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MEDFORD MAIL TRIBUNE, MEDFORD, ORE.
MONDAY, JANUARY 16, 1961
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Family
Council
Editor'! Note: The Famllv Tnim.
ell coniiits o( a judga, a psychia
trist, inree clergymen, a newspapar
editor, a women'! editor and two
wrtteri. Each article ll a lummary
of an actual caie hlitory. The
Council report! on problem! that
nave oeen aeait Wltn by respon
sible aRenclei and counielori.
(Copyrllht 19SI General Feature!
corp.)
Mn. T. U.: I don't believe
in filling a child'i head with
sex information.
Mn. H. P.s I want her to
hear it from me before she
gets it in a distorted form
from others.
Mrs. T. U.i Mrs. P. and I
are neighbors and my daugh
ter, Emmy, plays with her
Leona a great deal. They're
each 10 years old and in the
same grade.
Lately, I'm shocked and be-
wildered by the questions
Emmy's been asking me and
the ideas she brings home.
When I asked her where she
learns them, she says, "From
Leona. She knows every
thing!"
I'm not a prig. I've told
Emmy whatever a normal
child of 10 needs to know
about her body and that of the
opposite sex. While she rarely
inquired about sex, I've been
careful to answer her ques
tions. But now Leona is filling
her head with precocious and
unnecessary tripe and I don't
know how to handle it.
I feel that Mrs. P. is over
loading her child's mind with
this stuff and it's spilling over
on Emmy, who doesn't want it
or need it.
Mrs. H. P.i I can't help it if
Emmy and Mrs. U. are dis
turbed by my openness with
Leona. I'm trying to spare my
child what I went through.
My mother either knew noth
ing or couldn't get the right
words past her lips, but I grew
up collecting wrong notions,
old wives' tales, "street" ver
sions about sex. After much
misery and embarassment, I
was able to see things straight,
with the help of a psychother
apist and a loving and patient
husband.
Now I'm determined that
Leona have the right atti
tudes, the right words and the
right information. And 1 want
her to get them from me long
before she hears the vulgar
and cheap whispers from oth
ers. , Mrs. U. should be glad that
Emmy has a friend with an
unpoisoned, clean -minded
knowledge of sex. Why be
squeamish about the truth?
e
The Council: Each of these
mothers is on the right track
in realizing that sex instruc
tion, especially of their daugh
ters, is primarily their respon
sibility. But Mrs. U. needs
radar and Mrs. P. needs
brakes.
Mrs. U. sits back and waits
for problems to show up, even
though they're around her
wailing to be noticed. The fact
that Emmy doesn't ask about
sex doesn't mean she isn't
wondering about it-or asking
and listening to others. That's
why it's good for a mother to
volunteer information and en
lightenment in the course of
natural situations from infan
cy on. During bathing, dress
ing, nursing, pregnancy, toilet
training, many casual oppor
tunities arise for explaining
bodily processes.
Some authorities believe
that if a parent doesn't tell
and a child doesn't ask, some
thing's bound to go wrong
with the youngster's sexual
development. Normally, a girl
is curious and asks questions
about everything. If she shuts
up on this topic, it's usually
that she feels a barrier be
tween herself and her mother
in this area. Despite guilt feel
ings about it, she'll go else
where for answers.
But Mrs. P., because of her
own background, may be go
ing overboard with Leona,
who uses her "privileged" in
formation as an attention
getter. With a little more pcr
snrvtive and delicacy. Mrs. P.,
can confine her talks with her
daughter to topics that fit into
the present context of her life.
The ideal approach would
combine Mrs. U.'s desire to
"edit" with Mrs. P.'s g'i'jncss
in putting complex i atters
into plain English. To both
we recommend what Mrs.
Frances Bruce Strain, the ed
uratnr. said ahnut when to
tell children about sex. "There
is no when, and there is no
tnlllnff "
In other words, these two
little cirls are learn ne about
sex every day, no matter ho
savs what. These ntclligcnl
parents, however, can adorn
the new concepts with beauty
truth and health.
EXTRADITION TREATY
Washington - (BPD - The Uni
ted States has signed crim
inal extradition treaty with
Brazil that officials said will
close a favorite hiding place
for U.S. fugitives. The trcOty,
signed Friday will not cover
the more than a dozen Ameri
can "wanted" persons in
Brazil until one month after
final ratification and ex
change of the ratification
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to all rooms of the house plus
the garage. From the garage,
one has access to the side yard
and to the kitchen. Both the
water heater and forced air
furnace have been located in
the garage to save space in
the house for closets, for easi
er servicing and so their noise
of operation will not become
a nuisance. The garage door
has been offset to allow room
on the right wall for more
storage or a workshop.
Open cabinets plus an extra
long eating bar separate the
kitchen from the family room.
Besides an unusual amount
of cabinets and the regular
built-ins, there is also a floor
to ceiling pantry. Note the
wide window at the sink.
