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THURSDAY, AUGUST 18. 1962
MEDFORD MAIL TRIBUNE. MEDFORD. ORECON
Family
Council
Editor! note! Th Ft mil
Caunell eoiuiita of iudca.
ptychlatrtit, t h r clergymen.
three eauore ana women-i eaiier.
Each artlcla li a summary or
family dl.acreement presented
the Council. The Council dealt
with problem!, major and minor,
oncountered by cutdanco eoun-
aelora and loclal workeri. Edited
by Mn. Alma Denny. (Copyright
py General reaiurea corp.
Frances W. - My father'i
"six month stay" haa lasted
10 yeara.
Bernice T. - I can't accom
modate him, and he has no
where else to go.
Francai W. - My mother
died 10 yeara ago, and my
(later and I agreed that my
Sad should live with each of
us for six months out of each
year. This would vary it for
him, and give us a half year of
privacy in-between his stays.
I took the first period, and
within that time Bernice and
her husband sold their home
nd moved to a tiny apart
ment. Thus, when their turn
came there was no space for a
guest. Bernice offered to make
it up to us with a financial
contribution, but I refused. I
dldn t need money, I needed
another comfortable place for
my father to occupy.
After that, matters became
extremely trying. Dad ia a
atrong-willed person. My bus-
band and I humor him, but
my children tangle with him
every day. Now they're 20 and
16, and it would be best for
all concerned for him to go to
a home, or else for Bernice to
find him an apartment near
Jier own.
Bernice T. -1 made my bar
gain with Frances in good
faith. But my husband's busi
ness was going sour, our two
children were married and
had left home, and we felt
that under the circumstances
we should sell the big house.
It was expensive to maintain,
and we had no further use for
It. We found a ready buyer,
and I was eager to use some
of the profits to help Frances
finance my father's care. But
the was indignant and
wouldn't even discuss the
matter.
Now I gather things have
come to a pass where she must
open the subject. I still want
to contribute some money to
ward a companion or any
other comfort for my father.
He's In good health and
snouian t De in an old age
home. As for his disposition,
my children find Grandpa
easy to be- with. Maybe
Frances's kids goad him to
battle. I can't possibly place
mm near us. we re In a crowd
ed neighborhood, we can't
move now, and there are no
empty apartments, anyway.
Tha Council! Again, the
same old aad recurrent prob
lem of Home versus "home"
for an aged parent. And one
phase of it strikes us aa a bit
fishy. Namely, how come the
welcome gets worn out about
the time the grandchildren no
longer need a aleep-ln baby
altter? While Frances's chil
dren were six and ten It was
mighty handy to have Grand
pa around and be free to run
off at a moment's notice.
Nevertheless, Frances is on
"titled to a respite and her Dad
to a round of fresh (not Just
assy) faces. The arrangement
has staled. Everyone except
Bernice haa tired of It. And
It's quite possible that the
older man is behaving In a
trying manner, part of it due
to the explosive domestic set
up, part possibly due to a per
sonality change setting In with
his advancing age. The latter
can be verified or discounted
by a physician.
May we suggest a stcp-by-atep
procedure along the fol
lowing lines? Frances will
brief her children on being
respectful and kind. At the
with time, she will engineer
chedulcs so that the two gen
erations do not come too often
In close contact during the
next few weeks. In that time
lie will watch for the pro
pitlous, quiet moment in
which to outline the true situ
ation to her Dad. In the total
configuration of the house
hold, he must see himself as
a guest rather than a chief
tain! As a guest, he must think
of leaving eventually.
Meanwhile Bernice will
look Into meeting her respon
sibilities. The best solution, of
course, would be for her and
her husband to acquire a larg.
er apartment, with quarters
for her Dad under her own
roof - a solution she claims
was Impossible 10 years ago.
Has she been avoiding it in
the Interim? If no such hous
ing can be obtained, then It's
Bernice's assignment to find a
place near her home In which
to settle her father. It can be
a furnished room or a shared
or private apartment. Its main
attraction will be its proxim
ity to her, so that he can en
Joy her filial Interest and fa
miliar presence.
Everyone should profit
from the change. Off their
neck, he'll look sweet and
wise to the grandchildren.
Above all, he'll be years
away from a Home, atill cared
for by his own rather than by
strangers.
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Where your meat dollar
goes farther always more
meat for less money!
