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ADVICE
Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian
Universalist Congregation of Salem m eets for a
address: P O B o x 9246. Portland, O R 97207.
5 0 3 736-3297. sistersp@ teleport com .) (5/02)
S P IR ITU A LITY
potluck on the third Sunday of each month (6 pm
South minster Presbyterian Church is a challenging,
5 09 0 C enter S t N E 50 3 3 6 3 8716.) (5/02)
supportive community that welcomes aH people It is the first
M ore Light Presbyterian Church m Oregon. (10 am Sunday
Interfaith Spiritual Community m eets for inspira
summer. 9 30 and I I am Sunday winter 12250 S W Denney
tional m essages, children's celebrations and joy every
Ainsworth United Church of Christ is a multi
Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073X5/02)
Sunday at the Heart Center W e honor and celebrate all
racial, multicultural, open and affirm ing church Sunday
St. James Lutheran Church, a reconciled in
sacred paths, recognizing each p e rso n 's divine gifts and
supporting spintual growth, healing and enlightenment.
Metro: Spirituality
w orship is at 10 am. and church school for children
C h n st congregation, w elcom es all people for traditional
runs concurrently. (2941 N E Ainsw orth St.
50 3 -2 8 4 -8 7 6 7 aucc@ teleport.com .)(5/02)
( 6 7 3 0 pm. 1578 Com m ercial St. SE. Salem
liturgical w orship (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park
503-763-6030.) (5/02)
Ave. 5 03 -22 7 2 4 3 9 ) (5/02)
Anawim Community of gay men m eets w eekly for
Morningsids United Msthodlst Church is a recon
St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay-p os
Chnstian m editation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday.
ciling congregation where everyone is welcome to partici
itive com m unity for C atholics and their friends. M a ss at
5 0 3 2 8 1 -0 7 2 2 .) (5/02)
pate in the full life of the congregation (8 30 and 11 am
7 3 0 pm Fridays followed by a social (Paulist Center.
Bridgeport Community Church (U C C ) is a
Sunday. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503 -364-5013X 5/02)
2 4 0 8 S E 16th Ave. 503-231 -4 9 5 5 ) (5/02)
grow ing com m unity of progressive, political people
explonng and celebrating the Christian faith. W e are
Swaot Spirit Metropolitan Community Church
(M C C ) holds w orship at 11 am Su n days followed by
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel
com ing all people since 1863 (1 2:10p m W ednesday
multicultural, lesbian, gay. bi and straight, and our chil
coffee and fellow ship as well a s potluck lunches every
and 7 4 5 and 10 am Su n day Sunday sch o ol and child
dren are valued m em bers. (10:30 am Sunday. 621 N E
second Sunday (Am encan Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane
care at 10 am Southw est 13th Avenue at C lay Street.
5 0 3 223-6424.) (5/02)
76th Ave. 5 0 3 2 5 8 -0 9 9 2 .) (5/02)
Community of S i Andrew invites ail to join a diverse
Catholic faith community for prayer and fellowship (9 30 am
Sunday 8 0 6 N E A k e rta S t 5 0 3 -2 8 1 4 4 2 9 X 5 / 0 2 )
YOUTH
Unity Church of Portland is an all-inclusive com
munity follow ing C h rist's teachings and celebrating
YOUTH
diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years.
Com passionate Heart Sangha. a lesbian and gay
Su n day school and child care available Potluck first
meditation group, m eets in the Buddhist V ipasana tradi
Sundays. (10 am Su n d a y 4 5 2 5 S E Stark St.
503-234-7441 um typrtlnd@w w dborg.) (5/02)
tion (7 3 0 -9 pm W ednesday Flanders H ouse. 2 9 2 6 N E
Flanders St. Jo n 5 0 3 -2 3 9 -5 5 3 9 X 5 / 0 2 )
University Park United Methodist Church is a
Dignity Portland m eets for M a ss on Sundays.
m em ber of the netw ork of reconciling congregations
(503-262-6947.) (5/02)
and m eets for w orship at 10 am Sundays. (4775 N
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian UnhreraaHst. a wel
com ing congregation, offers Sunday service and children's
religious educational 10:30 am. (1133 N E 181st Ave..
