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About Medford mail tribune. (Medford, Or.) 1909-1989 | View Entire Issue (Feb. 19, 1957)
MEDFORD (OREGON) MAIL TRIBUNE THREE Family Council Tuesday. February 19, 1957 Mrs. K. G. My sister's suitor vould make a good father to her boy. Mrs. H. M. I can't marry him lor that alone, o Mrs. K. G. My sister's hus band died two years ago, leav ing her with one little boy, aged 4. My sister then went to live with our mother and grand mother. During the first year after her husband s death my sister was so heartbroken she would not consider any social activity. Recently, however, she has perk ed up a bit ai none out and met a man who wants very much to marry her. This man is a widower with two young daughters. He is fine person, has a good income and is a very good father. I feel that my sister is making a ter rible mistake by discouraging him as she has. If only for her son's sake she should marry him,. The boy needs a father. He only has contact with women wider the present arrangement. Mrs. H. M I can't see what harm it is doing my son to be with the three of us. Of course. I would like him to have a father, but I don't feel I can marry this man on that basis alone. The man my sister speaks of is all shg says he is, but I don't feel he loves me or that I love him. He has approached me on the basi3 that we both owe an obligation to our children to establish a home with two par ents, o My husband and I were very much in love and I am afraid I could not live with a man I do not love. I am willing to make sacrifices for my son, but this one is jg too much for me. My son is bring very well cared for O ,-by the three of us. We do our best to encourage all his boy ish interests and not make a siaay out of him. o ... The Council: Mrs. H. M. Is riiit to refuse to make a mar- ringe for the sole purpose of supplying her son with a . father. Such- a step is not likely to lead to 0 very .successful marriage. She should not, however, rule aut Qiis highly eligible man untP she has gotten to know Ohim better. He may just be us ?3k the wrong approach, 'here 9 a strong possibility tfrat this man feels he is using the most persuasive possible argument when he speaks to Mrs. H. M. of the need to make a home for their children. It is likely thai he is attracted to her am romantically interested, but underestimates her own interest in romance. Q Mrs. H. M. is probably some wlQt(ffended that the man does not show enough interest in her as a woman. If ie does not dis courage him, she may quickly find this interest just beneath the suri.e. and may find her self readily responding to it. O The problem of her son may be considered separately. Al- thoughOMrs. H. M. and her mother and grandmother may be doing the best they can for he boy, they cannot supply him irt-ith sometlung he strongly needs a male fi?ire with whom 0 he m identify. This is import ant to his development and Mrs. H. M. should try to make up for the lack. , Frequent contact with his uncles or other male members of the family would help. Steady contact is needed, however. If this regular contact i not pos sible with a member of the fam ily, Mrs. H. M. would do well to hire a male baby sitter a youth of college age who can spend a few afternoons a week with the boy and possibly take him on an outing over the week end. She should try to find some one whO is willing to keep the job for a prolonged period, so that her son ill not constantly have this male contact torn away from him. q (Copyright 1957, General Featutts Corp.) Read and Use Classified Ada Tha Low Cost Way To SeU THIS MONTH ONLY r"S' nwH for sV YOUR A'Nw" OLD WATER HEATER ISjOAKDlESJ OF TYPE, SIZE OR CONDITION O O OH MOOR WESTINGHOUSE (gECfRC WATER HEATiK 10 YEAR ritStECTtON POLICY EASY TERMS, Trowbridge & Flynn Eisctric Company 214 W. Main Ph. 2-S211 TIRED BACK.. .rlred all over! 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