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MEN
SEEKING MEN
GAY VIDEO FILMS
BiWM seeks submissive feminine,
gay male to enjoy viewing adult
gay video films together in pnvate.
Bring love & companionship into
your world. Let’s share dining,
dancing, passionate romancing.
Mature, middle aged, gay males
are very special. Box 3767. (3/15)
BREAK THE MOLD
Hard working, employed, mid
dle-class, degreed, optimistic,
honest white gay man, 49-years-
old and healthy, would like to
meet same who looks at life as
an adventure. Please, no more
snobby, elitist, yuppie gay men
clones who are boring, lack
morals, originality and indepen
dence. Box 3775. (3/15}____
FISHERMAN
GWM, 46, head injury survivor,
6’4", 220 lbs., friendly country
man who loves to fish and sun
bathe. Loves animals and spx .
Financially secure. Looking for
compassionate, understanding
and loving man. Box 3838. (3/15)
SUNSHINE SEEKING SAME
GAM seeking GM. Life is worth
living, sharing a walk on the
beach, nice dinner and a nice
massage. I am a nurturing, warm,
passionate person seeking same,
35-45. Box 3798. (3/15)
Professional WM, 32, brown
hair, brown eyes, 5’9” , good
shape, nice, young looking seeks
masculine, healthy, WM under
38. Friendship, intelligence, hon
esty and fitness valued. Many
interests: Music, outdoors, art. I
dislike fake people but accept
everyone. Spiritual and sexy
given first consideration. Box
3832. (3/15)
Sweet, shy, GWM looking for
friendship leading to relation
ship. Attractive, artistic profes
sional, mid-forties, nonsmoker,
no drugs. Enjoy movies, boating,
quiet times at home, workouts at
the gym and travel. Seeking sim
ilar, 35-55, Box 3777. (3/15)
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NICE GUY
LOTS OF HOBBIES
HIV+, 5’9”, 150 lbs, 42 years old
and I work out. I collect antiques
(yay EBay!), aquarium fish (11
aquariums) and I love to travel.
(Costa Rica, South Africa, Virgin
Islands, Fiji and Australia so far.)
Looking for in-shape guys, 20-50
years old for friendship and
more. Box 3795. (3/15)___
MORE THAN JUST
A PRETTY FACE
SWM, 6’3", 180 lbs, 27 years
old. Sensitive, professional male
seeks good-hearted, fun-loving
and intelligent, 25-38-year-old. I
enjoy running, working out, soft-
ball, hiking, listening to/playing
music and watching movies. I
am attracted to shorter, athleti
cally built guys. Personality a
plus! Box 3792,(3/15)
LOVE, LUST, PASSION
Healthy, HIV+, 44, 135 lbs,
5 8.5” , green, S&P, goatee, ver
satile bottom seeks fun, sensu
ous, kinky, hairy top, 35-55 years
old. Seeking dates/friends but
ultimately looking for a no-holds
barred, romantic, lustful, loving
LTR. Interests: Humor, honesty,
pets, gardening, music, books,
movies. Box 3811^(3/15)
LIFE GETS BETTER EVERYDAY
Adventurous, creative, fun-loving
GWM, 42, homeowner, career
social worker. But I have three-
day weekends every week.; I'm
not a social worker on weekends!
I’m very sincere and I always look
forward to new friends I will
meet. Some in my steam room -
who knows! Box 3790. (3/15)
LOVE AND BE LOVED
Very attractive GWM seeks 19-
45 year old, fun-loving, profes
sional EBONY MALE for LTR.
Must be able to be loved and give
it in return. Height/weight ratio a
must. Not into bar scene or
drugs and am very family orient-
ed/believer in God. SERIOUS
REPLIES ONLY. Box 3696 J3/1)_
ADULT VIDEOS
Let’s share adult videos. BiWM
wants to enjoy viewing adult
video films with romantic, sub
missive, feminine gay male.
Cross dressers welcome. Asians
are special. Box 3698. (3 /1 )___
NEED GAY HOUSEKEEPER...
in Eugene. Older gay gentleman
in Eugene, somewhat disabled
(nothing serious, war injury pre
vents me from cleaning), would
appreciate having a friendly guy
to both help with cleaning I cajVt
do and light filing and office
work. Survivor of Stonewall so
lots of stories. Lonely too, LTR?
