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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (March 1, 2002)
ADVICE Dial 1-900-328-2826 to respond $1.99 per minute. Must be 18+ Ü J dJ r1 \ \ _U f VOICE PERSONAL ADS MEN SEEKING MEN GAY VIDEO FILMS BiWM seeks submissive feminine, gay male to enjoy viewing adult gay video films together in pnvate. Bring love & companionship into your world. Let’s share dining, dancing, passionate romancing. Mature, middle aged, gay males are very special. Box 3767. (3/15) BREAK THE MOLD Hard working, employed, mid dle-class, degreed, optimistic, honest white gay man, 49-years- old and healthy, would like to meet same who looks at life as an adventure. Please, no more snobby, elitist, yuppie gay men clones who are boring, lack morals, originality and indepen dence. Box 3775. (3/15}____ FISHERMAN GWM, 46, head injury survivor, 6’4", 220 lbs., friendly country man who loves to fish and sun bathe. Loves animals and spx . Financially secure. Looking for compassionate, understanding and loving man. Box 3838. (3/15) SUNSHINE SEEKING SAME GAM seeking GM. Life is worth living, sharing a walk on the beach, nice dinner and a nice massage. I am a nurturing, warm, passionate person seeking same, 35-45. Box 3798. (3/15) Professional WM, 32, brown hair, brown eyes, 5’9” , good shape, nice, young looking seeks masculine, healthy, WM under 38. Friendship, intelligence, hon esty and fitness valued. Many interests: Music, outdoors, art. I dislike fake people but accept everyone. Spiritual and sexy given first consideration. Box 3832. (3/15) Sweet, shy, GWM looking for friendship leading to relation ship. Attractive, artistic profes sional, mid-forties, nonsmoker, no drugs. Enjoy movies, boating, quiet times at home, workouts at the gym and travel. Seeking sim ilar, 35-55, Box 3777. (3/15) ■ NICE GUY LOTS OF HOBBIES HIV+, 5’9”, 150 lbs, 42 years old and I work out. I collect antiques (yay EBay!), aquarium fish (11 aquariums) and I love to travel. (Costa Rica, South Africa, Virgin Islands, Fiji and Australia so far.) Looking for in-shape guys, 20-50 years old for friendship and more. Box 3795. (3/15)___ MORE THAN JUST A PRETTY FACE SWM, 6’3", 180 lbs, 27 years old. Sensitive, professional male seeks good-hearted, fun-loving and intelligent, 25-38-year-old. I enjoy running, working out, soft- ball, hiking, listening to/playing music and watching movies. I am attracted to shorter, athleti cally built guys. Personality a plus! Box 3792,(3/15) LOVE, LUST, PASSION Healthy, HIV+, 44, 135 lbs, 5 8.5” , green, S&P, goatee, ver satile bottom seeks fun, sensu ous, kinky, hairy top, 35-55 years old. Seeking dates/friends but ultimately looking for a no-holds barred, romantic, lustful, loving LTR. Interests: Humor, honesty, pets, gardening, music, books, movies. Box 3811^(3/15) LIFE GETS BETTER EVERYDAY Adventurous, creative, fun-loving GWM, 42, homeowner, career social worker. But I have three- day weekends every week.; I'm not a social worker on weekends! I’m very sincere and I always look forward to new friends I will meet. Some in my steam room - who knows! Box 3790. (3/15) LOVE AND BE LOVED Very attractive GWM seeks 19- 45 year old, fun-loving, profes sional EBONY MALE for LTR. Must be able to be loved and give it in return. Height/weight ratio a must. Not into bar scene or drugs and am very family orient- ed/believer in God. SERIOUS REPLIES ONLY. Box 3696 J3/1)_ ADULT VIDEOS Let’s share adult videos. BiWM wants to enjoy viewing adult video films with romantic, sub missive, feminine gay male. Cross dressers welcome. Asians are special. Box 3698. (3 /1 )___ NEED GAY HOUSEKEEPER... in Eugene. Older gay gentleman in Eugene, somewhat disabled (nothing serious, war injury pre vents me from cleaning), would appreciate having a friendly guy to both help with cleaning I cajVt do and light filing and office work. Survivor of Stonewall so lots of stories. Lonely too, LTR? Box 3766. (3/1)____ LETS EXPLORE GWM, late forties, professional, good