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Quitting the right way
Dear Annie: Typically, I thrive last bit of real-world experience
when I’m in a fast-paced, busy envi- from this internship by quitting
ronment. I am getting my master’s the right way. That means in per-
degree in nutrition, am working a son. Ask one of the people who
part-time job, have a boyfriend and has been training you for a pri-
am training for a marathon. A few vate meeting. Keep it short, sweet
and humble. Express
weeks ago, I started an
DEAR
gratitude for the oppor-
unpaid internship at a local
tunity. Follow up after-
hospital to get some more
ANNIE
ward via email with a for-
on-the-job training. How-
mal letter of resignation
ever, life is really start-
so the company has it in
ing to overwhelm me at
writing. Then you may
the moment, and I want to
“peace out” with peace of
quit the internship to leave
mind.
more room in the sched-
Dear Annie: I enjoy
ule to relax (and eat and
Lane
your
column and read it
sleep). All I’ve done so far Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
every day. I’d like to com-
is go through beginning
ment on the letter from
training with a group of 10
other interns. There is no supervi- “Death With Dignity My Way,” the
sor or point person to speak with, person who wants to not die with
just a rotating group of people who family members all around when
have trained us. Though the pro- the time comes.
Eighteen years ago, my
gram is fine, it’s not very influen-
tial in my field, and I haven’t made 48-year-old husband died after just
strong connections. So my fear of three months with pancreatic can-
burning bridges is minimal. Do cer. He was very healthy other-
you think it would be OK to quit wise, but it was apparent just six
the program via email? That’s weeks after his diagnosis that the
where all my communication has disease was too far gone. They
been so far, and I’m looking for- immediately just sent us home and
ward to no longer having to worry started having hospice nurses show
about this. — Peacing Out Politely up. I rebelled against that. We had
Dear Peacing Out: Wring a two young teenagers, who were
facing the most horrible event in
their young lives, and I felt that
they did not need to witness their
father’s death to know that it hap-
pened. Nor did they need to come
into their home each night for years
afterward to look at the spot where
their beloved dad died. Death is
not a beautiful experience that we
should all share together.
I took care of my husband at
home and made him as comfort-
able as possible, but when he really
began to fail, I took him to the hos-
pital to be admitted. I never left
his side, and my children visited
when he was having a good day.
I had to take care of them, as well
as him. He passed away in the hos-
pital. Let my kids hate the hospital
and be angry at the hospital. Many
hospitals also have hospice wings
now so that the dying can have pri-
vacy if they wish. Hospice at home
is not for everyone. — Reader in
Norwich, Conn.
Dear Reader in Norwich:
I’m sorry for the loss of your hus-
band. Many people grapple with
the issue of dying at home versus
dying in a hospital. It’s commend-
able that you and your husband
made a decision that was right for
your family.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, JULY 24, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). “Motivated
reasoning” is when you first decide what you
want and then rationalize why it’s a good idea.
Your mind will have no trouble coming up with
supportive ideas, but are they really, morally
correct?
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It’s not the case
every day, but today if you aim low and settle
for little, you won’t be disappointed, you’re sure
to be impressed, and you’ll probably be swept
off your feet and into a truly interesting and
exciting situation.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The idea that
every moment should be pleasurable is as
ridiculous as the notion that life should be pain-
free. Ours is, after all, an existence of contrast.
There is no pleasure without pain, no light
without darkness.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Emptiness
is not nothingness; rather, it is space. Space
is pure potential. Therefore, do not be afraid to
get rid of things before you have a replace-
ment. The void invites a more creative future
than you would otherwise know.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Savvy hotel guests
know that when travel-mates and roommates
need space from each other, the hotel lobby
can be a welcome respite. Find your own
version of a hotel lobby today.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your head
and your heart do not always consult one
another before making decisions. You may find
them in conflict today. Sort it out. Your imagina-
tion will be a helpful mediator.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). We get older
without trying. We’re drawn to people inexplica-
bly. Our bodies crave what we need; our spirits
quest without our consent. There are many
things in life that come without effort. All should
be celebrated.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You expect
yourself to keep your agreements, even when
it is inconvenient to do so. You do not always
hold others to their agreements, but you
should. Not always, but today, your expectation
will make them rise up.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You know who you
are, but you don’t know the full extent of either
who you are or what you can do until the ad-
venture is “on.” So say yes, and that adventure
will launch shortly.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Turn up the in-
tensity. Make a play for what you want. Through
a combination of tenacity and keen prob-
lem-solving you will make things happen. The
result won’t be perfect, but it will be progress.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). People who are
worrying about what they are going to say are
usually not very good at listening to what is
already being said. That’s why, when you put
people at ease, you make them better listeners.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 25). This
solar return you will accomplish one worthy
purpose after another. Self-leadership will soon
turn into group leadership, as others will want
to do what you’ve done. Interpersonal dealings
get easier as you learn to communicate more
gently and thoroughly. Selflessness leads to life
lessons. Your love life thrives in 2018. Capricorn
and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers
are: 16, 22, 28, 30 and 44.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There’s nothing
false about hope. It may not change things
immediately, but it will change you immediately,
and that will change things eventually. Hold on
to hope, white-knuckled.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
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ROSE IS ROSE