The BulleTin • Wednesday, OcTOBer 13, 2021 A7
DEAR ABBY
Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com
or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069
Dear Abby: I married a
proud Scotsman a year ago
who often wears kilts. When
we go out, women think
nothing of coming over and
lifting his kilt, which exposes
him to anyone who has a vi-
sual advantage. These women
scream with glee and then
become physically aggressive
with their hands. Frankly, I
am shocked and horrified
anyone would do this.
The last time it happened a
woman ripped his kilt off and
the police became involved.
Originally, the police were
going to charge my husband
with indecent exposure. After
several hours, it became clear
that it was the woman who
assaulted my husband. The
police then kinda laughed it
off. They didn’t plan on doing
anything further. We were
furious.
Why is there a double stan-
dard that women feel they
can lift a man’s kilt to expose
him and call it fun, yet the
same women would scream
sexual assault if a man lifted
their skirt? Women need
to understand that lifting a
man’s kilt is sexual assault
and should be treated as the
crime it is. Now, every time
a woman does it, we imme-
diately call the police and
report the crime. The per-
petrators are then shocked
and angry that they are be-
ing arrested for a sex crime
for something they thought
was innocent fun and games.
Your column reaches many
readers. With your help, we
can help women understand
that doing this is unaccept-
able.
— Double Standard
Dear Double: It is no more
acceptable to lift a man’s kilt
“in the name of fun” than
it would be to pull his trou-
sers down. I hope any person
reading this, who didn’t have
the common sense to know
better, will take note and re-
spect the personal space of
Scotsmen and ALL individ-
uals. (It beats finding one’s
name on a sex offender reg-
istry.)
Dear Abby: My parents
did well financially. Mom
passed away 20 years ago. My
brother has always been un-
stable.
He’s a violent, abusive drug
addict and a con artist. Dad
was extremely ill during his
last few years. My brother
abused him, stole his meds,
refused to support him and
ordered Dad to get out of his
life. So he did.
Dad wrote my brother out
of his will and left everything
to me. My brother carries a
weapon and, for my family’s
sake, I have cut contact.
Distant family think I ha-
ven’t been fair by separating
myself from him and not
splitting the inheritance. Am
I wrong?
— Heiress in Missouri
Dear Heiress: You are not
“wrong”; you are intelligent
and prudent. Your sibling has
repeatedly demonstrated that
he is nothing but trouble and
he isn’t going to change.
You stated that the fam-
ily members who are urging
you be closer to an armed
felon are “distant.” If you are
as smart as I think you are,
you will ignore their bad ad-
vice and cease contact with
them, too.
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Georgia Nicols
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
dynaMic | POsiTiVe | aVeraGe | sO-sO | diFFiculT
MOON ALERT: avoid shopping or making important decisions from
3:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. PdT today. after that, the Moon moves from capricorn
into aquarius.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR WEDNESDAY, OCT. 13, 2021: you
have a strong, optimistic energy that is coupled with an original, impulsive
streak. you think outside the box. you have fresh new ideas that are modern
and often unconventional. This year is the beginning of a new cycle for you,
which is why it will be full of adventure and wonderful possibilities. Be coura-
geous and open any door!
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
This is an excellent day to study. it’s also a fine day to explore op-
portunities in publishing, the media, medicine, the law or higher education.
however, be aware of the restrictions of the Moon alert. Get your data, then
wait until the alert is over to act. Tonight: socialize.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
This is a good money day for you, especially for getting money back
from the government or a bank. however, do not sign important papers or
do transactions during the Moon alert. discussions about shared expenses
will go well. Tonight: Work.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
This is a solid day for an important discussion with partners and close
friends, because all parties will be practical and fair-minded. nevertheless,
don’t agree to anything important or volunteer for anything during the
Moon alert. Tonight: Play time!
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
This is a good day to discuss procedures at work. you might mend
broken fences with co-workers or mediate between people with problems,
because you see a balance between structure and practicality. however,
check with the Moon alert and make your important decisions afterward.
Tonight: cocoon at home.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
This is an excellent day for creative projects and artists who draw,
sculpt, paint, make music — whatever. This is also an excellent day to teach
children. however, postpone important decisions until after the Moon alert
is over. romantic partners will benefit from practical discussions. Tonight:
Talk it out!
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
Because you are concerned about appearances and beauty today,
and at the same time you have a practical outlook on things, this is an ex-
cellent day to make choices about redecorating projects at home. however,
don’t shop or make any important decisions until after the Moon alert is
over. Tonight: check your finances.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
This is a strong day for writers and anyone who communicates for
a living, because you will be charming and diplomatic. at the same time, you
will see practical applications for your ideas. nevertheless, agree to nothing
important until after the Moon alert is over today. Tonight: Please yourself.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
do not shop during the Moon alert today. later, if shopping, you
will be successful in buying practical, long-lasting items. discussions about
earnings and salary and investigating possible jobs will be worthwhile today.
