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KINK Eugene Weekly’s Alternative Dating Site • Browse local postings • Post your own profi le • Connect with local singles Respond to a Kink ad. Visit wink-kink.com and enter the ad ID Ads with a ☎ have Voice Mail Messages call 1-520-547-3020 (Charges may apply) SEXY BUSTY BABE CURIOUS LITTLE MONKEY ORALLY BI-GUY Needing someone to show me the ropes. Im not submissive just new to this. littleone, 20, #103646 I’m naturally submissive, but would be fine with being a little forceful. Generally free spirited and open-minded, and hoping to find the same. Intrigued by strong women. hippyman, 19, g , #106118 Attractive hwp male seeking stable long term couple for more than one night. Interested in developing a relationship out of the bedroom. Friends first. snowball, 45, #104989 TIME TO PLAY! I’ve been feeling bored since my last relationship and felt it’d be fun to go try something com- pletely new. Email if you want to break someone into your favor- ite thing. EtCetera, 20, g , #104804 Looking for some fun, we’ll take it from there. I will try anything twice. herbman, 30, #106114 LUSTY, LUCIOUS, LOVELY Looking for someone to get me over my excess baggage. Slick, 31, ☎, #106057 LOOSE-WOMAN WITH QUES- TIONABLE-MORALS I am “America” looking for “Columbus” to DISCOVER ME! I want explosions, the earth mov- ing beneath my vibrating loins. I need a man stallion to fill me with his love-wand. fuck- BUCK, 20, #105539 UNPREDICTABLE HUNGRY- STRIPER PROWLING My honey-pot is low and needs something sticky. Submissive at times, but this cowgirl can ride. Preferably a bucking bronco ;-). I’m a saucy whench boys, I need spanking. AlainaFuck, 21, #105484 FRIENDSHIP AND KINK SEX POSITIVE NYMPHO Impeccable hygiene is a must. Intelligence preferred. Be sexu- ally open, honest, and mature. Into transvestites, groups, would love to try a gang bang, into new experiences. Sex positive, no shame. I_want_it_all, 30, #105142 Nice looking, In-shape guy look- ing for a nice female to spend the day with. Interests are: Hiking, motorcycles and nude beaches. No commitment just friendship wanted. Thanks. ver- dis2345, 45, g , #106109 I WANT PLEASURE I’m bored & tired of this vanilla world. I like 2 get what I want & please others. Live life to the full extent of what you imagine & what you want. DESIRE, 27, g , #101108 SEEKING3RD AZ PHENOMENAL FACIAL dirty little school slut trapped in hairy man suit. can take any size, any load. i like older men who take 3 dicks on a long drive in their van. AZgoodman, 26, #106143 DOMINATEME I am down for new experiences with a guy or girl, newly single and looking for fun. part- g , timelover, 22, #105422 LIKE EM BIG In a relationship want fun sex on the side. Open to anything minus pain. Im fit & sexy. I am looking for a hot woman, STD free is a must! takenbutavailable, 22, #106154 I have not done all checked in boxes, just checked ones like.I biggest turn ons are, bicurious/ bisexual men, crossdressers, love woman, and want new things!!! help me explor my fata- sys!!! salthedon, 33, #106142 DARK& HANDSOME HANDSOME DAD SPANKS FUN WITH MISTRESS? HOT4U Straight female seeking young lesbians to teach me. I’ll be the submissive one. I can host. I live with my gay brother undergoing MTF changeover who supports me 100%. SassyGirl4U, 37, g , #106134 SEEKING FUN FEMALE I am happily married, but need a girlfriend to cuddle, send flowers and cards Im laid back really just looking for an ltr. I am confident in myself. friendlybigurl, 31, g , #105250 FREAKY SCORPIO I like whips, chains, and gags. I’m dominant but looking for domi- nation. I’m insatiable, sadistic, yet happy and caring. I’m a pas- sionate lover with a very dirty open mind. Sunshine05, 19, g , #106104 MAGICALSTUD THINK U CAN HANDLE ME DEN WEN FINNA SEE!! magic27, 19, g , #106094 BIGBOOBS, SEXY, FUN just moved back to engene and don’t know where to start. look- ing for a girl to hang out with and more. i’m 29, with long blonde hair. kissfan, 30, g , #104676 CURIOUS NICE GUY Just looking for some NSA fun hit me up and we’ll go from there. Andrew1234, 20, #106153 LOOKING FOR COMPANIONSHIP. Would like to meet Females for some friendly companionship and some fondling frienship.I also like seeing females that like wearing nylonor pantyhose also like females in sexy dresses,sexy outfits. Skippy, 49, #106146 TIME TO LIVE Looking for anything, friend, fuck buddy, snuggle buddy. letss- nuggle, 21, g , #106129 Looking for a young man in need of an over the knee, bare bot- tomed spanking. Just like dad used to give you. Slim and young preferred. All considered. firm- papa, 53, g , #106127 CURIOUSFOREXPLORATION looking for an older man wanting a sexy boy to