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lune 18. 2004 - j l I S t O Ut 41 ADVICE ------------ T ------------ SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi racial, multicultural, open and affirming church. Sunday worship is at 10 am; church school for children runs concurrently (2941 N E Ainsworth St 503-284-8767 aucc@teteport.com) (7/04) Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A wel Trinity United Methodist Church is for all people coming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical w ho seek the grace of G o d and desire to work for in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 N E 76th Ave peace and justice Child care available (1 0 3 0 am 503-6990473 wwwkoinoniacommunityorg ) (7/04) Sunday 3915 S E Steele St 503-777-3901.)(7 /04) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom University Park United Methodist Church ing and reconciling (1 Oam Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360 42 5-492 7) (7/04) believes in giving to the community, caring for one Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a “house church” that bnngs gay and Sunday 4775 N Lombard St The Bev Jeanme Knepper 503-289-7843 ) (7/04) evening worship (503-281-3697. Waverly Heights United Church of Christ is 503-281-0722.) (7/04) www tearsoup com/metanoia.) (7/04) open and affirming with worship, children's school and Bridgeport United Church of Christ >s a com m u Metropolitan Community Church of Portland nity of progressive, political people explonng and cele brating the Chnstian faith W e are sexual mmonty and holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children the 11 am service. (2400 N E Broadway 503-281-8868 is an open and liberal religious community offering inter- are valued members. (10 30 am Sunday 621 N E 76th Ave 503-258-0992 wwwbridgeportucc o rg ) (7/04) mfo@mccportlandcom wwwm ccportlandcom .) (7/04) generational services and religious education for youth Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers City Church Portland's "oldest gay-affirming several weekly gathenngs Everyone welcome! (10 am Christian church,” offers a spint-driven church for Sunday. 7 3 0 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 3 0 pm W ednesday meditation. 2025 S E Yamhill St. 503-232-8064 www mchiren-shu org/portland) (7/04) today's diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service. 6:30 pm Sunday worship service 3830 S E 62nd Ave. 503-775-5024 ) (7/04) Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, congregation. (1 1 am Sunday 12727 S E Market St egalitarian, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland 503-254-6380) (7/04) M eets several times a month at Portland State University Cam pus Ministries. (PO Box 42187. Portland. O B 97242-0187 503-248-4500 www.pnaiorpdx o rg) (7/04) m Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center childcare (10 am Sunday 3300 S E Woodward St 503-238-1337 www wavertyucc.org.) (7/04) and adults W e welcome gay. lesbian, bi and trans members and nurture spintual growth living by Unitarian Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 S E Steele St. 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org.) (7/04) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people w ho wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, canng. multiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 N E 23rd A v e , Gresham 503-665-8741) (7/04) for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all- inclusive spntual philosophy similar to 12-step. Unity and Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Su n day service and children’s religious education. (10.30 am Sunday 1133 N E 181st Ave . Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose@teleport.com www eastrose org.) (7/04) Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies avail able (503-7776727 wwwportlandcenterorg) (7/04) matenals to help you leam about the Divine Spint in today's world. (10 am Sunday 7904 S E Mitwaukie Ave 503-233-1595 www eckankar org.) (7/04) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community of Christians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God. Sunday worship at 10; 15 am; Adult Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am. W ednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm (27400 S E Stark St 503-661-4520) (7/04) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth, community and social justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 S W 12th Ave 503-228-6389 www firstumtananportland org ) (7/04) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with United Church of Christ Congregational > an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles (9 20 am growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse, 201 S E 12th Ave Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirming M a s s fol lowed by a social. (7.30 pm Friday. Paulist Center. 2408 S E 16th Ave. 503-231-4955) ( 7/04) zation for queer people, their families and fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607-7320. 866732-5677. office@sdakinship org www sdakmship org.) (7/04) Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spiritual awakening and transforming lives through love SisterSpirit offers w om en's spmtuality celebrations, A safe place where children leam to embody spiritual prin ciples (10 am Sunday 10006 N E Ninth A v e . Vancouver classe s Schedule of events available All wom en are The Bev Kathleen Verigin 360-573-2626 ) (7/04) welcome (Suite 102. 3430 S E Belmont S t Mailing address: P O Box 9246. Portland. O B 97207. 503-736-3297 sistersp@teleport.com.) (7/04) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active member of the Community of W elcoming Congregations. Sunday school and nursery care ages and interests (9-9 30 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday community worship service. 12250 S W Denney Boad. Beaverton. 