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SPIRITUALITY
Metro: Spirituality
Ainsworth United Church of Christ
is a multi
racial, multicultural, open and affirming church. Sunday
worship is at 10 am; church school for children runs
concurrently (2941 N E Ainsworth St 503-284-8767
aucc@teteport.com) (7/04)
Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A wel
Trinity United Methodist Church is for all people
coming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical
w ho seek the grace of G o d and desire to work for
in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 N E 76th Ave
peace and justice Child care available (1 0 3 0 am
503-6990473 wwwkoinoniacommunityorg ) (7/04)
Sunday 3915 S E Steele St 503-777-3901.)(7 /04)
Longview United Methodist Church is welcom
University Park United Methodist Church
ing and reconciling (1 Oam Sunday 2851 30th Ave
360 42 5-492 7) (7/04)
believes in giving to the community, caring for one
Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist
Church is a “house church” that bnngs gay and
Sunday 4775 N Lombard St The Bev Jeanme
Knepper 503-289-7843 ) (7/04)
evening worship (503-281-3697.
Waverly Heights United Church of Christ is
503-281-0722.) (7/04)
www tearsoup com/metanoia.) (7/04)
open and affirming with worship, children's school and
Bridgeport United Church of Christ >s a com m u
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
nity of progressive, political people explonng and cele
brating the Chnstian faith W e are sexual mmonty and
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng
Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation
straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children
the 11 am service. (2400 N E Broadway 503-281-8868
is an open and liberal religious community offering inter-
are valued members. (10 30 am Sunday 621 N E 76th
Ave 503-258-0992 wwwbridgeportucc o rg ) (7/04)
mfo@mccportlandcom wwwm ccportlandcom .) (7/04)
generational services and religious education for youth
Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers
City Church Portland's "oldest gay-affirming
several weekly gathenngs Everyone welcome! (10 am
Christian church,” offers a spint-driven church for
Sunday. 7 3 0 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 3 0 pm
W ednesday meditation. 2025 S E Yamhill St.
503-232-8064 www mchiren-shu org/portland) (7/04)
today's diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu
nion and worship service. 6:30 pm Sunday worship
service 3830 S E 62nd Ave. 503-775-5024 ) (7/04)
Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming
Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant,
congregation. (1 1 am Sunday 12727 S E Market St
egalitarian, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland
503-254-6380) (7/04)
M eets several times a month at Portland State University
Cam pus Ministries. (PO Box 42187. Portland. O B
97242-0187 503-248-4500 www.pnaiorpdx o rg) (7/04)
m
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center
childcare (10 am Sunday 3300 S E Woodward St
503-238-1337 www wavertyucc.org.) (7/04)
and adults W e welcome gay. lesbian, bi and trans
members and nurture spintual growth living by Unitarian
Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 S E Steele
St. 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org.) (7/04)
Zion United Church of Christ an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans
and heterosexual people w ho wish to worship in a
Christ-centered, warm, canng. multiage/race/cultural
faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 N E 23rd A v e ,
Gresham 503-665-8741) (7/04)
for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all-
inclusive spntual philosophy similar to 12-step. Unity and
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a
welcoming congregation, offers Su n day service and
children’s religious education. (10.30 am Sunday
1133 N E 181st Ave . Gresham 503-665-2628
eastrose@teleport.com www eastrose org.) (7/04)
Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies avail
able (503-7776727 wwwportlandcenterorg) (7/04)
matenals to help you leam about the Divine Spint in
today's world. (10 am Sunday 7904 S E Mitwaukie Ave
503-233-1595 www eckankar org.) (7/04)
Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming
community of Christians in Troutdale that values and
encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in
the family of God. Sunday worship at 10; 15 am; Adult
Education at 9 am; children and youth at 10:30 am.
W ednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm (27400 S E Stark St
503-661-4520) (7/04)
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and
affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of
programs to nurture spiritual growth, community and social
justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 S W 12th Ave
503-228-6389 www firstumtananportland org ) (7/04)
Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with
United Church of Christ Congregational > an
open and affirming congregation in The Dalles (9 20 am
growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am
Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse, 201 S E 12th Ave
Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirming M a s s fol
lowed by a social. (7.30 pm Friday. Paulist Center.
