Medford mail tribune. (Medford, Or.) 1909-1989, August 03, 1956, Image 2

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Newspaper Page TextTWO MEDFOBD (OREGON) MAIL THIB'JNE Help Yourself to Happiness Readers irt Invited t present (heir problems. All queries will receive Individual attention and should bp areompanl'd by a stamped. self-addressed envelope, directed to MAR V HARRIS SF.IFERT. M.A.. Department of Educa tion. The AMERICAN INSTITUTE Or FAMILY RELATIONS, 5217 Sunset Boulevard, Los Angeles 27, California. When Grandma Comes To Stay Readers are invited to present their problems. All queries will receive individual attention and should be accompanied by a stamped, self - addressed envel ope, directed to Mary Harris Seifert. M.A., Department of Education. The American In stitute Of Family Relations, 5287 Sunset Boulevard, Los Angeles 27 California. "My mother-in-law is coming to live with us. What can we do so that our home will remain our own, and Grandma will be happy?" Increased life span presents this problem to many young couples. Parents are growing older, and dependent upon their married children. Homes are be coming smaller, and suitable niches in the household routine less available for the elderly in an urban situation. The ideal solution, of course. is for the old to live independent ly or with others of their age. But sometimes this is not pos sible, and Crandma, after a life of independence, become an un willing and frequently refractory dependent in a younger house hold. Grandma, with her differnt life, cannot help disturbing the household. But she should try not to upset prevailing customs or harmony. And grown children should attempt to combine their lives with hers as smoothly as possible, cooperating but not sacrificing their own- individual ity. Dr. Paul Popenoe of the Amer ican Institute of Family Rela tions in Los Angeles suggests: 1. Try honestly to make the outsider feel useful, one of the family group. Create small re sponsibilities for her if none exist. Remember that to feel ac cepted, she must feel essential, necessary to her family unit. 2. Encourage Grandma in as many interests and activities as possible her own, that she may feel individuality rather than the necessity of slavishly following your activities. 3. When differences in customs or judgement arise, be kind but firm in explaining that you must Women Players Win Top Scores of Cards Camp White Mrs. Frank Baker and Mrs. Marrs Gibbons scored lOO'-j points to lead north-south players when the Camp White Veterans Bridge club held the last meeting. Mrs. Al Gilhousen and Bill Hickey scored second place in that posi tion with 92V? points. Mrs. Edna Miller and Mrs. Fred Purdin led east-west play ers, their score totaling 99 points. The Thomas Randalls were in second place with 93'i points. Mrs. Abbott. Daughter Visit San Francisco Mrs. Esther Abbott and daugh ter. Alicia. 468 South Stage rd., returned last week from a 10-day trip to San Francisco. While in the city they shopped and visited places of interest, also attending the ice follies. They stayed with Harriet Jones, a former Medford resident. DURING OUR ANNIVERSARY SALE Just for looking at NEW 1956 MmmvGil Appliances Come in Today Saturday and Look TD A PIC klOWf I follow your established beliefs. Respect hers in return. 4. Agree in advance on money and services to be exchanged. Try to be reasonable in your expectations and demands. 5. Arrange definitely concer ing shared household areas or equipment. If possible, allow Grandma her own room. 6. Show her your household routine and how she may fit into it with harmony for all. With kindness and cooperation an elderly person may become a welcome asset in a busy house hold, and herself find happiness in a feeling of again "belonging" to a vital family unit. Beach Comber Party Planned At Country Club Members of Rogue Valley Country club have planned a "beachcomber party for Satur day, August 4. This will be the annual summer party of the club, and is for members and out-of-town guests only. The co-chairmen, Dr. and Mrs. William Miller and Mr. and Mrs. Justin Smith, state that the hos pitality hour will be from 8 to 9 p.m. and dancing will be from 9 p.m. to 2 a.m. A "shore dinner" will be served from 9 until mid night. Reservations may be made by calling the club. Several member couples are assisting the chairmen. Mr. and Mrs. Eugene Thorndike are pub licity chairmen, and the decora tions committee is made up of Mr. and Mrs. Delbert Wright, chairmen. Dr. and Mrs. Russell Barnes, Dr. and Mrs. Merle Fo land, Mr. and Mrs. M. O. Grove, Mr. and Mrs. William Henry and