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By ELIZABETH HURLOCK, PH.D.
Dr. Hurlock ,
Self-Pity ViiT Not Evok
Sympathy From Others
ine person who ieels sorry
for himself and is always be
moaning his hard luck is bidding
for sympathy
and attention,
whether he re
alizes it or not
But he rarely
gets it and
then he is
even more
sorry for him
self than he
was before.
Why, you
may ask, are people so lacking
in feeling that they do not sym
pathize with a person who has
a run of bad luck and whose
morale, as a result, is low? The
.answer is that they do sympa
thize at first but, in time, it
comes to be an old story and they
lose patience' with the person
who always has a tale of woe to
tell them.
Where a person pities himself
and lets others know it, it is be
cause he has discovered this is a
way of putting himself in the
limelight and winning the atten
tion he craves. Furthermore, he
gets satisfaction from feeling
that many of the failures he has
experienced or many of the mis
takes he has made are not, real
ly, his fault after all.
If, in addition to being able
to free himself of any sense of
responsibility for his failures
and mistakes, he can win the
sympathy of others, it helps to
clear his conscience of any feel
ing of guilt.
Sympathy at First
This little trick while often
carried out without any real in
tention to gain sympathy, invari
ably ,does bring sympathy at
first. So it is used over and over
again. But, the more it is used,
the less effective it is. People get
tired and lose patience with the
person who is always feeling
sorry for himself or complaining
of his hard luck.
So, they stop showing him
their sympathy and this makes
him feel that he is even more
of a martyr than he felt at first.
The less sympathy he gets, the
sorrier he is for himself and the
sorrier he is for himself, the less
patience others have with him.
A vicious circle is "set into mo
tion and once this happens, it is
hard to stop it. Thus, it can
safely be concluded that it is
mistaken kindness to be sympa
thetic toward people who are
bidding for attention because it
merely encourages them to con
tinue to use this easy way out of
their difficulties.
LETTERS FROM READERS
Troublemaker: "Why is it
some people seem to delight in
getting others into trouble?"
A. M.
(A) Troublemakers get great
satisfaction from getting others
into trouble because it gives
them a feeling of self-import
ance and superiority to be able
to do so. If you will study any
troublemaker you know, you
will discover that he or she suf
fers from an inferiority complex.
Like all such people the trouble
maker is compensating for this
by a method he has discovered
from past experience. It is very
similar to bullying and teasing
in that the troublemaker . in
flates his badly deflated ego at
the expense of others.
Parties: "My wife likes to go
to parties and insists that I ac
company her. I enjoy going oyer
week ends but not during the
week because I am too tired to
go to work the next day. We
hare been married less than a
year and I want to make my
wife happy as she is at home
alone all day and naturally likes
to get out occasionally." C. D.
(A) If your wife has little to
keep her busy during the day,
why not suggest she take a part
time job or do some volunteer
work in the community? This
would give her something to oc
cupy her time so she would be
willing to stay at home in the
evenings. You should not be
going to patties and staying out
late during the week if you
want to advance in your work
and keep from ruining your
health.
Foreign Language: "My par
ents came from the other side
and insist upon speaking in their
language at home. The result is
that they know little English,
make many mistakes, and speak
with such a foreign accent it is
hard for our friends to under
stand them. How can we con
vince them that they should
speak English at home?" C.N.P.
(A) Point out to your parents
that if they are planning to make
America their home, - they
should try to speak English so
they will fit into the community
better Show them how import
ant language is in all social re
lationships and tell them it is a
handicap for you to have to use
two languages. Of course it is
easier for them to use the one
they are accustomed to and that
is doubtless why they do it.
(COPYRIGHT 1956.
GENERAL FEATURES CORP.)
Monday, jMWy 23, 195 9
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Hughes Resigns As
Budget Director
Washington (U.R) Budget
Director Rowland R. Hughes
smiling, rotund architect of the
Eisenhower administration's bal
anced budgets has resigned.
Deputy Budget Director Per
cival F. Brundage will replace
Hughes on April 1.
Hughes said he was resigning
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GOLD HILL
Woman Honored at Party
By MRS. AGNES HARRISON
In and around Gold Hill
Mrs. Minnie Baker of Rogue
River was the honored guest at
a surprise birthday party Jan.
13 at the home of her daughter
and family, Mr. and Mrs. Mike
Tepovac and son Jerry.
