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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Jan. 7, 2005)
ADVICE ■ ▼................ SPIRITUALITY Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Metro: Spirituality Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass followed by a social (730 pm Friday. Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231-4955) (7105) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Integrity is a group of sexual mmonty Episcopalians Chnstian meditation and prayer (7:30 pm Thursday 503-281 -0722.) (7/05) and friends. Vanous locations throughout Oregon (Steven Norcross or Bruce 503-286-9111 brucepdxor@comcast.net www mtegntyusa.org) (7/05) Atkinson Memorial Church a Umtanan Universalist church, provides a spintual home for those looking for a liberal-minded, supportive and canng con gregation in Oregon City. (10:30 am Sunday 710 Sixth St. 503-656-7296) (7/05) Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu nity of progressive, political people explonng and cele brating the Chnstian faith We are sexual minority and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members (10:30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave. 503258-0992 www bndgeportucc org.) (7/05) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egahtanan, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus Ministries (PO Box 42187. Portland. OB 97242-0187. 503-248-4500 wwwpnaiorpdx.org) (7/05) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and chil dren's religious education. (10:30 am. 1133 NE 181st Ave. Gresham 503-665-2628 ofhce@eastrose.org. www.eastrose org.) (7/05) Eckankar—Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds worship services and maintains a library of Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc tors from vanous worid religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Hoor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3 www interfaithspiritualcenter com.) (7/05) is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Chnstian tradition Church school and nursery care (10:25 am Sunday. 1126 SW Park Ave. 503-228-7219.) (7/05) First Congregational United Church of Christ of Hillsboro is an open and affirming congregation explicitly welcoming everyone into its Christian community, fellowship and worship Bible and book study groups. Sunday school and nursery care. (10 30 am Sunday 494 E Mam St. 503-648-4341 www.hillsboro-uccorg.) (7/05) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 503-228-6389 wwwfirstumtananportlandorg.) (7/05) spiritual growth (10am Sunday 111 W39th St.. Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Vengin 360-573 2626 wwwabundant-hfe-center.org.) (7/05) D ear N ot a H oliday S ell -O ut : affirming congregation, invites all to worship services and ongoing programs in spiritual development, community outreach, music and arts education (8 am Sunday Rite I chapel service. 10 am Sunday Rite II cathedral service 147 NW 19th Ave 503-2229811. www tnmty-episcopal org.) (7/05) Unitarian Universalist Community Church of straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship. (503-281-3697 wwwtearsoup.com/metanoia) (7/05) Washington County is an open and affirming liberal Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am service. (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 mfo@mccportland.com www mccportlandcom.) (7/05) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all-inclusive spintual philosophy similar to 12-step, Unity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies available (503-777-0727. www portlandcenter org) (7/05) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave. (503-235-0826 otter@pcez.com.) (7/05) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support orga nization for former and current Adventists who are queer as well as their family and fnends (PO Box 49375. Sarasota. FL 34230-6375 866-732-5677 office@sdakinship.org www sdakinship org.) (7/05) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellow ship. (9:30 am Sunday: Noon Spanish language service 806 NE Alberta St. 503-2814429) (7/05) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Christ congrega tion. welcomes all people for tradi tional. liturgical worship where we experience God's reconciling love Debra Beers' “American Brigade" is on display through Jan. 29 at Mark Woolley Gallery religious community offenng a vanety of enrichment programs in addition to community and social action opportunities. (9 and 11 am Sunday 22785 NW Birch St.. Hillsboro. 503-648-1720 www uuccwc.org) (7/05) Waverly Heights United Church of Christ is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care (10 am summer, 11 am school year 3300 SE Woodward St. 503238-1337 pastor@waverfyucc org. www.waverlyucc org.) (7/05) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offering inter- generational services and religious education for youth and adults We welcome gay, lesbian, bi and trans mem bers and nurture spintual growth living by Unitarian Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704 www wyeastpnwd.uua org.) (7/05) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ centered. warm, canng. multiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 110 30 am summer) 2025 NE 23rd Ave. Gresham 503-665-8741 ) (7/05) Central Oregon: Spirituality United Church of Christ Congregational is an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles (920 am adult Sunday school. 