TWO MEDFORD (OREGON) MAIL TRIBUNE
Wednesday. Mareh St. 1IS2
Confusion of Adults Reflected
In Doings of Today's Youngsters
Editor's llole: President Mil
ton S. Eisenhower of Penn
sylvania Stale college and
outstanding members of bit
faculty hay written a series
of artielot discussing "Teen
aga Troublee." Following is
tha sacond artiela, written by
a profassor of family relationship.
Bv WILLIAM M. SMITH JR.
State College, Pa. (U.R)
"What will they think of next?"
This question from one parent
of a teen-ager to another is
nothing new. Even the Greeks
probably had a word for it. And
caught in dilemmas like those
of parents today, they probably
had words about it, too.
"What is the world coming
to?"
"Young people , are so . irre
sponsible.' Counter Charges Made
On and on ring the echoes.
And from the other generation
come counter-charges: -
"Our parents don't trust us."
"Why don't they treat us like
grown-ups?"
Family life seems to go along
in familiar paths until suddenly
yesterday's child today's high
schooler gets into one kind of
trouble or another. Those who
have never lived with children
blame the parents. Parents point
accusing fingers at the school.
Everyone blames everyone else
but himself.
Some parents feel that they
are bearing the burden of re
sponsibility for their children's
actions. They've done the best
they know how and that appears
to have been too little when
trouble hit. j
Mo Short-Hand Rules
There are no short-hand rules
or recipes which can be applied.
But parents can do some check
ing up on the weather condi
tions the "climate" of the
home. These are suggestions for
clearing the atmosphere around
the house when a tempest, age
10 plus, is raging.
1. Are you trying to under
stand your children? Or have
you thrown up your hands in
desperation and decided that
"boya will be boys?" Young peo
ple have the same basic needs
that adults have but they some
times make reasonable demands
in unreasonable ways. Finding
out what's really back of their
attitudes, their behavior, their
demands is not easy but is re
warding in terms of your own
attitudes and the family's well
being. It's easier to relax if you
know the rules.
Check Associate
2. Do you know what your
youngster's associates demand as
a price for acceptance? Young
people, as oldsters, want to be
accepted by a group and want
desperately to know what to do
in social situations. It takes time
and patience but again it's im
portant even for busy parents to
learn what other young folks I
expect of your flesh and blood.
3. Have you faced the fact that
young people are confused about
what is best or right to do be
cause they find so much adult
confusion? Prejudices, ideas
about honesty and fair play,
trust or 'distrust, respect for
others these are not taught by
parental preachment. They be
come part of the young person's
set of values as he has exper
ienced, them in his relationships
at home more than anywhere
else.
There is a keen need in all
communities today first, for
families to build more shared
experiences; and second, for par
ents to pool their thinking and
to set about learning what the
new generation is really like.
Most Parents Need Help,
Not Punishment, Members
Of Panel Here Conclude
By ar the largest number of
parents of delinquent children
need help rather than punish
ment, it was emphasized during
a panel discussion of parent
punishment measures at a meet
ing of the advisory committee
of the juvenile court Monday
evening.
Another point brought out was
that there are very few instances
in which existing state and city
laws providing for parent-punishment
have been invoked. Robert
Duncan, Medford attorney was
moderator of the panel.
Members were Dr. Arthur
Kreisman of Southern Oregon
College and an Ashland city
councilman; Alf Mekvold, Jack
son county school superintend
ent; Mrs. Lloyd Bransford.'Med-
ford parent and former social
service worker; Mrs. W. G. Ar-
dry. chairman of the committee
studying the subiect, and H. K,
Hanna, circuit and juvenile
judge for Jackson county.
Opinion Not Crystallised
Each of the participants who
said their opinions on the matter
had not entirely crystallized as
yet, quoted a 10-year study of
the subject made by Judge Paul
W. Alexander of Toledo, O. A
parent-punishment law there re
sulted in punishment - of 502
parents, of which 17 per cent
were finally imprisoned. This re
port classifies parents of delin
quent children in five categories
runaways who deliberately
leave children to their own de
vices, vicious parents who de
liberately expose their children
to crime, aiders and abbetors,
triangular (those who have extra
martial affairs), and inadequate
parents who comprise the ma
jority and who are not giving
their children adequate moral
and ethical training.
Dr. Kreisman stated an ordi
nance had been passed in Ash
land about a month ago provid
ing punishment for persons
causing, or allowing a child
to become delinquent.
He stated the ordinance has
not yet been used. It was not the
intent of the council, he said,
to punish parents for revenge
or for public example, but rather
to make parents realize their
responsibilities. He stated the
Ashland council realizes the or
dinance could not be applied to
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all parents and that prosecution
would be difficult, but they felt
it might be used as a means of
urging better cooperation in
cases of repeated offenders.
Mekvold stated he felt it was
easy to jump to the conclusion
that all parents should be punish
ed, but when applied to indi
vidual cases it is a different
matter. From his experience as
secretary of the non-high school
board, which handles truancy
problems of children from non-
high school districts, he stated
it had been found circumstances
in individual cases made it use
less to prosecute under state
laws now in effect. He said he
felt it would be inadvisable to
pass further laws unless enforce
ment were feasible.
There is no record of parents
having been prosecuted by the
non-high board under the state
law, he stated, since the board
had felt neither the law, the
child nor the parent could be
helped by such a prosecution.
He also pointed out that children
today are faced with problems
they have never had before,
with commercialized entertain
ment, "hot rods," and so on, and
he felt endeavors should be
made to clean up such fields as
literature.
Case Workers Needed
Mrs. Bransford said she felt
it is far better to have adequate
trained case workers to offer
individualized help and super
vision, , rather than punishment
laws which antagonize parents.