looking, in shape, sense of humor, life in order, STD free, seeks top man, late 30s-50s, pre fer SW Portland for dating, possi ble LTR. You be secure, funny, with life in order and STD free. Let’s explore the possibilities together! Box 3700. (3/1) NO STRINGS FUN? Healthy, young, HIV+, GWM ISO attractive, versatile top/bottom to share romantic interludes, sensual evenings on the couch with a great movie or intimate candlelight ren dezvous! I enjoy good coffee, shopping, casual dining and a good drag show. All this as no strings fun, possible involvement or LTR. Let's chat! Box 3701 (3/1) HOUSE BOY WANTED Position: looking for house boy. Room and board, lots of possi bilities (sex play), summertime fun, helping keep the lake prop erty organized and learning to be a deck hand/cabin boy on adven tures. You: 18 to 30, smooth, slender homebody. Me: 43, Greek, Leo. Let me help you grow. Box 3699. (3/1) WOMEN SEEKING WOMEN WANT TO SHARE LIFE W ITH RIGHT SOUL 32, girl-next-door cute, fit, both mellow and neurotic, grounded, sweet, playful. Enjoy yoga, work- puts, dance, music, hiking and the sensualities of everyday living - food, coffee, peaceful quiet, the moon. Seeking attractive femme, artistically bent, urbane brainiac with a love of nature and who’s kind, sensitive, self aware. Likes: Honesty, intelligence, integrity, good communications, humor, introverts. Want to share life with the right soul. Please no smokes or gossips. Please write, send photo Letters Only to Blind Box 413.(3/15) SIMPLE THINGS SWF, 3 7 ,5’4" wants to meet con genial, sincere lady who likes to eat vegetarian. I like walks on the beach and the fun, simple things in life. Box 3773. (3/15) GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR Single mom looking for new friends. I have a great sense of humor and am down to earth. I like sports, outdoor activities, movies, theater and dining out. Looking for good, honest, sincere women for new friends who enjoy similar activities. If interested call. No drugs or smoking. Box 3836. (3/15)_____ _ BI-CURIOUS FEMALE Looking for a confident, attractive woman to show me the way. If you are emotionally and physical ly healthy, fun and sexy, you could be the one. I’m feminine, HWP, sexy and clean. Nonsmoker. You too? Please call! 25-35. Box 3837. (3/15)_________________ ADVENTUROUS? GWF seeking soft butch to femme. Love the outdoors, camp ing, skiing, walks on the beach? Able to laugh, get silly? I am a fit, attractive, GWF, 33. I enjoy soft- ball. women's basketball and just cuddling at home. Looking for loyal, romantic, athletic woman. No drugs, light drinking OK. Box 3772. (3/15) NOT INTO BAR SCENE? Do you need to get out more, but you’re not into the bar scene? 29- year-old GWF seeks fun, outgo ing, nonsmokers, age 27-37 to hang out with. I enjoy films, con certs, hiking, mountain biking, wine tasting, travelling and play- ing/watching women’s sports. If you're sweet and dependable, let’s talk. Box 3770. (3/15) SPRING IN PORTLAND Spring is upon us and I've got an itch. Are you the one to scratch it? Let's compare notes and we ll find out just how compatible we are. For starters, are you 39-49, on the short side and a nonsmoker? Box 3768. (3/15) Professional, educated, attractive woman seeks same. You are 35- 50, open minded, optimistic and poised. Call, I’ll fucking worship you. Box 3778. (3/15)_________ See m ore Just Frien d s ads on page 46. ■ Husband vs. hot nurse Will 30 years of marriage prevail over white-clad seductress? D ear M s . B ehavior : I am a 54-year-old nurse and mother of a lesbian. I sus pect lesbianism runs in my family. I have a sister who is gay and two “spinster” aunts on my mothers side who are almost certainly gay. When 1 was in my 20s I had an intense love affair for two years with a woman, and when we parted it broke my heart. That was the only time the “gay question” came up for me. For the past few months at work, Genvieve, a lesbian nurse in her late 40s, has been flirting with me. She is sexy and