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le M ia r y f i. 2 004 ADVICE mMm. MsM m i m m u* .....................▼ ..................... SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of C hrist is a multiracial, multicultural, open and affirming church Sunday worship is at 10 am. church school for children runs concurrently (294 1 NE Ainsworth St 503-284-8767 aucc@ teleport co m ) (7/04) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503281 -0722) (7/04) Bridgeport United Church of C hrist is a com munity of progressive, political people explonng and celebrating the Chnstian faith. We are sexual mlnonty and straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our chil dren are valued members. (1 0 3 0 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992 www bndgeportucc o rg ) (7/04) The City Church Portlands "oldest gay-affirming Chnstian church." offers a spint driven church for today s diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu nion and worship service, 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship service 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-5024 7(7/04) Congregation P.'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus Ministries. (PO Box 42187, Portland, OR 97242-0187. 503-248 4500 www pnaiorpdx o rg ) (7/04) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education (10:30 am Sunday. 1133 NE 181st A v e . Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose@ teleport.com www eastrose.org)(7704) Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive, University Park United Methodist Church small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bndgeport United Church of Chnst A wel- coming congregation. Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave. 503-699-0473 www koinomacommunity ora.) (7/04) believes in giving to the community, canng for one another and making a difference one person at a time Come celebrate God's diversity with us! (10 am Sunday 4775 N Lombard S t The Rev Jeanme Knepper 503-289-7843.) (7/04) Longview United Methodist Church is welcom ing and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360 4 2 5 -4 9 2 7 )( 7/04) Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that bnngs gay and straight together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503-281 3697. www tearsoup com /m etanoia.) (7/04) M etropolitan Com m unity C hurch of P ortland holds ecumenical Sunday morning w or ship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for chil dren is held dunng the 11 am service. (2400 NE Broadway. 503-281 8868 mfo@ mccportland com. www m ccportland com .) (7 /04) The Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers several weekly gathenngs. Everyone welcome1 (10 am Sunday. 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 30 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503-232 8064 www nichiren-shu.org/portland) (7/04) Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming congregation. ( I I am Sunday 12727 SE M arket St 503-254 6380 ) (7/04) Portland Center fo r Spiritual Growth is a center for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all-inclusive spintual philosophy similar to 12-step. Unity and Religious Science. (503-777-0727. www portlandcenter org.) (7/04) Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming community of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 10:15 am: Adult Education at 9 am: children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6-6:30 pm. (27400 SE Stark St. 503-661 -4 5 2 0 )0 /04) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon. Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave (503-235-0826 otter@ pcez com ) (7/04) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of programs to nurture spmtual growth, communi ty and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 503 228-6389 www firstumtananportland org .) (7/04) organization for queer people, their families and fnends. (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607-7320. 866-732-5677. office@sdakmship org www sdakmship o rg ) (7/04) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Neri Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol lowed by a social (7.30 pm Fnday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231-4955) (7/04) Gay Men's Labyrinth Project meets quarterly for a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labynnth (www gaylabynnth co m ) (7/04) Gay Men's S pirit Group is open to all men expen- enced or interested in alternative spintual practices such as New Age. shamanism, meditation, psychic/intuitive. energy work and healing. (503-230- 7949 ) (7/04) Integrity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians and fnends Vanous locations throughout Oregon (Bruce 503 286-9111. bmcepdxor@ attbi com. www mtegntyusa o rg ) (7/04) Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spintual direc tors from vanous wodd religious traditions, who are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor, 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3 www mterfaithspmtualcenter com .) (7/04) Keshet Portland is a potluck group for Jewish mem bers of the sexual minonties community and their part ners. spouses and supporters Its purpose is to help build bndges with the larger Jewish community Monthly social, religious and cultural events (David o r Laney 503-226-7079. ext. 14 7 (7/04) YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors, a social support group for sexual minority youth of color 21 8nd younger, meets on weekends for food and socializing Regular events and activities. Flavors is a project of Love Makes a Famrfy s MultiQueer program