Mr. and Mrs. R. R. Parsons. Mr. and Mrs. Raymond Mik sche and Mr. and Mrs. Ben Trow bridge are the table decorations committee. Harry Barker is arranging en tertainment for the evening, and pupils of the Colleen Hope Dance studio will appear in a group of numbers. On the greeting committee are Mr. and Mrs. Robert Hinman, and Richard Finches, Mr. and Mrs. Ivan Harrington, Mr. and Mrs. Sam Gilbert, the Lee Brays and the Jack Doughertys, Mr. and Mrs. Sharon Eichelberger, Mr. and Mrs. Clayton Lewis and Dr. and Mrs. Barnes. Abby Green and an augmented orchestra will provide music for dancing. Everyone is asked to wear sports or "beach comber" attire. Medford Couple Takes Motor Trip Mr. and Mrs. L. O. Boomer have returned to their home at 933 Dakota avenue after a vaca tion trip by car to several na tional parks. They went from Medford to Mt. Lassen National park and then continued to Lake Tahoe, Yosemite National park, the Grand Canyon country, Zion and Brice National parks. Cedar Breaks National monument and Reno, Nev., before returning home. The Boomers were away about 12 days. !Ei.IH!?.!xQuisiTE SNi-',K IKIUESCENT or Around! W Y 225 E 6hS St. Friday. August 3. 1358 Contest Planned Between Lodges A membership content be tween the Central Point . and Medford IOOF lodges was ar ranged at the last meeting of the latter group. The Central Point lodge challenged the Medford unit, and Jesse Thomasson, new noble grand of Medford IOOF, accepted. After the meeting birthday cakes were served in the banquet room honoring J. W. Cave, Wil liam Claypool, Frank Clavton, L. S. Horton, S. W. Kohn, C. W. Luman, Forest Samples, Fred Slate and G. C. Wimer. Ladies'. Auxiliary Announces Picnic Ladies auxiliary to Siskiyou canton, Patriarchs Militant, will I hold a picnic Sunday, August 5, ' at the home of Mr. and Mrs. W. H. Dyer, 29 Myrtle street. The event is set for 5:30 o"clock. Members attending are asked to take food for the picnic menu, and table service. The auxiliary will provide rolls and beverage. CALENDAR Friday: Evening Ice cream social, Phoenix Presbyterian church. 'Jewelry' Giraffe This handsome giraffe makes a wonderful resting place for all your jewelry! Hang necklaces, bracelets around his neck; ear rings and rings on horns and ears! Pattern 7012: "Jewelry" gi raffe 21 inches tall! Easy di rections, embroidery transfer of face. Send TWENTY-FIVE cents in coins for this pattern add 5 cents for each pattern for 1st class mailing. Send to Medford Mail Tribune, Household Arts Dept., P.O. Box 168 Old Chelsea Station, New York 11. N. Y. Print plainly NAME, ADDRESS and PATTERN NUMBER. Two FREE patterns printed in the new Alice Brooks Needle craft book for 1956! Stunning de signs for yourself, for your home just for you, our readers! Doz ens of other designs to order all easy, fascinating hand -work! Send 23 cents for your copy of this wonderful book right away! Medford -hor 3-5433 Women Judges 'Wonderful' Says Visitor By BETTY JANE SOUTHARD United Press Correspondent W ashington (U.RJ A visiting high court justice from the Su dan said it is "wonderful" that the capital of the United States has four woman judges. The jurist, R. C. Soni, said "women have a definite place in law and I'm pleased to find four women have been elevated to the bench here." He referred to District Court Judge Burnita Matthews. Municipal Court Judges Mildred Reeves, and Mary Barlow and Juvenile Court Judge Edith Cockrell. Soni, escorted by Washington attorney Axel W. Oxholm, toured the federal and municipal courts here. He said he was par ticularly interested to find out if women lawyers are hired for a variety of cases. No Wigs "In many countries," Soni said, "women lawyers only handle domestic relations cases." Oxholm explained that the 5.036 women lawyers in the United States are not restricted to domestic relations and "have entered every phrase of the law. The foreign jurist was openly surprised at many things he saw and one thing he didn't see. "Where are the wigs?" Soni asked Oxholm. "None of the judges have their wigs on." Oxholm replied -that in the United States "it's not customary for judges to wear wigs as they do in other countries." The high court justice was "surprised" because the men judges wore different colored ties with their robes. From India To Sudan "Everywhere else," he said, "judges wear black ties. But here every tie is different." His legal guide explained that Americans have "no rules" about brightly colored ties not even for judges. Soni said there are many com mon legal tics which bind the courts of the United States, In dia, and Sudan. He explained that after he re tired