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ADVICE SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality A in s w o rth U n ite d C h u rc h o f C h ris t is a m ulti racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday worship is at 10 am; church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503-284-8767. aucc&teleport com.) (7/04) A n a w im C o m m u n ity o f gay men meets weekly for Christian m editation and prayer (7:30 pm Thursday 503-281 -07 2 2 ) (7/0 5 ) B rid g e p o rt U n ite d C h u rc h o f C h ris t is a commu T rin ity U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h is fo r all people small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A wel coming congregation, Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699-0473. www komomacommumty org.) (7/04) who seek the grace of God and desire to work f a peace and justice Child care available (1 0 3 0 am Sunday 3915 SE Steele S t 503-777-3901.) (7/0 4 ) L o n g v ie w U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h is welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360-425-4927)(7/04) M e ta n o ia P eace C om m u nity U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h is a "house church" that bnngs gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worshp (503-281-3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia )G /0 5 ) nity of progressive, political people explonng and cele brating the Christian faith We are sexual m inonty and straight, m ulticultural and multiracial, and our children are valued members (10.30 am Sunday. 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992 www.bndgeportuccorg.) (7/04) holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am service (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 mfoGmccportland com www mccportlandcom ) (7/04) C ity C h u rc h Portland's "oldest gay affirm ing Chnstian church." offers a spint-driven church for today 's diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service. 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship service 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-5024.) (7/0 4 ) N ic h ire n B u d d h is t T e m p le o f P o rtla n d offers several weekly gathenngs. Everyone welcome! (10 am Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7.30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503-232-8064 www mchtren-shu org/portland'.) (7/05) C o n g re g a tio n P 'n a i O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus M inistries (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR 97242-0187 503-248-4500 www.pnaioqDdx.org.) (7/05) P e a c e C h u rc h o f th e B re th re n is a welcoming E a s tro s e F e llo w s h ip U n ita ria n U n iv e rs a lis t a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education. (10.30 am. 1133 NE 181st Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-2628 office@eastrose.org. www.eastrose o rg ) (7/05) E c k a n k a r—R e lig io n o f th e L ig h t an d S o u n d o f G o d holds worship services and maintains a library of materials. Leam how the Divine Spirit works throughout your own life in today's world. (10 am Sunday 7904 SE Mtfwaukie Ave 503-233-1595. www eckankar org.) (7/05) The E n n e a g ra m C o m m u n ity o f P o rtla n d offers mentoring, therapy, spiritual direction, classes, w ork shops and retreats (enneagrampdx@aol com www.enneagramportland com.) (7/05) F a ith U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h is a welcoming com munity of Christians in Troutdale that values and encour ages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God. Sunday worshp at 10:15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am. Wednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm (27400 SE Star* St. 503-6614520 ) 0 /0 5 ) F irs t U n ita ria n C h u rch of Portland is an open and affirming Iberal reigous community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spntual growth, community and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 503-228-6389 www firstunitananportland org.) (7/05) G a y a n d L e s b ia n O u tre a c h (G A L O ) of S t Philip Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass fo l lowed by a social (7.30 pm Friday. Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955.) (7/05) G a y M e n 's L a b y rin th P ro je c t meets quarterly fo r a walking m editation and wisdom circle on the labynnth (www.gaylabyhnth.com.) (7/04) In te g rity is a group of sexual m inority Episcopalians and friends. Various locations throughout Oregon (Bruce 503-286-9111. brucepdxor@attbi com www.integrityusa.org.) (7/04) In te r fa ith S p ir itu a l C e n te r houses spintual direc tors from various world religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3 www interfaithspintualcenter c o m ) (7/05) K e s h e t P o rtla n d is a potluck group fo r Jewish mem bers of the sexual m inorities community and their part ners, spouses and supporters. Its purpose is to help build bridges with the larger Jewish community M onthly social, religious and cultural events (David or Laney 503-226-7079. ext 14 ) ( 7/04) M e tro p o lita n C o m m u n ity C h u rc h o f P o rtla n d congregation (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St. 5 0 3 2 5 4 -6 3 8 0 ) (7/04) P o rtla n d C e n te r fo r S p iritu a l G ro w th s a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all- inclusive spiritual philosophy similar to 12-step, Unity and Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies avail able (503-777-0727 w wwportlandcenterorg)(7/05) S is te r S p ir it offers women's spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes. Schedule of events available A ll women are welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland, OR 97207. 503-736-3297 sistersp@teleport com .)(7/0 4 ) S o u th m in s te r P re s b y te ria n C h u rc h is an active member o f the Community of Welcoming ' Congregations Sunday school and nursery care Classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests. (9-930 am Sunday chapel service, 10 am Sunday community worship service 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503644 2073 staff@southmm.com www.southmm com.) (7/04) S t. A n d re w C a th o lic C h u rc h invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship. (9:30 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St. 503-2814429 ) (7/04) S t. J a m e s L u th e ra n C h u rc h a Reconciled in C hrist congregation, welcomes all people f a traditional, liturgical w a sh ip where we expenence God's reconcil ing love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park Ave 503-227-2439 www stjameslutheranportlandorg.) (7/05) S t. S te p h e n 's E p is c o p a l C h u rc h has been welcom ing all people since 1863 (1210 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and chid care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave 503-223-6424) (7/05) T rin ity E p is c o p a l C a th e d ra l a welcoming and affirm ing congregation, invites all to worship services and ongoing programs in spintual development, com munity outreach, music and arts education (8 am Sunday Rite I chapel service 10 am Sunday Rite II cathedral service 147 N W 19th Ave 503-222-9811 www tnmty-episcopal. org.) (7/05) Pride Project brings together W ashington County youth o f color 21 and younger, m eets on w eekends queer and questioning youth to f^ n and attend monthly f a food and sociatam g. Regular events and activities. sociai events. A lso information, referral and advocacy Flavors is a project o f Love M akes a Fam ily’s M ultiQ ueer program and is supported by B rother to services m Washington County. bi and trans youth 23 and younger Drop-in computer ber of every school community is valued and respect W eekly support meetings include Trans Youth Group and or gender (Suite 180. 12700 SW North Dakota St §129. Tigard. OR 97223. 503-525-1177 dsen@dsenoregonorg www.gfaeooregon org.) (7 /0 5 ) the creetive group Personal Deity Proxy access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday. 2100 SE Balmont St. 503872-9664 TTY 503-231-9286 www.smyrc org 1 (7 /0 5 ) MuWQueer a program of Love Makes a Famdy, provides advocacy to sexirf minority youth Offers resources and a focus on support f a queer and qiestom og youth of c o la (.Kristy 503228-3892 mdtqueer^mfard,- org ) (7 /0 4 ) Outside 1« operates a clinic fo r anyone w ho can't qualify fo r the O regon H ealth Plan a3 w e l as needle exchange sendees that indude those who in ject h a - m onea Provide transitional housing f a youth 2 0 Eastern Oregon: Youth Eastern Oregon Center for Independent Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon (1021 SW5thAve. Ontario. 