and is supported by Brother to Brother. (Jaye 503-228-3892 ¡aye@ lmfamly.org.) W 0 4 ) The Gay, Lasbian and S traight Education Natworii (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bras m K-12 schools. (12700 SW N orth Dakota St.. Suite 180. *129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177 glsen@ glsenoregonorg. www glsenoregon o rg ) (7/04) Mufti Queer a program of Love Makes a Family, provides advocacy to sexual minority youth. Offers resources and support in the community and the school systems, with a focus on support for queei and ques tioning youth of color (Jaye 5 0 3 22 8 3 8 9 2 iaye@lmfam4y.org.) (7/04) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones. Can provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as w ei as for those fW + and younger than 23. Needs volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www outsidein.org.) (7/04) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is an open and liberal religious community offenng mtergenerational services and religious education for youth and adults We welcome gay, lesbian, bi and trans members and nurture spiritual growth living by Umtanan Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua. org ) (7/04) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered, warm, canng, multiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A ve . Gresham 503 665 8 741 ) (7/04) Central Oregon: Spirituality United Church o f C hrist C ongregational is an open and affirming congregation in The Dalles (9 2 0 am adult Sunday school. 10.30 am Sunday worship I I I E F ifth S t 5 4 1 -296-2909 ucccongl@ netcnct. net. www form inistry.com /usorucofcucocc.) (7/04) Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spintual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children learn to embody spintual pnnciples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave.. Vancouver. The Rev Kathleen Vengm 360-573-2626.) (7/04) East Vancouver United Methodist Church is reconciling and welcoming. (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Btvd 360-693 4 7 6 1 7(7/04) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you. diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 3 0 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 281 4429.) (7/04) St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for traditional, liturgical worship where we experience God s reconcil ing love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 227-2439 www stjameslutheranportland o rg ) (7/04) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave 503-223 6424) (7/04) Sexual M in o rity Youth R esource Center, a program o f Cascadia Behavioral Healthcare, offers support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and bans youth 23 and younger. O ffers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out W eekly support meetings includes Trans Youth G roup and the creative group Personal Deity Proxy. (4-8 pm M onday and W ednesday. 4 pm m idnight Friday and Saturday. 2100 SE Belm ont S t 503-872-9664 TTY 503-231-9286 w ww sm yrc.o rg ) O ther programs include C lackam as C ounty Sexual M in o rity Youth C onnection (COS- M YC ) provides opportunities for queer and ques tioning youth ages 23 and younger to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities. Offers one-on-one support, referrals and information on HIV and STD prevention and resources for adults who work with queer and questioning youth. (503-969-0060 cosm ycyoutb@ yahoo.com .) P ride P ro je c t brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral and advoca cy services in Washington County. (M olly 503 260-5792. molly@p<1deproiect o rg ) (7/0 4 ) (10 30 am and 6 30 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360-695-1480) (7/04) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a home for the liberal religious spint. (9 3 0 and 1115 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360 695-1891.) (7/04) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessible (9 3 0 am Sunday learning hour. 10 30 am worship 700 Manon St NE, Salem 503 363 3660 7(7/04) MCC Two Rivers is a Chnstian church with pnmary outreach in the sexual minonties community (6 3 0 pm Sunday 1166 Oak St.. Eugene ) (7/04) bi, trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon (541 889-3119 o r 866-248 8369. eocil@ eoal org www eoctl org.) (7/04) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth in Vancouver, Wash. Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base ment of Youth House, 1112 Columbia S t m Vancouver (John 360-6951325) (7/04) Eastern Oregon Canter for Independent Living offers support and advocacy to gay, lesbian. Send your While doing laundry this week, l was surprised to discover a pair of extra- large 2(x)ist white boxer briefs. What was unusual is that my boyfriend and l are quite svelte. I don’t know which was more shocking— that he was cheating on me or that he is a chubby chas er. He claims to have purchased the wrong size in a shopping frenzy at Filene’s Basement. Can I trust him, or should l he indulging in extra sugar and fat? — Do These Briefs Make Me Look Fat? D ear D o T hese B riefs M ake M e L oo k F a t ?: It sounds like your boyfriend has finally surrendered to his cravings and is sleeping with a big hunky man who has a hit of a gut. For the health of your relationship, you might need to consider giving in to some of your desires, too, and mak ing some late-night runs to 7-Eleven for Ben & Jerry’s “Chubby Hubby.” In this way, you and your boyfriend can he bonded in your quest for pleasure and satiety, instead of your commit ment to diets and deprivation. First, it’s unlikely that a