2408 S E 16th Ave. 503-231-4955) ( 7/04)
zation for queer people, their families and fnends (PO Box
7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607-7320. 866732-5677.
office@sdakinship org www sdakmship org.) (7/04)
Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community
for spiritual awakening and transforming lives through love
SisterSpirit offers w om en's spmtuality celebrations,
A safe place where children leam to embody spiritual prin
ciples (10 am Sunday 10006 N E Ninth A v e . Vancouver
classe s Schedule of events available All wom en are
The Bev Kathleen Verigin 360-573-2626 ) (7/04)
welcome (Suite 102. 3430 S E Belmont S t Mailing
address: P O Box 9246. Portland. O B 97207.
503-736-3297 sistersp@teleport.com.) (7/04)
Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active
member of the Community of W elcoming
Congregations. Sunday school and nursery care
ages and interests (9-9 30 am Sunday chapel service.
10 am Sunday community worship service. 12250 S W
Denney Boad. Beaverton. 503644-2073.
staff@southmm com. www southmm co m ) (7/04)
Gay Men's Labyrinth Project meets quarterly for
St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a
diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am
(www.gaytabyrinth.com.) (7/04)
Sunday 806 N E Alberta St. 503-281 4429 ) (7/04)
Integrity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians
St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in
and friends Various locations throughout O regon
Christ congregation, w elcom es all people for traditional,
(Bruce 503-286-9111. bmcepdxor@attbi com.
www.integntyusa org.) (7/04)
liturgical worship where we expenence G o d 's reconcil
Interfaith Spiritual Center h o u se s spiritual direc
Washington: Spirituality
discussion groups, a drumming circle, w orkshops and
a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labyrinth
tors from various world religious traditions, w ho are
adult Sunday school. 10.30 am Sunday worship
111 EFifth St 541 296-2909 ucccongl@netcnct net
www forministry.com/usorucofcucocc.) (7/04)
(503-235-0826 otter@pcer.com.) (7/04)
Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support organi
C lasses, community service activities and events for all
Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of S t Philip
Central Oregon: Spirituality
potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new
moon O pen to all men seeking alternative spiritual
Eckankar— Religion of the Light and Sound of
God holds worship services and maintains a library of
ing love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday
East Vancouver United Methodist Church is
reconciling and welcoming (10 am Sunday
5701 MacArthur Blvd. 360-693-4761) (7/04)
First Congregational Church United Church of
Christ, holds services in an open and affirming congre
gation (10 am Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult educa
tion 122 0 N E 68th S t . Vancouver 360-693-1476
vanucc@aol com.) (7/04)
Metropolitan Community Church of the
Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver w elcom es you
(10 3 0 am and 6 30 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday
Bible study. 2200 Broadway The Bev Hamet
Barshofsky 360-695 1480 ) (7/04)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home
for the liberal religious spirit (9 30 and 11:15am Sunday
4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360695-1891) (7/04)
1315 S W Park Ave 503-227-2439
www stjameslutheranportland. org.) (7/04)
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
available for guidance, classe s and retreats. (Second
SL Stephen's Episcopal Church has been weicom-
Floor. 3910 S E 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext. 3
www interfaithspiritualcenter.com) (7/04)
ing all people since 1863 (1210 pm Wednesday and 7 45
First Congregational Church United Church of
and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at
10 am 1 4 3 2 SW 13th Ave 503 2 2 3 6 4 2 4 )( 7/04)
Christ is an open and affirming congregation offering
Keshet Portland is a potluck group for Jew ish mem
bers of the sexual mmonties community and their part
ners, sp o u se s and supporters. Its purpose is to help
build bridges with the larger Jew ish community
Monthly social, religious and cultural events. (David or
Laney 503 226-7079. ext 14.) (7/04)
Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive,
small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate
YOUTH
Metro: Youth
Flavors, a 80ciai support group for sexual minonty
youth of color 21 and younger, meets on weekends for
food and soclafcang. ffeguter events and activities.
