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KINK Eugene Weekly’s Alternative Dating Site • Browse local postings • Post your own profi le • Connect with local singles SNAFU FRIDAY 2/4/11 You male, me female. Friday @ Snafu you wore a black Bier Stein T-shirt & black hat. I wore all black. Meet me @ the Stein 2/16 @ 9pm. When: Friday, February 4, 2011. Where: Snafu. You: Man. Me: Woman. #901972 NEW FRONTIER MARKET It’s a receipt, for two copies, one certified, from the cashier at the Benton County Court house dated June 7th 2005. He’s abso- lutely right, the arraignment transcript sounds bad. When: Wednesday, July 11, 2007. Where: Prescott, Arizona. You: Man. Me: Man. #901971 QUIZNO’S COBURG ROAD To the HOTTEST man at Coburg Road Quizno’s. You make my heart skip a beat every time I see you. Thanks for an amazing weekend! I love you! When: Saturday, February 5, 2011. Where: Coburg Road Quizno’s. You: Man. Me: Woman. #901970 BIG LOVE I miss my cubs.I wish for the great spirit to heal this family.I love you so much.I love you like a camilion.I love you like a snail.Papa Bear :) When: Tuesday, February 1, 2011. Where: In the Spirit World. You: Woman. Me: Man. #901957 Respond to a Kink ad. Visit wink-kink.com and enter the ad ID Ads with a ☎ have Voice Mail Messages call 1-520-547-3020 (Charges may apply) RE: SAYING GOODBYE DUCKS KICKIN’ COUGARS DR KNOW IT What are you asking me? Last weeks post was pointless and void before the weekly even printed it. When: Sunday, February 6, 2011. Where: Nightmares crowd my dreams when I think of NLS. You: Man. Me: Woman. #901969 You-at the end of the court, super handsome in your white shirt, shaking hands like crazy ;-). Me-mid-court and diggin’ your style. Loved the hug, cocktails next? When: Thursday, February 3, 2011. Where: UofO basketball game. You: Man. Me: Woman. ☎ #901965 through seattle, ok and eugene you still ask as if you don’t owe me...what’s up, let’s settle this... there won’t be a next lifettime When: Sunday, December 3, 2006. Where: eugene. You: Man. Me: Woman. #901961 LIKE YOUR MOVES May I twiddle with your antenna? I’ll twist your knob to find the right spot. Flip through the chan- nels and turn my volume up to a deafening level. Electrical per- fectrical! When: Friday, February 11, 2011. Where: MRP Vol. III. You: Man. Me: Woman. #901960 SHANNDERKA past 5 years we have been through some shit but we’ve stayed strong now things or looking better its all thinks to you being strong i love you and- willneverstop When: Wednesday, February 2, 2011. Where: at home. You: Woman. Me: Man. #901968 SEXY! Quit trippin thinking Im bein sneeky!!! I LOVE YOU & ONLY YOU!!!I WANT IS YOU!!!! WISH THE FEELING WAS MUTUAL!!! Guess not since you left alnite twice in a week!!! When: Sunday, February 6, 2011. Where: from SEXY. You: Woman. Me: Man. #901967 (THE)PARADOX ALPHA [MALE] You steal from spirits to maintain your condition of control. Their loyalty doesn’t voluntarily waiv- er to you. You are torn apart commanded by the possessed souls which you have thieved. When: Saturday, February 5, 2011. Where: Aeons. You: Man. Me: Woman. #901966 Does your guitar need a check up? “ Agate Alley every week, and I am always hoping to see you. The dancing chemistry is real. Saw you in passing at the District. Come find me on Saturday. Megan? When: Sunday, January 16, 2011. Where: Agate Alley Bistro. You: Woman. Me: Man. #901964 GOODBYE PERFECT “10” Winged we dance, infused with love. All my travels lead me home, inward. Childlike wisdom: I cannot walk backwards into the future but I can adore it. When: Wednesday, January 5, 2011. Where: In the cos- mos. You: Man. Me: Woman. #901963 FIRSTIME I EVERSAWYOU you in your cupcakedress with a straw in yourIPA ADORABLE(haha) Your the most special woaman in my world right now...just wanted to let you know your beautifl and alwayson mymind FLESH When: Friday, September 24, 2010. Where: ARt WALK. You: Woman. Me: Man. #901962 TV ONTHE RADIO SMILE You: Bartender, biggest smile I have ever seen, good vibe, ohm symbol tattooed on your arm, eyes-beautiful, and you caught my attention. Coffee sometime... When: Friday, January 28, 2011. Where: Doc’s Pad. You: Man. Me: Woman. #901959 Savage Love WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage I’ve written before, but I didn’t hear back from you — probably because my e-mail didn’t contain fl ogging or santorum or whatever. But I won’t be IGNORED, Dan. I’m a 32-year-old female. Second marriage, two kids: one kid with my ex and one with the man I cheated on my ex with (my current husband). My problem: A year ago, I found my “fi rst love” on a social network. I’d been looking for him off and on for more than 16 years. This per- son was a jerk who left me for one of my friends back in high school. But he was and still is the love of my life. Always has been. Always will be. He is not married, has never been married, and has no children. We began an affair about seven months after fi nding each other. My marriage, my second marriage, had been rocky before this. My second husband, of three years, stopped having sex with me after I became pregnant, and this continued after our child was born. We tried counseling. It didn’t help. In no way am I using this as an excuse. I know what I’ve done is wrong. But I also have a pretty bad track record and have cheated on every man I’ve ever been with, except for my fi rst love. This man, my fi rst love, is the worst person in the world for me. Yet I’m in love with him. I have ALWAYS been in love with him. He wants me to leave my white-collar husband for him, a very blue-collar guy. I live in a nice home in the suburbs; my fi rst love lives in a small apartment in the city. Five months after we began having sex with each other, my current husband found out. Instead of leaving me, he has turned into a different man: extremely loving and