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T-Bone or Aiw.y. .
Club Steak 2L
Porterhouse
The "hungry man"
apecial. Specially
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HALEYS
SWIFT'S GENUINE SPRING LAMB YOUNG, TASTY AND TENDER
Lamb Shoulder Roast a. .,, 35
Leg of Lamb
Small sixes tender, tasty meet lb. ' 69
Lamb Chops
ASSORTED MORRELL'S VACPAK F A jft
Cold Cuts:.:.,. 4,88
Cut
te
breil
RIB CHOPS 59c lb.
SMALL LOIN CHOPS ... 79c lb.
BREAST
OF LAMB
Lean and meaty. Ceok
with fresh vegetables
10 lb-
FILLETS OF
Red Snapper
Fresh ecean
caught. Always e
special treat!
PORK 6 BEANS u.mm 2'M
EMPRESS HOUSEHOLD
ALUMINUM FOIL IB
PLASTIC
HANOI WRAP - i2xioo Ron
BAGLEY
SUN RIPE
MANDARIN ORANGES n. m
89c
PEARS HS-aS. No 2', can 19'
BORDEN'S PROCESSED
CHEESE SLICES - i m
GEBHARDT'S OLD FASHIONED
BARBECUE SAUCE Ili
LADIES CHOICE
MIXED FRUIT JELLY 20oz r 19
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Freestone Peaches 3) Collage Cheese I37: 1
HOMI FREEZING
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PATTERSON'S TAYSTEE WHITE
Sliced Bread
IS ex. leaf .
REO. 25c
POP ICE
GAUDY BARS
DENNISON
TAMALES
Lemenade
Flavors pkg. of 6
All VARIETIES .
19c
3 '19c
GRAPE Jill
All BEEF
lSViox.Cen
DW
KADOTAFIGS
Heavy Syrup
Rg- loc lex. Can
2 19c
GRAPE JUICE
GOLDEN DIPT
FISH FRY MEAL
ARMOUR'S STAR
VIENNA SAUSAGE
HUE PLATE
CUTOKRA
(limit 3)
Reg. 29c 24 ex. Can
Reg. 19c
10 ex. Pkg. .
ICURTISS I PLUMROSE DANISH . I .
MARSHMALLOWS DEVILED HAM
m HAH a aa Ba m. " as mm
m fw'7 mm m mm b i u. mm 11
NEW REFRESHING MIX
76 SODA POP
19c
2 - 19c
19c
19c
IUI PIATI
WHOLE PIMIEHTOS ... c 19c
DEL MONTI
PRUNE JUICE c,19c
OUPONT
. 4 ex. Can
SPONGE CLOTHS" ,k,9c
DRV CEREAL
. No. 303 Can
WHEAT PUFFS 19c
MILANIS ITALIAN
SALAD DRESSING
PALMOLIVE FACIAL AND
BATH SOAP
s-oi. jy l;th 0 I
OH ROY FRESH FROZEN
Spaghetti & Meat Balls m.,,. 49c
TOWNE PRIDE
ICE CREAM TOPPINGS J.ir- 6 -99c
KNORR DEHYDRATED
SOUP MIXES , 29c
CHEF IOY AR DEE
SPAGHETTI r..:r;. .,e.8ta99c
FOLGERS
COFFEES
For thai homemade A A.
Jam trVU
Apricet.'ineapple
E 49c " 97c
TYPHONI HEAVY SYRUP NO. 10 CAN
CRUSHED PINEAPPLE
MEADOWIROOK
SHERBIT
All Flavore Vi Gal. Crt.
LADIES' CHOICE
STRAWBERRY JELLY .,,, 39c
BISCUIT MIX
BISCUIT MIX
BISQUICK ""33c JIFFY? 29c
HUNT'S
VINEGAR Your Choice O.I. Jug 49C
49c
OH IOY FRESH FROZEN SUPER
Submarine Sandwiches V.;d;;: 59c
INSTANT
SANKA COFFEE - ...,.99c
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SUMMER
HOURS
p.m.
8 a.m. to 9
Prices Effective Thursday
Thru Sunday
We Reserve the Right To limit
No Seles te Dealers
SEA ISLAND OR TYPHONE
PINEAPPLE
Three varieties sliced, tidbits,
chunk in heavy syrup to
choose from.
NO 2 CAN