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6A FEATURES Quitting the right way Dear Annie: Typically, I thrive last bit of real-world experience when I’m in a fast-paced, busy envi- from this internship by quitting ronment. I am getting my master’s the right way. That means in per- degree in nutrition, am working a son. Ask one of the people who part-time job, have a boyfriend and has been training you for a pri- am training for a marathon. A few vate meeting. Keep it short, sweet and humble. Express weeks ago, I started an DEAR gratitude for the oppor- unpaid internship at a local tunity. Follow up after- hospital to get some more ANNIE ward via email with a for- on-the-job training. How- mal letter of resignation ever, life is really start- so the company has it in ing to overwhelm me at writing. Then you may the moment, and I want to “peace out” with peace of quit the internship to leave mind. more room in the sched- Dear Annie: I enjoy ule to relax (and eat and Lane your column and read it sleep). All I’ve done so far Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. every day. I’d like to com- is go through beginning ment on the letter from training with a group of 10 other interns. There is no supervi- “Death With Dignity My Way,” the sor or point person to speak with, person who wants to not die with just a rotating group of people who family members all around when have trained us. Though the pro- the time comes. Eighteen years ago, my gram is fine, it’s not very influen- tial in my field, and I haven’t made 48-year-old husband died after just strong connections. So my fear of three months with pancreatic can- burning bridges is minimal. Do cer. He was very healthy other- you think it would be OK to quit wise, but it was apparent just six the program via email? That’s weeks after his diagnosis that the where all my communication has disease was too far gone. They been so far, and I’m looking for- immediately just sent us home and ward to no longer having to worry started having hospice nurses show about this. — Peacing Out Politely up. I rebelled against that. We had Dear Peacing Out: Wring a two young teenagers, who were facing the most horrible event in their young lives, and I felt that they did not need to witness their father’s death to know that it hap- pened. Nor did they need to come into their home each night for years afterward to look at the spot where their beloved dad died. Death is not a beautiful experience that we should all share together. I took care of my husband at home and made him as comfort- able as possible, but when he really began to fail, I took him to the hos- pital to be admitted. I never left his side, and my children visited when he was having a good day. I had to take care of them, as well as him. He passed away in the hos- pital. Let my kids hate the hospital and be angry at the hospital. Many hospitals also have hospice wings now so that the dying can have pri- vacy if they wish. Hospice at home is not for everyone. — Reader in Norwich, Conn. Dear Reader in Norwich: I’m sorry for the loss of your hus- band. Many people grapple with the issue of dying at home versus dying in a hospital. It’s commend- able that you and your husband made a decision that was right for your family. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, JULY 24, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). “Motivated reasoning” is when you first decide what you want and then rationalize why it’s a good idea. Your mind will have no trouble coming up with supportive ideas, but are they really, morally correct? SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It’s not the case every day, but today if you aim low and settle for little, you won’t be disappointed, you’re sure to be impressed, and you’ll probably be swept off your feet and into a truly interesting and exciting situation. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The idea that every moment should be pleasurable is as ridiculous as the notion that life should be pain- free. Ours is, after all, an existence of contrast. There is no pleasure without pain, no light without darkness. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Emptiness is not nothingness; rather, it is space. Space is pure potential. Therefore, do not be afraid to get rid of things before you have a replace- ment. The void invites a more creative future than you would otherwise know. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Savvy hotel guests know that when travel-mates and roommates need space from each other, the hotel lobby can be a welcome respite. Find your own version of a hotel lobby today. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your head and your heart do not always consult one another before making decisions. You may find them in conflict today. Sort it out. Your imagina- tion will be a helpful mediator. CANCER (June 22-July 22). We get older without trying. We’re drawn to people inexplica- bly. Our bodies crave what we need; our spirits quest without our consent. There are many things in life that come without effort. All should be celebrated. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You expect yourself to keep your agreements, even when it is inconvenient to do so. You do not always hold others to their agreements, but you should. Not always, but today, your expectation will make them rise up. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You know who you are, but you don’t know the full extent of either who you are or what you can do until the ad- venture is “on.” So say yes, and that adventure will launch shortly. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Turn up the in- tensity. Make a play for what you want. Through a combination of tenacity and keen prob- lem-solving you will make things happen. The result won’t be perfect, but it will be progress. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). People who are worrying about what they are going to say are usually not very good at listening to what is already being said. That’s why, when you put people at ease, you make them better listeners. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 25). This solar return you will accomplish one worthy purpose after another. Self-leadership will soon turn into group leadership, as others will want to do what you’ve done. Interpersonal dealings get easier as you learn to communicate more gently and thoroughly. Selflessness leads to life lessons. Your love life thrives in 2018. Capricorn and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 16, 22, 28, 30 and 44. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There’s nothing false about hope. It may not change things immediately, but it will change you immediately, and that will change things eventually. Hold on to hope, white-knuckled. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. 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