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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Jan. 18, 2002)
January 1 8 .2ÛQ2 - Jte* ■ t |31 ADVICE Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Salem m eets for a address: P O B o x 9246. Portland, O R 97207. 5 0 3 736-3297. sistersp@ teleport com .) (5/02) S P IR ITU A LITY potluck on the third Sunday of each month (6 pm South minster Presbyterian Church is a challenging, 5 09 0 C enter S t N E 50 3 3 6 3 8716.) (5/02) supportive community that welcomes aH people It is the first M ore Light Presbyterian Church m Oregon. (10 am Sunday Interfaith Spiritual Community m eets for inspira summer. 9 30 and I I am Sunday winter 12250 S W Denney tional m essages, children's celebrations and joy every Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073X5/02) Sunday at the Heart Center W e honor and celebrate all racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday St. James Lutheran Church, a reconciled in sacred paths, recognizing each p e rso n 's divine gifts and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlightenment. Metro: Spirituality w orship is at 10 am. and church school for children C h n st congregation, w elcom es all people for traditional runs concurrently. (2941 N E Ainsw orth St. 50 3 -2 8 4 -8 7 6 7 aucc@ teleport.com .)(5/02) ( 6 7 3 0 pm. 1578 Com m ercial St. SE. Salem liturgical w orship (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park 503-763-6030.) (5/02) Ave. 5 03 -22 7 2 4 3 9 ) (5/02) Anawim Community of gay men m eets w eekly for Morningsids United Msthodlst Church is a recon St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay-p os Chnstian m editation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday. ciling congregation where everyone is welcome to partici itive com m unity for C atholics and their friends. M a ss at 5 0 3 2 8 1 -0 7 2 2 .) (5/02) pate in the full life of the congregation (8 30 and 11 am 7 3 0 pm Fridays followed by a social (Paulist Center. Bridgeport Community Church (U C C ) is a Sunday. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503 -364-5013X 5/02) 2 4 0 8 S E 16th Ave. 503-231 -4 9 5 5 ) (5/02) grow ing com m unity of progressive, political people explonng and celebrating the Christian faith. W e are Swaot Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (M C C ) holds w orship at 11 am Su n days followed by St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel com ing all people since 1863 (1 2:10p m W ednesday multicultural, lesbian, gay. bi and straight, and our chil coffee and fellow ship as well a s potluck lunches every and 7 4 5 and 10 am Su n day Sunday sch o ol and child dren are valued m em bers. (10:30 am Sunday. 621 N E second Sunday (Am encan Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane care at 10 am Southw est 13th Avenue at C lay Street. 5 0 3 223-6424.) (5/02) 76th Ave. 5 0 3 2 5 8 -0 9 9 2 .) (5/02) Community of S i Andrew invites ail to join a diverse Catholic faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am Sunday 8 0 6 N E A k e rta S t 5 0 3 -2 8 1 4 4 2 9 X 5 / 0 2 ) YOUTH Unity Church of Portland is an all-inclusive com munity follow ing C h rist's teachings and celebrating YOUTH diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years. Com passionate Heart Sangha. a lesbian and gay Su n day school and child care available Potluck first meditation group, m eets in the Buddhist V ipasana tradi Sundays. (10 am Su n d a y 4 5 2 5 S E Stark St. 503-234-7441 um typrtlnd@w w dborg.) (5/02) tion (7 3 0 -9 pm W ednesday Flanders H ouse. 2 9 2 6 N E Flanders St. Jo n 5 0 3 -2 3 9 -5 5 3 9 X 5 / 0 2 ) University Park United Methodist Church is a Dignity Portland m eets for M a ss on Sundays. m em ber of the netw ork of reconciling congregations (503-262-6947.) (5/02) and m eets for w orship at 10 am Sundays. (4775 N Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian UnhreraaHst. a wel com ing congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious educational 10:30 am. (1133 N E 181st Ave.. Gresham 5 0 3 6 6 5 -2 6 2 8 eastrose@ teleportcom .) (5/02) Metro: Youth Clackam as County Youth Pride provides oppor tunities for gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning peo ple 23 and younger to get together for free, fun and Lom bard St. 503-289-7843.) (5/02) supportive social activities. A lso one-on-one support, Waverfy Heights Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming com m uni advocacy, information and referrals for Clackam as County service providers. (503-969-0060. youth_pnde@ hotm ailcom )(5/Q 2) ty with w orship, children's school and child care. (11 am Su n d a y 3 3 0 0 S E W oodw ard St. 503-238-1337 www. w avedyucc. org.) (5/02) Estacada United Methodist Church Reconciling Congregation, w here w e really mean Expression is a free art/expression support group for G L B T youth between 13 and 23 in G resham Hang out everyone is welcom e. Su n d ay w orship at 10:30 am. Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is a and have fun every Friday1 Sp o n so re d by R oo ts and (204 S E M a m St.. Estacada 5 0 3 -3 4 9 -4 2 4 5 .)(5/02) new. open and Iberal religious community offenng mtergener- Branches. (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext. 28.) (5/02) ational services and religwus education for children. It wel First Congregational United Church of Christ The comes members of the gay. lesbian, bi and trans community. is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Chnstian tradition. Su n day w orship is at 10 25 am. and North Dakota S t . Suite 180. 4129. Tigard. O R 97223 5 0 3 -5 2 6 1 177 or 503-9365614. glsenoi@aol com.) (5/02) Unitarian Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday 3915 S E Steele S t 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org ) (5/02) church sch o o l for children runs concurrently. (1 1 2 6 S W Park Ave. 503-228-7219.) (5/02) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone w ho can't Zion United Church of Christ, an open and First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open qualify for the O regon Health Plan a s well a s a needle affirm ing congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and affirm ing liberal religious community. W e offer a exchange service that includes exchange for those w ho and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship in a wide range of program s to nurture spiritual grow th and inject horm ones. Transitional housing for youth 20 and Christ-centered, warm, caring. muKiage/race/cultural community. O u r Su n day se rvice s are at 9 and younger a s well a s for youth w ho are HIV-positive and faith community. ( I I am Sunday 2 02 5 N E 23rd Ave.. 10 45 am. (1011 S W 12th A v e 5 0 3 2 2 8 -6 3 8 9 www firstumtananportland o r g ) (5/02) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 schools. (12700 S W W y'east nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by younger than 23. It also plays host to Gresham . 503 -66 5-8741.) (5/02) V O IC ES (V oices of Individual and Com m unity Em powerm ent from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth. First United Methodist Church of Portland, a (10 am -6 pm M onday-Fnday 1236 S W Salm on S t w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in G o d 's family G L B T potlucks are held monthly. (10:30 am Sunday. 1838 S W Jefferson St. 5 0 3 2 2 8 -3 1 9 5 w ww .fum cpdx.org.)(5/02) Full Circle Temple is a place of w orship for w om en Washington: Spirituality 503-223-4121.) (5/02) East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Pride Project brings together W ashington County Reconciling, w elcom ing (10 am Sunday. lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and 570 1 M acArthur B M . 360-693-4761 attend m onthly social events. A lso information, referral, support and advocacy services for W ashington County ourclarkcounty.colum bian.com /273/.) (5/02) of all a g e s offenng w orkshops, son g and drum circles, (M olly 503-260-5792 m olly@pndeproiect org.) (5/02) ing what you bnng to share (10 am -10 pm Tuesday- First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ Two Sunday services, traditional and "less tradition Sunday. 3 1 2 5 E Burnside St. 503-23 8-0675.) (5/02) a l' in an open and affirming congregation. (1220 N E 68th Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth. St.. Vancouver. 360693-1476 vanucc@aol.com.)(5/02) (4 3 0 pm W ednesday Metropolitan Community Church of meditation room s and altars of celebration, incorporat Grace Space, a m ultidenom inational spintual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Su n d ay evening Portland. 