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KINK Eugene Weekly’s Alternative Dating Site • Browse local postings • Post your own profi le • Connect with local singles Respond to a Kink ad. Visit wink-kink.com and enter the ad ID Ads with a ☎ have Voice Mail Messages call 1-520-547-3020 (Charges may apply) BIGBOOBS, SEXY, FUN CURIOUS just moved back to engene and don’t know where to start. look- ing for a girl to hang out with and more. i’m 29, with long blonde hair. kissfan, 29, g , #104676 Bi-curious male, clean, fit, seeks beautiful boy for first time encounter. I want to adore your smooth, lean body. A lot to ask for? Of course. maxd, 40, g , #103934 ATTENTION BAD BITCHES! YES SIR sexy, sassy, sexually submissive female looking for a Dominant man to teach me. lolfla, 46, #105653 ADVENTUROUS, EXCITED, EAGER I’m looking for a guy who’s dominant in the bedroom and wants to teach me new things. i’ve had a good start in D/s but i really want to explore! pink_ ocean, 31, g , #105553 lookin for bad bitches to befre- ind! 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AlainaFuck, 21, #105484 DOMINATEME I am down for new experiences with a guy or girl, newly single and looking for fun. part- timelover, 21, g , #105422 THUNDERPUSSY My names Kitty im a petite little firecracker.Need someone to light my fuse! if you think you have the firepower to make this thunder cat go boom, im all yours;). PussyKat, 24, g , #105623 BOREDOUTTAMYMIND GOT KINK? Willing to try almost anything with any woman which is not terribly painful, will not leave permanent marks, and does not involve sticking something large up my ass. Dusty, 53, g , #105664 Always willing to try new things to make others happy and I have some fantasies of my own. A hotel, in the trees, or anywhere you want. Snuggyboo, 43, #105656 FULFIL SEXUAL NEEDS i need someone to play with. need to be on the down low. dukendaclub, 33, #105655 SEX POSITIVE NYMPHO ROCKETMAN Impeccable hygiene is a must. Intelligence preferred. Be sexu- ally open, honest, and mature. Into transvestites, groups, would love to try a gang bang, into new experiences. Sex positive, no shame. I_want_it_all, 30, #105142 I’m easy going and open minded. I want some fun. rocket- matt1, 30, g , #105640 Sexy Goddess seeks sophisticat- ed ones for worship.. I am long, curvy, and feminine..Seeking dis- tinguished, intelligent, financial- ly well endowed, beautiful peo- ple. Long hair, piercings, tats, and individuality greatly appreci- ated. FireGoddess, 40, ☎, g , #105080 EXUBERANT AND CURIOUS I’m just a girl looking for some like minded good looking girls to have some fun with. Could be one night or more depending on how good you are ;). Diabolicald11, 22, ☎, g , #105342 HAPPY, HEALTHY, FORNICATOR THROBBING GODDESS SEEKS WORSHIP I LOVE SEX I’m a white female, looking for love also fun and pleasure. enjoy camping, being outdoors, hiking, fishIng. Im looking for a man who likes to dominate a woman. Maria, 30, #105151 SEEKING NASTY LADIES looking for ladies, the naughtier, the nastier, the better. Does that sound like something you are into. If it is, then let’s have some nasty fun. lfabnf, 47, g , #105665 Does your guitar need a check up? POLY-KINK LOOKING 4-FUN I’m very laid back and anti drama and I’m looking for the same in a poly. Grr82, 28, g , #105212 EASY GOING ADVENTUROUS I am completely new at this but I am excited at the possibilities! I am a college student who is looking for some good times! FlyDreams27, 28, #104891 DOMINANT, SLIGHT SADIST ROCK YOUR WORLD im 21 love to party and have fun play sprts and just wanna have a good time. im looking for a fwb and maybe something serious after that. jrock, 21, g , #105628 TALL EXPERIENCED PASSIONATE I’m tall,good looking and an experienced. Love to please and focus all my attention on the other. No drama, drugs. Looking for the occasional discreet encounter with no strings attached. superspunky, 33, #105225 WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage My husband and I have had an open marriage for the last two years. Up until fi ve months ago, it was working beautifully. At that point, however, I was sexually assaulted by a former partner. Since that incident, I cannot stand sex with my husband. I completely fl ip out when he tries to initiate sexual contact. My skin crawls. I become panicked and feel repulsed. I just cannot handle it. Those times when I go along with it anyway leave me feeling enraged and disgusted. I don’t think this is completely unheard of for someone who was relatively recently assaulted, and I am considering therapy to help me work through it. The immediate “problem” is that I have no diffi culty having sex with my boyfriend. In fact, the sex with him is amazing and leaves me feeling loved and whole and wonderful. This is breaking my husband’s heart. He has become incredibly jealous of my relationship with my boyfriend. He’s depressed. He’s angry. He accuses me of no longer loving him, and he wants me to stop sleeping with my boyfriend until our marriage is back to normal. I feel like a horrible person, but I just can’t do that. I need that outlet. I need that support. And I admit I have a hard time believing that my husband and I will ever be able to go back to the way things were before. I feel like I’ve already lost my former partner (fucked-up though that may seem) and my hus- band. It kills me to think about cutting out the one positive relationship remaining. On the other hand, I do love my husband — very much — and watching him suffer like this is unbearable. Potentially Traumatized Sexual Deviant I’m sorry that you were sexually assaulted — that’s awful, PTSD, and I hope you went to the police, and I hope you’re pressing charges. But I also hope you know that being the victim of sexual assault is not a Get Out of Being a Human Being Free card. Just because you’ve been victimized doesn’t mean you operate in an alternate moral uni- verse where you’re not obligated