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SEXY BUSTY BABE
CURIOUS LITTLE MONKEY
ORALLY BI-GUY
Needing someone to show me
the ropes. Im not submissive just
new to this. littleone, 20,
#103646
I’m naturally submissive, but
would be fine with being a little
forceful. Generally free spirited
and open-minded, and hoping to
find the same. Intrigued by
strong women. hippyman, 19,
g , #106118
Attractive hwp male seeking
stable long term couple for more
than one night. Interested in
developing a relationship out of
the bedroom. Friends first.
snowball, 45, #104989
TIME TO PLAY!
I’ve been feeling bored since my
last relationship and felt it’d be
fun to go try something com-
pletely new. Email if you want to
break someone into your favor-
ite thing. EtCetera, 20, g ,
#104804
Looking for some fun, we’ll take
it from there. I will try anything
twice.
herbman,
30,
#106114
LUSTY, LUCIOUS, LOVELY
Looking for someone to get me
over my excess baggage. Slick,
31, ☎, #106057
LOOSE-WOMAN WITH QUES-
TIONABLE-MORALS
I am “America” looking for
“Columbus” to DISCOVER ME! I
want explosions, the earth mov-
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need a man stallion to fill me
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BUCK, 20, #105539
UNPREDICTABLE HUNGRY-
STRIPER PROWLING
My honey-pot is low and needs
something sticky. Submissive at
times, but this cowgirl can ride.
Preferably a bucking bronco ;-).
I’m a saucy whench boys, I need
spanking. AlainaFuck, 21,
#105484
FRIENDSHIP AND KINK
SEX POSITIVE NYMPHO
Impeccable hygiene is a must.
Intelligence preferred. Be sexu-
ally open, honest, and mature.
Into transvestites, groups, would
love to try a gang bang, into new
experiences. Sex positive, no
shame. I_want_it_all, 30,
#105142
Nice looking, In-shape guy look-
ing for a nice female to spend
the day with. Interests are:
Hiking, motorcycles and nude
beaches. No commitment just
friendship wanted. Thanks. ver-
dis2345, 45, g , #106109
I WANT PLEASURE
I’m bored & tired of this vanilla
world. I like 2 get what I want &
please others. Live life to the full
extent of what you imagine &
what you want. DESIRE, 27,
g , #101108
SEEKING3RD
AZ PHENOMENAL FACIAL
dirty little school slut trapped in
hairy man suit. can take any size,
any load. i like older men who
take 3 dicks on a long drive in
their van. AZgoodman, 26,
#106143
DOMINATEME
I am down for new experiences
with a guy or girl, newly single
and looking for fun. part-
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timelover,
22,
#105422
LIKE EM BIG
In a relationship want fun sex on
the side. Open to anything minus
pain. Im fit & sexy. I am looking
for a hot woman, STD free is a
must! takenbutavailable,
22, #106154
I have not done all checked in
boxes, just checked ones like.I
biggest turn ons are, bicurious/
bisexual men, crossdressers,
love woman, and want new
things!!! help me explor my fata-
sys!!!
salthedon,
33,
#106142
DARK& HANDSOME
HANDSOME DAD SPANKS
FUN WITH MISTRESS?
HOT4U
Straight female seeking young
lesbians to teach me. I’ll be the
submissive one. I can host. I live
with my gay brother undergoing
MTF changeover who supports
me 100%. SassyGirl4U, 37,
g , #106134
SEEKING FUN FEMALE
I am happily married, but need a
girlfriend to cuddle, send flowers
and cards Im laid back really just
looking for an ltr. I am confident
in myself. friendlybigurl, 31,
g , #105250
FREAKY SCORPIO
I like whips, chains, and gags. I’m
dominant but looking for domi-
nation. I’m insatiable, sadistic,
yet happy and caring. I’m a pas-
sionate lover with a very dirty
open mind. Sunshine05, 19,
g , #106104
MAGICALSTUD
THINK U CAN HANDLE ME DEN
WEN FINNA SEE!! magic27, 19,
g , #106094
BIGBOOBS, SEXY, FUN
just moved back to engene and
don’t know where to start. look-
ing for a girl to hang out with
and more. i’m 29, with long
blonde hair. kissfan, 30, g ,
#104676
CURIOUS NICE GUY
Just looking for some NSA fun
hit me up and we’ll go from
there. Andrew1234, 20,
#106153
LOOKING FOR
COMPANIONSHIP.
