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B. THURSDAY, AUGUST 18. 1962 MEDFORD MAIL TRIBUNE. MEDFORD. ORECON Family Council Editor! note! Th Ft mil Caunell eoiuiita of iudca. ptychlatrtit, t h r clergymen. three eauore ana women-i eaiier. Each artlcla li a summary or family dl.acreement presented the Council. The Council dealt with problem!, major and minor, oncountered by cutdanco eoun- aelora and loclal workeri. Edited by Mn. Alma Denny. (Copyright py General reaiurea corp. Frances W. - My father'i "six month stay" haa lasted 10 yeara. Bernice T. - I can't accom modate him, and he has no where else to go. Francai W. - My mother died 10 yeara ago, and my (later and I agreed that my Sad should live with each of us for six months out of each year. This would vary it for him, and give us a half year of privacy in-between his stays. I took the first period, and within that time Bernice and her husband sold their home nd moved to a tiny apart ment. Thus, when their turn came there was no space for a guest. Bernice offered to make it up to us with a financial contribution, but I refused. I dldn t need money, I needed another comfortable place for my father to occupy. After that, matters became extremely trying. Dad ia a atrong-willed person. My bus- band and I humor him, but my children tangle with him every day. Now they're 20 and 16, and it would be best for all concerned for him to go to a home, or else for Bernice to find him an apartment near Jier own. Bernice T. -1 made my bar gain with Frances in good faith. But my husband's busi ness was going sour, our two children were married and had left home, and we felt that under the circumstances we should sell the big house. It was expensive to maintain, and we had no further use for It. We found a ready buyer, and I was eager to use some of the profits to help Frances finance my father's care. But the was indignant and wouldn't even discuss the matter. Now I gather things have come to a pass where she must open the subject. I still want to contribute some money to ward a companion or any other comfort for my father. He's In good health and snouian t De in an old age home. As for his disposition, my children find Grandpa easy to be- with. Maybe Frances's kids goad him to battle. I can't possibly place mm near us. we re In a crowd ed neighborhood, we can't move now, and there are no empty apartments, anyway. Tha Council! Again, the same old aad recurrent prob lem of Home versus "home" for an aged parent. And one phase of it strikes us aa a bit fishy. Namely, how come the welcome gets worn out about the time the grandchildren no longer need a aleep-ln baby altter? While Frances's chil dren were six and ten It was mighty handy to have Grand pa around and be free to run off at a moment's notice. Nevertheless, Frances is on "titled to a respite and her Dad to a round of fresh (not Just assy) faces. The arrangement has staled. Everyone except Bernice haa tired of It. And It's quite possible that the older man is behaving In a trying manner, part of it due to the explosive domestic set up, part possibly due to a per sonality change setting In with his advancing age. The latter can be verified or discounted by a physician. May we suggest a stcp-by-atep procedure along the fol lowing lines? Frances will brief her children on being respectful and kind. At the with time, she will engineer chedulcs so that the two gen erations do not come too often In close contact during the next few weeks. In that time lie will watch for the pro pitlous, quiet moment in which to outline the true situ ation to her Dad. In the total configuration of the house hold, he must see himself as a guest rather than a chief tain! As a guest, he must think of leaving eventually. Meanwhile Bernice will look Into meeting her respon sibilities. The best solution, of course, would be for her and her husband to acquire a larg. er apartment, with quarters for her Dad under her own roof - a solution she claims was Impossible 10 years ago. Has she been avoiding it in the Interim? If no such hous ing can be obtained, then It's Bernice's assignment to find a place near her home In which to settle her father. It can be a furnished room or a shared or private apartment. Its main attraction will be its proxim ity to her, so that he can en Joy her filial Interest and fa miliar presence. Everyone should profit from the change. Off their neck, he'll look sweet and wise to the grandchildren. Above all, he'll be years away from a Home, atill cared for by his own rather than by strangers. "EAT Mi BEEF" I rSIIII& Where your meat dollar goes farther always more meat for less money! Featured at Thunderbird This Weak la a Fine Selection f Swifts Tender Aged Beef-Cut Ints Steaks thai are aura to please yeu, at Prices Yeu Can Afford te Pay. 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