Gresham 5 0 3 6 6 5 -2 6 2 8 eastrose@ teleportcom .) (5/02)
Metro: Youth
Clackam as County Youth Pride provides oppor
tunities for gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning peo
ple 23 and younger to get together for free, fun and
Lom bard St. 503-289-7843.) (5/02)
supportive social activities. A lso one-on-one support,
Waverfy Heights Congregational United
Church of Christ is an open and affirming com m uni
advocacy, information and referrals for Clackam as
County service providers. (503-969-0060.
youth_pnde@ hotm ailcom )(5/Q 2)
ty with w orship, children's school and child care.
(11 am Su n d a y 3 3 0 0 S E W oodw ard St. 503-238-1337
www. w avedyucc. org.) (5/02)
Estacada United Methodist Church
Reconciling Congregation, w here w e really mean
Expression is a free art/expression support group for
G L B T youth between 13 and 23 in G resham Hang out
everyone is welcom e. Su n d ay w orship at 10:30 am.
Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is a
and have fun every Friday1 Sp o n so re d by R oo ts and
(204 S E M a m St.. Estacada 5 0 3 -3 4 9 -4 2 4 5 .)(5/02)
new. open and Iberal religious community offenng mtergener-
Branches. (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext. 28.) (5/02)
ational services and religwus education for children. It wel
First Congregational United Church of Christ
The
comes members of the gay. lesbian, bi and trans community.
is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal
Chnstian tradition. Su n day w orship is at 10 25 am. and
North Dakota S t . Suite 180. 4129. Tigard. O R 97223
5 0 3 -5 2 6 1 177 or 503-9365614. glsenoi@aol com.) (5/02)
Unitarian Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday 3915 S E
Steele S t 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org ) (5/02)
church sch o o l for children runs concurrently. (1 1 2 6 S W
Park Ave. 503-228-7219.) (5/02)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone w ho can't
Zion United Church of Christ, an open and
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open
qualify for the O regon Health Plan a s well a s a needle
affirm ing congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans
and affirm ing liberal religious community. W e offer a
exchange service that includes exchange for those w ho
and heterosexual people w ho w ish to w orship in a
wide range of program s to nurture spiritual grow th and
inject horm ones. Transitional housing for youth 20 and
Christ-centered, warm, caring. muKiage/race/cultural
community. O u r Su n day se rvice s are at 9 and
younger a s well a s for youth w ho are HIV-positive and
faith community. ( I I am Sunday 2 02 5 N E 23rd Ave..
10 45 am. (1011 S W 12th A v e 5 0 3 2 2 8 -6 3 8 9
www firstumtananportland o r g ) (5/02)
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 schools. (12700 S W
W y'east nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by
younger than 23. It also plays host to
Gresham . 503 -66 5-8741.) (5/02)
V O IC ES
(V oices of Individual and Com m unity Em powerm ent
from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth.
First United Methodist Church of Portland, a
(10 am -6 pm M onday-Fnday 1236 S W Salm on S t
w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no
one is left out in G o d 's family G L B T potlucks are held
monthly. (10:30 am Sunday. 1838 S W Jefferson St.
5 0 3 2 2 8 -3 1 9 5 w ww .fum cpdx.org.)(5/02)
Full Circle Temple is a place of w orship for w om en
Washington: Spirituality
503-223-4121.) (5/02)
East Vancouver United Methodist Church.
Pride Project brings together W ashington County
Reconciling, w elcom ing (10 am Sunday.
lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and
570 1 M acArthur B M . 360-693-4761
attend m onthly social events. A lso information, referral,
support and advocacy services for W ashington County
ourclarkcounty.colum bian.com /273/.) (5/02)
of all a g e s offenng w orkshops, son g and drum circles,
(M olly 503-260-5792 m olly@pndeproiect org.) (5/02)
ing what you bnng to share (10 am -10 pm Tuesday-
First Congregational Church, United Church of
Christ Two Sunday services, traditional and "less tradition
Sunday. 3 1 2 5 E Burnside St. 503-23 8-0675.) (5/02)
a l' in an open and affirming congregation. (1220 N E 68th
Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity
group for gay. lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth.