Would like to meet Females for
some friendly companionship
and some fondling frienship.I
also like seeing females that like
wearing nylonor pantyhose also
like females in sexy dresses,sexy
outfits. Skippy, 49, #106146
TIME TO LIVE
Looking for anything, friend, fuck
buddy, snuggle buddy. letss-
nuggle, 21, g , #106129
Looking for a young man in need
of an over the knee, bare bot-
tomed spanking. Just like dad
used to give you. Slim and young
preferred. All considered. firm-
papa, 53, g , #106127
CURIOUSFOREXPLORATION
looking for an older man wanting
a sexy boy to play nice with.
funside86, 24, #105986
CURIOUS
Bi-curious male, clean, fit, seeks
beautiful boy for first time
encounter. I want to adore your
smooth, lean body. A lot to ask
for? Of course. maxd, 40, g ,
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BACCHANALIAN PLEASURES
We are a married couple, both of
us in our late 20s. We are looking
for other couples, possibly sin-
gles, to enjoy fine cuisine, quality
drinks, and wonderfully sensual
encounters. polycouple06,
28, #103317
COUPLE SEEKING LONG-TERM
We are fun-loving drama-free
couple. We are looking for a
long-term friend, lover, and part-
ner. Ideally a triad. You should
be fun, drama-free, and able to
hold an intelligent conversation.
MaxKarma, 28, g ,
#106011
ARE YOU #3?
Husband and wife team, both
bisexual, both poly, looking for a
bisexual third. The preferences
listed aren’t the be all end all,
most important above what’s
listed is personality. Buns, 25,
g , #105992
Early 30’s LTR. ISO playtime.
25-35 singles or couples that are
down with a soft situation and if
your girls not into girls don’t
bother.He’s straight with no
exceptions. sydnyv, 31, ☎,
g , #105921
SAMURAISEXMACHINE
$PPQFS
COUPLE SEEKS PLAYMATE
We’re a happily married, fun-lov-
ing, drama-free couple, looking
for a female friend with benefits.
Our ages: She’s 20, he’s 26. 420
friendly. twosexy, 26, g ,
#106080
OUR ORAL FIXATIONS
THROBN4U
Always horny and very hard
male. I want couples and females
to get kinky together.
Throbert46, 46, #106124
I’m looking for someone who
wants to play and have a good
time. I’m tired of attachments
and would like a friend of the
same mindset. Shinobi, 31,
#106122
We are an average,young,tattooed
couple. Seeking someone to join
our bed. No expectations.
Anything goes. This is our first
time. no drama. Would like to
start with email, text,then drinks.
funNfreaky,
26,
☎,
#106150
WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
I came out as trans-something/genderqueer three years ago. I was born male but live my
life predominately as female. I’m 25 now. Coming out involved accepting that it would compli-
cate my ever fi nding someone. I haven’t dated since.
My problem: Today, a guy my age asked me out while making me a sandwich in a cafe. He
told me I was very pretty and asked if he could take me out. I gave him my number. Before I
left, he said, “I’d really like a relationship with you.” That sounded like a weirdo red fl ag. I told
him, “We’ll see,” but agreed to the date.
I don’t know the rules and I’m a panicked mess. I know to meet in a public place, in the af-
ternoon, tell people about it — all the safety stuff — but I am afraid that he’s a creep. But no one
has ever told me before that I’m pretty. While I’m not ugly, I’m not passable. My questions:
1. Was he way too creepy to go on that date?
2. Was agreeing to a date smart or dumb?
3. Am I acting out of desperation?
4. The great unanswerable: How do I get the giddy 13-year-old inside to grow up so the
25-year-old can navigate safely in the dating world?
Does Understand Men Basically
1. My inbox sags under the weight of e-mails from straight/straight-identifi ed guys who are
desperate to meet transwomen/trans-somethings, and not all of them prefer passables. So it’s
possible that this guy saw trans-something, unpassable you and decided to go for it because
you’re everything he’s ever wanted. If he’s one of those guys who are into transwomen and/or
born-male-trans-genderqueers-who-live-as-female-but-aren’t-quite-passable, DUMB, it’s also
possible that he’s never had a chance to meet someone like you before (you’re not thick on
the ground), and nerves and/or inexperience caused him to fumble the pass. The only way to
determine if nerves made him come across as creepy or if he’s genuinely creepy is to go on
that date.
