ADVICE
SPIRITUALITY
Metro: Spirituality
A in s w o rth U n ite d C h u rc h o f C h ris t is a m ulti
racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday
worship is at 10 am; church school for children runs
concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503-284-8767.
aucc&teleport com.) (7/04)
A n a w im C o m m u n ity o f gay men meets weekly for
Christian m editation and prayer (7:30 pm Thursday
503-281 -07 2 2 ) (7/0 5 )
B rid g e p o rt U n ite d C h u rc h o f C h ris t is a commu
T rin ity U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h is fo r all people
small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate
Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A wel
coming congregation, Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical
in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave
503-699-0473. www komomacommumty org.) (7/04)
who seek the grace of God and desire to work f a
peace and justice Child care available (1 0 3 0 am
Sunday 3915 SE Steele S t 503-777-3901.) (7/0 4 )
L o n g v ie w U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h is welcom
ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave
360-425-4927)(7/04)
M e ta n o ia P eace C om m u nity U n ite d M e th o d is t
C h u rc h is a "house church" that bnngs gay and straight
together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worshp
(503-281-3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia )G /0 5 )
nity of progressive, political people explonng and cele
brating the Christian faith We are sexual m inonty and
straight, m ulticultural and multiracial, and our children
are valued members (10.30 am Sunday. 621 NE 76th
Ave 503-258-0992 www.bndgeportuccorg.) (7/04)
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng
the 11 am service (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868
mfoGmccportland com www mccportlandcom ) (7/04)
C ity C h u rc h Portland's "oldest gay affirm ing
Chnstian church." offers a spint-driven church for
today 's diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu
nion and worship service. 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship
service 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-5024.) (7/0 4 )
N ic h ire n B u d d h is t T e m p le o f P o rtla n d offers
several weekly gathenngs. Everyone welcome! (10 am
Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7.30 pm
Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St
503-232-8064 www mchtren-shu org/portland'.) (7/05)
C o n g re g a tio n P 'n a i O r (Faces of Light) is a vibrant,
egalitarian, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland
Meets several times a month at Portland State University
Campus M inistries (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR
97242-0187 503-248-4500 www.pnaioqDdx.org.) (7/05)
P e a c e C h u rc h o f th e B re th re n is a welcoming
E a s tro s e F e llo w s h ip U n ita ria n U n iv e rs a lis t a
welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and
children's religious education. (10.30 am. 1133 NE
181st Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-2628
office@eastrose.org. www.eastrose o rg ) (7/05)
E c k a n k a r—R e lig io n o f th e L ig h t an d S o u n d o f
G o d holds worship services and maintains a library of
materials. Leam how the Divine Spirit works throughout
your own life in today's world. (10 am Sunday 7904 SE
Mtfwaukie Ave 503-233-1595. www eckankar org.) (7/05)
The E n n e a g ra m C o m m u n ity o f P o rtla n d offers
mentoring, therapy, spiritual direction, classes, w ork
shops and retreats (enneagrampdx@aol com
www.enneagramportland com.) (7/05)
F a ith U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h is a welcoming com
munity of Christians in Troutdale that values and encour
ages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family
of God. Sunday worshp at 10:15 am; Adult Education at
9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am. Wednesday Prayers
6-6:30 pm (27400 SE Star* St. 503-6614520 ) 0 /0 5 )
F irs t U n ita ria n C h u rch of Portland is an open and
affirming Iberal reigous community offering a wide range of
programs to nurture spntual growth, community and social
justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave
503-228-6389 www firstunitananportland org.) (7/05)
G a y a n d L e s b ia n O u tre a c h (G A L O ) of S t Philip
Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirm ing Mass fo l
lowed by a social (7.30 pm Friday. Paulist Center.
2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955.) (7/05)
G a y M e n 's L a b y rin th P ro je c t meets quarterly fo r
a walking m editation and wisdom circle on the labynnth
(www.gaylabyhnth.com.) (7/04)
In te g rity is a group of sexual m inority Episcopalians
and friends. Various locations throughout Oregon
(Bruce 503-286-9111. brucepdxor@attbi com
www.integrityusa.org.) (7/04)
In te r fa ith S p ir itu a l C e n te r houses spintual direc
tors from various world religious traditions, who are
available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second
Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3
www interfaithspintualcenter c o m ) (7/05)
K e s h e t P o rtla n d is a potluck group fo r Jewish mem
bers of the sexual m inorities community and their part
ners, spouses and supporters. Its purpose is to help
build bridges with the larger Jewish community
M onthly social, religious and cultural events (David or
Laney 503-226-7079. ext 14 ) ( 7/04)
M e tro p o lita n C o m m u n ity C h u rc h o f P o rtla n d
congregation (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St.
