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As We By ELIZABETH HURLOCK, PH.D. Dr. Hurlock , Self-Pity ViiT Not Evok Sympathy From Others ine person who ieels sorry for himself and is always be moaning his hard luck is bidding for sympathy and attention, whether he re alizes it or not But he rarely gets it and then he is even more sorry for him self than he was before. Why, you may ask, are people so lacking in feeling that they do not sym pathize with a person who has a run of bad luck and whose morale, as a result, is low? The .answer is that they do sympa thize at first but, in time, it comes to be an old story and they lose patience' with the person who always has a tale of woe to tell them. Where a person pities himself and lets others know it, it is be cause he has discovered this is a way of putting himself in the limelight and winning the atten tion he craves. Furthermore, he gets satisfaction from feeling that many of the failures he has experienced or many of the mis takes he has made are not, real ly, his fault after all. If, in addition to being able to free himself of any sense of responsibility for his failures and mistakes, he can win the sympathy of others, it helps to clear his conscience of any feel ing of guilt. Sympathy at First This little trick while often carried out without any real in tention to gain sympathy, invari ably ,does bring sympathy at first. So it is used over and over again. But, the more it is used, the less effective it is. People get tired and lose patience with the person who is always feeling sorry for himself or complaining of his hard luck. So, they stop showing him their sympathy and this makes him feel that he is even more of a martyr than he felt at first. The less sympathy he gets, the sorrier he is for himself and the sorrier he is for himself, the less patience others have with him. A vicious circle is "set into mo tion and once this happens, it is hard to stop it. Thus, it can safely be concluded that it is mistaken kindness to be sympa thetic toward people who are bidding for attention because it merely encourages them to con tinue to use this easy way out of their difficulties. LETTERS FROM READERS Troublemaker: "Why is it some people seem to delight in getting others into trouble?" A. M. (A) Troublemakers get great satisfaction from getting others into trouble because it gives them a feeling of self-import ance and superiority to be able to do so. If you will study any troublemaker you know, you will discover that he or she suf fers from an inferiority complex. Like all such people the trouble maker is compensating for this by a method he has discovered from past experience. It is very similar to bullying and teasing in that the troublemaker . in flates his badly deflated ego at the expense of others. Parties: "My wife likes to go to parties and insists that I ac company her. I enjoy going oyer week ends but not during the week because I am too tired to go to work the next day. We hare been married less than a year and I want to make my wife happy as she is at home alone all day and naturally likes to get out occasionally." C. D. (A) If your wife has little to keep her busy during the day, why not suggest she take a part time job or do some volunteer work in the community? This would give her something to oc cupy her time so she would be willing to stay at home in the evenings. You should not be going to patties and staying out late during the week if you want to advance in your work and keep from ruining your health. Foreign Language: "My par ents came from the other side and insist upon speaking in their language at home. The result is that they know little English, make many mistakes, and speak with such a foreign accent it is hard for our friends to under stand them. How can we con vince them that they should speak English at home?" C.N.P. (A) Point out to your parents that if they are planning to make America their home, - they should try to speak English so they will fit into the community better Show them how import ant language is in all social re lationships and tell them it is a handicap for you to have to use two languages. Of course it is easier for them to use the one they are accustomed to and that is doubtless why they do it. (COPYRIGHT 1956. GENERAL FEATURES CORP.) Monday, jMWy 23, 195 9 MEDrORD COHEOOW) MAIL TRIBUNE THREK 7 ' gsL -i i hi i Tii.fr jAaJZ Here's further proof that our every day low prices can mean dollars to you. The values listed here are typical of the