Sliding glass doors in both
the living and family rooms
open onto the patio and rear
garden. A wide picture win
dow in the master bedroom
also provides an ever chang
ing view to the rear of the
house.
From the sheltered porch,
the front door opens to an en
try with a large guest closet.
The entry is separated from
the living room by partial
walls.
A feature which is some
what unusual but is becoming
more and more popular is the
location of the washer and
dryer in a closet off the bed
room hall. This means that
dirty clothes do not have to
be carried from one of the
house to the other and then
returned after being launder
ed. This arrangements is def
initely a work saver for to
today's housewife.
All bedrooms have wide
wardrobes while the master
bedroom has its own dressing
room. The baths are back to
back and both feature pull
man lavatories.
There's an old canard that
European men are more chiv
ralrous than American men,
and consequently more suc
cessful with women. It crops
up after every Atlantic cross
ing. Usually it's carried back by
some pulsating spinster who
saw a Romanov in every door
man and whose most intimate
encounter with the European
male was when the Italian
customs opened her valise in
Naples.
Back in the dull security of
her native land this adventur
ess likes to let on that she es
caped Europe with her virtue
only by defending it against
constant assault with the
cunning of Lucrezia and the
strength of Brunhilde.
Her fiction is verlfeid, with
different endings, by her less
belligerent sister, who comes
home in such an alarming
state of worldly ennui as to
suggest that she traveled the
same obstacle course without
a struggle, suffering one de
bilitating surrender after an
other. This sort of fancy is for
givable in women. To them,
rightly, the world is a roman
tic stage.
It's galling, though, to have
the myth of European chival
ry perpetuated by an Ameri
can male-a solid business
type at that, such as Joe
Hynes, president of the Flor
ists Telegraph Delivery Assn.
"Over there," Hynes said
recently, "it's not at all un
usual for a French or English
husband to pick up flowers
two or three times a week and
present them to his wife."
American men don't follow
this custom, he says, because
they are bashful, not very ro
mantic and not very chival
rous. That's not it at all, Hynes.
It just wouldn't work here. I
don't know why. It's against
our cultural forms or some
thing.
In America when a man
brings flowers home, the
neighbors talk. They say,
"The Hennesseys must have
had another knock-down-drag-out,"
or something like that.
I remember the last time
I tried to sneak home with a
dozen roses. Gribble saw me.
He was out in his yard pois
oning something.
"Roses, hell?" he called out
across the street.
"Yes," I said, stiffly.
"Roses." I hurried toward the
door.
"Anything wrong?" Gribble
shouted after me.
"No, no," I assured him.
"Everything's fine! Splendid!"
"The wife okay?" Gribble
demanded.
"She's fine," I shouted.
"Wonderful."
"Roses?" my wife said
when I gave them to her.
"Yes, roses." I snido"v nal's'
wrong with roses?"
"Why, they're lovely," she
said. "Who are they far?"
"Who're they for!" I cried.
"Who do you think they're
for!"
"It isn't anything, is it?"
she asked.
"What kind of a remark is
that?" I said. "It isn't any
thing? What isn't anything?"
"I mean," she explained,
"it isn't an anniversary or
anything?"
I sank on to the couch.
"No," I sighed. "It isn't any
thing. It's just roses. Red, red
roses. A simple act of chivalry."
The next morning when 1
went out to go to work, Mrs.
Gribble was out in her robe
cheeping at the sparrows. She
smiled and waved.
"Emmet told me," she
culled oifl. "Isn't it wonder
ful?" "Isn't what wonderful?" I
shouted.
"About your wife," she
hollered, "expecting, and nil."
"What are you talking
about?" I screamed. I got in
my car and tried to start it.
"That was sweet of you,"
Mrs. Gribble yelled as the car
lurched off. "The roses and
all."
You see, Hynes, it won't
work in America, dash it.
Detroit About one-third of
all trucks in the U.S. are
owned and used by farmers.
Well Child Conference
Planned in Eagle Point
Eagle Point- A "well cl -"i"
conference will be held at
the Eagle Point grade school,
Thursday,' Jan. 19, from 1 to
3 p.m. Children from the ages
of six months lo six years
are eligible to attend.
The conference is designed
primarily for children who
are not under the regular
health supervision of a fam
ily doctor. Immunization shots
will be offered at the con
ference. Dr. A. E. Merkel, public
health physician, will be tha
examining doctor. Appoint
ments may be made by calling
Mrs. Dean Collett at Hill
crest 6-1176.
fpnan
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When you tell them, they know. But when you
sell them, they buy! And buying makes the
difference in your business profits.
Apply this same thinking to your advertising.
A listing in a business directory tells the pub
lic that you're in business. A timely, pointed
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'em . . . and sells 'em! A Want Ad shows the
customers that you have what they want right
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ing it.right now.
When you have something to sell . . . use the
advertising medium that .knows the difference
between telling and selling. Use the Want Ads
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