5 0 3 2 5 4 -6 3 8 0 ) (7/04)
P o rtla n d C e n te r fo r S p iritu a l G ro w th s a center
for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all-
inclusive spiritual philosophy similar to 12-step, Unity and
Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies avail
able (503-777-0727 w wwportlandcenterorg)(7/05)
S is te r S p ir it offers women's spintuality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes. Schedule of events available A ll women are
welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing
address: PO Box 9246. Portland, OR 97207.
503-736-3297 sistersp@teleport com .)(7/0 4 )
S o u th m in s te r P re s b y te ria n C h u rc h is an active
member o f the Community of Welcoming
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Congregations Sunday school and nursery care
Classes, community service activities and events for all
ages and interests. (9-930 am Sunday chapel service,
10 am Sunday community worship service 12250 SW
Denney Road. Beaverton 503644 2073
staff@southmm.com www.southmm com.) (7/04)
S t. A n d re w C a th o lic C h u rc h invites all to join a
diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship. (9:30 am
Sunday 806 NE Alberta St. 503-2814429 ) (7/04)
S t. J a m e s L u th e ra n C h u rc h a Reconciled in
C hrist congregation, welcomes all people f a traditional,
liturgical w a sh ip where we expenence God's reconcil
ing love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday
1315 S W Park Ave 503-227-2439
www stjameslutheranportlandorg.) (7/05)
S t. S te p h e n 's E p is c o p a l C h u rc h has been welcom
ing all people since 1863 (1210 pm Wednesday and
7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and chid care at
10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave 503-223-6424) (7/05)
T rin ity E p is c o p a l C a th e d ra l a welcoming and
affirm ing congregation, invites all to worship services
and ongoing programs in spintual development, com
munity outreach, music and arts education (8 am
Sunday Rite I chapel service 10 am Sunday Rite II
cathedral service 147 N W 19th Ave 503-222-9811
www tnmty-episcopal. org.) (7/05)
Pride Project brings together W ashington County
youth o f color 21 and younger, m eets on w eekends
queer and questioning youth to f^ n and attend monthly
f a food and sociatam g. Regular events and activities.
sociai events. A lso information, referral and advocacy
Flavors is a project o f Love M akes a Fam ily’s
M ultiQ ueer program and is supported by B rother to
services m Washington County.
bi and trans youth 23 and younger Drop-in computer
ber of every school community is valued and respect
W eekly support meetings include Trans Youth Group and
or gender
(Suite 180. 12700 SW North
Dakota St §129. Tigard. OR 97223. 503-525-1177
dsen@dsenoregonorg www.gfaeooregon org.) (7 /0 5 )
the creetive group Personal Deity Proxy
access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out
(4-8 pm
Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and
Saturday. 2100 SE Balmont St. 503872-9664 TTY
503-231-9286 www.smyrc org 1 (7 /0 5 )
MuWQueer a program of Love Makes a Famdy, provides
advocacy to sexirf minority youth Offers resources and
a
focus on support f a queer and qiestom og youth of c o la
(.Kristy 503228-3892 mdtqueer^mfard,- org ) (7 /0 4 )
Outside 1« operates a clinic fo r anyone w ho can't
qualify fo r the O regon H ealth Plan a3 w e l as needle
exchange sendees that indude those who in ject h a -
m onea Provide transitional housing f a youth 2 0
Eastern Oregon: Youth
Eastern Oregon Center for Independent
Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi,
trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon (1021
SW5thAve. Ontario. 541-8893119o r8662498369
eoc4@eoc4org www.eod.org.) (7 /0 5 )
Send your
Subrr
Living, transforming lives with love. (10 am Sunday
10006 NE Ninth Ave., Vancouver The Rev Kathleen Vengm
360-573-2626 wwwabundant-life-center org.) (7/05)
Lifeguards
Protecting Queer America’s sperm
D ear M s . B ehavior :
My partner and I
used a sperm bank for
both of our pregnan
cies, and we now
have two wonderful,
intelligent daughters,
ages 4 and 6.