2. Smart. Even if it turns out that he’s a creep, even if you never see him again, being open
to people and taking risks — while at the same time taking all reasonable safety precautions
(particularly important for transwomen, who face a much higher risk of violence at the hands
of the sometimes deeply confl icted, self-loathing straight guys who are attracted to/resent
transwomen) — is the only way that anyone ever manages to fi nd love.
3. Yes, DUMB, you are acting out of desperation — you and everybody else. Just don’t let
your desperation — the worry that you won’t ever meet anyone else who’s interested in a girl
like you — convince you to settle for a shitty and/or abusive relationship. If he comes across as
nice at fi rst but it turns out that he’s an asshole or a creep, and if he begins to treat you like
you’re stuck with him because no one else will ever want you (not true — remember my inbox!),
dump the motherfucker. It’s better to be alone than to be with an asshole who preys on your
insecurities to keep you coming back for more abuse.
4. I have no idea. I’m almost 10 years older than you and I’m still battling my inner/giddy
13-year-old.
I’m a hetero male in my late 30s, and this incident took place over a decade ago, but I’ve
felt guilty about it ever since. I was at a convention and ended up having a one-night stand with
a lovely woman. When I moved to go down on her, something I enjoy doing, she had a really,
really, really smelly area. This woman did not have bad body odor in general; she had good
hygiene. I managed to shift gears and brought her off with touch, but she pleaded with me to
go down on her and I didn’t. That made things awkward. I didn’t say anything about the smell
to her, because I know that many women are self-conscious about vaginal odor.
My sex etiquette question for you: If you’re with someone, and suddenly you discover that
her private parts — or his — smell like something with a passed expiration date, what is the best
way to handle it? Excuse yourself from bed and grab a washcloth for them? Grit your teeth and
go down anyway, in an effort to be GGG, no matter how ill it might make you?
Vagina Odors Inform Cautious Etiquette
I realize that women can be sensitive about any suggestion of unpleasant vaginal odor
— we can blame those “feminine hygiene” commercials as well as all those inexperienced
boyfriends who react negatively to a vagina’s natural, healthy odor because they didn’t get
the “spice” part of the “sugar and spice” memo. But as a general rule: The people you invite to
stick their nose in your crotch, twat, sack, crack, etc. are allowed to form opinions about how
you smell down there and share them with you. While it’s unpleasant to be told your crotch
stanks, it’s much more unpleasant to fi nd your nose tucked in someone’s stanky crotch.
As this woman had good personal hygiene overall, VOICE, it’s unlikely that a washcloth
would’ve solved the problem. She may have had bacterial vaginosis, the most common cause
of rank vaginal odor, or an untreated case of chlamydia or gonorrhea. As hard as “Something’s
not right down here” is to hear, particularly for some women, you didn’t do her any favors by
not speaking up — sensitively and compassionately — because if she did have a medical issue,
she needed to seek treatment.
HANDSOME OLD SENSUALIST
looking for a nice attractive,
slender young beauty or a stable
couple to play with. Disease free.
Not a freak. Let’s just have us
some pink, naked, squishy fun! :).
pure, 49, g , #101299
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I am an attractive, “normal” 24-year-old female who enjoys taking pictures of myself nude
for my own personal use. I delete most pictures, but I keep some on my laptop for my viewing
only. My snoop boyfriend found some pictures that were taken before we got together and
blew up. He got in my face and called me a slut. He threatened my safety when I told him to
leave. He demanded to know who took the pictures (cameras have timers!) and to whom I was
sending them (myself!). I broke up with him, but then took him back. We have since talked
about my “fetish”; he still does not like it and wants all the pictures erased. To be honest, these
pictures are not all that important to me, but the way he reacted is. To me, he showed he does
not trust me and never will.
Still Love Ur Thoughts
The pictures may not be important to you, SLUT, but your autonomy, your safety, and your
right to take enjoyment in and from your own damn body should be. So you’re going to have
to DTMFAST — dump the motherfucker a second time.
A boyfriend who’s uncomfortable with your fetish is one thing. A boyfriend who’s a threat-
ening, insecure, controlling, irrational ASSHOLE about your fetish is another thing entirely.
Someone invested in your sexual fulfi llment, someone who loves and supports you, would
not tell you to stop, or make accusations, or react like such a fucking baby. And someone
who didn’t have sexist hang-ups wouldn’t make a distinction between the pictures you took
after you met and the ones you had taken before you met. Beware of boys who freak out
after stumbling onto what they believe to be evidence — even if they’re wrong — that their
girlfriends have been with other guys before them. They have issues.
DTMFAST.
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