Flavors is a project of Love M a ke s a Family's M dtiQ ueer
program and is supported by Brother to Brother (Kristy
503-228-3892 muitiqueer@lmfamiy org.)<7/04)
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education
Network (GLSEN ) fights to end anti-gay bias in K -1 2
schools. (Suite 180, 12700 SW North Dakota St
»129. Tigard. OB 97223 503 525-1177.
gisen@glsenoregon.org. wWiAgfeenoregori.org) (7/04)
The
M u l t i Q u e e r a program of Love M a k e s a Family,
provides advocacy to sexual minority youth Offers
resource« and support in the community and the school
system s, with a focus on support for queer and
questioning youth of color
(Kristy 503228-3892
multiqueer@1mfomily org.1 (7/04)
Trinity Episcopal Cathedral, a welcoming and
affirming congregation, invites all to worship services
and ongoing programs in spiritual development, com
munity outreach, music and arts education (8 am
Sunday Bite I chapel service. 10 am Sunday Bite II
cathedral service 147 N W 19th Ave 503-222 9 8 1 1.
www tnnity-episcopal.org) (7/04)
10 3 0 am worship 700 Manon St NE, Salem.
503-363-3660) (7/04)
Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers
is a Chnstian church with pnmary outreach in the sexual
minorities community (6 3 0 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St..
Eugene.) (7/04)
Washington: Youth
HealthCera. offers support » id recreation to gey, lesben.
Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy
b and trans youth 23 end younger Offers drop-in comput
to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in
er access, pool tables » id an informal place to hang out
Vancouver, W a sh M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the base
Weekly support meetings includes Trans Youth Group and
ment of Youth House, 1112 Columbia St. tn Vancouver.
the creative group Personal Deity Proxy. (4 6 pm Monday
(John 3 6 0 6 9 5 1325 ) (7/04)
and Wednesday. 4 pm-mdmght Friday and Saturday
2100 S E Belmont St. 503-8729664 TTY 503-231-9286
www smyrc org ) Other pro yam s include: Clackamas
tioning youth ages 23 and younger to get together for
free, ton and supportive social activities Offers one-on-
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and
Q uestioning Youth Group for a g e s 13 to 18
one support, referrals and information on H IV and S T D
offers support, information and fun in Euge ne Free,
prevention and resources for adults who work with queer
confidential, adult-facrhtated (Drop In 4 6 pm Friday.
and questioning youth (503-969-0060
cosmycyouth@yahoo com. ) Pride Project bnngs togeth
er Washington County queer and questioning youth to
plan and »tend monthly social events A lso information,
referral and advocacy services in Washington County
(Moty 503260-5792 mo4y@pndeproiect.org) (7/04)
Am azon Community Center. 27 00 Hiiyard St.
5 4 1-684-3466 ) ( 7/04)
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth
Group for ag e s 25 and younger meets every M onday
in Eugene (5 pm Komonm Center. 1414 Kincaid St.
541-34611340(7/04)
Out V About Youth meet every Thursday in Corvafes.
Outside In operates a cbwc for anyone who can t qualify
for the Oregon Health, Plan as w el as n eede exchange
worship and church school Child care provided and
wheelchair accessible (9 3 0 am Sunday learning hour.
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center
(SM YRC) a program of Cescadia Behavioral
County Sexual Minority Youth Connection
(CO SM YC) provides opportunities for queer and ques
(7pm 1165 Monroe Ave 541-754-3906) (7/04)
services that include those who nject hormones. Can pro
Eastern Oregon: Youth
vide transitional h o s in g for youtfi 20 and younger as we#
Eastern Oregon Center for Independent Living
group for yo u n g gay men lesbians, bisexuals,
as for those H V * and younger than 23 Needs volunteers
offers support and advocacy to gay, lesbian bi. trans and
transgender, questioning and friends (6-8 pm
questioning youth in Eastern O regon (541 889-3119 or
W ednesday. M icha Building. 69 0 State S t . Salem
www salemrambowyouth org.) (7/04)
of af ages.
(10am6pmMonday-Fnday 1 I 3 2 S W I M
Ave. 503535-3800 www outsideln org ) (7/04)
8 6 6 2 4 8 6 3 6 9 eodO eocil org w w w to o lo rg) (7/04)
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I D e a r
M s . B e h a v io r :
Recently 1 met a nice
woman through an
Internet forum. We
started exchanging
I e-mails regarding every
thing from politics to lit
erature to the deteriora
tion of pop music. We
! clicked on an intellectu
al level and decided to
talk on the phone and
j exchange pictures.