play nice with. funside86, 24, #105986 CURIOUS Bi-curious male, clean, fit, seeks beautiful boy for first time encounter. I want to adore your smooth, lean body. A lot to ask for? Of course. maxd, 40, g , #103934 % & 4 * ( / 1 ) 0 5 0 ( 3 " 1 ) : FNBJMUPEE!FVHFOFXFFLMZDPN PSDBMM BACCHANALIAN PLEASURES We are a married couple, both of us in our late 20s. We are looking for other couples, possibly sin- gles, to enjoy fine cuisine, quality drinks, and wonderfully sensual encounters. polycouple06, 28, #103317 COUPLE SEEKING LONG-TERM We are fun-loving drama-free couple. We are looking for a long-term friend, lover, and part- ner. Ideally a triad. You should be fun, drama-free, and able to hold an intelligent conversation. MaxKarma, 28, g , #106011 ARE YOU #3? Husband and wife team, both bisexual, both poly, looking for a bisexual third. The preferences listed aren’t the be all end all, most important above what’s listed is personality. Buns, 25, g , #105992 Early 30’s LTR. ISO playtime. 25-35 singles or couples that are down with a soft situation and if your girls not into girls don’t bother.He’s straight with no exceptions. sydnyv, 31, ☎, g , #105921 SAMURAISEXMACHINE $PPQFS COUPLE SEEKS PLAYMATE We’re a happily married, fun-lov- ing, drama-free couple, looking for a female friend with benefits. Our ages: She’s 20, he’s 26. 420 friendly. twosexy, 26, g , #106080 OUR ORAL FIXATIONS THROBN4U Always horny and very hard male. I want couples and females to get kinky together. Throbert46, 46, #106124 I’m looking for someone who wants to play and have a good time. I’m tired of attachments and would like a friend of the same mindset. Shinobi, 31, #106122 We are an average,young,tattooed couple. Seeking someone to join our bed. No expectations. Anything goes. This is our first time. no drama. Would like to start with email, text,then drinks. funNfreaky, 26, ☎, #106150 WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage I came out as trans-something/genderqueer three years ago. I was born male but live my life predominately as female. I’m 25 now. Coming out involved accepting that it would compli- cate my ever fi nding someone. I haven’t dated since. My problem: Today, a guy my age asked me out while making me a sandwich in a cafe. He told me I was very pretty and asked if he could take me out. I gave him my number. Before I left, he said, “I’d really like a relationship with you.” That sounded like a weirdo red fl ag. I told him, “We’ll see,” but agreed to the date. I don’t know the rules and I’m a panicked mess. I know to meet in a public place, in the af- ternoon, tell people about it — all the safety stuff — but I am afraid that he’s a creep. But no one has ever told me before that I’m pretty. While I’m not ugly, I’m not passable. My questions: 1. Was he way too creepy to go on that date? 2. Was agreeing to a date smart or dumb? 3. Am I acting out of desperation? 4. The great unanswerable: How do I get the giddy 13-year-old inside to grow up so the 25-year-old can navigate safely in the dating world? Does Understand Men Basically 1. My inbox sags under the weight of e-mails from straight/straight-identifi ed guys who are desperate to meet transwomen/trans-somethings, and not all of them prefer passables. So it’s possible that this guy saw trans-something, unpassable you and decided to go for it because you’re everything he’s ever wanted. If he’s one of those guys who are into transwomen and/or born-male-trans-genderqueers-who-live-as-female-but-aren’t-quite-passable, DUMB, it’s also possible that he’s never had a chance to meet someone like you before (you’re not thick on the ground), and nerves and/or inexperience caused him to fumble the pass. The only way to determine if nerves made him come across as creepy or if he’s genuinely creepy is to go on that date. 2. Smart. Even if it turns out that he’s a creep, even if you never see him again, being open to people and taking risks — while at the same time taking all reasonable safety precautions (particularly important for transwomen, who face a much higher risk of violence at the hands of the sometimes deeply confl icted, self-loathing straight guys who are attracted to/resent transwomen) — is the only way that anyone ever manages to fi nd love. 3. Yes, DUMB, you are acting out of desperation — you and everybody else. Just don’t let your desperation — the worry that you won’t ever meet anyone else who’s interested in a girl like you — convince you to settle for a shitty and/or abusive relationship. If he comes across as nice at fi rst but it turns out that he’s an asshole or a creep, and if he begins to treat you like you’re stuck with him because no one else will ever want you (not true — remember my inbox!), dump the motherfucker. It’s better to be alone than to be with an asshole who preys on your insecurities to keep you coming back for more abuse. 