10:30 am worship [9.30 am sum mer) 111 EFifth St. 541-296-2909 ucccongl@netc- net net www formimstry com/usorucofcucocc.) (7/05) Washington: Spirituality Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling. (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave. Longview 360-425-4927.) (7/05) Metropolitan Church of the Gentie Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you (10 30 am and 630 pm Sunday worship Bible study follows morning worship 2200 Broadway St The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360-695-1480) (7/05) Michael Servitus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit (9 30 and 11 15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St, Vancouver 360-695-1891.) (7/05) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9:30 am Sunday learning hour. 10 30 am worship 700 Manon St. NE. Salem 503-363 3660) (7/05) Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Chnstian church with primary outreach in the sexual minorities community. (630 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St., Eugene) (7705) $ Y O U T FI Metro: Youth aocia events. Also information, referral and advocacy services m Washington County. (Moly 503-260-5792 moUy@pndepro)6Ct org) (7/05) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support and recreation to gay, lea Netwerir (GLSEND mreetoaesure tf tar each mem ber of every achod comrrwity is valued and respect ed. regarcfees of aewai orientation or gender riermty/expressfon. (12700 SW North Dakota St. Suite 1904129. Tigard. OR 97223 503525-1177. gisen@gisnnoregon.org. www ghseiioregon org) (7/05) Outside In eperates 3 clinic for any me who can! qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as weB as needte exchange aerviceB that indude those who inject hor- monea. Provide transitional houamg for youth 20 and younger and tor those HIV-positive and younger than 23 Need wtemeersirf al ages. (10 om6 pm Monday- Friday. H82 SW 13th Ave 5O3-535-38OO. www.oMdein.org.) (7/06) IMdto Prak** brings together Washington County D ear M s . B ehavior : Abundant Life Center assists the community in Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Trinity Episcopal Cathedral a welcoming and Church is a "house church" that brings gay and Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming congregation. (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St. 503-254-6380 1(7/05) First Congregational United Church of Christ Scrooge of a boss frowns on holiday greetings member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations. Sunday school, nursery care, classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests. (9 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday mam worship service. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073 staff@southmm com. www southmin.com.) (7/05) small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bndgeport United Church of Christ. A wel coming congregation, Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699-0473. www komomacommunity org.) (7/05) Enneagram Community of Portland iffers men toring, therapy, spiritual direction, classes, workshops and retreats, (enneagrampdx@aol.com. www enneagramportland com.) (7/05) place in the family of God (10:15 am Sunday 27400 SE Stark St . Troutdale 503-661-4520.) (7/05) SisterSpirit offers women s spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing address PO Box 9246, Portland. OR 97207. 503-736-3297 sistersp@teleport.com.) (7/05) Bah, humbug! Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gathenngs Everyone welcome1 (10 am Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St. 503-232-8064 www mchiren-shu org/portland) (7/05) congregation that values and affirms the sacredness of all people We invite and encourage everyone to find a St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been welcoming all people since 1863. (12 10pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave 503-223-6424.) (7/05) 1 do not celebrate any holidays; how ever, when 1 am at work, 1 tend to offer holiday greetings, especially in e-mails. 1 also sometimes say, “I hope you had a nice weekend,” or some other pleas antries. My boss is annoyed by -the mixing of professional and personal greetings in a work setting. She says, “David, no one wants to hear your subjective views on matters not per taining to business." 1 think that to wish someone a happy holiday or to note a hope for all gcxxl things in the new year helps soften things up in an already too impersonal world. The thing she really objects to is that 1 wish people happiness in the belief of their choice, even though 1 do not believe in God, whether in celebration of Hanukkah, Christmas or Kwanzaa. 