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BIGBOOBS, SEXY, FUN
CURIOUS
just moved back to engene and
don’t know where to start. look-
ing for a girl to hang out with
and more. i’m 29, with long
blonde hair. kissfan, 29, g ,
#104676
Bi-curious male, clean, fit, seeks
beautiful boy for first time
encounter. I want to adore your
smooth, lean body. A lot to ask
for? Of course. maxd, 40, g ,
#103934
ATTENTION BAD BITCHES!
YES SIR
sexy, sassy, sexually submissive
female looking for a Dominant
man to teach me. lolfla, 46,
#105653
ADVENTUROUS, EXCITED,
EAGER
I’m looking for a guy who’s
dominant in the bedroom and
wants to teach me new things.
i’ve had a good start in D/s but i
really want to explore! pink_
ocean, 31, g , #105553
lookin for bad bitches to befre-
ind! I manage my fiancee’s
rocord lable . Come join our
adventure to startem! Let’s see
if you are a perfect fit for this
lifestyle! Sweetdreamz, 30,
g , #104403
SEXY BUSTY BABE
Needing someone to show me
the ropes. Im not submissive just
new to this. littleone, 19,
#103646
LOOSE-WOMAN WITH QUES-
TIONABLE-MORALS
I am “America” looking for
“Columbus” to DISCOVER ME! I
want explosions, the earth mov-
ing beneath my vibrating loins. I
need a man stallion to fill me
with his love-wand. fuck-
BUCK, 20, #105539
UNPREDICTABLE HUNGRY-
STRIPER PROWLING
My honey-pot is low and needs
something sticky. Submissive at
times, but this cowgirl can ride.
Preferably a bucking bronco ;-).
I’m a saucy whench boys, I need
spanking. AlainaFuck, 21,
#105484
DOMINATEME
I am down for new experiences
with a guy or girl, newly single
and looking for fun. part-
timelover,
21,
g ,
#105422
THUNDERPUSSY
My names Kitty im a petite little
firecracker.Need someone to
light my fuse! if you think you
have the firepower to make this
thunder cat go boom, im all
yours;). PussyKat, 24, g ,
#105623
BOREDOUTTAMYMIND
GOT KINK?
Willing to try almost anything
with any woman which is not
terribly painful, will not leave
permanent marks, and does not
involve sticking something large
up my ass. Dusty, 53, g ,
#105664
Always willing to try new things
to make others happy and I have
some fantasies of my own. A
hotel, in the trees, or anywhere
you want. Snuggyboo, 43,
#105656
FULFIL SEXUAL NEEDS
i need someone to play with.
need to be on the down low.
dukendaclub,
33,
#105655
SEX POSITIVE NYMPHO
ROCKETMAN
Impeccable hygiene is a must.
Intelligence preferred. Be sexu-
ally open, honest, and mature.
Into transvestites, groups, would
love to try a gang bang, into new
experiences. Sex positive, no
shame. I_want_it_all, 30,
#105142
I’m easy going and open minded.
I want some fun. rocket-
matt1, 30, g , #105640
Sexy Goddess seeks sophisticat-
ed ones for worship.. I am long,
curvy, and feminine..Seeking dis-
tinguished, intelligent, financial-
ly well endowed, beautiful peo-
ple. Long hair, piercings, tats,
and individuality greatly appreci-
ated. FireGoddess, 40, ☎,
g , #105080
EXUBERANT AND CURIOUS
I’m just a girl looking for some
like minded good looking girls to
have some fun with. Could be
one night or more depending on
how good you are ;).
Diabolicald11, 22, ☎, g ,
#105342
HAPPY, HEALTHY,
FORNICATOR
THROBBING
GODDESS SEEKS WORSHIP
I LOVE SEX
I’m a white female, looking for
love also fun and pleasure. enjoy
camping, being outdoors, hiking,
fishIng. Im looking for a man who
likes to dominate a woman.
Maria, 30, #105151
SEEKING NASTY LADIES
looking for ladies, the naughtier,
the nastier, the better. Does that
sound like something you are
into. If it is, then let’s have some
nasty fun. lfabnf, 47, g ,
#105665
Does your guitar need a check up?
