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O o O MEDFORD MAIL TRIBUNE, MEDFORD, ORE. MONDAY, JANUARY 16, 1961 B 5 Family Council Editor'! Note: The Famllv Tnim. ell coniiits o( a judga, a psychia trist, inree clergymen, a newspapar editor, a women'! editor and two wrtteri. Each article ll a lummary of an actual caie hlitory. The Council report! on problem! that nave oeen aeait Wltn by respon sible aRenclei and counielori. (Copyrllht 19SI General Feature! corp.) Mn. T. U.: I don't believe in filling a child'i head with sex information. Mn. H. P.s I want her to hear it from me before she gets it in a distorted form from others. Mrs. T. U.i Mrs. P. and I are neighbors and my daugh ter, Emmy, plays with her Leona a great deal. They're each 10 years old and in the same grade. Lately, I'm shocked and be- wildered by the questions Emmy's been asking me and the ideas she brings home. When I asked her where she learns them, she says, "From Leona. She knows every thing!" I'm not a prig. I've told Emmy whatever a normal child of 10 needs to know about her body and that of the opposite sex. While she rarely inquired about sex, I've been careful to answer her ques tions. But now Leona is filling her head with precocious and unnecessary tripe and I don't know how to handle it. I feel that Mrs. P. is over loading her child's mind with this stuff and it's spilling over on Emmy, who doesn't want it or need it. Mrs. H. P.i I can't help it if Emmy and Mrs. U. are dis turbed by my openness with Leona. I'm trying to spare my child what I went through. My mother either knew noth ing or couldn't get the right words past her lips, but I grew up collecting wrong notions, old wives' tales, "street" ver sions about sex. After much misery and embarassment, I was able to see things straight, with the help of a psychother apist and a loving and patient husband. Now I'm determined that Leona have the right atti tudes, the right words and the right information. And 1 want her to get them from me long before she hears the vulgar and cheap whispers from oth ers. , Mrs. U. should be glad that Emmy has a friend with an unpoisoned, clean -minded knowledge of sex. Why be squeamish about the truth? e The Council: Each of these mothers is on the right track in realizing that sex instruc tion, especially of their daugh ters, is primarily their respon sibility. But Mrs. U. needs radar and Mrs. P. needs brakes. Mrs. U. sits back and waits for problems to show up, even though they're around her wailing to be noticed. The fact that Emmy doesn't ask about sex doesn't mean she isn't wondering about it-or asking and listening to others. That's why it's good for a mother to volunteer information and en lightenment in the course of natural situations from infan cy on. During bathing, dress ing, nursing, pregnancy, toilet training, many casual oppor tunities arise for explaining bodily processes. Some authorities believe that if a parent doesn't tell and a child doesn't ask, some thing's bound to go wrong with the youngster's sexual development. Normally, a girl is curious and asks questions about everything. If she shuts up on this topic, it's usually that she feels a barrier be tween herself and her mother in this area. Despite guilt feel ings about it, she'll go else where for answers. But Mrs. P., because of her own background, may be go ing overboard with Leona, who uses her "privileged" in formation as an attention getter. With a little more pcr snrvtive and delicacy. Mrs. P., can confine her talks with her daughter to topics that fit into the present context of her life. The ideal approach would combine Mrs. U.'s desire to "edit" with Mrs. P.'s g'i'jncss in putting complex i atters into plain English. To both we recommend what Mrs. Frances Bruce Strain, the ed uratnr. said ahnut when to tell children about sex. "There is no when, and there is no tnlllnff " In other words, these two little cirls are learn ne about sex every day, no matter ho savs what. These ntclligcnl parents, however, can adorn the new concepts with beauty truth and health. EXTRADITION TREATY Washington - (BPD - The Uni ted States has signed crim inal extradition treaty with Brazil that officials said will close a favorite hiding place for U.S. fugitives. The trcOty, signed Friday will not cover the more than a dozen Ameri can "wanted" persons in Brazil until one month after final ratification and ex change of the ratification dcumenti. g J st'-e G; PATIO td 1 I I. V I catssma Tr .