to take other people’s feelings into consideration — particularly the feelings of people you profess to love and happen to be married to. Your fi rst priority in the wake of your assault had to be your own physical and emotional safety, of course, but your behavior toward your husband is both cruel and selfi sh. If you truly loved your husband and valued your marriage, PTSD, you would’ve put the boyfriend on hold and gotten your ass into therapy without having to be told. So from where I sit — on the Bloomington Shuttle, headed to the Indianapolis airport — it looks to me like you want out of this marriage. But instead of taking responsibility for wanting out — not in love with the husband anymore — you’re playing the victim card while slamming both hands down on your marriage’s self-destruct button. To sum up, PTSD: You’re being a total shit. Do you love your husband? Is your marriage a priority? Then start acting like it: Cut the boyfriend off — for the indefi nite future — and get your ass onto a counselor’s couch. If you’re not willing to do those things, PTSD, then stop emotion- ally assaulting your husband and put both your marriage and him out of their misery. I have two clits. How common is this? I have never been able to ride a bike because I have an earthshaking orgasm as soon as I get on the seat. I come on the bus — the soft vibrations are too much! Walking anywhere in tight pants gets me moaning. Is there anything I can do, or rub on myself, to avoid having multiple orgasms in public? Two Much Fun SEXY SWINGERS Attractive young married couple 23/24 420 friendly seeking attractive individuals to share a good time with. K_K, 23, g , #105620 KITTYKISSER We are a married couple looking for a girlfriend for fun and good times! No drama or another couple! We enjoy the outdoors, horror movies, tattoos and a good laugh! lizardboy, 31, g , #105617 ME YOU HIM I WANT PLEASURE Sexually adventurous female in committed relationship looking for something new; Join both of us for some poly play or plea- sure me while he watches. Both early 20s and clean. sexy- longlegs, 23, #105102 DOMNATE ONE submissives that love being paddled spanked cainned hair pulled choked doing as they are told. dominateone, 51, ☎, #105588 New to things and wanting to try many. Knowledge dom. Lighter side of things. Like bondage partly and haven’t had three- some but wanting to try. I want to fill you. Lookingandwanting, 25, #105638 I’m 5’4” pixie-cut brunette with a penchant for adventure and a great smile. I am in a committed non-monogamous partnership, but hoping to branch out and meet other poly-friendly folks. gewilnian, 23, g , #104721 I’m bored & tired of this vanilla world. I like 2 get what I want & please others. Live life to the full extent of what you imagine & what you want. DESIRE, 26, g , #101108 HOT SEX i am justin very hot and sexy i am interested in a lot so you will not be dissapointed. jstud420, 23, #105610 Savage Love My boyfriend and I are looking for a girl who is 18 to 30 years old for a NO strings attached ONE night stand. STD free and shaved. SallyandJack541, 26, g , #105596 420 FRENDLY Looking for some fun. We have had a g/f in the past and are looking for another possible. Get back at us to know more. wil- dones, 33, #105527 Call the GUITAR DOCTOR ” “ I’ve never heard of someone with two clits — but I haven’t searched the medical literature or sought the opinion of an expert. And I’m not inclined to search or seek when a letter is so transparently fake. (Opaque fakes are fi ne; every letter that makes it into the column is a good hypothetical question — for every reader save one.) People whose genitals are different or am- biguous or terrifying — maybe that’s not an extra clit but the tip of your parasitic twin’s nose — frequently have questions and concerns, TMF, but multiple earthshaking orgasms aren’t high on the list. You don’t have a single clit, TMF, much less two. You’re a horny boy with a dick, an email account and an obsession with/terror of a woman’s potential capacity for unlimited sexual pleasure. And I’m hoping — I’m hoping against hope — that seeing your letter in print isn’t your peak sexual experience. But odds are … I am a 47-year-old gay man who has a desire to be humiliated and degraded — by a straight guy! How do I make this happen? Do I just walk up to a straight guy and tell him I want to get on my knees and clean his shoes with my tongue while he spits on me and calls me names? Or that I want to eat out of a dog dish on the fl oor while he laughs at me? How the hell do I make this happen? How do I approach some straight guy with my request without getting beaten up? Please don’t say, “Settle for a very straight-acting and straight-looking gay guy.” I have tried that, and it doesn’t work! The guy must be totally and completely straight! Otherwise, it’s just not a turn-on for me. I’m so desperate that I’m almost willing to pay for it! Worthless Piece Of Shit Long odds: If you have a wide circle of sexually adventurous straight friends, WPOS, and you were open with all of your friends about your kinks in a friendly, nonthreatening manner, maybe one or two of your straight male friends might be indulgent/perverse enough to want to engage in a little role-play with you. (And, yes, it’s possible to make someone feel threat- ened by offering to lick their boots and take their abuse.) Somewhat shorter odds: Don’t have friends like that? Well, there are a lot of BDSM groups and orgs out there that are mixed, i.e., they have gay, lesbian, straight, bi, and trans members, and most host mixed play parties. Get involved with one, be open about your kinks, and you’ll meet a few kinky straight male tops who would get a kick out of slapping you around. Best odds: Pay for it, already. experienced, honest, expert guitar repair I’m a het male professional in my mid-20s who wants to fi nd a female dominant partner. 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