2400 N E Broadway 503 -28 16868 ) (5/02) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Stark St. 5 0 3 2 8 7 -3 2 1 6 )(5/02) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Canter (SM Y R C ) offers drop-in com puter access, pool Integrity, the gay and lesbian m inistry o f the tables and an informal place to hang out and plays host to w eekly youth support groups including Episcopal Church, m eets on the second Friday of each month in the M o m so n Room at Trinity W indfire. Trans Youth G roup and Personal Deity Cathedral Eucharist is celebrated at 6:45 pm fol lowed by a potluck and fellowship. (1 4 7 N W 19th W ednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Siaturday 2 1 0 0 S E Belm ont S t 503 -87 2-9664 A ve 503-286-9111. www m tegrityusa.org.) (5/02) www sm yrc.o rg) (5/02) celebrations (5 pm. Friends o f Multnomah. 4 3 1 2 S E Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm M onday and Irrterfaith Spiritual Center. Spiritual directors from various world religwus traditions are available for guid Youth H IV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational program s along with counseling ance. classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 S E 11th and testing to queer youth m a friendly, relaxed Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3 www spintone.com/~isc.) environment. (503-872 9 6 6 4 ) (5/02) (5/02) YouthNet a program of Love M a ke s a Family, Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is offers tutonng and m entonng for lesbian, gay. bi an open and accepting congregation of p ro gre ssive and trans youth a s well a s for children of L G B T par C hnstians. (9 am Su n d a y 5 1 4 5 S E Lincoln S t ents. (503-227 1981.) (5/02) 5 0 3 -2 3 1 -1 9 3 0 ) (5/02) Metenoia Peace Community (United M ethodist) Southern Oregon: Youth is a 'h o u se church." bringing gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7 2 0 am. Su n d a y gathering 5 pm. 2 1 1 6 N E 18th A ve 5 0 3 2 8 1 -3 6 9 7 Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SO YO ) www tearsoup com /m etanoia) (5/02) a group for gay, lesbian, and bi youth between 14 Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w orship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dur Santo Domingo-born painter Hampton Rodriguez's work at O NDA Studio and Gallery expresses emotions of being a stranger in a strange land ing the 11 am w orship service (2400 N E Broadw ay 5 0 3 2 8 1 8 8 6 8 m fo@m ccportland com ) (5/02) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth invites (10 am every Sunday. 6 3 0 pm secon d and last Sunday. Suite E/F. 2200 Broadway. Vancouver and 20. m eets on the first and Thursdays of the month m Ashland (541 4 8 8 6 9 9 0 ) (5/02) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy 3 6 0 -6 9 5 1 4 8 0 M ccgs@ ao lco m w w w m ccgs o rg.)(5/02) to gay, lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth m Vancouver. W ash M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the b a se w elcom e (1 0 3 0 am Su n d a y 4 8 2 8 N E 33 rd A v e Michael Servetue Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. a hom e for the liberal religious spmt. 503-481 -7591.) (05/02) (1 0 am Sunday. 4 5 0 5 E 18th St.. Vancouver Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a m onth with 3 6 0 6 9 5 1 8 9 1 ) (5/02) you to celebrate your spm tuality with the R e vs C a se y and Berde# Moffett-Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are potlucks and circles at the full m oon and the new m oon O pen to all men seeking alternative spintual growth and com m unity C offee hours start 9:30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 S E 12th A ve (John 360 -695-1325.)(5/02) Willamette Valley Youth Willamette Valley: Spirituality (503 2 3 5 0 8 2 6 otter@ pcez com ) (5/02) First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ, is an open and affirming congregation offer Potter's House M inistries is an open, affirming, mg w o rsh p and church school Child care provided bible expionng congregation with specific outreach in W heelchair accessib le (1 0 am Su n d a y 700 Matron St. the gay and lesbian com m unity (10 45 am Su n d a y NE. Salem 50 3 3 6 3 3 6 6 0 ) (5/02) 3 8 3 0 S E 62 n d A ve 5 0 3 7 7 5 -5 0 2 4 ) (5/02) ment of Youth House. 1112 Colum bia S t in Vancouver First Congregational United Church of Christ SisterSpirit offers w om en s spirituality celebrations, is an inclusive C hnstian community, an open and affiqri d iscu ssio n groups, a drum m ing circle, w orksh o p s and ing church (9 3 0 am Su n d a y summer. 