-J X FAUILY ROOM I ,... PT K. 14.16 J 0(J m A pi?1 a "ess" " 1 J tj-&- "O " BEDROOM OOS" ? GARA&f .1 & - & iPrPLAN NO. 3811 Y-'?T 5 iA ?V 1539 SQUARE FEETVLj 'S? Vtf Ranch and Modern Homes By HIAWATHA ESTES Interesting and imaginative planning adds livability to the charm of this modern-ranch style home. A combination of both vertical and horizontal Week's Sewing Buy ly TITif; iTTfiTi See how scallops curve pret ty neckline interest on this slimming sheath and its com panion bolero. A valuable Spring and Summer costume -Ideal for cool or warm wea ther. Easy-sew, too. Printed Pattern 9479: Miss es sizes li, 14, lo, IB, zu; 40. Size 16 outfit 3- yards 45-inch. Send FIFTY CENTS (coins) for this pattern - add 10 cents for each pattern for first-class mailing. Send to Marian Mar tin, Mail Tribune, Pattern Dept., 232 West 18th St., New York 11. N.Y Print plainly NAME, ADDRESS with SIZE and STYLE NUMBER. 100 FASHION FINDS -the best, newest, most beautiful printed Patterns for Spring Summer, 1961. See them all in our brand-new Color Cata log. Send 35c now! wood, sone planter and a cedar shake roof, indeed makes this design an inviting home. After you have really stud ied the floor plan, you will be glad that this is one design that you did not pass by. No tice the small amount of hall and yet you have ready access Family Favorite Curl up happily with this cozy afghan! Combine a rain bow of colors for gayest ef fect. JIFFY-KNIT! Use scraps of knitting worsted or tone-on-tone scheme for unique shell afghan. Pattern 7110: direc tions 5'ix8-inch medallion. Make pillow too. Send ihirly-five cents (coins for this pattern - add 10 cents for each pattern for lsl-class mailing. Send to Mail Trib une Household Arts Dept. P. 0. Box 163, Old Chelsea Sta tion, New York 11, N. Y. Print plainly NAME. AD DRESS, PATTERN NUMBER. Just OUT! Our 1961 Needle craft Book. Over 125 designs for home furnishings, for fash ions - knit, crochet, embroi der, weave, sew. quill - toys gifts, bazaar items. FREE six designs for popular veil caps. QUICK-send 25c today. OF SMITH & MEN Bv Jack Smith let I960 TImrs-Mlrror Syndicate to all rooms of the house plus the garage. From the garage, one has access to the side yard and to the kitchen. Both the water heater and forced air furnace have been located in the garage to save space in the house for closets, for easi er servicing and so their noise of operation will not become a nuisance. The garage door has been offset to allow room on the right wall for more storage or a workshop. Open cabinets plus an extra long eating bar separate the kitchen from the family room. Besides an unusual amount of cabinets and the regular built-ins, there is also a floor to ceiling pantry. Note the wide window at the sink. Sliding glass doors in both the living and family rooms open onto the patio and rear garden. A wide picture win dow in the master bedroom also provides an ever chang ing view to the rear of the house. From the sheltered porch, the front door opens to an en try with a large guest closet. The entry is separated from the living room by partial walls. A feature which is some what unusual but is becoming more and more popular is the location of the washer and dryer in a closet off the bed room hall. This means that dirty clothes do not have to be carried from one of the house to the other and then returned after being launder ed. This arrangements is def initely a work saver for to today's housewife. All bedrooms have wide wardrobes while the master bedroom has its own dressing room. The baths are back to back and both feature pull man lavatories. There's an old canard that European men are more chiv ralrous than American men, and consequently more suc cessful with women. It crops up after every Atlantic cross ing. Usually it's carried back by some pulsating spinster who saw a Romanov in every door man and whose most intimate encounter with the European male was when the Italian customs opened her valise in Naples. Back in the dull security of her native land this adventur ess likes to let on that she es caped Europe with her virtue only by defending it against constant assault with the cunning of Lucrezia and the strength of Brunhilde. Her fiction is verlfeid, with different endings, by her less belligerent sister, who comes home in such an alarming state of worldly ennui as to suggest that she traveled the same obstacle course without a struggle, suffering one de bilitating surrender after an other. This sort of fancy is for givable in women. To them, rightly, the world is a roman tic stage. It's galling, though, to have the myth of European chival ry perpetuated by an Ameri can male-a solid business type at that, such as Joe Hynes, president of the Flor ists Telegraph Delivery Assn. "Over there," Hynes said recently, "it's not at all un usual for a French or English husband to pick up flowers two or three times a week and present them to his wife." American men don't follow this custom, he says, because they are bashful, not very ro mantic and not very chival rous. That's not it at all, Hynes. It just wouldn't work here. I don't know why. It's against our cultural forms or some thing. In America when a man brings flowers home, the neighbors talk. They say, "The