Our friend Sheila
is 41 and desperately
wants a baby imme
diately. Sheila has
been pushing us to
give her the name of
our sperm hank and
our donor’s identifi
cation number so
that she can request the same donor.
We’re flattered that she thinks so
highly of our girls, hut we feel squea
mish about sharing.
Are we selfish? Should we pass on
the donor’s info and leave it to the
powers that be?
— Two Moms
E a s t V a n c o u v e r U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h is
reconciling and welcoming. (10 am Sunday
5701 MacArthur Btvd. 360-693-4761.) (7/04)
F irs t C o n g re g a tio n a l C h u rc h , United Church of
C hrist, holds services in an open and affirm ing congre
gation. (W a rn Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult educa
tion 1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360-693-1476.
vanucc@aol.com.) (7/04)
M e tro p o lita n C o m m u n ity C h u rc h o f th e
G e n tle S h e p h e rd in Vancouver welcomes you
(10:30 am and 6 30 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday
Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Hamet
Barshofsky 360-695 1480 ) (7/04)
M ic h a e l S e rv itu s U n ita ria n U n iv e rs a lis t
F ello w s h ip a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home
fa the liberal religious spirit (9 30 and 11:15am Sunday
4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360695-1891.)(7/05)
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
F irs t C o n g re g a tio n a l C h u rc h . United Church of
C hrist is an open and affirm ing congregation offenng
w a sh ip and church school Child care provided and
wheelchair accessible (9 30 am Sunday learning hour.
10 30 am worship. 700 Manon S t NE. Salem
503-363-3660)(7/04)
M e tro p o lita n C om m unity C hu rch Tw o R ivers is a
Christian church with pnmary outreach m the sexual mmon-
ties community (630 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St . Eugene)
(7/04)
Washington: Youth
T r ip le
Point offers education, support end advocacy
to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in
Vancouver, W esh M eets every Tuesday m the base
(68pm. 1112 Columbia St
John 3 6 0 6 9 9 1 3 2 5 m m
ment o f Youth House.
(McMy 503-260-5792.
Gay. Lesbian and Straight Education
Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each mem
support in the community and the school systems, w th
A b u n d an t L ife C e n te r is A Community fa Spintual
mdly@pndepmiect.org.) (7 /0 4 )
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center
CSMYRC) offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian,
identity/expresaon
Central Oregon: Spirituality
Washington: Spirituality
F la v o rs , a social support group f a sexual m inority
ed, regardless o f sexual orientation
Z io n U n ite d C h u rc h o f C h ris t an open and
affirm ing congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans
and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a
Christ-centered, warm, caring, m ultiage/race/cultural
faith community ( I I am Sunday ¡10:30 am summer1.
2025 NE 23rd A v e . Gresham 503-665-8741.) (7/05)
S e v e n th -D a y A d v e n tis t K in s h ip is a support orgam
zation fa queer people, their families and fnends (PO Box
7320. Laguna Nig'jel. CA 92607-7320 866732-5677.
office@sdakinshiporg www sdakmship org.) (7/04)
Metro: Youth
The
W y 'e a s t U n ita ria n U n iv e rs a lis t C o n g re g a tio n
is an open and liberal religious community offering
intergenerational services and religious education for
youth and adults We welcome gay. lesbian, bi and
trans members and nurture spiritual growth living by
Unitanan Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday
3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704
www. wyeast pnwd uua o r g ) (7/0 5 )
U n ite d C h u rc h o f C h ris t C o n g re g a tio n a l is an open
and affirming congregation in The Dalles. (9:20 am adult
Sunday school. 10:30 am worship 19:30 am summerI
I I I EFifth St. 541-296-2909 ucccongl@netcnctnet
wwwformmistrycom/usorucofcucocc) (7/05)
younger than
(10 am~6 pm
Monday-Friday. 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503-535-3800
www.outsldein.org.) (7 /0 5 )
(Kristy 503-228-3882
mJnqueet@irnfmnfy.org) (7 /0 4 )
W a v e riy H e ig h ts U n ite d C h u rc h o f C h ris t >s
open and affirm ing with w aship, children's school and
child care (10 am summer. 11 am school year.
3300 SE Woodward St. 503-238-1337
pastor@waverfyucc org www waverfyucc org.) (7/0 5 )
potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new
moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual
growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am
Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave
(503-235-0826 otter@pcez.com.) (T105)
23 N eed volunteers o f all ages
Brother.