503644-2073. staff@southmm com. www southmm co m ) (7/04) Gay Men's Labyrinth Project meets quarterly for St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am (www.gaytabyrinth.com.) (7/04) Sunday 806 N E Alberta St. 503-281 4429 ) (7/04) Integrity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in and friends Various locations throughout O regon Christ congregation, w elcom es all people for traditional, (Bruce 503-286-9111. bmcepdxor@attbi com. www.integntyusa org.) (7/04) liturgical worship where we expenence G o d 's reconcil Interfaith Spiritual Center h o u se s spiritual direc Washington: Spirituality discussion groups, a drumming circle, w orkshops and a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labyrinth tors from various world religious traditions, w ho are adult Sunday school. 10.30 am Sunday worship 111 EFifth St 541 296-2909 ucccongl@netcnct net www forministry.com/usorucofcucocc.) (7/04) (503-235-0826 otter@pcer.com.) (7/04) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support organi C lasses, community service activities and events for all Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of S t Philip Central Oregon: Spirituality potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon O pen to all men seeking alternative spiritual Eckankar— Religion of the Light and Sound of God holds worship services and maintains a library of ing love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd. 360-693-4761) (7/04) First Congregational Church United Church of Christ, holds services in an open and affirming congre gation (10 am Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult educa tion 122 0 N E 68th S t . Vancouver 360-693-1476 vanucc@aol com.) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver w elcom es you (10 3 0 am and 6 30 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study. 2200 Broadway The Bev Hamet Barshofsky 360-695 1480 ) (7/04) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spirit (9 30 and 11:15am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360695-1891) (7/04) 1315 S W Park Ave 503-227-2439 www stjameslutheranportland. org.) (7/04) Willamette Valley: Spirituality available for guidance, classe s and retreats. (Second SL Stephen's Episcopal Church has been weicom- Floor. 3910 S E 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext. 3 www interfaithspiritualcenter.com) (7/04) ing all people since 1863 (1210 pm Wednesday and 7 45 First Congregational Church United Church of and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1 4 3 2 SW 13th Ave 503 2 2 3 6 4 2 4 )( 7/04) Christ is an open and affirming congregation offering Keshet Portland is a potluck group for Jew ish mem bers of the sexual mmonties community and their part ners, sp o u se s and supporters. Its purpose is to help build bridges with the larger Jew ish community Monthly social, religious and cultural events. (David or Laney 503 226-7079. ext 14.) (7/04) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors, a 80ciai support group for sexual minonty youth of color 21 and younger, meets on weekends for food and soclafcang. ffeguter events and activities. Flavors is a project of Love M a ke s a Family's M dtiQ ueer program and is supported by Brother to Brother (Kristy 503-228-3892 muitiqueer@lmfamiy org.)<7/04) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN ) fights to end anti-gay bias in K -1 2 schools. (Suite 180, 12700 SW North Dakota St »129. Tigard. OB 97223 503 525-1177. gisen@glsenoregon.org. wWiAgfeenoregori.org) (7/04) The M u l t i Q u e e r a program of Love M a k e s a Family, provides advocacy to sexual minority youth Offers resource« and support in the community and the school system s, with a focus on support for queer and questioning youth of color (Kristy 503228-3892 multiqueer@1mfomily org.1 (7/04) Trinity Episcopal Cathedral, a welcoming and affirming congregation, invites all to worship services and ongoing programs in spiritual development, com munity outreach, music and arts education (8 am Sunday Bite I chapel service. 10 am Sunday Bite II cathedral service 147 N W 19th Ave 503-222 9 8 1 1. www tnnity-episcopal.org) (7/04) 10 3 0 am worship 700 Manon St NE, Salem. 503-363-3660) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a Chnstian church with pnmary outreach in the sexual minorities community (6 3 0 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St.. Eugene.) (7/04) Washington: Youth HealthCera. offers support » id recreation to gey, lesben. Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy b and trans youth 23 end younger Offers drop-in comput to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in er access, pool tables » id an informal place to hang out Vancouver, W a sh M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base Weekly support meetings includes Trans Youth Group and ment of Youth House, 1112 Columbia St. tn Vancouver. the creative group Personal Deity Proxy. (4 6 pm Monday (John 3 6 0 6 9 5 1325 ) (7/04) and Wednesday. 4 pm-mdmght Friday and Saturday 2100 S E Belmont St. 503-8729664 TTY 503-231-9286 www smyrc org ) Other pro yam s include: Clackamas tioning youth ages 23 and younger to get together for free, ton and supportive social activities Offers one-on- Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Q uestioning Youth Group for a g e s 13 to 18 one support, referrals and information on H IV and S T D offers support, information and fun in Euge ne Free, prevention and resources for adults who work with queer confidential, adult-facrhtated (Drop In 4 6 pm Friday. and questioning youth (503-969-0060 cosmycyouth@yahoo com. ) Pride Project bnngs togeth er Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and »tend monthly social events A lso information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County (Moty 503260-5792 mo4y@pndeproiect.org) (7/04) Am azon Community Center. 27 00 Hiiyard St. 5 4 1-684-3466 ) ( 7/04) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ag e s 25 and younger meets every M onday in Eugene (5 pm Komonm Center. 1414 Kincaid St. 541-34611340(7/04) Out V About Youth meet every Thursday in Corvafes. Outside In operates a cbwc for anyone who can t qualify for the Oregon Health, Plan as w el as n eede exchange worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 3 0 am Sunday learning hour. Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SM YRC) a program of Cescadia Behavioral County Sexual Minority Youth Connection (CO SM YC) provides opportunities for queer and ques (7pm 1165 Monroe Ave 541-754-3906) (7/04) services that include those who nject hormones. Can pro Eastern Oregon: Youth vide transitional h o s in g for youtfi 20 and younger as we# Eastern Oregon Center for Independent Living group for yo u n g gay men lesbians, bisexuals, as for those H V * and younger than 23 Needs volunteers offers support and advocacy to gay, lesbian bi. trans and transgender, questioning and friends (6-8 pm questioning youth in Eastern O regon (541 889-3119 or W ednesday. M icha Building. 69 0 State S t . Salem www salemrambowyouth org.) (7/04) of af ages. (10am6pmMonday-Fnday 1 I 3 2 S W I M Ave. 503535-3800 www outsideln org ) (7/04) 8 6 6 2 4 8 6 3 6 9 eodO eocil org w w w to o lo rg) (7/04) Rainbow Youth is a safe, confidential support outreach listings to: Send your just out attn Calendar) Why are Internet relationships so damn intense? C o m e celebrate G o d 's diversity with us! (10 am Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Christian meditation and prayer (7 3 0 pm Thursday straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday Cutting the cord another and making a difference one person at a time • PO Box 14400 • Portland OR 97293-0400 Fax submissions to 503-236-1257 or e-mail justout@ justout.com Submissions cannot be accepted over the phone • Please type your announcements and include full contact information I D e a r M s . B e h a v io r : Recently 1 met a nice woman through an Internet forum. We started exchanging I e-mails regarding every thing from politics to lit erature to the deteriora tion of pop music. We ! clicked on an intellectu al level and decided to talk on the phone and j exchange pictures. I never promised anything. Because of my crazy work schedule and a relative who needs my care, 1 am not in a position to he in a romantic relationship, especially a long-distance one. She said she understixxl, hut whenever I can’t e-mail or call her or if 1 remind her that I am not ready for anything more than friendship, she gets insecure and e-mails me four or five times a day. She is bipolar and tried to commit suicide when she was younger. I am terrified that if 1 just cut all ties, she will do something to hurt herself. I don’t want to hurt her, hut we’ve known each other less than a month, and she’s talking about love and the future. 1 can’t sleep at night for fear that I’ve done something horrible and will he even more horrible if I back away from this. What do I do? — Worried to he attractive to men. But I can’t find a new love interest with a woman. I like women who are smart, aggressive, settled and funny and who love children. My last girl friend fir only two out of my five preferences. A big hindrance is that all of my current friends are straight, so I go to a lot of straight clubs and get-togethers. I never get a chance to he around people like me, and I really don’t like going out by myself. And, since I am a feminine lesbian, other lesbians don’t approach me. I guess I look straight, or maybe lesbians just don’t like thick women. (Just joking!) I need to know how to meet peo ple— if not on a romantic level then maybe just new friendships. How do I find someone to go out with? What are the ways to find people who spark my interest or are interested in me? I’m not unhappy; I have a nice job, a terrific son, good straight friends and a great attitude. —Alone far the Moment D ear A lone for the M oment : You sound confident, intelligent and attractive— an overall good catch. A “thick” woman can he allur ing to some dykes (hut you’d never know it hy watching those skinny D ear W orried : women on The L Ward.) Online relationships develop It’s true that hanging out in rapidly and intensely. Writing to each straight bars and with straight friends other every day, sharing thoughts and won’t help in your search for an inti exchanging photos tends to foster a mate lesbian relationship. Your talents feeling of intimacy that wouldn’t are being wasted on the wrong progress so quickly in any other con marketplace. (Ms. Behavior believes text. So, even if you say you’re not in ’ thar yours is the exact situation that a position to he in a romantic rela first inspired the expression “a snow tionship, your actions may inadver ball’s chance in hell.”) ; tently say otherwise. Check out some personal ad Web You can’t save your friend from sites and see who lix>ks gtxxJ to you. her insecurity or her bipolar illness, Write a snappy ad about yourself and hut you can suggest that she seek post it on a few sites, too. You might therapy if she’s in emotional pain. If try LeshianPersonalsOiline.com, you need to back away from the rela PlaneKYut.com, CurveMagazine.com tionship, do so slowly and steadily, and Leshotronic.com. while making sure not to give mixed A Gixigle search for lesbian per messages. sonals will give you more ideas about Continue to remind her that you where to advertise. Romantic rela can’t offer more than a limited friend tionships aren’t your only option; ship. Treat her with compassion and some personals sites include options kindness, without pretending to he for pen pals and friends. more available than you are. Check your kxal queer paper for ads Encourage her to get the help she about social networks for lesbian moms, needs, whether professional or and place an ad if you can’t find one. through other friends. Search the classifieds for other social If you continue hi stay up worrying groups that interest you: You might find about this, you may he more invested a lesbian kxik circle or a sporty gaggle than you think. Sometimes people in of dykes who like to climb things for no a caretaking situation transfer their apparent reason. j n feelings of worry from the person they’re caring for to any other avail © Meryl Cohn 2004 able person or situation. You may need a caretaker’s support group. M eryl C l tun is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay D ear M s . B ehavior : and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghttm I am a single, black, 24-year-old les Mifflin). Signed copies arc available bian living with my 2-year-old son. I’m directly from the author. 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