541-8893119o r8662498369 eoc4@eoc4org www.eod.org.) (7 /0 5 ) Send your Subrr Living, transforming lives with love. (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave., Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Vengm 360-573-2626 wwwabundant-life-center org.) (7/05) Lifeguards Protecting Queer America’s sperm D ear M s . B ehavior : My partner and I used a sperm bank for both of our pregnan cies, and we now have two wonderful, intelligent daughters, ages 4 and 6. Our friend Sheila is 41 and desperately wants a baby imme diately. Sheila has been pushing us to give her the name of our sperm hank and our donor’s identifi cation number so that she can request the same donor. We’re flattered that she thinks so highly of our girls, hut we feel squea mish about sharing. Are we selfish? Should we pass on the donor’s info and leave it to the powers that be? — Two Moms E a s t V a n c o u v e r U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h is reconciling and welcoming. (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Btvd. 360-693-4761.) (7/04) F irs t C o n g re g a tio n a l C h u rc h , United Church of C hrist, holds services in an open and affirm ing congre gation. (W a rn Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult educa tion 1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360-693-1476. vanucc@aol.com.) (7/04) M e tro p o lita n C o m m u n ity C h u rc h o f th e G e n tle S h e p h e rd in Vancouver welcomes you (10:30 am and 6 30 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Hamet Barshofsky 360-695 1480 ) (7/04) M ic h a e l S e rv itu s U n ita ria n U n iv e rs a lis t F ello w s h ip a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home fa the liberal religious spirit (9 30 and 11:15am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360695-1891.)(7/05) Willamette Valley: Spirituality F irs t C o n g re g a tio n a l C h u rc h . United Church of C hrist is an open and affirm ing congregation offenng w a sh ip and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 30 am Sunday learning hour. 10 30 am worship. 700 Manon S t NE. Salem 503-363-3660)(7/04) M e tro p o lita n C om m unity C hu rch Tw o R ivers is a Christian church with pnmary outreach m the sexual mmon- ties community (630 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St . Eugene) (7/04) Washington: Youth T r ip le Point offers education, support end advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in Vancouver, W esh M eets every Tuesday m the base (68pm. 1112 Columbia St John 3 6 0 6 9 9 1 3 2 5 m m ment o f Youth House. (McMy 503-260-5792. Gay. Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each mem support in the community and the school systems, w th A b u n d an t L ife C e n te r is A Community fa Spintual mdly@pndepmiect.org.) (7 /0 4 ) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center CSMYRC) offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, identity/expresaon Central Oregon: Spirituality Washington: Spirituality F la v o rs , a social support group f a sexual m inority ed, regardless o f sexual orientation Z io n U n ite d C h u rc h o f C h ris t an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community ( I I am Sunday ¡10:30 am summer1. 2025 NE 23rd A v e . Gresham 503-665-8741.) (7/05) S e v e n th -D a y A d v e n tis t K in s h ip is a support orgam zation fa queer people, their families and fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Nig'jel. CA 92607-7320 866732-5677. office@sdakinshiporg www sdakmship org.) (7/04) Metro: Youth The W y 'e a s t U n ita ria n U n iv e rs a lis t C o n g re g a tio n is an open and liberal religious community offering intergenerational services and religious education for youth and adults We welcome gay. lesbian, bi and trans members and nurture spiritual growth living by Unitanan Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704 www. wyeast pnwd uua o r g ) (7/0 5 ) U n ite d C h u rc h o f C h ris t C o n g re g a tio n a l is an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles. (9:20 am adult Sunday school. 10:30 am worship 19:30 am summerI I I I EFifth St. 541-296-2909 ucccongl@netcnctnet wwwformmistrycom/usorucofcucocc) (7/05) younger than (10 am~6 pm Monday-Friday. 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503-535-3800 www.outsldein.org.) (7 /0 5 ) (Kristy 503-228-3882 mJnqueet@irnfmnfy.org) (7 /0 4 ) W a v e riy H e ig h ts U n ite d C h u rc h o f C h ris t >s open and affirm ing with w aship, children's school and child care (10 am summer. 11 am school year. 