Hennesseys must have had another knock-down-drag-out," or something like that. I remember the last time I tried to sneak home with a dozen roses. Gribble saw me. He was out in his yard pois oning something. "Roses, hell?" he called out across the street. "Yes," I said, stiffly. "Roses." I hurried toward the door. "Anything wrong?" Gribble shouted after me. "No, no," I assured him. "Everything's fine! Splendid!" "The wife okay?" Gribble demanded. "She's fine," I shouted. "Wonderful." "Roses?" my wife said when I gave them to her. "Yes, roses." I snido"v nal's' wrong with roses?" "Why, they're lovely," she said. "Who are they far?" "Who're they for!" I cried. "Who do you think they're for!" "It isn't anything, is it?" she asked. "What kind of a remark is that?" I said. "It isn't any thing? What isn't anything?" "I mean," she explained, "it isn't an anniversary or anything?" I sank on to the couch. "No," I sighed. "It isn't any thing. It's just roses. Red, red roses. A simple act of chivalry." The next morning when 1 went out to go to work, Mrs. Gribble was out in her robe cheeping at the sparrows. She smiled and waved. "Emmet told me," she culled oifl. "Isn't it wonder ful?" "Isn't what wonderful?" I shouted. "About your wife," she hollered, "expecting, and nil." "What are you talking about?" I screamed. I got in my car and tried to start it. "That was sweet of you," Mrs. Gribble yelled as the car lurched off. "The roses and all." You see, Hynes, it won't work in America, dash it. Detroit About one-third of all trucks in the U.S. are owned and used by farmers. Well Child Conference Planned in Eagle Point Eagle Point- A "well cl -"i" conference will be held at the Eagle Point grade school, Thursday,' Jan. 19, from 1 to 3 p.m. Children from the ages of six months lo six years are eligible to attend. The conference is designed primarily for children who are not under the regular health supervision of a fam ily doctor. Immunization shots will be offered at the con ference. Dr. A. E. Merkel, public health physician, will be tha examining doctor. Appoint ments may be made by calling Mrs. Dean Collett at Hill crest 6-1176. fpnan Complete working, drawinm for this pian can be purchased at a cost of S7.50 for the first set and S5 for each additional set when ordered at the same time. This plan will be available until May 15, IK1, Please allow two weeks for delivery. If the above hnmt does not entirely meet with your approval, a new home plan book. RANCH and MOIIKII.N IIOYIKS can he purchased for S2. Send all orders for either plans or books to: Hiawatha i:stes, P.O. Box 401-T Korlhrirde, Calif "Hi! I'm Helen Dow and I'm Inviting you to attend our Open House Party, Fri day, January 20th, celebra ing the merger of The Rogue Valley Stare Bank Mediord and The Oregon Bank Portland Watch for your Treasure Chest key in the mail." Rogue Valley Branch 1 109 Court Street East Medford Branch 701 East Jackson 1 'V' " Vr,'. Hj Bob Taylor Says .. . I I I 1! - "xj I "e can save ou rea' moncy I tv, C s 5 If, ... and you'll be driving a car I ff . iiL, - , Aat'5?! that looks and drives like new!" U Starti"9 ri9ht aw EXAMPLES: Just a few of our fine bargains Economy Buy! '51 FORD English CS Consul 4-Dr. '60 '59 '59 I MP ALA Hardtop, 4-Dr., loaded. Just like new! BONNEVILLE Loaded, White Hardtop Coupe! CHEV, WAGON Sharp, Loaded, Real Buy! "We cannot afford a single dissatisfied customer" R TAYLOR P0NTIAC CO. and GMC TRUCKS Where Prices Are Lowestl Headquarters for Cars and Trucks, and for complete service, tool SIXTH and GRAPE-SP 3 7421 New York - IUP1) - The Ford Foundation has made a grant to the National Committee on Employment of Youth to con duct a national workshop on job preparation of young peo ple who leave school gradu ation. The workshop will be held In Detroit on Feb. 22 and 23 with delegates from 34 communities present to discuss job upgrading. Barker's announce with regret thot some 300 pair of their shoes are dead. If you would like to visit the bodies where they lie ol 206 E. Main, please bring nine dollars. O pretty good! thes formefly sold lor i high it $22.95. Pappus o JQ bta-aQHjai! TiBil niriHrfifliM';Mg GOOD ADVERTISING REALLY SELLS! When you tell them, they know. But when you sell them, they buy! And buying makes the difference in your business profits. Apply this same thinking to your advertising. A listing in a business directory tells the pub lic that you're in business. A timely, pointed ad in the Mail Tribune Classified Section tells 'em . . . and sells 'em! A Want Ad shows the customers that you have what they want right now . . . and gives them good reasons for buy ing it.right now. When you have something to sell . . . use the advertising medium that .knows the difference between telling and selling. Use the Want Ads . . . they make the profitable difference! MEDFORD MAIL TRIBUNE 0 O