U n iv e rs ity P a rk U n ite d M e th o d is t C h u rc h
believes in giving to the community, caring fo r one
another and making a difference one person at a time
Come celebrate God's diversity with us! (10 am
Sunday 4775 N Lombard St. The Rev Jeannie
Knepper 503-289 7843) (7/04)
P o rtla n d R a d ic a l F a e rie s meet twice a month with
and younger and f a those H IV ♦ and
YOUTH
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K o in o n ia C a th o lic C o m m u n ity is a progressive,
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Tmugondor and Questioning
Youth Group f a ages 13 to 18 offers support « fo r
mation and fun in Eugene Free, confidential, a d u lt-fait-
(Drop « 4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community
Center. 2700 («yard St 541684-3466 )0 /0 4 )
tated.
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth
Group for ages 25 and younger m eets every Monday
«E u g en e (5 pm Komoma Center, 1414 Kincaid S t
541-346-1134.) ( 7 /0 4 )
Out V About Youth meet every Thursday in Corvalfo
(7pm. 1165 Monroe Ave 541-754-3906.) (7/04)
Rainbow Youth is a safe confidential support group
f a young gay men, lesbians, bisexuals transgender.
(68 pm Wednesday
690 State S t www selemrambarvyouth org.) (7 /0 4 )
questioning « id friends « Salem
outreach listings to:
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D ear T wo M om s :
Sperm banks typically have hun
dreds of donors from which to
choose, so if you decide not to share
your donor’s identifying information
with Sheila, she could easily pick
another charming candidate. There
are plenty of other spermatozoa in
the fertility sea.
Sharing a sperm donor is an inti
mate matter and may involve more
contact with Sheila
than you want. If
she uses your donor
and has a hahy, your
kids will he biologi
cally related, which
for whatever reason
sounds like a closer
connection than
you’d like to have
with Sheila.
O f course, if
Sheila finds out
where you got the
spooge, she may still
ltxik carefully
through the hxik of
donors and try to
chtxise the same
donor you used.
However, since you
last enlisted your
donor’s services five
years ago, there’s a
gtxxl chance that
his stud days are over. Many sperm
hanks regulate the number of spawn
each donor dude can pnxluce. Often,
after 10 reported births, the sperm
daddy is pur into retirement. (The
reasons for this are fairly obvious; if
any individual fathered hundreds of
babies, it would increase the likeli-
hcxxl that his offspring would end up
randomly meeting and repnxlucing
with one another.)
Don’t worry about being selfish; it
sounds like you’re legitimately con
cerned about keeping certain bound
aries in your friendship with Sheila.
You can he a generous
person and still not
want to share such a
cozy connection. Even
if you were OK with
lending a friend your
sweater or your car, you
might draw the line at
say, a toothbrush, a
girlfriend or some
sperm.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I’m at the beach
every day this summer.
There’s a lifeguard who
checks me out all the
time. The guy is very hot.
T he problem is when I go over
to talk to him, he has a hundred
excuses for why he has to go and do
other things and can ’t hang out
with me. W hen I go hack to lie
down on my towel with my buddies,
there he is, staring at me all over
again.
I don’t know if he’s shy or what.
The beach is mostly gay, so I don’t
think homophobia is the problem.
My friends say to take a hint. They
try to distract me from thinking about
him. But he’s got eyes for me. 1 can
see it.
— Dormy
D ear D onny :
Hello? Your lifeguard is saving
Queer America
from drowning. He’s
protecting you and
your brothers and
sisters from the
wrath of the sea. If
Mr. Hot Lifeguard
really does gaze in
your direction, it’s
probably not to
admire your dim
ples, your muscula
ture or your basket.
He stares because:
A ) he’s interested
in your obsession
with him even
though he doesn't
want you, or B) you
freak him out and
he worries that
you’re a stalker
about to boil his
bunny.
Your friends
telling you to “take a hint” is enough
pnxif that he doesn’t return your
interest. Whatever you do, please
don’t consider staging a drowning
incident.
Sheila has been
pushing us to
give her the
name of our
sperm
and our donor’s
identification
number so that
she can request
the same
donor...
but we feel
squeamish
about sharing
in
© Meryl Cohn 2004
M eryl C ohn is the author of
Do W hat I Say: Ms. Behavior’s
G uide to G ay and Lesbian Etiquette
( Hought!m Mifflin). Signed copies are
available directly from the author. Send
questions or correspondence to
mshchavurr@aol. com.