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WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
My wife and I have been married for a few years and are expecting our fi rst child. I’m really
into the idea of being sprayed with my wife’s breast milk. The other night, she was fretting
about when her boobs are going to start leaking. This seemed like a good time to bring it up,
so I told her about my newly discovered lactation fetish. She freaked out — her comments were
along the lines of “Gross!” and “That’s not what that’s for!” This is something I’d really like to
explore, but I don’t know how to reapproach the subject.
Man Into Lactation Kink
Not all pregnant women, however thrilled they are about having children, are excited
about — much less excited by — the physical changes that come with pregnancy. So you might
wanna keep your mouth shut until your wife has some time to get comfortable with her new
boobs, MILK, and their new milk-producing superpowers.
Once the kid is out and the milk is in and your wife has fully recovered from the birth expe-
rience and you start fucking again… you should probably keep keeping your mouth shut. The
wife won’t have forgotten that conversation, I promise you, and if she comes to see her breast
milk as a bodily fl uid like so many others, i.e., one of those fl uids that adults sometimes share
during sex, perhaps she’ll warm to breast-milk splatter play.
But don’t take my word for it, MILK.
“Before I had a baby,” said a new mother I shared your letter with, “I would’ve had the
same reaction — gross! I would’ve wondered if my husband has unresolved mother issues. The
idea of sexualizing a bodily secretion that’s designed solely for my infant? That seems a bit
taboo. But now that I’ve had a baby, my reaction would be somewhat different.”
How so?
“It can be a challenge to feel intimate after childbirth and as sleep-deprived new parents,”
said the new mom. “So I’d perhaps shrug and summon my new mom mantra: whatever works.”
I am a 25-year-old lesbian. I’ve been with men before, but I never really liked it — penises
freak me out. My coworker recently asked me to have a threesome with him and his boyfriend
using a strap-on. I’m intrigued. They’re both very attractive, and I would like to try it, if only for
the story. But I’m worried that TWO penises will really freak me out. I also worry that my strap-
on skills, while great for the ladies, would bore two 6-foot-2 gay men. Do you think I should do
it? Can you recommend a way to get over my penis fear? Is it a bad idea to try this out with a
coworker?
Intrigued But Scared
I think you should do it — and you knew I would think you should do it, which leads me to
believe that you wanna do it, otherwise you would’ve written to any one of the hundreds of
don’t-do-it advice columnists out there. (Prudie would’ve made some great assfucking puns
but almost certainly would’ve told you not to do it.)
Offi ce affairs can get messy — but the messes are likelier when the romantic stakes are
high. There are no romantic stakes here, IBS, and as long as you’re both mature enough to
separate your work relationship from your strap-on relationship, I don’t see why you shouldn’t
satisfy your curiosity, theirs, and mine. (I’m curious what their height has to do with anything.)
As for your fears and insecurities: Tell the boys in advance that dicks scare you, let them
know there might be some nervous laughter, and remind them before you start not to point
those things at you. Then enjoy, take pics, and send a full report — my readers are going to
want to know how it went.
I spent a long time in a relationship with a wonderful man who had a very low libido. I know
how challenging it can be when you are not sexually satisfi ed in a relationship. I have started
seeing a new gentleman. After several weeks, he confi ded that he enjoys being defecated on.
I told him I didn’t know that I could accommodate him but I didn’t think any less of him. He
seemed relieved that I wasn’t judging him and genuine when he said he wouldn’t want me to do
anything I was uncomfortable with. I am wondering if by denying this kink I am being unfair or,
worse yet, leaving him feeling unsatisfi ed in the way my ex made me feel. He has not pushed it,
but I want to know if my refusal to do this negatively impacts my GGG assessment.
Clean Sheets Enthusiast
No, CSE, it does not. People should be understanding, indulgent, and GGG — “good, giving,
and game” — and a partner’s reasonable fetishes, kinks, and quirks should be accommodated.
A thing for feet or crossdressing or bondage? Totally reasonable! Accommodate away! A thing
for shit or animals or seitan? Unfuckingreasonable.
It’s wonderful — I suppose — that your boyfriend felt safe enough with you to share this
info, and he’s probably thrilled that you didn’t, er, dump him on the spot. (Prudie could’ve
come up with something better.) But the internet was invented expressly to remove guys
like your boyfriend from the dating pool. Kink personal sites make it possible for people with
unreasonable fetishes to fi nd partners who share their unreasonable fetishes. That you’re still
seeing him, and calling him a gentleman, is the best he could hope for from someone he didn’t
meet on a shit and/or seitan fetish website.
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I’m a 23-year-old male who is bi-curious/pan-curious/post-gender-curious. I have recently
found myself attracted to penises, but I don’t feel like I’m attracted to any specifi c men. If you
showed me a cropped shot of a hard cock, I’d get aroused. If you showed me a picture of the
whole guy, no arousal. Many of my friends are very into the post-gender/post-modern cultural-
studies mind-set. In college, a time in my life when I felt no arousal looking at male genitalia,
they mocked me for considering myself straight. I’m wondering if the disconnect of attraction
toward the male sex organ but not men is the product of simply training myself to break down
the assumed straightness I’ve spent most of my life living. I am fairly picky, but I meet many
women I am attracted to. I really like the general idea of having sex with a guy, just not any
specifi c one. Am I just trying to be a sexual tourist? Am I valuing queerness for the sake of it?
Maybe my trepidation toward sex with a man is from the general societal constraints put on
male-on-male loving?
Cock Observer Laments Disconnect
Or maybe you’re straight.
Lots of straight men like to look at cock, COLD, which is why there’s so much cock on
display in porn created by and for heterosexual men. Straight men can identify with those
hard cocks and live vicariously through them. But very few straight guys — no truly straight
guys, many straight guys would argue — make the leap from admiring and/or being vicariously
aroused by cock to actually sitting on one and/or fi nding other men attractive.
Accept that you’re straight, COLD, pursue the women you’re attracted to, and stay the hell
away from heterophobic post-gender/post-modern/pan-sexual cultural-studies majors whose
immaturity, self-loathing, and anger all manifest in a refusal to accept that a good guy can also
be a straight guy.
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