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TWO MEDFORD (OREGON) MAIL TRIBUNE Wednesday. Mareh St. 1IS2 Confusion of Adults Reflected In Doings of Today's Youngsters Editor's llole: President Mil ton S. Eisenhower of Penn sylvania Stale college and outstanding members of bit faculty hay written a series of artielot discussing "Teen aga Troublee." Following is tha sacond artiela, written by a profassor of family relationship. Bv WILLIAM M. SMITH JR. State College, Pa. (U.R) "What will they think of next?" This question from one parent of a teen-ager to another is nothing new. Even the Greeks probably had a word for it. And caught in dilemmas like those of parents today, they probably had words about it, too. "What is the world coming to?" "Young people , are so . irre sponsible.' Counter Charges Made On and on ring the echoes. And from the other generation come counter-charges: - "Our parents don't trust us." "Why don't they treat us like grown-ups?" Family life seems to go along in familiar paths until suddenly yesterday's child today's high schooler gets into one kind of trouble or another. Those who have never lived with children blame the parents. Parents point accusing fingers at the school. Everyone blames everyone else but himself. Some parents feel that they are bearing the burden of re sponsibility for their children's actions. They've done the best they know how and that appears to have been too little when trouble hit. j Mo Short-Hand Rules There are no short-hand rules or recipes which can be applied. But parents can do some check ing up on the weather condi tions the "climate" of the home. These are suggestions for clearing the atmosphere around the house when a tempest, age 10 plus, is raging. 1. Are you trying to under stand your children? Or have you thrown up your hands in desperation and decided that "boya will be boys?" Young peo ple have the same basic needs that adults have but they some times make reasonable demands in unreasonable ways. Finding out what's really back of their attitudes, their behavior, their demands is not easy but is re warding in terms of your own attitudes and the family's well being. It's easier to relax if you know the rules. Check Associate 2. Do you know what your youngster's associates demand as a price for acceptance? Young people, as oldsters, want to be accepted by a group and want desperately to know what to do in social situations. It takes time and patience but again it's im portant even for busy parents to learn what other young folks I expect of your flesh and blood. 3. Have you faced the fact that young people are confused about what is best or right to do be cause they find so much adult confusion? Prejudices, ideas about honesty and fair play, trust or 'distrust, respect for others these are not taught by parental preachment. They be come part of the young person's set of values as he has exper ienced, them in his relationships at home more than anywhere else. There is a keen need in all communities today first, for families to build more shared experiences; and second, for par ents to pool their thinking and to set about learning what the new generation is really like. Most Parents Need Help, Not Punishment, Members Of Panel Here Conclude By ar the largest number of parents of delinquent children need help rather than punish ment, it was emphasized during a panel discussion of parent punishment measures at a meet ing of the advisory committee of the juvenile court Monday evening. Another point brought out was that there are very few instances in which existing state and city laws providing for parent-punishment have been invoked. Robert Duncan, Medford attorney was moderator of the panel. Members were Dr. Arthur Kreisman of Southern Oregon College and an Ashland city councilman; Alf Mekvold, Jack son county school superintend ent; Mrs. Lloyd Bransford.'Med- ford parent and former social service worker; Mrs. W. G. Ar- dry. chairman of the committee studying the subiect, and H. K, Hanna, circuit and juvenile judge for Jackson county. Opinion Not Crystallised Each of the participants who said their opinions on the matter had not entirely crystallized as yet, quoted a 10-year study of the subject made by Judge Paul W. Alexander of Toledo, O. A parent-punishment law there re sulted in punishment - of 502 parents, of which 17 per cent were finally imprisoned. This re port classifies parents of delin quent children in five categories runaways who deliberately leave children to their own de vices, vicious parents who de liberately expose their children to crime, aiders and abbetors, triangular (those who have extra martial affairs), and inadequate parents who comprise the ma jority and who are not giving their children adequate moral and ethical training. Dr. Kreisman stated an ordi nance had been passed in Ash land about a month ago provid ing punishment for persons causing, or allowing a child to become delinquent. He stated the ordinance has not yet been used. It was not the intent of the council, he said, to punish parents for revenge or for public example, but rather to make parents realize their responsibilities. He stated the Ashland council realizes the or dinance could not be applied to Adrienne's Swing Your Partner At the Y.M.C. A. Smorgasbord S. Bright, Colorful Prints Cay Mexican Cottons Designed by NELLY DON and PARASOL ORIGINALS They Are New They Are Different Ordered Just for This Occasion 214 E. Main Phone 2-71 69 Alllttntu'S all parents and that prosecution would be difficult, but they felt it might be used as a means of urging better cooperation in cases of repeated offenders. Mekvold stated he felt it was easy to jump to the conclusion that all parents should be punish ed, but when applied to indi vidual cases it is a different matter. From his experience as secretary of the non-high school board, which handles truancy problems of children from non- high school districts, he stated it had been found circumstances in individual cases made it use less to prosecute under state laws now in effect. He said he felt it would be inadvisable to pass further laws unless enforce ment were feasible. There is no record of parents having been prosecuted by the non-high board under the state law, he stated, since the board had felt neither the law, the child nor the parent could be helped by such a prosecution. He also pointed out that children today are faced with problems they have never had before, with commercialized entertain ment, "hot rods," and so on, and he felt endeavors should be made to clean up such fields as literature. Case Workers Needed Mrs. Bransford said she felt it is far better to have adequate trained case workers to