POLY-KINK LOOKING 4-FUN
I’m very laid back and anti drama
and I’m looking for the same in a
poly. Grr82, 28, g ,
#105212
EASY GOING ADVENTUROUS
I am completely new at this but I
am excited at the possibilities! I
am a college student who is
looking for some good times!
FlyDreams27,
28,
#104891
DOMINANT, SLIGHT SADIST
ROCK YOUR WORLD
im 21 love to party and have fun
play sprts and just wanna have a
good time. im looking for a fwb
and maybe something serious
after that. jrock, 21, g ,
#105628
TALL EXPERIENCED
PASSIONATE
I’m tall,good looking and an
experienced. Love to please and
focus all my attention on the
other. No drama, drugs. Looking
for the occasional discreet
encounter with no strings
attached. superspunky, 33,
#105225
WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
My husband and I have had an open marriage for the last two years. Up until fi ve months ago,
it was working beautifully. At that point, however, I was sexually assaulted by a former partner.
Since that incident, I cannot stand sex with my husband. I completely fl ip out when he tries to
initiate sexual contact. My skin crawls. I become panicked and feel repulsed. I just cannot handle
it. Those times when I go along with it anyway leave me feeling enraged and disgusted.
I don’t think this is completely unheard of for someone who was relatively recently assaulted,
and I am considering therapy to help me work through it. The immediate “problem” is that I have
no diffi culty having sex with my boyfriend. In fact, the sex with him is amazing and leaves me
feeling loved and whole and wonderful.
This is breaking my husband’s heart. He has become incredibly jealous of my relationship
with my boyfriend. He’s depressed. He’s angry. He accuses me of no longer loving him, and he
wants me to stop sleeping with my boyfriend until our marriage is back to normal. I feel like a
horrible person, but I just can’t do that. I need that outlet. I need that support. And I admit I have
a hard time believing that my husband and I will ever be able to go back to the way things were
before.
I feel like I’ve already lost my former partner (fucked-up though that may seem) and my hus-
band. It kills me to think about cutting out the one positive relationship remaining. On the other
hand, I do love my husband — very much — and watching him suffer like this is unbearable.
Potentially Traumatized Sexual Deviant
I’m sorry that you were sexually assaulted — that’s awful, PTSD, and I hope you went to the
police, and I hope you’re pressing charges. But I also hope you know that being the victim of
sexual assault is not a Get Out of Being a Human Being Free card.
Just because you’ve been victimized doesn’t mean you operate in an alternate moral uni-
verse where you’re not obligated to take other people’s feelings into consideration — particularly
the feelings of people you profess to love and happen to be married to. Your fi rst priority in
the wake of your assault had to be your own physical and emotional safety, of course, but your
behavior toward your husband is both cruel and selfi sh.
If you truly loved your husband and valued your marriage, PTSD, you would’ve put the
boyfriend on hold and gotten your ass into therapy without having to be told. So from where
I sit — on the Bloomington Shuttle, headed to the Indianapolis airport — it looks to me like you
want out of this marriage. But instead of taking responsibility for wanting out — not in love with
the husband anymore — you’re playing the victim card while slamming both hands down on your
marriage’s self-destruct button.
To sum up, PTSD: You’re being a total shit. Do you love your husband? Is your marriage a
priority? Then start acting like it: Cut the boyfriend off — for the indefi nite future — and get your
ass onto a counselor’s couch. If you’re not willing to do those things, PTSD, then stop emotion-
ally assaulting your husband and put both your marriage and him out of their misery.
I have two clits. How common is this? I have never been able to ride a bike because I have
an earthshaking orgasm as soon as I get on the seat. I come on the bus — the soft vibrations
are too much! Walking anywhere in tight pants gets me moaning. Is there anything I can do, or
rub on myself, to avoid having multiple orgasms in public?