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-238-1337 pastor@waverfyucc org www waverfyucc org.) (7/0 5 ) potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave (503-235-0826 otter@pcez.com.) (T105) 23 N eed volunteers o f all ages Brother. U n iv e rs ity P a rk U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h believes in giving to the community, caring fo r one another and making a difference one person at a time Come celebrate God's diversity with us! (10 am Sunday 4775 N Lombard St. The Rev Jeannie Knepper 503-289 7843) (7/04) P o rtla n d R a d ic a l F a e rie s meet twice a month with and younger and f a those H IV ♦ and YOUTH ▼ K o in o n ia C a th o lic C o m m u n ity is a progressive, Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Tmugondor and Questioning Youth Group f a ages 13 to 18 offers support « fo r mation and fun in Eugene Free, confidential, a d u lt-fait- (Drop « 4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 («yard St 541684-3466 )0 /0 4 ) tated. Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger m eets every Monday «E u g en e (5 pm Komoma Center, 1414 Kincaid S t 541-346-1134.) ( 7 /0 4 ) Out V About Youth meet every Thursday in Corvalfo (7pm. 1165 Monroe Ave 541-754-3906.) (7/04) Rainbow Youth is a safe confidential support group f a young gay men, lesbians, bisexuals transgender. (68 pm Wednesday 690 State S t www selemrambarvyouth org.) (7 /0 4 ) questioning « id friends « Salem outreach listings to: ju s t out (attn Calendar) • PO Box 14400 • Portland OR 97293-0400 Fax submissions to 5 0 3 -2 3 6 -1 2 5 7 or ema ijustout@ justout.com annot be accepted over the phone • Plea nincements and include full contact information D ear T wo M om s : Sperm banks typically have hun dreds of donors from which to choose, so if you decide not to share your donor’s identifying information with Sheila, she could easily pick another charming candidate. There are plenty of other spermatozoa in the fertility sea. Sharing a sperm donor is an inti mate matter and may involve more contact with Sheila than you want. If she uses your donor and has a hahy, your kids will he biologi cally related, which for whatever reason sounds like a closer connection than you’d like to have with Sheila. O f course, if Sheila finds out where you got the spooge, she may still ltxik carefully through the hxik of donors and try to chtxise the same donor you used. However, since you last enlisted your donor’s services five years ago, there’s a gtxxl chance that his stud days are over. Many sperm hanks regulate the number of spawn each donor dude can pnxluce. Often, after 10 reported births, the sperm daddy is pur into retirement. (The reasons for this are fairly obvious; if any individual fathered hundreds of babies, it would increase the likeli- hcxxl that his offspring would end up randomly meeting and repnxlucing with one another.) Don’t worry about being selfish; it sounds like you’re legitimately con cerned about keeping certain bound aries in your friendship with Sheila. You can he a generous person and still not want to share such a cozy connection. Even if you were OK with lending a friend your sweater or your car, you might draw the line at say, a toothbrush, a girlfriend or some sperm. D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m at the beach every day this summer. There’s a lifeguard who checks me out all the time. The guy is very hot. T he problem is when I go over to talk to him, he has a hundred excuses for why he has to go and do other things and can ’t hang out with me. W hen I go hack to lie down on my towel with my buddies, there he is, staring at me all over again. I don’t know if he’s shy or what. The beach is mostly gay, so I don’t think homophobia is the problem. My friends say to take a hint. They try to distract me from thinking about him. But he’s got eyes for me. 1 can see it. — Dormy D ear D onny : Hello? Your lifeguard is saving Queer America from drowning. He’s protecting you and your brothers and sisters from the wrath of the sea. If Mr. Hot Lifeguard really does gaze in your direction, it’s probably not to admire your dim ples, your muscula ture or your basket. He stares because: A ) he’s interested in your obsession with him even though he doesn't want you, or B) you freak him out and he worries that you’re a stalker about to boil his bunny. Your friends telling you to “take a hint” is enough pnxif that he doesn’t return your interest. Whatever you do, please don’t consider staging a drowning incident. Sheila has been pushing us to give her the name of our sperm and our donor’s identification number so that she can request the same donor... but we feel squeamish about sharing in © Meryl Cohn 2004 M eryl C ohn is the author of Do W hat I Say: Ms. Behavior’s G uide to G ay and Lesbian Etiquette ( Hought!m Mifflin). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to mshchavurr@aol. com.