beautiful and awakening memories 1 thought I’d left far behind. I feel like I may be falling in love again. In a less passionate way I also love my husband, and our sex life is decent. But now I'm wondering about my own “true” sexuality given my possible biological pre disposition and new feelings for Genvieve. I understand that a gene for homosexuality has not been dis covered. But was I, like my daughter, born gay? Have I been living a lie? And if so, at ^ \V my age and after almost 30 years of marriage, is it worth breaking my marital vows, risk ing losing my husband and turning my life upside down in order to explore this issue and uncover the truth? — Genes Don’t Lie D ear G enes D o n ’ t L ie : Don’t make life-changing decisions based on counting the queer fruit on your family tree. Maybe your early heartbreak caused you to try to suppress some of your lesbian inclina tions, but if the “gay question” hasn’t come up for 30 years, you probably haven’t been living a lie. If your marriage is relatively happy, you could be one of those unusual creatures who can fall in love with a person of either gender. m Ms. Behavior would never « j encourage you to ignore \ your feelings just to ^ ' avoid making a mess, but she also wouldn’t urge ^ you to haphazard ly create a mess just to excavate your unexamined feelings. There are gentler ways to do that: Go to thera py, read books on the sub ject, talk to your friends. Once you’ve raised the ques tion, you won’t forget or ignore it. If there’s a “truth” you’re not facing, you’ll know it over time. Almost separate from the issue of sexual orientation is the issue of attraction to some one else. People in committed relationships sometimes are powerfully drawn to other people. Anyone, queer or hetero, could face similar issues after decades of marriage, upon meeting someone attractive. You’ll need to sort out what, if anything, you want to do about these feelings in relation to your long-standing commitment. For the moment, it seems the safest place to sort it out would be in therapy. D ear M s . B ehavior : V I’m in bed with my luscious girlfriend, Betty, rolling around. We’re kissing and touching, and things are heating up. T he phone rings. I think it’s a work call— I’m a con sultant and work from home— so I leap out o f bed to answer it. It’s only my friend Susan, who’s having yet another crisis about a girl. I say, “Can I call you back in five minutes T I slither back to bed and explain that Susan is having a cri sis, and that I have to talk to her. But Betty is miffed, so she rolls over and plays dead. I leave the room to call Susan back. O f course, it’s a dumb, nonurgent problem. I come back to bed with my best sultry look and apologize for having taken the call, but now Betty says she doesn’t want to have sex with me today or tomorrow or maybe ever. Am I the biggest jerk in the world, or is she overreacting? — Veronica D ear V eronica : C an ’t you pretend you’re busy consulting (you sort of are, right?) and turn the ringer off for an hour while you make love? If not...hello? Get Caller ID. Then, if the phone rings at an inopportune moment and the incoming number doesn’t show, let the answering machine take the call. If it’s one of your whiny friends, call her back later. If it’s work call, dry your face, muster up a professional tone and pick up the phone. (Worst-case scenario: One of your mothers calls and says something hideous at the moment of climax. Solution: Two extra psychotherapy sessions.) O nce you tell Betty the new plan, she’s likely to forgive you. But if you find she still doesn’t want to have sex with you, it means she’s still angry. Try apologizing. A little breech of sexual/telephone etiquette is unlikely to disintegrate anyone’s delicate libido perma nently. But if Betty’s anger continues to dis rupt her desire, maybe you can help her design an appropriate faux punishment for you to even the score. | H Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at M sBehaM ot@aol.com.
