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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JULY 5, 2017 FEATURES Sexual assault aftermath Dear Annie: Shortly, I will shower any friends. I don’t have any friends any- and prepare to spend the day with my more, either. ex-boyfriend. “Pat” is 60, and I am 67. My girls have told me not to see him He started drinking when he was 14 or talk to him. They have made very clear and has always been a drinker, but it that if I do, I won’t be part of this fam- didn’t interfere too much with our lives ily. But I feel so bad for him. Is there a until last spring, when he started drink- way to open dialogue with my daughters ing heavily and stayed drunk for so I can do this? I will not return to him as his girlfriend. I will not weeks. DEAR move back to that house or spend It was about a month into ANNIE a night there. I am seeing a coun- his bender when I invited my selor, and so is he. Should I try, grown daughter “Elizabeth” or should I walk away for good? to stay while her apartment — “Margaret” was being fumigated. That Dear Margaret: If you’ve night, Pat went downstairs to written to me looking for the the sofa and attempted to sexu- answer your counselor won’t ally assault her. She left scream- Lane give you, I’ll have to disappoint ing. I was in shock. An hour later, Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. you. You must run, not walk, my other daughter, “Samantha,” away from this man and into the called and told me to leave and get to her house, that I should not stay with arms of your loving daughters. It sounds as if those two can offer the clearheaded Pat. By the time I got to Samantha’s house, perspective you so badly need right the police were there to interview Eliza- now. Do not alienate them by spending beth. She had called them. (I did not have more time with the man who attempted any say in this, but I was OK with it.) to assault Elizabeth. What he did is unforgivable. They arrested Pat that night. Your desire to rescue him, your belief The next morning, Pat called to ask me to bail him out. I said no. I started mov- that you’re responsible for his happiness ing my stuff out, and I moved in with my — these are classic traits of people who live with alcoholics. Please seriously con- daughter. Now comes the hard part. He wants me sider attending an Al-Anon meeting. You to be his support while he recovers from can find one in your area by visiting http:// all his years of drinking. He does not have www.al-anon.org. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Holding on makes a person strong, and so does letting go. It’s just a different muscle group. There is no decision to be made here, really, just grace to be claimed in whichever situation applies best. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). When the facts don’t match up with what you thought they’d be, this presents a challenge. Many people deal with this simply by shoring up the facts until they match their preconceptions. Watch out for that, and don’t take part in it. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ve qualities that come from your cellular lineage and other qualities you picked up along the way. Then there’s a part of you that can’t be claimed at the cellular or psycho- logical level. You’ll act from that spiritual truth today. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Actions have conse- quences and yet can seem to be strangely incon- sequential, too. Mostly it’s a time-lapse issue. What feels like excruciating minutiae in real time will be revealed to be meaningful work in retrospect. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). If you’re going to have a dispute, be sure to define the terms of it — the narrower the better. There’s little influence to be gained by taking people on with broadly different views, although you’ll sharpen your arguments in the process. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Time is supposed to prevent everything from happening at once, and yet it may fall down on the job today, at least in your case. Your popularity surges — a hard thing to keep up with. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Much will be asked of you: things you don’t want to do, things you do want to do, things that fit both categories and seem inextricably linked. Just remember, there are FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE usually more options than the ones first presented to you. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). In the same way that a shoe sets the tone for an outfit, there are some foundational beliefs and attitudes that set the mood of this whole day. Just because a terrible old shoe fits doesn’t mean you should still wear it. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). While you make something (a plan, a picture, a bed, the sale) you’re having an experience. Whatever the out- come may be, the experience will stand on its own merit if the endeavor is a worthy one. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). What you once thought of as work now seems more like a form of prayer. That’s not to say it’s automatically easy. Praying can have its own difficulties, especially if you’re new at it. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). At times the work laid before you seems absurd in a way that only you are seeing. This is made plain when you laugh and they don’t or when you tilt your head at what they unquestionably accept. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll be making room for the next generation to contribute, not because your turn is over, but because you appre- ciate the influence and realize the importance of staying ever fresh at every stage and age. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 6). You’re so loved, but that’s not even the best part. The best part is that you appreciate and fully receive the gift and pure energy of this. You’ll acquire new tools and resources in August. You’ll be put in charge of more people, and you’ll contribute positively to the lives of others. Travel and winning sports teams will be the fun of 2018. Leo and Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 3, 39, 14 and 25.