Box 3766. (3/1)____
LETS EXPLORE
GWM, late forties, professional,
good looking, in shape, sense of
humor, life in order, STD free,
seeks top man, late 30s-50s, pre
fer SW Portland for dating, possi
ble LTR. You be secure, funny,
with life in order and STD free.
Let’s explore the possibilities
together! Box 3700. (3/1)
NO STRINGS FUN?
Healthy, young, HIV+, GWM ISO
attractive, versatile top/bottom to
share romantic interludes, sensual
evenings on the couch with a great
movie or intimate candlelight ren
dezvous! I enjoy good coffee,
shopping, casual dining and a
good drag show. All this as no
strings fun, possible involvement
or LTR. Let's chat! Box 3701 (3/1)
HOUSE BOY WANTED
Position: looking for house boy.
Room and board, lots of possi
bilities (sex play), summertime
fun, helping keep the lake prop
erty organized and learning to be
a deck hand/cabin boy on adven
tures. You: 18 to 30, smooth,
slender homebody. Me: 43,
Greek, Leo. Let me help you
grow. Box 3699. (3/1)
WOMEN
SEEKING WOMEN
WANT TO SHARE LIFE
W ITH RIGHT SOUL
32, girl-next-door cute, fit, both
mellow and neurotic, grounded,
sweet, playful. Enjoy yoga, work-
puts, dance, music, hiking and the
sensualities of everyday living -
food, coffee, peaceful quiet, the
moon. Seeking attractive femme,
artistically bent, urbane brainiac
with a love of nature and who’s
kind, sensitive, self aware. Likes:
Honesty, intelligence, integrity,
good communications, humor,
introverts. Want to share life with
the right soul. Please no smokes
or gossips. Please write, send
photo Letters Only to Blind Box
413.(3/15)
SIMPLE THINGS
SWF, 3 7 ,5’4" wants to meet con
genial, sincere lady who likes to
eat vegetarian. I like walks on the
beach and the fun, simple things
in life. Box 3773. (3/15)
GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR
Single mom looking for new
friends. I have a great sense of
humor and am down to earth. I
like sports, outdoor activities,
movies, theater and dining out.
Looking for good, honest, sincere
women for new friends who enjoy
similar activities. If interested call.
No drugs or smoking. Box 3836.
(3/15)_____ _
BI-CURIOUS FEMALE
Looking for a confident, attractive
woman to show me the way. If
you are emotionally and physical
ly healthy, fun and sexy, you could
be the one. I’m feminine, HWP,
sexy and clean. Nonsmoker. You
too? Please call! 25-35. Box
3837. (3/15)_________________
ADVENTUROUS?
GWF seeking soft butch to
femme. Love the outdoors, camp
ing, skiing, walks on the beach?
Able to laugh, get silly? I am a fit,
attractive, GWF, 33. I enjoy soft-
ball. women's basketball and just
cuddling at home. Looking for
loyal, romantic, athletic woman.
No drugs, light drinking OK. Box
3772. (3/15)
NOT INTO BAR SCENE?
Do you need to get out more, but
you’re not into the bar scene? 29-
year-old GWF seeks fun, outgo
ing, nonsmokers, age 27-37 to
hang out with. I enjoy films, con
certs, hiking, mountain biking,
wine tasting, travelling and play-
ing/watching women’s sports. If
you're sweet and dependable, let’s
talk. Box 3770. (3/15)
SPRING IN PORTLAND
Spring is upon us and I've got an
itch. Are you the one to scratch it?
Let's compare notes and we ll find
out just how compatible we are.
For starters, are you 39-49, on the
short side and a nonsmoker? Box
3768. (3/15)
Professional, educated, attractive
woman seeks same. You are 35-
50, open minded, optimistic and
poised. Call, I’ll fucking worship
you. Box 3778. (3/15)_________
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Husband vs. hot nurse
Will 30 years of marriage prevail
over white-clad seductress?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I am a 54-year-old nurse
and mother of a lesbian. I sus
pect lesbianism runs in my
family. I have a sister who is
gay and two “spinster” aunts
on my mothers side who are
almost certainly gay.