St.. Vancouver. 360693-1476 vanucc@aol.com.)(5/02)
(4 3 0 pm W ednesday Metropolitan Community Church of
meditation room s and altars of celebration, incorporat
Grace Space, a m ultidenom inational spintual center
led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Su n d ay evening
Portland. 2400 N E Broadway 503 -28 16868 ) (5/02)
Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle
Stark St. 5 0 3 2 8 7 -3 2 1 6 )(5/02)
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Canter
(SM Y R C ) offers drop-in com puter access, pool
Integrity, the gay and lesbian m inistry o f the
tables and an informal place to hang out and plays
host to w eekly youth support groups including
Episcopal Church, m eets on the second Friday of
each month in the M o m so n Room at Trinity
W indfire. Trans Youth G roup and Personal Deity
Cathedral Eucharist is celebrated at 6:45 pm fol
lowed by a potluck and fellowship. (1 4 7 N W 19th
W ednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Siaturday
2 1 0 0 S E Belm ont S t 503 -87 2-9664
A ve 503-286-9111. www m tegrityusa.org.) (5/02)
www sm yrc.o rg) (5/02)
celebrations (5 pm. Friends o f Multnomah. 4 3 1 2 S E
Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm M onday and
Irrterfaith Spiritual Center. Spiritual directors from
various world religwus traditions are available for guid
Youth H IV/STD Prevention Project provides
fun and educational program s along with counseling
ance. classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 S E 11th
and testing to queer youth m a friendly, relaxed
Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3 www spintone.com/~isc.)
environment. (503-872 9 6 6 4 ) (5/02)
(5/02)
YouthNet a program of Love M a ke s a Family,
Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is
offers tutonng and m entonng for lesbian, gay. bi
an open and accepting congregation of p ro gre ssive
and trans youth a s well a s for children of L G B T par
C hnstians. (9 am Su n d a y 5 1 4 5 S E Lincoln S t
ents. (503-227 1981.) (5/02)
5 0 3 -2 3 1 -1 9 3 0 ) (5/02)
Metenoia Peace Community (United M ethodist)
Southern Oregon: Youth
is a 'h o u se church." bringing gay and straight
together (Daily prayer 7 2 0 am. Su n d a y gathering
5 pm. 2 1 1 6 N E 18th A ve 5 0 3 2 8 1 -3 6 9 7
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SO YO )
www tearsoup com /m etanoia) (5/02)
a group for gay, lesbian, and bi youth between 14
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w orship services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dur
Santo Domingo-born painter Hampton Rodriguez's
work at O NDA Studio and Gallery expresses
emotions of being a stranger in a strange land
ing the 11 am w orship service (2400 N E Broadw ay
5 0 3 2 8 1 8 8 6 8 m fo@m ccportland com ) (5/02)
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth invites
(10 am every Sunday. 6 3 0 pm secon d and
last Sunday. Suite E/F. 2200 Broadway. Vancouver
and 20. m eets on the first and Thursdays of the
month m Ashland (541 4 8 8 6 9 9 0 ) (5/02)
Washington: Youth
Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy
3 6 0 -6 9 5 1 4 8 0 M ccgs@ ao lco m w w w m ccgs o rg.)(5/02)
to gay, lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth m
Vancouver. W ash M e e ts 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the b a se
w elcom e (1 0 3 0 am Su n d a y 4 8 2 8 N E 33 rd A v e
Michael Servetue Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship. a hom e for the liberal religious spmt.
503-481 -7591.) (05/02)
(1 0 am Sunday. 4 5 0 5 E 18th St.. Vancouver
Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a m onth with
3 6 0 6 9 5 1 8 9 1 ) (5/02)
you to celebrate your spm tuality with the R e vs C a se y
and Berde# Moffett-Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are
potlucks and circles at the full m oon and the new
m oon O pen to all men seeking alternative spintual
growth and com m unity C offee hours start 9:30 am
Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 S E 12th A ve
(John 360 -695-1325.)(5/02)
Willamette Valley Youth
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
(503 2 3 5 0 8 2 6 otter@ pcez com ) (5/02)
First Congregational Church, United Church
of Christ, is an open and affirming congregation offer
Potter's House M inistries is an open, affirming,
mg w o rsh p and church school Child care provided
bible expionng congregation with specific outreach in
W heelchair accessib le (1 0 am Su n d a y 700 Matron St.