I never promised
anything. Because of my crazy work
schedule and a relative who needs my
care, 1 am not in a position to he in a
romantic relationship, especially a
long-distance one.
She said she understixxl, hut
whenever I can’t e-mail or call her or
if 1 remind her that I am not ready for
anything more than friendship, she
gets insecure and e-mails me four or
five times a day. She is bipolar and
tried to commit suicide when she was
younger. I am terrified that if 1 just
cut all ties, she will do something to
hurt herself.
I don’t want to hurt her, hut we’ve
known each other less than a month,
and she’s talking about love and the
future. 1 can’t sleep at night for fear
that I’ve done something horrible and
will he even more horrible if I back
away from this. What do I do?
— Worried
to he attractive to men.
But I can’t find a new love
interest with a woman.
I like women who are
smart, aggressive, settled
and funny and who love
children. My last girl
friend fir only two out of
my five preferences.
A big hindrance is
that all of my current
friends are straight, so
I go to a lot of straight
clubs and get-togethers.
I never get a chance to he around
people like me, and I really don’t like
going out by myself. And, since I am
a feminine lesbian, other lesbians
don’t approach me. I guess I look
straight, or maybe lesbians just don’t
like thick women. (Just joking!)
I need to know how to meet peo
ple— if not on a romantic level then
maybe just new friendships. How do
I find someone to go out with? What
are the ways to find people who spark
my interest or are interested in me?
I’m not unhappy; I have a nice
job, a terrific son, good straight
friends and a great attitude.
—Alone far the Moment
D ear A lone for the M oment :
You sound confident, intelligent
and attractive— an overall good
catch. A “thick” woman can he allur
ing to some dykes (hut you’d never
know it hy watching those skinny
D ear W orried :
women on The L Ward.)
Online relationships develop
It’s true that hanging out in
rapidly and intensely. Writing to each
straight bars and with straight friends
other every day, sharing thoughts and
won’t help in your search for an inti
exchanging photos tends to foster a
mate lesbian relationship. Your talents
feeling of intimacy that wouldn’t
are being wasted on the wrong
progress so quickly in any other con
marketplace. (Ms. Behavior believes
text. So, even if you say you’re not in ’ thar yours is the exact situation that
a position to he in a romantic rela
first inspired the expression “a snow
tionship,
your
actions
may
inadver
ball’s chance in hell.”)
;
tently say otherwise.
Check out some personal ad Web
You can’t save your friend from
sites and see who lix>ks gtxxJ to you.
her insecurity or her bipolar illness,
Write a snappy ad about yourself and
hut you can suggest that she seek
post it on a few sites, too. You might
therapy if she’s in emotional pain. If
try LeshianPersonalsOiline.com,
you need to back away from the rela
PlaneKYut.com, CurveMagazine.com
tionship, do so slowly and steadily,
and Leshotronic.com.
while making sure not to give mixed
A Gixigle search for lesbian per
messages.
sonals will give you more ideas about
Continue to remind her that you
where to advertise. Romantic rela
can’t offer more than a limited friend
tionships aren’t your only option;
ship. Treat her with compassion and
some personals sites include options
kindness, without pretending to he
for pen pals and friends.
more available than you are.
Check your kxal queer paper for ads
Encourage her to get the help she
about social networks for lesbian moms,
needs, whether professional or
and place an ad if you can’t find one.
through other friends.
Search the classifieds for other social
If you continue hi stay up worrying groups that interest you: You might find
about this, you may he more invested
a lesbian kxik circle or a sporty gaggle
than you think. Sometimes people in
of dykes who like to climb things for no
a caretaking situation transfer their
apparent reason. j n
feelings of worry from the person
they’re caring for to any other avail
© Meryl Cohn 2004
able person or situation. You may
need a caretaker’s support group.
M eryl C l tun is the author of Do What
I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay
D ear M s . B ehavior :
and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghttm
I am a single, black, 24-year-old les
Mifflin). Signed copies arc available
bian living with my 2-year-old son. I’m
directly from the author. Send questions or
thick, I have a pretty face, anti I seem
orrre.sprmdenee to mshchatvrr<G)aol.com.