4. I have no idea. I’m almost 10 years older than you and I’m still battling my inner/giddy 13-year-old. I’m a hetero male in my late 30s, and this incident took place over a decade ago, but I’ve felt guilty about it ever since. I was at a convention and ended up having a one-night stand with a lovely woman. When I moved to go down on her, something I enjoy doing, she had a really, really, really smelly area. This woman did not have bad body odor in general; she had good hygiene. I managed to shift gears and brought her off with touch, but she pleaded with me to go down on her and I didn’t. That made things awkward. I didn’t say anything about the smell to her, because I know that many women are self-conscious about vaginal odor. My sex etiquette question for you: If you’re with someone, and suddenly you discover that her private parts — or his — smell like something with a passed expiration date, what is the best way to handle it? Excuse yourself from bed and grab a washcloth for them? Grit your teeth and go down anyway, in an effort to be GGG, no matter how ill it might make you? Vagina Odors Inform Cautious Etiquette I realize that women can be sensitive about any suggestion of unpleasant vaginal odor — we can blame those “feminine hygiene” commercials as well as all those inexperienced boyfriends who react negatively to a vagina’s natural, healthy odor because they didn’t get the “spice” part of the “sugar and spice” memo. But as a general rule: The people you invite to stick their nose in your crotch, twat, sack, crack, etc. are allowed to form opinions about how you smell down there and share them with you. While it’s unpleasant to be told your crotch stanks, it’s much more unpleasant to fi nd your nose tucked in someone’s stanky crotch. As this woman had good personal hygiene overall, VOICE, it’s unlikely that a washcloth would’ve solved the problem. She may have had bacterial vaginosis, the most common cause of rank vaginal odor, or an untreated case of chlamydia or gonorrhea. As hard as “Something’s not right down here” is to hear, particularly for some women, you didn’t do her any favors by not speaking up — sensitively and compassionately — because if she did have a medical issue, she needed to seek treatment. HANDSOME OLD SENSUALIST looking for a nice attractive, slender young beauty or a stable couple to play with. Disease free. Not a freak. Let’s just have us some pink, naked, squishy fun! :). pure, 49, g , #101299 Frances waxing specialist 541-510-5773 there’s nothing I can’t wax barebodywaxingstudio.com SATISFY YOUR FANTASIES! NUDE HOURS DAILY DANCER AUDITIONS 5665;6!(4 *(33 NO COVER Savage Love 465>,+ ;()3,+(5*,: I am an attractive, “normal” 24-year-old female who enjoys taking pictures of myself nude for my own personal use. I delete most pictures, but I keep some on my laptop for my viewing only. My snoop boyfriend found some pictures that were taken before we got together and blew up. He got in my face and called me a slut. He threatened my safety when I told him to leave. He demanded to know who took the pictures (cameras have timers!) and to whom I was sending them (myself!). I broke up with him, but then took him back. We have since talked about my “fetish”; he still does not like it and wants all the pictures erased. To be honest, these pictures are not all that important to me, but the way he reacted is. To me, he showed he does not trust me and never will. Still Love Ur Thoughts The pictures may not be important to you, SLUT, but your autonomy, your safety, and your right to take enjoyment in and from your own damn body should be. So you’re going to have to DTMFAST — dump the motherfucker a second time. A boyfriend who’s uncomfortable with your fetish is one thing. A boyfriend who’s a threat- ening, insecure, controlling, irrational ASSHOLE about your fetish is another thing entirely. Someone invested in your sexual fulfi llment, someone who loves and supports you, would not tell you to stop, or make accusations, or react like such a fucking baby. And someone who didn’t have sexist hang-ups wouldn’t make a distinction between the pictures you took after you met and the ones you had taken before you met. Beware of boys who freak out after stumbling onto what they believe to be evidence — even if they’re wrong — that their girlfriends have been with other guys before them. They have issues. DTMFAST. Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage. mail@savagelove.net NO COVER :(:[YLL[:WYPUNMPLSK WWW.EUGENEWEEKLY.COM • BLOGS.EUGENEWEEKLY.COM EUGENE WEEKLY APRIL 7, 2011 35