When 1 was in my 20s I
had an intense love affair for
two years with a woman, and
when we parted it broke my
heart. That was the only
time the “gay question” came
up for me.
For the past few months at
work, Genvieve, a lesbian
nurse in her late 40s, has been flirting with
me. She is sexy and beautiful and awakening
memories 1 thought I’d left far behind. I feel
like I may be falling in love again.
In a less passionate way I also love
my husband, and our sex life is
decent. But now I'm wondering
about my own “true” sexuality
given my possible biological pre
disposition and new feelings for
Genvieve.
I understand that a gene for
homosexuality has not been dis
covered. But was I, like my
daughter, born gay? Have I
been living a lie? And if so, at
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my age and after almost 30
years of marriage, is it worth
breaking my marital vows, risk
ing losing my husband and
turning my life upside down in
order to explore this issue and
uncover the truth?
— Genes Don’t Lie
D ear G enes D o n ’ t L ie :
Don’t make life-changing decisions
based on counting the queer fruit on your
family tree.
Maybe your early heartbreak caused you to
try to suppress some of your lesbian inclina
tions, but if the “gay question” hasn’t come up
for 30 years, you probably haven’t been living a
lie. If your marriage is relatively happy, you
could be one of those unusual creatures who
can fall in love with a person of either
gender.
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ly create a mess
just to excavate your
unexamined feelings.
There are gentler ways
to do that: Go to thera
py, read books on the sub
ject, talk to your friends.
Once you’ve raised the ques
tion, you won’t forget or ignore
it. If there’s a “truth” you’re not
facing, you’ll know it over time.
Almost separate from the issue of sexual
orientation is the issue of attraction to some
one else. People in committed relationships
sometimes are powerfully drawn to other
people. Anyone, queer or hetero, could face
similar issues after decades of marriage, upon
meeting someone attractive.
You’ll need to sort out
what, if anything, you want to
do about these feelings in
relation to your long-standing
commitment. For the
moment, it seems the safest
place to sort it out would be
in therapy.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
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I’m in bed with my luscious
girlfriend, Betty, rolling around.
We’re kissing and touching,
and things are heating up.
T he phone rings. I think
it’s a work call— I’m a con
sultant and work from
home— so I leap out o f bed to answer it.
It’s only my friend Susan, who’s having
yet another crisis about a girl. I say, “Can
I call you back in five minutes T
I slither back to bed and
explain that Susan is having a cri
sis, and that I have to talk to
her. But Betty is miffed, so she
rolls over and plays dead.
I leave the room to call
Susan back. O f course, it’s a
dumb, nonurgent problem.
I come back to bed with
my best sultry look and
apologize for having taken
the call, but now Betty says she
doesn’t want to have sex with me
today or tomorrow or maybe ever.
Am I the biggest jerk in the world, or is
she overreacting?
— Veronica
D ear V eronica :
C an ’t you pretend you’re busy consulting
(you sort of are, right?) and turn the ringer off
for an hour while you make love?
If not...hello? Get Caller ID. Then, if the
phone rings at an inopportune moment and
the incoming number doesn’t show, let the
answering machine take the call.
If it’s one of your whiny friends, call her
back later. If it’s work call, dry your face,
muster up a professional tone and pick up the
phone. (Worst-case scenario: One of your
mothers calls and says something hideous at
the moment of climax. Solution: Two extra
psychotherapy sessions.)
O nce you tell Betty the new
plan, she’s likely to forgive you.
But if you find she still doesn’t
want to have sex with you, it
means she’s still angry.
Try apologizing.
A little breech of
sexual/telephone
etiquette is unlikely
to disintegrate
anyone’s delicate
libido perma
nently. But if
Betty’s anger
continues to dis
rupt her desire,
maybe you can
help her
design an
appropriate faux
punishment for you to even the score. | H
Write your confused and conflicted heart out to
Ms. B ehavior at M sBehaM ot@aol.com.