weight-obsessed, svelte man like you would “acci dentally” buy Big Boy underwear. It’s not like you brought home a medium pair— the fact that you went for extra-large sounds more like a crying-out-for- help from your un conscious that goes some thing like this: “Please save me from my shallow attachments to starvation and fashion, and let me find a big, hearty man who will sling my bony body over his shoulder and fuck me and stuff my face until I can fill out this pair of big, sexy underwear.” Ms. Behavior can’t help hut notice that both you and your boyfriend claimed to he doing the laundry when the errant pair o f underwear was discovered. This sug gests a deeper problem, perhaps one of merging, which might ultimately he resolved if you weren’t Kith Kine- thin, fashion-victim homos. Perhaps a good couple’s therapist might help you embrace your more pri mal desires instead of secreting them away (only to have them expressed in passive-aggressive purchases). D ear M s . B e h a v io r : My girlfriend’s ex Pat used to hang out with us a lot, which was a nuisance. Pat’s not a had person, hut My Kiyfriend is delusional, and I she’s needy and negative. need your help. I am obsessed with my weight and A year or so ago, Pat got involved the weight of other men. My favorite with Brenda, who’s a possessive pastime is to see how fat people got nightmare. The only benefit to Pat’s involvement with Brenda is that since last summer or over the course now she spends less time with us. of a couple of years. I take pride in the fact that I eat Their relationship is rocky now, carefully, and others always comment and Pat often asks our advice. Based with envy on how thin I am. There on Brenda’s psycho Khavior, I’d is nothing worse than a chubby man. ! ordinarily advise Pat to kick her to the curb. But I find myself holding Recently while on a shopping hack, because I know that if Pat extravaganza at Filene’s Basement I found a Valentino coat, which made becomes single again, she’ll spend a me ecstatic. I got so distracted by my lot more time with us, which I dread. find that I accidentally Kiught extra- j Is it unethical for me to withhold large 2(x)ist Kixer briefs instead of my opinion so that I’m spared a my usual size small. heavier dose of Pat’s company? When I got home and did the — Rock and Hard Place laundry, my Kiyfriend worried that I was having a sexual escapade with D ear R o c k a n d H a r d P la c e : another man because there was strange Ethics don’t really come into play underwear in our basket. I explained here. You’re not Pat’s therapist nor her mother, and it’s not your job to the scenario, hut he didn’t believe me. protect hen How can I convince my Kiyfriend that if I were to have a hot sexual If Brenda were truly abusive (as encounter, it would clearly he with opposed to just garden-variety psy someone who wears size small and cho), you might K ' more motivated that l am N O T a chubby chaser? to say what you think. But in this Our relationship is strained, and now case, if what’s at stake is Pat’s sanity vs. your own, withholding your opin he doesn’t trust me. ion seems OK. j n — Thin and Wearing a Fabulous Coat j © Meryl Cohn 2004 D ear M s . B e h a v io r : * Willamette Valley: Youth Gey. Lesbian, Bi, Transgander and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, informa tion and fun In Eugene Free, confidential, adult-facitated (Drop in 4-6 pm Fncby Amazon Community Center. 2700 hUyard St. 541684-3466 )0 /0 4 ) Lasbian, Gay, Bisexual. Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene (5 pm Komorua Center. 1414 Kincaid St 541-346-1134.) 0 104) Eastern Oregon: Youth D ear M s . B e h a v io r : Washington: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Christ, holds services in an open and affirming congregation (10 am Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult education 1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360-693 1476. vanucc@aol com.) (7/04) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a Is there a subliminal message in your new pair of underwear? Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503-238-1337 www wavertyucc org ) (7/04) S isterS pirit offers women's spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes. Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736-3297 sistersp@ teleport.com ) (7/04) member of the Community of Welcoming Congregations Sunday school and nursery care Classes, community service activities and events for all ages and interests. (9-9 3 0 am Sunday chapel serv ice. 10 am Sunday community worship service 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644 2073 staff@southmm com www southm m .com ) (7/04) A brief encounter Waverly Heights UCC is open and affirming with worship, children's school and child care (W arn Rainbow Youth is a safe, confidential support group for young gay men. lesbians, bisexuals, transgender, question ing and friends. (66 pm Wednesdays Mkha Baking. 690 State St . Salem www.salemfamixywyoutb.org ) (7/04) outreach listings to: just out (attn Calendar) • PO Box 14400 • Portland OR 97293 0400 Fax submissions to 5 0 3 -2 3 6 1 25 7 or e mai ju s to u t@ ju s to u t.c o m Submissions cannot be accepted over the phone • Please type your announcements and include full contact information D ear T h in a n d W F abu lo u s C o a t e ar in g a MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What If you’re indeed not engaging in extracurricular activities with a chuhster, deeper problems lurk beneath the fashionable fabric of your relationship. I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mtfflm). Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavior@anl com. 33
