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The BulleTin • Wednesday, OcTOBer 13, 2021 A7 DEAR ABBY Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069 Dear Abby: I married a proud Scotsman a year ago who often wears kilts. When we go out, women think nothing of coming over and lifting his kilt, which exposes him to anyone who has a vi- sual advantage. These women scream with glee and then become physically aggressive with their hands. Frankly, I am shocked and horrified anyone would do this. The last time it happened a woman ripped his kilt off and the police became involved. Originally, the police were going to charge my husband with indecent exposure. After several hours, it became clear that it was the woman who assaulted my husband. The police then kinda laughed it off. They didn’t plan on doing anything further. We were furious. Why is there a double stan- dard that women feel they can lift a man’s kilt to expose him and call it fun, yet the same women would scream sexual assault if a man lifted their skirt? Women need to understand that lifting a man’s kilt is sexual assault and should be treated as the crime it is. Now, every time a woman does it, we imme- diately call the police and report the crime. The per- petrators are then shocked and angry that they are be- ing arrested for a sex crime for something they thought was innocent fun and games. Your column reaches many readers. With your help, we can help women understand that doing this is unaccept- able. — Double Standard Dear Double: It is no more acceptable to lift a man’s kilt “in the name of fun” than it would be to pull his trou- sers down. I hope any person reading this, who didn’t have the common sense to know better, will take note and re- spect the personal space of Scotsmen and ALL individ- uals. (It beats finding one’s name on a sex offender reg- istry.) Dear Abby: My parents did well financially. Mom passed away 20 years ago. My brother has always been un- stable. He’s a violent, abusive drug addict and a con artist. Dad was extremely ill during his last few years. My brother abused him, stole his meds, refused to support him and ordered Dad to get out of his life. So he did. Dad wrote my brother out of his will and left everything to me. My brother carries a weapon and, for my family’s sake, I have cut contact. Distant family think I ha- ven’t been fair by separating myself from him and not splitting the inheritance. Am I wrong? — Heiress in Missouri Dear Heiress: You are not “wrong”; you are intelligent and prudent. Your sibling has repeatedly demonstrated that he is nothing but trouble and he isn’t going to change. You stated that the fam- ily members who are urging you be closer to an armed felon are “distant.” If you are as smart as I think you are, you will ignore their bad ad- vice and cease contact with them, too. YOUR HOROSCOPE By Georgia Nicols Stars show the kind of day you’ll have dynaMic | POsiTiVe | aVeraGe | sO-sO | diFFiculT MOON ALERT: avoid shopping or making important decisions from 3:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. PdT today. after that, the Moon moves from capricorn into aquarius. HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR WEDNESDAY, OCT. 13, 2021: you have a strong, optimistic energy that is coupled with an original, impulsive streak. you think outside the box. you have fresh new ideas that are modern and often unconventional. This year is the beginning of a new cycle for you, which is why it will be full of adventure and wonderful possibilities. Be coura- geous and open any door! ARIES (March 21-April 19) This is an excellent day to study. it’s also a fine day to explore op- portunities in publishing, the media, medicine, the law or higher education. however, be aware of the restrictions of the Moon alert. Get your data, then wait until the alert is over to act. Tonight: socialize. TAURUS (April 20-May 20) This is a good money day for you, especially for getting money back from the government or a bank. however, do not sign important papers or do transactions during the Moon alert. discussions about shared expenses will go well. Tonight: Work. GEMINI (May 21-June 20) This is a solid day for an important discussion with partners and close friends, because all parties will be practical and fair-minded. nevertheless, don’t agree to anything important or volunteer for anything during the Moon alert. Tonight: Play time! CANCER (June 21-July 22) This is a good day to discuss procedures at work. you might mend broken fences with co-workers or mediate between people with problems, because you see a balance between structure and practicality. however, check with the Moon alert and make your important decisions afterward. Tonight: cocoon at home. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) This is an excellent day for creative projects and artists who draw, sculpt, paint, make music — whatever. This is also an excellent day to teach children. however, postpone important decisions until after the Moon alert is over. romantic partners will benefit from practical discussions. Tonight: Talk it out! VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) Because you are concerned about appearances and beauty today, and at the same time you have a practical outlook on things, this is an ex- cellent day to make choices about redecorating projects at home. however, don’t shop or make any important decisions until after the Moon alert is over. Tonight: check your finances. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) This is a strong day for writers and anyone who communicates for a living, because you will be charming and diplomatic. at the same time, you will see practical applications for your ideas. nevertheless, agree to nothing important until after the Moon alert is over today. Tonight: Please yourself. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) do not shop during the Moon alert today. later, if shopping, you will be successful in buying practical, long-lasting items. discussions about earnings and salary and investigating possible jobs will be worthwhile today. Tonight: enjoy privacy. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) Today you are enjoying a lovely balance between beauty and the enjoyment of your surroundings and a practical appreciation of how things work in your world. if you talk to authority figures, these discussions will be successful. however, agree to nothing important until after the Moon alert. Tonight: schmooze! CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) solitude in beautiful surroundings will please you today because you are happy to escape the busyness of your world, especially because you are so high-viz now. People notice you and they admire you! nevertheless, keep a low profile today. Tonight: you are admired. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) you might talk to someone artistic and creative today about practical things. hopefully, they might have good advice for you. They might tell you how to make something look or function better. Or possibly you are the one offering them advice. either way, discussions will benefit you. Tonight: explore new things! PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) People admire you today, especially bosses, parents and people in authority. They see you as attractive and cooperative, as well as reliable, hon- est and capable. Bonus! Maybe you can take this to the bank. nevertheless, check the Moon alert! Tonight: do your homework. TODAY IN HISTORY By The Associated Press Today is Wednesday, Oct. 13, the 286th day of 2021. There are 79 days left in the year. Today’s Highlight in History: in 1792, the cornerstone of the executive mansion, later known as the White house, was laid by Pres- ident George Washington during a ceremony in the district of co- lumbia. in 1775, the united states navy had its origins as the continental congress ordered the construction of a naval fleet. in 1845, Texas voters ratified a state constitution. in 1943, italy declared war on Ger- many, its one-time axis partner. in 1944, during World War ii, american troops entered aachen, Germany. in 1960, John F. Kennedy and rich- ard nixon held the third televised debate of their presidential cam- paign (nixon was in los angeles, Kennedy in new york). in 1972, a uruguayan chartered flight crashed in the andes; survi- vors resorted to feeding off the re- mains of the dead in order to stay alive until they were rescued more than two months later. in 1974, longtime TV host ed sulli- van died at age 73. in 1999, the senate rejected the comprehensive nuclear Test Ban Treaty. in 2000, south Korean President Kim dae-jung was named winner of the nobel Peace Prize. longtime american communist Gus hall died in new york at age 90. in 2003, the u.n. security council approved a resolution expanding the naTO-led peacekeeping force in afghanistan. in 2006, The united nations Gen- eral assembly appointed south Korean Foreign Minister Ban Ki- moon the next u.n. secretary-gen- eral. Banker Muhammad yunus of Bangladesh won the nobel Peace Prize for using microcredit to lift people out of poverty. in 2010, rescuers in chile using a missile-like escape capsule pulled 33 men one by one to fresh air and freedom 69 days after they were trapped in a collapsed mine a half- mile underground. Ten years ago: raj rajaratnam, the hedge fund billionaire at the center of one of the biggest insid- er-trading cases in u.s. history, was sentenced by a federal judge to 11 years behind bars. Five years ago: donald Trump heatedly rejected the growing list of sexual assault allegations against him as “pure fiction,” ham- mering his female accusers as “horrible, horrible liars.” Bob dylan was named winner of the nobel prize in literature. death claimed Thailand’s longtime monarch, King Bhumibol, at age 88 and nobel Prize-winning italian playwright dario Fo at age 90. One year ago: in the first of two days of questioning by the senate Judiciary committee, supreme court nominee amy coney Barrett deflected democrats’ questions on abortion, health care and a pos- sible disputed-election fight; she declined to say whether she would recuse herself from any elec- tion-related cases involving Pres- ident donald Trump. early voting began with long lines in Texas, one of the few places in the u.s. not al- lowing widespread mail balloting during the pandemic. Today’s Birthdays: Gospel singer shirley caesar is 84. actor Me- linda dillon is 82. singer-musician Paul simon is 80. Musician robert lamm (chicago) is 77. country singer lacy J. dalton is 75. actor demond Wilson is 75. singer-musi- cian sammy hagar is 74. Pop singer John Ford coley is 73. actor John lone is 69. Model Beverly Johnson