the gay and lesbian com m unity (10 45 am Su n d a y
NE. Salem 50 3 3 6 3 3 6 6 0 ) (5/02)
3 8 3 0 S E 62 n d A ve 5 0 3 7 7 5 -5 0 2 4 ) (5/02)
ment of Youth House. 1112 Colum bia S t in Vancouver
First Congregational United Church of Christ
SisterSpirit offers w om en s spirituality celebrations,
is an inclusive C hnstian community, an open and affiqri
d iscu ssio n groups, a drum m ing circle, w orksh o p s and
ing church (9 3 0 am Su n d a y summer. 10 3 0 am
cla sse s Schedule of events available AH w om en are
Su n d a y winter 4 5 1 5 S W W est Hills Road. C o rva ks
w elcom e (Suite 102. 3 4 3 0 S E Belm ont S t M ailing
5 4 1 -75 7-8122 )(5 / 0 2 )
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and
Questioning Youth Group for age s 13 to 18
offers support, inform ation and fun Free, confidential,
adult facilitated (D rop in 4 6 pm Friday Am azon
Com m unity Center. 2 7 0 0 Hityard S t . Eugene
541 6 8 4 3 4 6 6 X 5 / 0 2 )
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth
Group for ages 25 and younger m eets every M onday
(5 pm Kotnonia Center. 1414 Kincaid St.. Eugene
541 3 4 6 1 13 4 ) (5/02)
Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian.
Broke and in love
Ms. Behavior says prezzies
don’t make the man
D ear M s . B ehavior :
1 have been living
with my lover for
almost a year now, and
I am very much in
love with him. 1
appreciate everything
he’s done for me, and
being with him makes
me feel loved like I’ve
never been before—
not even by my own
family.
One day recently
when I came home
from school, 1 noticed he had done
some Christmas shopping. 1 didn’t
know what to do because I had no
money to go out and pick something
up for him. I felt like such a loser.
He told me he has everything he
needs and didn’t want anything for
Christmas; he just needs me. 1 know
this is just not OK, so I’ll get him
something as soon as I can, even if
it’s not until the middle of summer.
But I love him with all my heart,
and 1 don’t want to let too much
time go by without doing anything
to show him I appreciate him very
much. 1 want to let him know I’m
the luckiest man on earth to have
him as my lover. What should 1 do?
— S.H .
D ear S.H.:
It sounds
like your
boyfriend
understands
you’re broke
because
you’re a
student.
Christmas of
2001 was only
one holiday in
one year of your rela
tionship. In more
prosperous years,
you’ll he able to
buy presents.
In the mean
time, remember
that buying someone a trinket is
easy and does not even require feel
ings of intimacy. Other things you
can do to express your love are prob
ably more meaningful.
In coming up with your request
ed concrete list of things you can
do for your boyfriend, Ms. Behavior
runs the risk of sounding like a
combination of the Happy Hooker
and Martha Stewart, but here goes:
1. Make him a fabulous dinner.
(If you’re extremely broke, you’d
better make sure he’s gone food
shopping so you’ll have the right
ingredients.)
2. Rub his feet.
3. Write him a love poem.
4. Bake him some cookies or a
cake.
5. Take him to a beautiful (free)
place and tell him how you feel
about him.
6. Light candles all around the
bedroom, and give him
head. (Candles are
optional.)
D ear M s . B ehavior :
My girlfriend,
Francis, and I broke
up more than a year
ago. We weren’t in
love anymore, and the
breakup seemed to be
mutual, although once
we were apart, she
acted angry.
I’ve spent the past
six months in Japan on business.
While I was gone, Francis e-mailed
me a few different times asking if she
could stay at my place while various
rooms in her apartment were being
renovated. I had misgivings about
letting her stay in my home while I
wasn’t there, but I reluctantly
agreed, hoping it would help facili
tate a friendship between us when I
returned home.
Now that I’m back, Francis is
unfriendly. We live in a small town
and travel in the same social circles.
When we run into one another, she
often glares or makes snide remarks.
Here’s my dilemma: Once I got
back from Japan, I realized some of
my possessions were missing. Among
them were cookware, dishes
and both of my vibrators,
which we
sometimes had
used together.
She obviously
went through
my personal
things,
because
some of the
items she
took were put
away in drawers.
I feel very violated
by this. Should I con
front her?
— Vibeless
D ear V ibeless :
Taking your things seems like
Francis’ attempt to get your atten
tion. She clearly has gotten it (or
you wouldn’t have written to Ms.
Behavior).
But why give Francis the satisfac
tion of letting her know she’s gotten
to you? If she is unscrupulous
enough to have taken your things,
it’s unlikely she'll admit it when you
confront her, so you still won’t get
them back.
It sounds like it’s time to change
your locks. Once you’ve done that,
splurge and get new cookware and
vibrators.
Besides, it’s always good to get
new sex toys after a relationship
ends. You probably will get more
pleasure out of a vibrator that is
untainted with Eau de Francis. j n
Write your confused and conflicted heart out
to Ms. B ehavior at MsBehavtorQaol. com .