hundreds of low prices on Safeway shelves. Compare them all . . . item by item . . . and you'll see the sort of saving you. can make on each shopping trip to Safeway. Hughes Resigns As Budget Director Washington (U.R) Budget Director Rowland R. Hughes smiling, rotund architect of the Eisenhower administration's bal anced budgets has resigned. Deputy Budget Director Per cival F. Brundage will replace Hughes on April 1. Hughes said he was resigning his $17,000-a-year post for per sonal and family" reasons. Use Tribune Want Ads QUICK and EASYl GOLD HILL Woman Honored at Party By MRS. AGNES HARRISON In and around Gold Hill Mrs. Minnie Baker of Rogue River was the honored guest at a surprise birthday party Jan. 13 at the home of her daughter and family, Mr. and Mrs. Mike Tepovac and son Jerry. Others who attended were Mr. and Mrs. John Terrell, How ard Baker and Christine, Mr. and Mrs. I. D. Hardin and three children, Mr. and Mrs. James Moran and son, Mac McCoy and son, Mrs. Ruth Davis and four boys, all of Rogue River, Mr. and Mrs. Fred Governor and six children, and Mr. and Mrs. George Triller of Gold Hill. The honored guest received many gifts. Mr. and Mrs. Archie Bell are the parents of a son, Archie Jon athan, born Jan. 6 at the Can yonville hospital. The couple have one other child. Rose Anna, 26 months old. Grandparents are Mr. and Mrs. Paul Rasmus sen. highway 99N, and Mr. and Mrs. David Bell of Canyonville. Mr. and Mrs. Ivan Smith, Sar dine Creek, were surprised Wed nesday evening, Jan. 11, when a group of relatives arrived unex pectedly, bringing refreshments of cake and ice cream, gifts and cards, the occasion being Mrs. Smith's birthday. Visitors were Mr. and Mrs. H. E. Wharton, Mr. and Mrs. Ted Wharton and two children, all of Medford, and Mrs. Nora Wait and Mrs. Mary Sutherland of Sardine Creek. . Ray (Pop) Davis is confined to his bed after returning from the hospital where he underwent surgery recently. Mr. and Mrs. George Andrews have sold the "49" motel and trailer court to Mr. and Mrs. John Reedy of Ashland. The Reedys will take possession March 1" when the Andrews will move to Ashland. Mrs. Homer Miller of Brook ings, Ore., recently visited here with her mother, Mrs. Helen Shoemaker. It has been learned that Cogs--well's market is another Gold Hill business firm interested in protecting the health of its cus tomers by providing X-rays for their employees. These X-rays were taken during a special Gold Hill clinic recently, ;but since Jackson county health de-j partment was not informed un til sometime later, it ' was not mentioned, along with Gail's market, fa an earlier article. Employees who took these X-rays were Mrs. Joseph Mor gan, Mrs. Mayebelle Rains and Mrs. Harry Newnham. A number of Gold Hill resi dents go to the X-ray clinic each Thursday afternoon and with the help of the Gold Hill health unit are cooperating with the drive to locate an estimated 100 cases of tuberculosis now un known in the county. News has been received here that Louise Rowden, formerly of Gold Hill and now living in Crescent. City, will enter Mt. Zion hospital in San Francisco in the near future for surgery. Members of the ' Gold Hill Grange who attended Grange council at Central Point Satur day, Jan. 1, were Mr. and Mrs. Bob Cook, Mrs. Nina Dusenber ry, Mrs. Lucy Addington, Mrs. Blanche Merriman, Glen Miller, Mrs. Nellie Miller, Mr. and Mrs. Alva Walker, Mr. and Mrs. H. A. Densmore, Mrs. Millie Walker and Mrs. Ruby Quackenbush. Woman's Society of Christian Service in the Gold Hill Com munity Methodist church .met Friday, Jan. 13, at the home of Mrs. Wilmer Bailey with . 14 m e m b e r s attending. Dessert luncheon, was served. Devotions were led by Mrs. Roy Borna man, and Mrs. Roy Eskew was leader of the lesson, "Change less Gospel in a Revolutionary Age.". Mrs. Lawerence . Smith, president, conducted the busi ness meeting. It was decided to hold a food sale sometime in February, date to be announced later. Next meeting will be at the home of Mrs. Nina Dusen berry with -Mrs. Wilber Martin to lead devotions and Mrs. Law erence Smith in charge of the lesson. The Philadelphia church, lo cated at Grandview ave., one block off of Old Crater Lake highway, will open its doors soon. The church has temporary headquarters at 122 North Riv erside ave., Medford. The name Philadelphia means "Brotherly Love." It. is non-sectarian. The Rev. Thomas White is the pas tor, and resides with . his wife and family on Maple lane just out of Gold Hill where they have lived" for