first part of this solar return,
so try and repeat only the actions you firmly
believe contribute to your happiness and
well-being. A windfall comes in September,
and an even better deal happens in Decem-
ber. Also, you’ll throw a party that will cement
your status. Pisces and Aries adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 8, 40, 12, 6 and 30.