1 would feel funny if I couldn’t include my own friendly tone in my correspondence. But do you think I need to defer to my boss and just get right down to business? —Not a Holiday Sell-Out matenals Leam how the Divine Spirit works throughout your own life in today's world (10 am Sunday 7904 SE Milwaukie Ave 503-233-1595. www eckankar org) (7/05) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439 www stiameslutheranportland org.) (7/05) bian bi and trans youth 23 and younger. Drop-in com puter access, pool tabfes and an informal place to hang out weewy support meetings wtcnioe trans Toutn Ci ft )up and the creative group Personal Deity Proxy «-S pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-nndnx^it Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503872-9664. TTY 503231-9286 wwwsmyrcorg.)dt05) Eastern Oregon: Youth Washington: Youth Triple Pebrt offers education, support end advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth in Vancouver Meets every Tuesday in the basement of Youth House. &8 pm 1112 Columbia St John 36M95-1325) (7/05! Willamette Valley: Youth Queefimting WMrth ftSJpfor^ges 13to 18offers support, information and fan m Eugene. Free, confiden tial, addt •fociSfeted (Dtop st pm Friday Amazon Community Center, 2700 fHyerd St 541-684-3466 ) (7/05) Living offers support and advocacy to g3y lesbian, bt. trans and questioning youth m Eastern Oregon. (1021 SW 5th Ave. Ontario 641889-3119 or 895-248-8369. eoai@eocl.otg. www eocH org.) (7/05) Group forages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm. Koinonia Center. 1414 KncekfSt. S4l34&l134)(7/(/5) ano quwKXHng yojn to pan ano Mrena monthly | | | - < - Whether or not you need to defer to your Scrixige of a boss depends on how and why she imposes her opin ion on your e-mail niceties. If the discussion has the feel of a debate and your boss is merely offer ing her judgment that the faithless shouldn’t send holiday greetings, you probably don’t have to stop your friendly e-mail chatter. (You could say that your greetings merely acknowledge that religion has become irrelevant in holiday celebra tions and that for most people, at least according to television, Christmas is about iPixls and new cars with bows, not devotion to Jesus Christ or the Virgin Mother.) But if your hiss feels that the hearts and daisies in your correspon dence reflect ptxirly on the compa ny’s values or purpose, you’ll need to do what she says and stick to the point. If this feels stifling, you can find another way to express yourself, maybe by buying little butterfly stick ers and pasting them on all of your file folders. D ear M s . B ehavior : I was single for a long time and thought it might always be that way, but I finally met a really cool girl a few months ago. Darlene and 1 have been hanging out a lot, and it’s start ing to get very real. I think I’m in love with her. But, there’s a new complication: A few nights ago, when I got home from work, Darlene told me she’d watched a documen tary on female-to male transsexuals. We chatted about it for a while before bed. The next morning, she woke me up early and told me that she thinks she’s a trans sexual and that she wants to find a doctor who will prescribe “T’ (testixsterone). 1 tried to dismiss it because I thought Darlene was just reacting to the dixmmentary, but she seems serious. Now she spends all of her time at night looking at Web sites created by “transmen.” She’s even started a blog about her journey to manhood! Why, after so many years of kx)k- ing for the right girlfriend, do 1 find one who wants to become my boyfriend? I don’t know if I can handle it. Darlene isn’t sure she wants to have the “bottom surgery,” so she probably won’t have a dick. But still.. .she wants to surgically remove her breasts, and her goal is to “pass” as a guy. She’s planning to change her name to Derrick. Would it be insensitive for me to break up with her if she becomes a guy? And if I stay with her, am I still a lesbian? —Confused D ear C onfused : This is a huge decision (or realiza tion) for Darlene, so she’ll need time to sort it out. Try not to decide what her revelation means to your rela tionship right away; it’s a complex, emotionally charged issue that requires a lot of patient discussion and understanding from both of you. It may be too s<x>n to decide whether you’ll want to stay together as lovers. It’s not like Darlene is thinking of changing her hair color and you’re just not sure if you’ll find her blond highlights attractive. Sexuality and gender are such deli cate and specific issues; one could hardly judge you fickle or “insensi tive” if you find that you’re only romantically interested in Darlene as a woman. If you consider yourself a lesbian and you do stay with Darlene after she becomes a dude, you’ll be a les bian who’s in a relationship with a dude. You won’t be the first. If, however, you and Darlene decide to break up, be sure to assert your lesbianism: Keep Derrick as a close friend forever, invite him over for every holiday, and share custixly of a pet, a child or a house plant. |H M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What 1 Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to mshehavurr@aol.com.