is 69. Producer-writer chris carter is 65. actor and former nBa star reggie Theus is 64. sen. Maria can- twell, d-Wash., is 63. r&B singer cherrelle is 62. singer/TV person- ality Marie Osmond is 62. rock singer Joey Belladonna is 61. For- mer White house press secretary ari Fleischer is 61. nBa coach doc rivers is 60. actor T’Keyah crys- tal Keymah is 59. college and Pro Football hall of Famer Jerry rice is 59. actor christopher Judge is 57. actor Matt Walsh is 57. actor regi- nald Ballard is 56. actor Kate Walsh is 54. r&B musician Jeff allen (Mint condition) is 53. actor Tisha camp- bell-Martin is 53. classical singer carlos Marin (il divo) is 53. Olympic silver medal figure skater nancy Kerrigan is 52. country singer rhett akins is 52. classical cross- over singer Paul Potts is 51. TV per- sonality Billy Bush is 50. actor sa- cha Baron cohen is 50. r&B singers Brandon and Brian casey (Jagged edge) are 46. actor Kiele sanchez is 45. Former nBa all-star Paul Pierce is 44. dJ Vice is 43. singer ashanti is 41. r&B singer lumidee is 41. chris- tian rock singer Jon Micah sumrall (Kutless) is 41. Olympic gold medal swimmer ian Thorpe is 39. rep. alexandria Ocasio-cortez, d-n.y., is 32. actor caleb Mclaughlin (TV: “stranger Things”) is 20. NFL Davis’ ‘dream’ hire of Gruden turns into Raiders nightmare NFL in Art Shell. That wasn’t what Davis signed up for after pining for Gruden ever since taking over the Raiders following the death of his father, Hall of Fame owner Al Davis, in 2011. Mark Davis made several trips to Tampa, Florida, to meet with Gruden over the years to get his opinions on the Raiders and gauge his interest in leaving the broadcast booth to return to the sideline. He finally got the answer he wanted in 2017, leading Davis to fire Jack Del Rio — who led the Raiders to their only play- off berth in the past 18 seasons in 2016 and the only Raiders coach with a winning record since Gruden was traded to Tampa Bay following the 2001 season after turning the Raiders into a contender. But Gruden’s second tenure never matched the first, when he was the hot-shot offensive guru with the “Chucky” per- sona who took the Raiders to the AFC title game in his third season and the playoffs again the following year, when they lost in the “Tuck Rule” game at New England. Gruden was traded to Tampa Bay after that season for a boat- load of draft picks and cash, then beat the Raiders in the Super Bowl his first season in 2002. But he never won another playoff game in 10 seasons as a coach and was unable to turn the Raiders into a contender in his second stint. Armed with a 10-year con- tract and total control of per- sonnel, Gruden opted to over- haul the roster rather than retool it with the Raiders only a year removed from a 12-win season. He traded away the team’s best player, edge rusher Khalil Mack, before the start of his first season for a package that included two first-round draft picks. He then dealt star re- ceiver Amari Cooper for an- other first-round pick midway through the season as the Raid- ers stumbled to a 4-12 record. The following offseason ulti- mately defined Gruden’s second tenure as he made a failed push to contend in the Raiders’ final season in Oakland. He handed out big free agent contracts to Trent Brown, Lamarcus Joyner and Tyrell Williams, and got lit- tle production out of the three. with about two minutes left af- ter his intended target on the play fell. “I think there’s a lot of things that change in a young guy’s mind when he gets this oppor- tunity, but he’s been there a lot,” Carroll said. “It’s just been a while. … He loves the fact that he’s got this chance to help his team. That’s why he’s been here. He’s been here for this opportunity when it does arise.” BY JOSH DUBOW aP Pro Football Writer When Jon Gruden returned to the Raiders back in 2018 he was greeted with a pep rally news conference, owner Mark Davis calling it a “dream come true” and the “biggest day of his life.” There was much less pomp and circumstance surround- ing the coach’s rapid departure, with Davis sending out a simple statement: “I have accepted Jon Gruden’s resignation as Head Coach of the Las Vegas Raid- ers.” While Gruden was done in by emails he sent in the years before he rejoined the Raid- ers that the Wall Street Journal and The New York Times re- ported were filled with racist, homophobic and misogynistic comments, his work on the field never quite lived up to what Da- vis hoped when he completed his years-long pursuit of the coach of his dreams. The Raiders had a 22-31 record in three-plus seasons under Gruden, ranking 22nd in winning percentage, last in points allowed and 24th in scor- ing as his poor personnel moves ultimately sabotaged his coach- ing record. The revelations of the emails also brought shame to an orga- nization that prides itself on a history of inclusion which in- cludes refusing to play an exhi- bition game in the segregated South of the 1960s; the hiring of the second coach of Mexican descent in Tom Flores; and the first Black coach in the modern Wilson Continued from A5 Smith completed 10 of 17 for 131 yards and led two scoring drives. The lone blemish for Smith was a late interception rick scuteri/aP file Las Vegas Raiders head coach Jon Gruden leaves after speaking during a news conference after a game against the Chicago Bears in Las Vegas on Sunday.