in India, Prime Minister Nehru "lent" him to the Sudan ese High Court. He is the only foreigner on Sudan's High Court. "I referred to American court decisions when I was a judge in India," he said, "and I do the same in Sudan." Soni was "very impressed" with the "splendid" court build ings here. "Instead of visiting ancient ruins," he said, "I'd rather see these living buildings where American justice is rendered daily." LIGHTING ADVICE When lighting your flowers for summer beauty, G-E lighting specialists remind you that white flowers and gardens with mixed and highly saturated col ored blooms usually look best when lighted with white light. If you want to heighten trie col ors of blossoms, or objects, use bulbs of the same hue. 'Go Everywhere' i "Go everywhere" in this ; simply smart ensemble! It's flat tering to all figures, perfect for . every occasion. Sundress has a i neat new slant to its bodice; bo j lero provides the pretty cover I for town, travel, 'tween season weather! Pattern 9102: Misses' sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20; 40, 42. 44, 46, 48. Size 18 dress takes 3;s yards 35 ' inch fabric; bolero takes 2',i yards. This easy-to-use pattern gives perfect fit. Complete, illustrated sew chart shows you every step. Send THIRTY-FIVE cents in coins for this pattern add 5 cents for each pattern for 1st class mailing, end to Marian Martin, care of Medford Mail Tribune, Pattern Dept., 232 West 18th St., New York 11. N. Y. Print plainlv NAME. ADDRESS, SIZE and STYLE NUMBER. sizes gf jy The fourth "opening night" of iha 195S Oregon Shake spearean festival is set for Saturday when "Cymbeline" will be given Us first production. The scene shown here is of Don Gunderson, Chicago, who appears as Iachimo. and Joan Kugell, Natick, Mass., as Imogen. Curtain time for- the plays is always 8:30 o'clock. The Family Council Editor'! Note: The Family Council consists ot a Judge, a psychiatrist, a newspaper editor, a womens page editor and two newspaper writers. These consult with clergymen of all faluu and denominations. AU letters are held la complete confidence. Mrs. J.T.R. We should for give this debt. J.T.R. This is our retirement money. Mrs. J.T.R. Over the past three years, my husband has loaned quite a bit of money to our married daughter and her husband to help pay heavy doc tor and hospital bills for a child who has died. Now we have the problem of what attitude to ake about the loans.. We are poor people and the money we lent them is what we depended upon to supplement social security on retirement. On the other hand, I happen to know that our daughter was ex tremely reluctant to take our money and did not do so before exhausting all her other re sources. ... My daughter and son-in-law are now badly in debt and, of course, they have not got over their feeling of great loss. It was my thought that we might uplift their spirits by telling them now that we do not expect them to repay the money and that we would not accept it if they did offer it. My husband, however, disagrees. J.T.R. I can't see that we would be helping the children if we made ourselves destitute and dependent by giving up our nest egg. Suppose, in five years when my retirement is due, we are unable to make ends meet and the children have to sacri fice to help us, will that be good for anyone? I am not dunning them for the money and don't propose to. I know they did not spend the money for pleasure, and I know how they are in no position to pay it back now. I also know that they have more pressing debts. I'm no Bar-B-0 Bum He minds his picnic manners-' especially when it's barbecued beef 911 de licious Holsum the energy white bread in the orange red wrapper. MAKE IT TASTE BETTER Serve it with Holsum Bread This does not mean, however, that I must encourage them to be shiftless and to feel sorry for themselves by telling them that a debt of honor is no longer a debt because they suffered a sorrow. We too have suffered a sorrow, a double sorrow, in losing a grandchild and seeing our daughter suffer. Financial irresponsibility is no cure for sorrow. The Council The solution to this problem lies between the two conflicting viewpoints. This loan has to be paid be cause this money is the basis for independence of two aging peo ple. The daughter and son-in law should, however, have the clear assurance that the parents do not need- this money for a definite interval and do not ex pect it. Evidently, the parents are able to wait most or all of the five years before retirement, and it will help the younger couple if they are told that. Otherwise, there will be em barrassment, strain