10 3 0 am cla sse s Schedule of events available AH w om en are Su n d a y winter 4 5 1 5 S W W est Hills Road. C o rva ks w elcom e (Suite 102. 3 4 3 0 S E Belm ont S t M ailing 5 4 1 -75 7-8122 )(5 / 0 2 ) Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for age s 13 to 18 offers support, inform ation and fun Free, confidential, adult facilitated (D rop in 4 6 pm Friday Am azon Com m unity Center. 2 7 0 0 Hityard S t . Eugene 541 6 8 4 3 4 6 6 X 5 / 0 2 ) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger m eets every M onday (5 pm Kotnonia Center. 1414 Kincaid St.. Eugene 541 3 4 6 1 13 4 ) (5/02) Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian. Broke and in love Ms. Behavior says prezzies don’t make the man D ear M s . B ehavior : 1 have been living with my lover for almost a year now, and I am very much in love with him. 1 appreciate everything he’s done for me, and being with him makes me feel loved like I’ve never been before— not even by my own family. One day recently when I came home from school, 1 noticed he had done some Christmas shopping. 1 didn’t know what to do because I had no money to go out and pick something up for him. I felt like such a loser. He told me he has everything he needs and didn’t want anything for Christmas; he just needs me. 1 know this is just not OK, so I’ll get him something as soon as I can, even if it’s not until the middle of summer. But I love him with all my heart, and 1 don’t want to let too much time go by without doing anything to show him I appreciate him very much. 1 want to let him know I’m the luckiest man on earth to have him as my lover. What should 1 do? — S.H . D ear S.H.: It sounds like your boyfriend understands you’re broke because you’re a student. Christmas of 2001 was only one holiday in one year of your rela tionship. In more prosperous years, you’ll he able to buy presents. In the mean time, remember that buying someone a trinket is easy and does not even require feel ings of intimacy. Other things you can do to express your love are prob ably more meaningful. In coming up with your request ed concrete list of things you can do for your boyfriend, Ms. Behavior runs the risk of sounding like a combination of the Happy Hooker and Martha Stewart, but here goes: 1. Make him a fabulous dinner. (If you’re extremely broke, you’d better make sure he’s gone food shopping so you’ll have the right ingredients.) 2. Rub his feet. 3. Write him a love poem. 4. Bake him some cookies or a cake. 5. Take him to a beautiful (free) place and tell him how you feel about him. 6. Light candles all around the bedroom, and give him head. (Candles are optional.) D ear M s . B ehavior : My girlfriend, Francis, and I broke up more than a year ago. We weren’t in love anymore, and the breakup seemed to be mutual, although once we were apart, she acted angry. I’ve spent the past six months in Japan on business. While I was gone, Francis e-mailed me a few different times asking if she could stay at my place while various rooms in her apartment were being renovated. I had misgivings about letting her stay in my home while I wasn’t there, but I reluctantly agreed, hoping it would help facili tate a friendship between us when I returned home. Now that I’m back, Francis is unfriendly. We live in a small town and travel in the same social circles. When we run into one another, she often glares or makes snide remarks. Here’s my dilemma: Once I got back from Japan, I realized some of my possessions were missing. Among them were cookware, dishes and both of my vibrators, which we sometimes had used together. She obviously went through my personal things, because some of the items she took were put away in drawers. I feel very violated by this. Should I con front her? — Vibeless D ear V ibeless : Taking your things seems like Francis’ attempt to get your atten tion. She clearly has gotten it (or you wouldn’t have written to Ms. Behavior). But why give Francis the satisfac tion of letting her know she’s gotten to you? If she is unscrupulous enough to have taken your things, it’s unlikely she'll admit it when you confront her, so you still won’t get them back. It sounds like it’s time to change your locks. Once you’ve done that, splurge and get new cookware and vibrators. Besides, it’s always good to get new sex toys after a relationship ends. You probably will get more pleasure out of a vibrator that is untainted with Eau de Francis. j n Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at MsBehavtorQaol. com .