Two Much Fun
SEXY SWINGERS
Attractive young married couple
23/24 420 friendly seeking
attractive individuals to share a
good time with. K_K, 23, g ,
#105620
KITTYKISSER
We are a married couple looking
for a girlfriend for fun and good
times! No drama or another
couple! We enjoy the outdoors,
horror movies, tattoos and a
good laugh! lizardboy, 31,
g , #105617
ME YOU HIM
I WANT PLEASURE
Sexually adventurous female in
committed relationship looking
for something new; Join both of
us for some poly play or plea-
sure me while he watches. Both
early 20s and clean. sexy-
longlegs, 23, #105102
DOMNATE ONE
submissives that love being
paddled spanked cainned hair
pulled choked doing as they are
told. dominateone, 51, ☎,
#105588
New to things and wanting to try
many. Knowledge dom. Lighter
side of things. Like bondage
partly and haven’t had three-
some but wanting to try. I want
to
fill
you.
Lookingandwanting, 25,
#105638
I’m 5’4” pixie-cut brunette with a
penchant for adventure and a
great smile. I am in a committed
non-monogamous partnership,
but hoping to branch out and
meet other poly-friendly folks.
gewilnian,
23,
g ,
#104721
I’m bored & tired of this vanilla
world. I like 2 get what I want &
please others. Live life to the full
extent of what you imagine &
what you want. DESIRE, 26,
g , #101108
HOT SEX
i am justin very hot and sexy i am
interested in a lot so you will not
be dissapointed. jstud420,
23, #105610
Savage Love
My boyfriend and I are looking
for a girl who is 18 to 30 years old
for a NO strings attached ONE
night stand. STD free and shaved.
SallyandJack541, 26, g ,
#105596
420 FRENDLY
Looking for some fun. We have
had a g/f in the past and are
looking for another possible. Get
back at us to know more. wil-
dones, 33, #105527
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I’ve never heard of someone with two clits — but I haven’t searched the medical literature
or sought the opinion of an expert. And I’m not inclined to search or seek when a letter is so
transparently fake. (Opaque fakes are fi ne; every letter that makes it into the column is a good
hypothetical question — for every reader save one.) People whose genitals are different or am-
biguous or terrifying — maybe that’s not an extra clit but the tip of your parasitic twin’s nose
— frequently have questions and concerns, TMF, but multiple earthshaking orgasms aren’t high
on the list.
You don’t have a single clit, TMF, much less two. You’re a horny boy with a dick, an email
account and an obsession with/terror of a woman’s potential capacity for unlimited sexual
pleasure. And I’m hoping — I’m hoping against hope — that seeing your letter in print isn’t your
peak sexual experience. But odds are …
I am a 47-year-old gay man who has a desire to be humiliated and degraded — by a straight
guy! How do I make this happen? Do I just walk up to a straight guy and tell him I want to get
on my knees and clean his shoes with my tongue while he spits on me and calls me names? Or
that I want to eat out of a dog dish on the fl oor while he laughs at me? How the hell do I make
this happen? How do I approach some straight guy with my request without getting beaten up?
Please don’t say, “Settle for a very straight-acting and straight-looking gay guy.” I have tried
that, and it doesn’t work! The guy must be totally and completely straight! Otherwise, it’s just
not a turn-on for me. I’m so desperate that I’m almost willing to pay for it!
Worthless Piece Of Shit
Long odds: If you have a wide circle of sexually adventurous straight friends, WPOS, and
you were open with all of your friends about your kinks in a friendly, nonthreatening manner,
maybe one or two of your straight male friends might be indulgent/perverse enough to want
to engage in a little role-play with you. (And, yes, it’s possible to make someone feel threat-
ened by offering to lick their boots and take their abuse.)
Somewhat shorter odds: Don’t have friends like that? Well, there are a lot of BDSM groups
and orgs out there that are mixed, i.e., they have gay, lesbian, straight, bi, and trans members,
and most host mixed play parties. Get involved with one, be open about your kinks, and you’ll
meet a few kinky straight male tops who would get a kick out of slapping you around.
Best odds: Pay for it, already.
experienced, honest, expert guitar repair
I’m a het male professional in my mid-20s who wants to fi nd a female dominant partner.
Pro-dom services abound for stereotypes like me, but I’m looking for a D/s relationship rather
than just playtime. Predictably, I can’t fi nd one. Women I meet randomly are mostly socialized
to want dominant men, and kink personal sites like FetLife only make my plight look even direr:
Nearly all the doms are either pros or in their 50s. It’s a given that dominant women my age
are unicorns, but how can I maximize those slim chances?
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