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So you might wanna keep your mouth shut until your wife has some time to get comfortable with her new boobs, MILK, and their new milk-producing superpowers. Once the kid is out and the milk is in and your wife has fully recovered from the birth expe- rience and you start fucking again… you should probably keep keeping your mouth shut. The wife won’t have forgotten that conversation, I promise you, and if she comes to see her breast milk as a bodily fl uid like so many others, i.e., one of those fl uids that adults sometimes share during sex, perhaps she’ll warm to breast-milk splatter play. But don’t take my word for it, MILK. “Before I had a baby,” said a new mother I shared your letter with, “I would’ve had the same reaction — gross! I would’ve wondered if my husband has unresolved mother issues. The idea of sexualizing a bodily secretion that’s designed solely for my infant? That seems a bit taboo. But now that I’ve had a baby, my reaction would be somewhat different.” How so? “It can be a challenge to feel intimate after childbirth and as sleep-deprived new parents,” said the new mom. “So I’d perhaps shrug and summon my new mom mantra: whatever works.” I am a 25-year-old lesbian. I’ve been with men before, but I never really liked it — penises freak me out. My coworker recently asked me to have a threesome with him and his boyfriend using a strap-on. I’m intrigued. They’re both very attractive, and I would like to try it, if only for the story. But I’m worried that TWO penises will really freak me out. I also worry that my strap- on skills, while great for the ladies, would bore two 6-foot-2 gay men. Do you think I should do it? Can you recommend a way to get over my penis fear? Is it a bad idea to try this out with a coworker? Intrigued But Scared I think you should do it — and you knew I would think you should do it, which leads me to believe that you wanna do it, otherwise you would’ve written to any one of the hundreds of don’t-do-it advice columnists out there. (Prudie would’ve made some great assfucking puns but almost certainly would’ve told you not to do it.) Offi ce affairs can get messy — but the messes are likelier when the romantic stakes are high. There are no romantic stakes here, IBS, and as long as you’re both mature enough to separate your work relationship from your strap-on relationship, I don’t see why you shouldn’t satisfy your curiosity, theirs, and mine. (I’m curious what their height has to do with anything.) As for your fears and insecurities: Tell the boys in advance that dicks scare you, let them know there might be some nervous laughter, and remind them before you start not to point those things at you. Then enjoy, take pics, and send a full report — my readers are going to want to know how it went. I spent a long time in a relationship with a wonderful man who had a very low libido. I know how challenging it can be when you are not sexually satisfi ed in a relationship. I have started seeing a new gentleman. After several weeks, he confi ded that he enjoys being defecated on. I told him I didn’t know that I could accommodate him but I didn’t think any less of him. He seemed relieved that I wasn’t judging him and genuine when he said he wouldn’t want me to do anything I was uncomfortable with. I am wondering if by denying this kink I am being unfair or, worse yet, leaving him feeling unsatisfi ed in the way my ex made me feel. He has not pushed it, but I want to know if my refusal to do this negatively impacts my GGG assessment. Clean Sheets Enthusiast No, CSE, it does not. People should be understanding, indulgent, and GGG — “good, giving, and game” — and a partner’s reasonable fetishes, kinks, and quirks should be accommodated. A thing for feet or crossdressing or bondage? Totally reasonable! Accommodate away! A thing for shit or animals or seitan? Unfuckingreasonable. It’s wonderful — I suppose — that your boyfriend felt safe enough with you to share this info, and he’s probably thrilled that you didn’t, er, dump him on the spot. (Prudie could’ve come up with something better.) But the internet was invented expressly to remove guys like your boyfriend from the dating pool. Kink personal sites make it possible for people with unreasonable fetishes to fi nd partners who share their unreasonable fetishes. That you’re still seeing him, and calling him a gentleman, is the best he could hope for from someone he didn’t meet on a shit and/or seitan fetish website. 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I am fairly picky, but I meet many women I am attracted to. I really like the general idea of having sex with a guy, just not any specifi c one. Am I just trying to be a sexual tourist? Am I valuing queerness for the sake of it? Maybe my trepidation toward sex with a man is from the general societal constraints put on male-on-male loving? Cock Observer Laments Disconnect Or maybe you’re straight. Lots of straight men like to look at cock, COLD, which is why there’s so much cock on display in porn created by and for heterosexual men. Straight men can identify with those hard cocks and live vicariously through them. But very few straight guys — no truly straight guys, many straight guys would argue — make the leap from admiring and/or being vicariously aroused by cock to actually sitting on one and/or fi nding other men attractive. Accept that you’re straight, COLD, pursue the women you’re attracted to, and stay the hell away from heterophobic post-gender/post-modern/pan-sexual cultural-studies majors whose immaturity, self-loathing, and anger all manifest in a refusal to accept that a good guy can also be a straight guy. Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage. mail@savagelove.net WWW.EUGENEWEEKLY.COM • BLOGS.EUGENEWEEKLY.COM EUGENE WEEKLY APRIL 21, 2011 43
