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About Herald and news. (Klamath Falls, Or.) 1942-current | View Entire Issue (June 21, 1959)
Then I realized: That's exactly what he wants me to do! "You'U see," I said quietly. For many weeks I didn't get angry no matter how insolent he was. I gently let him know that I didn't approve of his "moods" and his insolence and that I expected him to change when he had time to get hold of him self. I used no force and I didn't lecture. The vision of some institutional "worker" trying to make up to my son my own past deficien cies steadied me in my new purpose. The last big trial came during another camping trip. We'd had a long hard drive and everyone was edgy. My son flatly refused to ,do his share in setting up camp. "I don't want to gather kindling," he said. "I won't have you shirking your responsi bilities," I answered angrily. Members of my family looked at me in surprise, but I was in no mood to heed them. "Now get to work with the rest of us before I become really angry," I said. "See!" my son snouted as though he had won a great victory. "I knew you wouldn't keep your promise!" He was right I had lectured him in front of the family. I admitted my backsliding. In the months that followed I didn't allow myself to become angry no matter how hard he tried me. When he had assured himself that my new attitude was permanent, he set tled down to respectful behavior. Today, as long as I remember to keep our discussions on a friendly basis, and in pri vate, everything goes fine. When I forget and become even slightly indignant, back sliding occurs. I don't know what would have happened if I hadn't found it necessary to learn about juvenile rebelliousness. I might have found a solution in some other way. My son might have matured to the point where he could accept the fact that his angry father really loved and respected him. But I doubt that. Probably the best that could have happened is that I would have given in to advice to consult a good psychologist. I was thinking these things over the other day as I prepared to write this article. My son came into the den to ask me to play ping-pong with him. "Son," I said, walking out to the game room with him, "I want to ask you a question so I can put your answer in the article. How do you think parents should behave?" "Firm but quiet." - "You know how I like children to behave?" "No." "Just like you." "Thanks," he said warmly. "But," he added with a thoughtful smile, "I must admit you've had your problems with me." "Whatever problems I've had with you were very small," I said. After all, the basic problem was with me. HOW TO RAISE A BOY A GUIDE TO NEW FATHERS) Giue Him Lots of Core. . . . Teach Him to Think for Himtelf Asy' 1 And to be Confident. . . . Give Lots of Advice. Financial Assistance. . A Hull!' ,0 177 ''sS Stand by Him When Necessary. . . H'P Spoil Any New ArrivaU. it. 4? And. If You're Lucky, You'U Have it All to do Over Again.' Betrayed by a FICKLE DEODORANT?. 4 SWITCH TO VETO Veto protection lasts all day! Veto is the cream deodorant with the exclusive two-way formula for double pro tection - checks odor and perspiration all day long. Use Veto every day Veto Cream, Stick or Spray! Get to the root of rotharfungut infection with MP-27 ...and the fungus is dead forever 1 Now.with clinically proven NP-27, you can kill the most stubborn, deep-bedded fungus! Never again need those Aery, hchy fungi torture you. Unlike surface antiseptics, ointments, lini ments, NP-27 penetrates to the very root of Athlete's Foot. Gets rid of dangerous dead skin. Pro moles growth of new skin. Bsiristtt to kill the fungi, or druggist will refund your money. HUPS HI ART ACTTOM GIVES MOM STaiMOTH STAMMA . VMM I Tan IMotiRi EsMriamts, 100 PltstM PROVE Visits Oil Kill Min ictisa intrusts sntiri.es U4 fill SOOS VIOSJN MOMTKSUO. CRACK IN BOWL?. No muss no fust with famous, easy-to-use Plastic Wood. Resists crease and water. PLASTIC WOOD Handles lib putty-hardens into mod ! Luxurious Walking Ease! Ilk Walking onPIUOWSI Air-Cushion your host for only SOe 9 Hoslssrvs) sssrisiftjl CvjMsMrS) S. Oiv mid nihlmlai Try thaa modem miracl of walking ssm. CunhiorM, vontilaU your tmi from to to hl. Hum lor man and woman. At Drug, Mho. Dapt. and 6-10 Mora. family Wnkly. Jm II, lS