Others who attended were
Mr. and Mrs. John Terrell, How
ard Baker and Christine, Mr.
and Mrs. I. D. Hardin and three
children, Mr. and Mrs. James
Moran and son, Mac McCoy and
son, Mrs. Ruth Davis and four
boys, all of Rogue River, Mr.
and Mrs. Fred Governor and six
children, and Mr. and Mrs.
George Triller of Gold Hill. The
honored guest received many
gifts.
Mr. and Mrs. Archie Bell are
the parents of a son, Archie Jon
athan, born Jan. 6 at the Can
yonville hospital. The couple
have one other child. Rose Anna,
26 months old. Grandparents
are Mr. and Mrs. Paul Rasmus
sen. highway 99N, and Mr. and
Mrs. David Bell of Canyonville.
Mr. and Mrs. Ivan Smith, Sar
dine Creek, were surprised Wed
nesday evening, Jan. 11, when a
group of relatives arrived unex
pectedly, bringing refreshments
of cake and ice cream, gifts and
cards, the occasion being Mrs.
Smith's birthday. Visitors were
Mr. and Mrs. H. E. Wharton, Mr.
and Mrs. Ted Wharton and two
children, all of Medford, and
Mrs. Nora Wait and Mrs. Mary
Sutherland of Sardine Creek.
. Ray (Pop) Davis is confined to
his bed after returning from the
hospital where he underwent
surgery recently.
Mr. and Mrs. George Andrews
have sold the "49" motel and
trailer court to Mr. and Mrs.
John Reedy of Ashland. The
Reedys will take possession
March 1" when the Andrews will
move to Ashland.
Mrs. Homer Miller of Brook
ings, Ore., recently visited here
with her mother, Mrs. Helen
Shoemaker.
It has been learned that Cogs--well's
market is another Gold
Hill business firm interested in
protecting the health of its cus
tomers by providing X-rays for
their employees. These X-rays
were taken during a special
Gold Hill clinic recently, ;but
since Jackson county health de-j
partment was not informed un
til sometime later, it ' was not
mentioned, along with Gail's
market, fa an earlier article.
Employees who took these
X-rays were Mrs. Joseph Mor
gan, Mrs. Mayebelle Rains and
Mrs. Harry Newnham.
A number of Gold Hill resi
dents go to the X-ray clinic each
Thursday afternoon and with
the help of the Gold Hill health
unit are cooperating with the
drive to locate an estimated 100
cases of tuberculosis now un
known in the county.
News has been received here
that Louise Rowden, formerly of
Gold Hill and now living in
Crescent. City, will enter Mt.
Zion hospital in San Francisco
in the near future for surgery.
Members of the ' Gold Hill
Grange who attended Grange
council at Central Point Satur
day, Jan. 1, were Mr. and Mrs.
Bob Cook, Mrs. Nina Dusenber
ry, Mrs. Lucy Addington, Mrs.
Blanche Merriman, Glen Miller,
Mrs. Nellie Miller, Mr. and Mrs.
Alva Walker, Mr. and Mrs. H. A.
Densmore, Mrs. Millie Walker
and Mrs. Ruby Quackenbush.
Woman's Society of Christian
Service in the Gold Hill Com
munity Methodist church .met
Friday, Jan. 13, at the home of
Mrs. Wilmer Bailey with . 14
m e m b e r s attending. Dessert
luncheon, was served. Devotions
were led by Mrs. Roy Borna
man, and Mrs. Roy Eskew was
leader of the lesson, "Change
less Gospel in a Revolutionary
Age.". Mrs. Lawerence . Smith,
president, conducted the busi
ness meeting. It was decided to
hold a food sale sometime in
February, date to be announced
later. Next meeting will be at
the home of Mrs. Nina Dusen
berry with -Mrs. Wilber Martin
to lead devotions and Mrs. Law
erence Smith in charge of the
lesson.
The Philadelphia church, lo
cated at Grandview ave., one
block off of Old Crater Lake
highway, will open its doors
soon. The church has temporary
headquarters at 122 North Riv
erside ave., Medford. The name
Philadelphia means "Brotherly
Love." It. is non-sectarian. The
Rev. Thomas White is the pas
tor, and resides with . his wife
and family on Maple lane just
out of Gold Hill where they
have lived" for the past seven
years. Mr. White is foreman at
the Cascade Wood Products at
White City during the day and
has, with some help, done most
of the building of the church
himself, working nights and
some Saturdays.
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