Mrs. Ardry quoted Judge Alex
ander's study to the effect that
children of parents brought into
the court for punishment had not
been helped, and in some cases
had been harmed.
Judge Hanna explained that
the state law is a criminal statute
and parents punished under it
come before a criminal court.
He stated he felt strongly they
should never be punished
through the juvenile court.
which is attempting to enlist co
operation of parents toward re
habilitation of the child.
"During the entire time I have
been juvenile judge I have never
been confronted with a parent
who has not been willing to co
operate," Judge Hanna stated.
"The parents have all been truly
sorry, puzzled by the fact the
child has become delinquent and
were looking for help," he con
tinued.
Cites Publicity Disadvantage
Another point Judge Hanna
emphasized is that it is a national
policy not to publish names of
delinquent children, but that if
parents are brought before a
criminal court to be punished
full publicity would be given
the case with resultant harm
to the child. He stated the phi
losophy of . a juvenile court is
that the child needs help, pro
tection and care.
Various aspects of the matter
were presented by the audience.
including need for more ade
quate visiting nurse and visiting
teacher services in the schools
and control of literature on the
newstands. The Rev. Stanley Kel
ler, president of the Jackson
County Council for Children and
Youth, summarized by stating he
felt enforcement of an ordinance
so vague, which did not apply
to all, and which does not show
who would be the judge,- would
be difficult.
Other business at the meeting
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FOUR-STAR PLAYMATE Gen. James A. Van Fleet, command
ing general of the U. S. 8th. Army, seems to be enjoying his young
Korean "passenger" as they watch entertainment at the Colum
bian Children's Home in Seoul, Korea. Gen. Van Meet and other
United Nations officials visited the home to present $11,000 worth
of clothing purchased by the Far East chaplains with money con
tributed by the U. S. 3rd Army.
As We Live
Dr. Hurlock
YOU ARE NEVER
TOO OLD TO MARRY
(Q) "I am a little more than
60 years old and lead an active
life. I don't drink or smoke. I
belong to a church and attend
regularly. While I am not rich.
I own three houses, one I live in
and the other two I rent, and I
have some money in the bank.
But I am lonely. I would like to
get married but do you think I
should at my age?"
L. M.
(A) Of course you should mar
ry if you find a person you love
and if you and she have congen
ial interests.
Why face a
lonely old age
when you have
all that is need
ed to be happy
and make some
one else hap
py?
A person is
never too old
to marry
though many
people believe they are. If you
feel that age is against you, ana
you are in doubt about the wis
dom of marrying at your age.
you are likely to put up mental
barriers that will keep you from
finding any one you want to
marry.
Look at the problem in a
common-sense way and see what
you have to win or lose by mar
rying at your age. On the minus
side, it means taking on the re
sponsibility of supporting an
other person but that should not
worry you as you are wen iixea.
It also means making adjust
ments in the pattern of your life
which may be pretty well set by
now.
Naturally, if you marry, you
must exect to change the way
you do some things. You cannot
do everything in your own way
when you are married as you can
when you are single. But. mak
ing adjustments is good for you.
It keeps you from getting into a
too deep rut, and that is what
makes a person old before his
time.
Have Lot To Gain
On the plus date, you have a
lot to gain by marriage. You will
have the constant companionship
of a congenial person, you will
have someone to make a com
fortable, happy home for you,
you will have someone to take
care of you if you are not well,
and you will never really be
lonely when there is someone
around constantly. Don't these
By ELIZABETH HURLOCK. PH.D.
1 advantages far outweigh the few
disadvantages that marriage at
your age will bring?
The most important problem
is not whether you should marry
but whom you should marry
That problem is such a personal
one that you and you alone can
solve it. The only advice I can
give you here is not to be fooled
by youth and a pretty face.
Marry someone near your own
age who will have interests in
common with you.
Dr. Hurlock will help you
with family problems. Write her
in care of this newspaper.
(COPYRIGHT. 1932. GENERAL
FEATURES CORP. I
409 Students Sign
For SOC's Spring
Term on 1st Day
Ashland First day enrollment
as the spring term opened Mon
day at Southern Oregon college
totalled 409 students .according
to Mrs. Mabel W. Winston, regis
trar. Registration will continue
through April 7.
Enrollment is' down one per
cent from the first day figures
of the winter term, Mrs. Winston
said. She expressed pleasure with
the relatively heavy opening
registration, noting that in past
years, spring quarter figures
dropped off considerably as stu
dents accepted employment in
the busy spring months.
Classes Resume
Classes began Tuesday as the
normal college routine was re
sumed following a four-day re
cess. Wednesday's night classes
will include contemporary prob
lems offered by Dr. Donald A.
MacDougall, assistant professor
of social science, beginning at
7 p.m. in Room 111 of the li
brary building; and social dance
directed by Beverley Bennett,
instructor in physical education,
beginning at 7:30 p.m. in Me
morial court.
Wolves To Be Targets
Of Aerial Operation
Juneau, Alaska (U.R) An
aerial operation to kill wolves
which have been feeding on
Arctic caribou herds has begun
in the Colville river area north
of the Brooks range in northern
Alaska.
The wolf hunters have set up
headquarters at Umiat, 750 air
miles northwest of here. The
hunt will continue until about
the middle of May, Maurice Kel
ly, predator control supervisor
of the fish and wildlife service,
said.
Kelly, who will go to Umiat
about April 1, said caribou have I to natives of the area bceat
assumed increasing importance a reindeer shortage.
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included a report of the work
done thus far by John Schapps
of the National Parole and Pro
bation Association on the deten
tion survey, and endorsement of
the juvenile court budget to be
presented to the county court.
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