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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Dec. 5, 2003)
ADVICE ................. ▼ ................... Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist Church is a "house church" that bnngs gay and straight SPIRITUALITY together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worship (503-281 3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia > (7/04) Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of Christ s a multiracial, multicultural, open and affirming church Sunday worship is at 10 am. church school for children runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth Si 503 284-8767 auccQteleport comJ (7/04) Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday 503 281-0722) (7/04) Bridgeport United Church of Christ s a community of progressive, political people exploring and celebrating the Chnstian faith. We are sexual minonty and straight, m ulti cultural and multiracial, and our children are valued mem bers (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992 www bndgeportucc o rg ) (7/04) The City Church Portland s "oldest gay-affirming Christian church," offers a spint-dnven church for today's diverse generations (10 am Sunday communion and wor ship service. 6 30 pm Sunday worship service 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503- 775-5024.) (7/04) Congregation P'nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant, egalitarian, Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland Meets several times a month at Portland State University Campus Mimstnes (PO Box 42187. Portland OR 97242-0187 503-248-4500 www pnatorpdx org ) (7/04) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist. a wel coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education (10 30 am Sunday 1133 NE 181st A v e . Gresham 503-665-2628 eastrose&teleport com www eastrose o rg ) (7/04) Faith United Methodist Church s a welcoming com munity of Chnstians in Troutdale that values and encourages all people in finding a place of belonging in the family of God Sunday worship at 1015 am; Adult Education at 9 am. children and youth at 10 30 am Wednesday Prayers 6-6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St 503 661-4520 ) 0 /0 4 ) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community offering a wide range of programs to nurture spintua! growth, community and social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave 503 228-6389 www hrstumtananportland org ) (7/04) Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass followed by a social (7 30 pm Friday Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231-4955) (7/04) Gay Men's Labyrinth Project meets quarterly for a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labynnth (Date 503-233-2026. ext 3 www mterfaithspintualcenter com.) (7/04) Integrity s a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians and fnends Vanous locations throughout Oregon (Bruce 503-286 9111 bnicepdxor@attbi com www mtegntyusa org.) (7/04) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am service (2400 NE Broadway 503-2818868 infoQmccportland com www mccportland co m ) (7/04) The Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland iffers several weekly gathenngs Everyone welcome* (10 am Sunday, 7 30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 3 0 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St 503-232-8064 www mchiren-shu.org/portland) (7/04) Northwest Two-Spirit Society of Portland .welcomes new members from the native LGBT (Two-Spmts) community to join our council and organize or attend monthly meetings (Amanda 503-869-0076 thesebraids§go co m ) (7/04) Peace Church of the Brethren a welcoming congregation (11am Sunday 12727 SE Market St 503-2546380) (7/04) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth ; a center for worship growth and leadership that adheres to an all-inclusive spintual philosophy similar to 12-step, Unity and Religious Science (503-777-0727 wwwportlandcenterorg)(7/04) Portland Radical Faeries ■ eet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12thAve (503-2350826 otter&pcez com ) (7/04) Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship - a support organiza tion for LGBT people, their families and fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 926077320 866-732-5677 office@sdahnship org www sdakmship o rg ) (7/04) SisterSpirft offers women s spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Moling address PO Box 9246 Portland, OR 97207 503-736-3297 sistersp@teteportcom)(7/04) Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active mem ber of the Community of Welcoming Congregations Sunday school and nursery care Classes, community service activi ties and events for all ages and interests (9-9 30 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am Sunday community worship service 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644 2073 staffGsouthmm com www southmm com.) (7/04) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been welcoming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave 503 223 6 4 2 4)1 7/04) ship, childrens school and child care (W arn Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503-238-1337 www waverlyucc o rg ) (7/04) an open and liberal religwus community offenng intergenerational services and religious education for children, youth and adults It welcomes gay lesbian bi and trans members It nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Umtanan Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 5 pm m summer 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeastpnwduuaorg.)