offer individualized help and super vision, , rather than punishment laws which antagonize parents. Mrs. Ardry quoted Judge Alex ander's study to the effect that children of parents brought into the court for punishment had not been helped, and in some cases had been harmed. Judge Hanna explained that the state law is a criminal statute and parents punished under it come before a criminal court. He stated he felt strongly they should never be punished through the juvenile court. which is attempting to enlist co operation of parents toward re habilitation of the child. "During the entire time I have been juvenile judge I have never been confronted with a parent who has not been willing to co operate," Judge Hanna stated. "The parents have all been truly sorry, puzzled by the fact the child has become delinquent and were looking for help," he con tinued. Cites Publicity Disadvantage Another point Judge Hanna emphasized is that it is a national policy not to publish names of delinquent children, but that if parents are brought before a criminal court to be punished full publicity would be given the case with resultant harm to the child. He stated the phi losophy of . a juvenile court is that the child needs help, pro tection and care. Various aspects of the matter were presented by the audience. including need for more ade quate visiting nurse and visiting teacher services in the schools and control of literature on the newstands. The Rev. Stanley Kel ler, president of the Jackson County Council for Children and Youth, summarized by stating he felt enforcement of an ordinance so vague, which did not apply to all, and which does not show who would be the judge,- would be difficult. Other business at the meeting -rJ lnit, -. mil, w ; "T ' Ife IN .J .( jl XV W FOUR-STAR PLAYMATE Gen. James A. Van Fleet, command ing general of the U. S. 8th. Army, seems to be enjoying his young Korean "passenger" as they watch entertainment at the Colum bian Children's Home in Seoul, Korea. Gen. Van Meet and other United Nations officials visited the home to present $11,000 worth of clothing purchased by the Far East chaplains with money con tributed by the U. S. 3rd Army. As We Live Dr. Hurlock YOU ARE NEVER TOO OLD TO MARRY (Q) "I am a little more than 60 years old and lead an active life. I don't drink or smoke. I belong to a church and attend regularly. While I am not rich. I own three houses, one I live in and the other two I rent, and I have some money in the bank. But I am lonely. I would like to get married but do you think I should at my age?" L. M. (A) Of course you should mar ry if you find a person you love and if you and she have congen ial interests. Why face a lonely old age when you have all that is need ed to be happy and make some one else hap py? A person is never too old to marry though many people believe they are. If you feel that age is against you, ana you are in doubt about the wis dom of marrying at your age. you are likely to put up mental barriers that will keep you from finding any one you want to marry. Look at the problem in a common-sense way and see what you have to win or lose by mar rying at your age. On the minus side, it means taking on the re sponsibility of supporting an other person but that should not worry you as you are wen iixea. It also means making adjust ments in the pattern of your life which may be pretty well set by now. Naturally, if you marry, you must exect to change the way you do some things. You cannot do everything in your own way when you are married as you can when you are single. But. mak ing adjustments is good for you. It keeps you from getting into a too deep rut, and that is what makes a person old before his time. Have Lot To Gain On the plus date, you have a lot to gain by marriage. You will have the constant companionship of a congenial person, you will have someone to make a com fortable, happy home for you, you will have someone to take care of you if you are not well, and you will never really be lonely when there is someone around constantly. Don't these By ELIZABETH HURLOCK. PH.D. 1 advantages far outweigh the few disadvantages that marriage at your age will bring? The most important problem is not whether you should marry but whom you should marry That problem is such a personal one that you and you alone can solve it. The only advice I can give you here is not to be fooled by youth and a pretty face. Marry someone near your own age who will have interests in common with you. Dr. Hurlock will help you with family problems. Write her in care of this newspaper. (COPYRIGHT. 1932. GENERAL FEATURES CORP. I 409 Students Sign For SOC's Spring Term on 1st Day Ashland First day enrollment as the spring term opened Mon day at Southern Oregon college totalled 409 students .according to Mrs. Mabel W. Winston, regis trar. Registration will continue through April 7. Enrollment is' down one per cent from the first day figures of the winter term, Mrs. Winston said. She expressed pleasure with the relatively heavy opening registration, noting that in past years, spring quarter figures dropped off considerably as stu dents accepted employment in the busy spring months. Classes Resume Classes began Tuesday as the normal college routine was re sumed following a four-day re cess. Wednesday's night classes will include contemporary prob lems offered by Dr. Donald A. MacDougall, assistant professor of social science, beginning at 7 p.m. in Room 111 of the li brary building; and social dance directed by Beverley Bennett, instructor in physical education, beginning at 7:30 p.m. in Me morial court. Wolves To Be Targets Of Aerial Operation Juneau, Alaska (U.R) An aerial operation to kill wolves which have been feeding on Arctic caribou herds has begun in the Colville river area north of the Brooks range in northern Alaska. The wolf hunters have set up headquarters at Umiat, 750 air miles northwest of here. The hunt will continue until about the middle of May, Maurice Kel ly, predator control supervisor of the fish and wildlife service, said. Kelly, who will go to Umiat about April 1, said caribou have I to natives of the area bceat assumed increasing importance a reindeer shortage. LADIES We measure each 4 rest before and after dry cleaning to be sure there it no shrink BECAUSE... She knows that a neat, clean appearance is the first rule of feminine charm. And our cleaning service is popular with popular girls - - who let us keep their clothes fresh, pressed, spotless. CREDIT ACCOUNTS INVITED Dial 2-6165 and ask for Miss Helen. She will gladly open your charge account over the phone. Send dry cleaning and laundry. NOW! Pay In April. 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