and perhaps a creeping resentment in the re lation of the two generations. It is definitely not wise to for give a debt of this nature, but it is just as unwise to leave the debt hanging over the heads of the younger couple as a vague shadow. Make a definite, clean cut arrangement that will pro tect the older folks from loss of their independence and the younger folks from worry and bad conscience. Such an agree ment would spur them on to settle all their debts and get on their feet again. (Copyright 1956, General Fea tures Corp.) Spraying rugs and carpels with a five per cent DDT oil so lution every 12 to 18 months will prevent moth damage. Early-Marriage Trend Marked By Statisticians New York The Metropoli tan Life Insurance company's statisticians report a marked trend toward earlier marriages in the United States. Currently about half the men who event ually marry do so before age 23; for women the median age at first marriage is about 20 years. The total number of married people in the country's popula tion has reached a record high of 8134 million, which compares with 75 million in 1950, and 60' million in 1940. At present almost 70 percent of the population at ages 15 and over is married, whereas for the decades prior to World War II the proportion was at most little more than 60 percent, accord ing to the statisticians' report. which is based largely on Bureau ot the Census data. The increase in the married proportion of the population has been consider ably more since 1940 than in the preceding half century. Among men at ages 20-24 years the proportion married al most doubled between 1940 and 1955 increasing from 27 per cent to 51 percent. , The recent growth of the mar ried population, it is pointed out, has resulted mainly from the record high number of mar riages during and following World War II. and particularly from i marked rise in the mar riage rate at the younger ages. Contributing factors are the de crease in mortality in early and middle adult life, with conse quent postponement of widow hood, and the high remarriage rate among the widowed and divorced. The statisticians note that there has been a general trend toward earlier marriage for well over a half century, but that this tendency was accelerated after 1940. SOUR CREAM TRICKS New York U.R) A refresh ing sour cream mixture doubles as a meat sauce or salad dress ing. Add horseradish to taste to sour cream. Whipped cream may be used instead of sour. Serve with hot or cold roast beef or with cucumber salad. famous Perrln CAMERA BAGS! at Special Summer Prices World's Most Versatile- ai mill CALIFORNIA bt r, asaBBBk. No. 705 In addition to its extreme versatil ity and unequalled selection of leather,No. 705 features soft nicded interiors, heavy doty brass Talon tipper, double leather shoulder strap, sponge rubber lined shoulder pad, filter pocket in lid, tripod at tachment strap rings, and rein forced sides, bottom and top. 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The study also showed that in 40 per cent of the cases, men tal factors combined with other causd to produce illness which required surgery. The doctors pointed out that a significant result was that pa tients with a high degree of anx iety or fear before surgery were more likely to make a better recovery. This indicated, they said, that some degree of fear and anxiety was helpful in pre paring the patient for surgery. They said two results were especially significant. One was the high percentage of patients who, because of personality fac tors, aggravated their illness and even endangered their lives by delaying surgical help. The other result was the search still being carried on at the university to find what factors cause improvement or aggrava tion of patients' condition after surgery. Lighted Umbrella Good For Outdoor Parties A lighted umbrella will give you additional hours of outdoor entertaining after dark. Almost any one of the many lawn sets of chairs and a table with an umbrella can be lighted by the ' household handy man. To light the umbrella, use a 150-watt projector bulb (made of hard glass so it's waterproof) in a clamp-on type holder, fasten ed to the upper stem of the um brella. As with all outdoor light ing, you'll want to use weather proof sockets and wiring. MANICURIST. If you're interested in The Mast Fantastic Offer you'va ever had! ! PHONE 2-4830" Camera Bag! taeasatasMeBBalKsssS Made of Natural 1 CALirtMIA SADDLE Will ' Finttl Ltmther Availabl Anywhert" r G3 Illustrated sbovg r typical groupings of equipment the No, 70) will bold. NOW $169! ! s CAMERAS PHOTOGRAPHS sW 120 East Main St.