(7/04) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay lesbian bi. trans and heterosexu al people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered, warm car ing, multiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A v e . Gresham 503-665-8741) (7/04) Washington: Spirituality Abundant Life Center is A New Thought Community for spintual awakening and transforming lives through love A safe place where children learn to embody spintual pnnci- ples (10 am Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave Vancouver Rev Kathleen Vengin. 360 573-2626 H 7 104) East Vancouver United Methodist Church s recon cilmg and welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360 693-4761) (T¡04) First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst, holds services in an open and affirm ing congregation (10 am Sunday worship. 11 15 am adult education 1220 NE 68th S t . Vancouver 360 693 1476 vanuccQao! c o m ) (7/0 4 ) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd in Vancouver welcomes you (1030 am and 6 3 0 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky 360-6951480)07/04) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation provides a home for the liberal religious spirit (9 3 0 and 11 15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t . Vancouver 360-695-1891) (7/04) St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 3 0 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St 503 281 4 4 2 9 ) (7/04) Willamette Valley: Spirituality St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in Christ con gregation welcomes all people for traditional, liturgical wor ship where we experience God's reconciling love that sets all people free (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439 www st/ameslutheranportland o rg ) (7/04) First Congregational Church United Church of Christ is an open and affirm ing congregation offering worship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair accessi ble (9 30 am Sunday learning hour. 10 30 am worship 700 M anonSt NE. Salem 503-363 3 6 6 0 ) (7/04) Keshet Portland is a potluck group for Jewish members of the sexual minonties com munity and their partners, spouses and sup porters Its purpose is to help build bridges with the larger Jewish community Monthly social, religious and cultural events (David or Laney 503-226- 7079. ext 14 H 7/04) Koinonia Catholic Community s a progressive, small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate Euchanst at Bridgeport United Church of C hrist A w el coming congregation, Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical in membership (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave 503-699-0473 www komomacommumty o rg ) (7/04) Lesbian Christian Fellowship -eets for study and social outings Committed Chnstians and still-unsures welcome (Barbara 503-760-5791)(7/04) Longview United Methodist Church is Victoria Kauffman documents the iconic Walt Disney Concert Hall at Brain Marki Fine Art YOUTH Metro: Youth Flavors i social support group fo r sexual m inonty youth of color 21 and younger, meets on weekends for food and socializing Regular events and activities. Flavors is a project of Love Makes a Farmty s M ultiQueer program and « sup ported by Brother to Brother (Jaye 503-228-3892. ¡ayeQtmfarmly org.) (7/04) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) fights to end anti-gay bias in K -12 schools (12700 SW North Dakota St . Suite 180. *129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177 glsenGgtsenoregon org www glsenoregon org.) (7/04) MultiQueer . program of Love Makes a Family provides advocacy to sexual minority youth O ffers resources and support m the community and the school systems with a focus on support fo r LGBTQ youth of color. (Jaye 503 22 8 3 8 9 2 ¡ a y e to m M y org ) (7/04) Outside la 'operates a ckmc for anyone who can t qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as weB as needte exchange services that include those who inject hormones Can pro vide transitional housing fo r youth 20 and younger as well as for thoee WV+ and younger than 23 Needs volunteers of aB ages (10 a m 6 pm Monday Fnday 1132 SW 13th Ave 5 0 3 5 3 5 3 8 0 0 www outsidem org.) (7/04) Sexual M ino rity Youth Resource C en te r a pro y a m of Cascadla Behavioral H ealthcare, o ffe ts support and recreation to gay. lesbian, tu and trans youth 23 and younger. O ffers drop-m com puter access, pool tables and an inform al place to hang out W eekly support m eet ings includes Trans Youth G roup and the creative group Personal D eity Proxy (4 8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont S t 503-872 9664 TTY 503-231 9286 www sm yreong) O ther program s include: Clackam as County Sexual M ino rity Youth Connection (C O S M Y C ) provides opportunities fo r queer and questioning youth ages 23 and younger to get together fo r free, fun and supportive social a ctivitie s O ffe rs one-on-one support, referrals and inform ation on HIV and STD prevention and resources for adults who w ork w ith LG 8TQ youth (503 969-0060 cosmycyouthQyaboo com ) Pride Project bnngs to g eth e r W ashington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend m onthly social events. A lso inform ation, referral and advocacy services in W ashington C ounty (Molly 503 260 5792 moílyf$pndepro¡ec t o r g ) (7 /0 4 ) Eastern Oregon: Youth Eastern O regon Center for Independent Living o ffers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian bi trans Dating your friend’s ex? Got herpes from your fling? Know when to talk. Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation Interfaith Spiritual Center Houses spintual directors from various worid reli gious traditions, who are available for guid anee, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3 www mterfaithspintualcenter co m ) (7/04) welcoming and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th Ave 360-425-4927.)(7/04) To tell or not to tell Waverly Heights UCC is open and affirming with wor and questioning youth in Eastern O regon. (541 889-3119 or 866-248 8369 e o c iG e o c ilo rg www eocil org.) (7 /0 4 ) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay lesbian, bi. trans and questionmq youth m Vancouver. Wash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the basement of Youth House, 1112 Columbia S t. in Vancouver (John 3 6 0 6 9 6 1 3 2 5 )1 7/04) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender and Q uestioning Youth Group fo r ages 13 to 18 o ffe rs support, inform ation and fun m Eugene Free, confiden tial. adult fa cilitated (Drop m 4 6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Htlyard St. 541 -684-3466) (7 /0 4 ) Lesbian, Gay. Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday in Eugene ( 5 pm Komonta Canter. 14)4 Kmcaid St 541 346-1134) (7/04) M s . B ehavio r : I’ve had four dates with Emily, who’s the funni est, most attrac tive woman I’ve been with in years. O n our third date, while expressing her fears about net ting seriously involved, she fold me all about her nasty ex, Karen, and their ugly breakup. I later figured out, through a freaky anatomical detail Emily happened to mention (a third nipple), that Emily’s Karen is the same Karen who’s in my kx>k group. I really like Karen, and we frequently go out for cof fee after hook group. Now 1 remember Karen crying last year over a breakup with a woman she described as “abusive." I’m sure it was Emily. I haven’t told either of these women that 1 know their exes. 1 don’t want to stop dating Emily, and I don’t want to stop hanging out with Karen, either. Do I have to tell one or Kith of them akm t the other? l\> I have to stop spending time with one of them? —Confused D kar tor a truly stress ful moment to make itself known, hut I’m very certain that Jennifer, a woman I had sex with a long time ago, had a cold sore on her lip before going down on me, and now I have geni tal herpes. (I was young at the time and didn’t know that “cold sores” were really herpes or that you could get the disease through oral sex.) I sometimes run into Jennifer at the gym, and we make small talk. I’m thinking akm t it now because ot a painful outbreak. I’d feel awkward akm t men tioning the S T D she gave me, hut maybe it’s the right thing to do. What do you say? — Wondering D ear W o ndering : Telling someone that she gave you an S T D (or that you gave her one) is the polite thing to do. People with herpes outbreaks of any kind are frequently prone to recurrences. It Jennifer hasn’t yet learned through a health class, a magazine article or another irate lover that cold D ear C onfused : sores are actually herpes, your Ultimately, you’ll probably he disclosure to her could save forced to choose between Emily legions ot eager women— who and Karen because you won’t he think they’re just getting a little able to pull off being close with head— from suffering a similar Kith of these women who feel painful outbreak. betrayed by one another, and it When you think akm t how would feel creepy to lie or he many sexual partners the un secretive. witting Jennifer might have in a Tell each woman the truth lifetime and how many people aKiut your relationship with the each of tht>se partners might other. Since you’re excited also have sex with and so on, akm t your new romantic your disclosure may ultimately involvement with Emily (and save dozens ot people from pass you’re presumably not having ing on “the gift that keeps on sex with Karen), you’ll probably chtxise Emily. I giving." Jennifer might initially he You’ll find out soon enough defensive— who likes to hear if Emily is actually abusive. If that they’ve given someone gen she is, you'll dump her and run ital herpes?— k it the informa hack to Karen with lots of new tion will still sink in. And, hope material to discuss before and fully, your opening your mouth after the Kmk group. will remind Jennifer to keep her But he forewarned that peo lips to herself next time she has ple don’t usually change; Emily an oral outbreak. will probably whisper secrets ak m t your freaky anatomical © Meryl Cohn 200) details to her next girlfriend. jn D ear M s . B ehavior : Am I under any kind of moral obligation to let someone know she gave me herpes? I know there’s no true way of knowing, as herpes simplex vims can lay dormant in the k xly for a long time, waiting M eryl Q min is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Cray and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton Mifflin). Signed copies are auuLihL' directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to mshehasvn<n)aol.com.