attentive. He says this experience has made him realize how much he loves me and that he doesn’t want to lose me. My other problem: I didn’t begin this affair to get my second husband’s attention. I began it because I’m in love with my fi rst love and always have been. My husband knows of my deep feelings for my “fi rst.” I mention divorce often, but it falls on deaf ears. I want to do what is best for my kids — and that would be staying right where I am. But I feel my only chance for “true” love, if there is such a thing, is passing me by. I’ve never felt for anyone as I do for this man. Every man who has come into my life AFTER him knew about him and knew that if he ever came back for me, I was gone. This includes my current husband. Dan, pull out all the stops on this one, as you famously do, and please tell me what to do. Serial Cheater In Love HOT BEANERY GUY You: Middle eastern/Indian, chin- length hair, fine eyebrows, nice clothes, very good looking, circa 5’8”. Me: 5’10”, Dark complection white, dark hair/eyes, black lap- top, striped alpaca scarf. Get together for coffee? When: Tuesday, February 1, 2011. Where: Corvallis 2nd Street Beanery. You: Man. Me: Man. #901958 Call the GUITAR DOCTOR ” experienced, honest, expert guitar repair Se et-Ups / All Manner of Repair Set-Ups C Complete Fretwork Complet Electronics Electron Reasonable Rates, Fast Turnaround Reasona Local Bands Ba Testify! CALL TODAY FOR A PROFESSIONAL DIAGNOSIS RICK KNEALE 541-513-9984 WWW.RKNEALEGUITARS.COM Frances waxing specialist 541-510-5773 I’ve read what you’ve written before, SCIL, but I didn’t respond because I didn’t have much to say to you and I still don’t. I had the same reaction reading your e-mail today that I had reading all the other e-mails you’ve sent. My reaction is a little selfi sh, and I’m a little embar- rassed to share it with you. But you keep pressing me, SCIL, and so here it is: THIS BITCH CAN GET LEGALLY MARRIED AND I CAN’T?!?! Sorry, sorry, sorry. That was cunty of me — nowhere near the level of respectful profession- alism that people expect of me — and so now I’m going to have to make amends by scrounging up some of that advice shit you’re after. But I’m going to offer you my advice on one condition: You don’t write to me ever again. Okay! You say you’ve cheated on every man you’ve ever been with, with the exception of your “fi rst love,” SCIL. You seem to be engaged in a little circular reasoning/magical thinking here — you’ve concluded that he must be the love of your life because you didn’t cheat on him, and you didn’t cheat on him because he’s the love of your life. No. You didn’t cheat on him, SCIL, because you didn’t get around to it. You two broke up when you were 15 years old. If you’d been with him a little longer, you would’ve cheated on him like you’ve cheated on everybody else. If you leave your current husband and break up your fi rst child’s second home and your second child’s fi rst home, it won’t be long before you get around to cheating on the love of your life, too. Because you’re a cheater, SCIL, a habitual, serial cheater. You’re precisely the kind of person who shouldn’t make monogamous commitments. Or get married. Or have children. So what should you do? Stay? Go? Frankly, SCIL, I don’t give a fuck what you do. Stay or go, it’s not going to make a fuck of a lot of difference. Your personal life is a mess, SCIL, and it always will be. Because, you see, wherever you go, there you are. That said: If your current husband doesn’t mind being cheated on, if he can put up with your affairs and wants to put your children fi rst, then I think you should stay with him for the sake of your kids. They deserve whatever stability and continuity you can provide for them between infi delities. Again, if you leave your current husband for the love of your life, SCIL, it won’t be long before you’re cheating on your third husband and preparing to uproot your kids a third/second time. I know it, you know it, everyone out there reading this knows it, even your current husband seems to know it. So just stay put, okay? there’s nothing I can’t wax barebodywaxingstudio.com SATISFY YOUR FANTASIES! NUDE HOURS DAILY 5665;6!(4 NO COVER DANCER AUDITIONS *(33 465>,+ ;()3,+(5*,: NO COVER My girlfriend of two years, my fi rst real relationship, broke up with me a month ago. Although I felt like shit for most of that month, we somehow managed to struggle through to a close friendship. I wouldn’t say I’m entirely over her, but I understand why it happened and that we won’t be getting back together. All in all, I’ve felt like we’ve both been pretty mature and things are going well. The complication: We still fi nd each other attractive and we work very well together sexu- ally. So she proposed an FWB arrangement, and I said yes. We laid down ground rules — we are not together, we are just friends who fuck, so no “I love you,” no commitments, no expectations — and we started having hot sex. Is this foolhardy? We both know that I’d prefer something more. So the question remains: Should we keep fucking? Can’t Recall Acronym Procedure :(:[YLL[:WYPUNMPLSK How are you going to feel when your ex-girlfriend/current-fuck-buddy fi nds a new boy- friend and ends your FWB arrangement? If you can honestly answer, “I’ll be happy for her,” then keep fucking — but don’t forget to ask for your balls back when she dumps you that second time. If you can’t say that and you decide to keep fucking the ex anyway, CRAP, you wouldn’t be the fi rst lovesick dumpee who agreed to enter into an FWB arrangement with an ex. If the short-term rewards (all that hot sex) and the potential long-term payoff (getting back together) make the risk seem worthwhile, then keep fucking. Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage. mail@savagelove.net WWW.EUGENEWEEKLY.COM • BLOGS.EUGENEWEEKLY.COM EUGENE WEEKLY FEBRUARY 10, 2011 39