the past seven years. Mr. White is foreman at the Cascade Wood Products at White City during the day and has, with some help, done most of the building of the church himself, working nights and some Saturdays. IB ' vnur s m ' 9 Extra Rich, plus Extra Food Energy Lucerne3.8SV.ilk Bonus Quality Regular or Homogenized half JkC gal. &$J- For Higher, Lighter, More Tender Baking, Try FLEET MILK Once you try it O-OZ you'll never buy " " any other. It's ft If (J Guaranteed. H O" 39c Margarine Tuna Fish Spaghetti Shopped Fresh Bread Peanut Cluster Co I brook brand spreads smoothly. You'll like its flavor, too. Save at Safeway 5 it 89" Enjoy the new exciting flavor of Torpedo light meat grated. Priced low. World Famous Franco American is the Finest Quality money can buy. 5 n. 1 2 sn.oo Cans II isn 5' Beef Kingan brand is the choice of millions. Made with the finest beef. Mrs. Wright's enriched white or whole wheat. -Save 2c on each loaf. 3 12-oz. sn.oo Cans 0 Large Roxbury brand. Fresh peanuts dipped in rich,, flavorful chocolate. Priced low at Safeway. x Full 0' Gold Orange Juice Check these items for MORE money savings Angel Cake Mix, Pillsbury, choc. pkg. 59e Bisquick, biscuit mix 40-oz. pkg. 43e iloyal Satin, pure-veg. shortening 3-lb. can 83c Kellogg Cereal, Special "K" 6Vi-oz. pkg. 29e Pear Halves, Hood River No. 2V4 can 39c Tomato Juice, Sunny Dawn 46-oz. can 28c No. 303 can 30c 12-oz. can 19c S4W Beans, Julienne, sliced- Mexicorn, Niblets " Chili Con Carne Dennison, with beans Salad Dressing, Cascade ,16-oz. can 29c quart jar 45c Nob Hill Coffeel-lb. pkg. 90e; 2-lb. pkg. $1.79 Airway Coffee l-lb. pkg. 88e; 2-lb. pkg. $1.75 Edwards .1-Ib. can 95e; 2-lb. can $1.89 Tomato Catsup, Taste TpIU 14-ot bottle 18c Prunes, Sunsweet ' 2-lb. pkg. 69e Red Beans, Idaho Boy-ar-dee Dinners Spaghetti or Macaroni MJB Rice, Quick Cooking Borax, 20-Mule Team , . 2-lb. pkg. 31c -pkg. 43e Mayonnaise, NuMade pint jar 42c; quart jar 63c Chee-Zip, cheese spread 16-oz. jar 54e Cheese Food, Van Zee 2-lb. pkg. 69c Orange Juice, Bel-air, frozen 6-oz. 19e S.O.S., soap-filled pads. Rik Rak, Cleanser L Supurb, Blue Detergents Friskies, Meal & Cubes Instant Dessert, Amazo ..pkg. 223c Scamper, liquid Detergent- 24-oz. pkg. 39c 32-oz. pkg. 35e pkg. of 10 25c .14-oz. pkg. 425c 40-oz. pkg. 52c 2-lb. pkg. 35c 22-oz. jar 59e SAFEWAY'S the best place to buy "U.S.D.A. CHOICE," Aged for Flavor Tiffin II f! I ST MIUJ UIL You'll enjoy every . thick, tender plate cut or your money back. Every cut is trimmed before weighing. Lb. Take Advantage of these new Low Prices v on LOCKER BEEF "All USDA CHOICE" Fore 3)(B) Quarter . lb. j& V Quarter . lb. $9' Fun atT Side., .lb. 3 Cut and Wrap FREE "U.S.D.A. Choice," Beef, Lean and Tender Short Ribs: .29 Tender Chunks of "U.S.D.A. Choice" Boneless Beef Stew . 59' . i "U.S.D.A. Choice" Steer Beef, Properly Aged Pot Roasts. 39.. 49 FROZEN PIES Manor House Chicken. Beef 8-oz. or Turkey Pkg. 25 PORK LIVER Safeway's own. Sliced to perfection u .29 l-Lb. Ef5l ." vou'iiioy, .h, rip. , .-. 46.flz..7(: . tangy flavor of tangy fif - rKg. Ar ' orange flavor. 11311 Mr f Look' at These ' Vb, I fl Terrific Savings on I TRAIN LOAD FLOUR SALE A Wonderful. Enriched, All Purpose Flour . . ... n guaranteed to please II 0 Reg. ftQ ReS- $027 H n Price 70 P'rice X B 1A,b- 7rib. --4J.02 I I IU bag Jbag B Reg. $49 J . . Price "T a V wb- v X JUbag 3 y W-' Wonderful for pies, cakes breads or biscuits. . - You'll like' the smooth, thin skins . . . -the easycto separate segments and the juicy zestf ul flavor of these Arizona grown grapefruits. , 8-Lb. ORANGES Sunkist Navels . Large Size $)89 lft Approx. 35-lb. Ctn. Jm Lb. IW Crisp, Firm, Solid Heads , LETTUCE . . . . . . . lb. 14c Grown in Sunny California CABBAGE ....... lb. 10c Florida Indian River GRAPEFRUIT ... 5 for 49c J Bag ROME APPLES Large Size, Extra Fancy 24-lb. Box $1 98 Lb. 10 Yellow Medium Size, Boiler ONIONS .... 3 lbs. for 25c U.S. No. 1 Netted Gems , POTATOES . .10-lb. bag 59c U.S. No. 1 Premium Select POTATOES. 10 lbs. for 85c Prices in this advertisement are in effect through Sunday, January 29, at Safeway in Medford. We reserve the right to limit quantities. No sales to dealers or their representatives. CLEANSER White King Brand 14-oi. Can 225 HAND SOAP Pnlmnlive MiM Rantln Keg. size j 0"T ear . w JfmM SWEETHEART Fragrant Bath Soap Reg. Size -Deal Bar 26g Bath Size Deal Bar 39 DEVILED HAM Underwood Brand 2 14-oz. Can '. 235' TANG Nalley's Salad Dressing , 40 Quart Bottle SHORTENING Fluffo, Pure Vegetable 3-lb. Can 89