Tonight: enjoy privacy.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
Today you are enjoying a lovely balance between beauty and the
enjoyment of your surroundings and a practical appreciation of how things
work in your world. if you talk to authority figures, these discussions will be
successful. however, agree to nothing important until after the Moon alert.
Tonight: schmooze!
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
solitude in beautiful surroundings will please you today because you
are happy to escape the busyness of your world, especially because you are
so high-viz now. People notice you and they admire you! nevertheless, keep
a low profile today. Tonight: you are admired.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
you might talk to someone artistic and creative today about practical
things. hopefully, they might have good advice for you. They might tell you
how to make something look or function better. Or possibly you are the
one offering them advice. either way, discussions will benefit you. Tonight:
explore new things!
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
People admire you today, especially bosses, parents and people in
authority. They see you as attractive and cooperative, as well as reliable, hon-
est and capable. Bonus! Maybe you can take this to the bank. nevertheless,
check the Moon alert! Tonight: do your homework.
TODAY
IN HISTORY
By The Associated Press
Today is Wednesday, Oct. 13, the
286th day of 2021. There are 79
days left in the year.
Today’s Highlight in History:
in 1792, the cornerstone of the
executive mansion, later known as
the White house, was laid by Pres-
ident George Washington during
a ceremony in the district of co-
lumbia.
in 1775, the united states navy
had its origins as the continental
congress ordered the construction
of a naval fleet.
in 1845, Texas voters ratified a
state constitution.
in 1943, italy declared war on Ger-
many, its one-time axis partner.
in 1944, during World War ii,
american troops entered aachen,
Germany.
in 1960, John F. Kennedy and rich-
ard nixon held the third televised
debate of their presidential cam-
paign (nixon was in los angeles,
Kennedy in new york).
in 1972, a uruguayan chartered
flight crashed in the andes; survi-
vors resorted to feeding off the re-
mains of the dead in order to stay
alive until they were rescued more
than two months later.
in 1974, longtime TV host ed sulli-
van died at age 73.
in 1999, the senate rejected the
comprehensive nuclear Test Ban
Treaty.
in 2000, south Korean President
Kim dae-jung was named winner
of the nobel Peace Prize. longtime
american communist Gus hall
died in new york at age 90.
in 2003, the u.n. security council
approved a resolution expanding
the naTO-led peacekeeping force
in afghanistan.
in 2006, The united nations Gen-
eral assembly appointed south
Korean Foreign Minister Ban Ki-
moon the next u.n. secretary-gen-
eral. Banker Muhammad yunus of
Bangladesh won the nobel Peace
Prize for using microcredit to lift
people out of poverty.
in 2010, rescuers in chile using a
missile-like escape capsule pulled
33 men one by one to fresh air and
freedom 69 days after they were
trapped in a collapsed mine a half-
mile underground.
Ten years ago: raj rajaratnam,
the hedge fund billionaire at the
center of one of the biggest insid-
er-trading cases in u.s. history, was
sentenced by a federal judge to 11
years behind bars.
Five years ago: donald Trump
heatedly rejected the growing
list of sexual assault allegations
against him as “pure fiction,” ham-
mering his female accusers as
“horrible, horrible liars.” Bob dylan
was named winner of the nobel
prize in literature. death claimed
Thailand’s longtime monarch, King
Bhumibol, at age 88 and nobel
Prize-winning italian playwright
dario Fo at age 90.
One year ago: in the first of two
days of questioning by the senate
Judiciary committee, supreme
court nominee amy coney Barrett
deflected democrats’ questions
on abortion, health care and a pos-
sible disputed-election fight; she
declined to say whether she would
recuse herself from any elec-
tion-related cases involving Pres-
ident donald Trump. early voting
began with long lines in Texas, one
of the few places in the u.s. not al-
lowing widespread mail balloting
during the pandemic.
Today’s Birthdays: Gospel singer
shirley caesar is 84. actor Me-
linda dillon is 82. singer-musician
Paul simon is 80. Musician robert
lamm (chicago) is 77. country
singer lacy J. dalton is 75. actor
demond Wilson is 75. singer-musi-
cian sammy hagar is 74. Pop singer
John Ford coley is 73. actor John
lone is 69. Model Beverly Johnson
is 69. Producer-writer chris carter
is 65. actor and former nBa star
reggie Theus is 64. sen. Maria can-
twell, d-Wash., is 63. r&B singer
cherrelle is 62. singer/TV person-
ality Marie Osmond is 62. rock
singer Joey Belladonna is 61. For-
mer White house press secretary
ari Fleischer is 61. nBa coach doc
rivers is 60. actor T’Keyah crys-
tal Keymah is 59. college and Pro
Football hall of Famer Jerry rice is
59. actor christopher Judge is 57.
actor Matt Walsh is 57. actor regi-
nald Ballard is 56. actor Kate Walsh
is 54. r&B musician Jeff allen (Mint
condition) is 53. actor Tisha camp-
bell-Martin is 53. classical singer
carlos Marin (il divo) is 53. Olympic
silver medal figure skater nancy
Kerrigan is 52. country singer
rhett akins is 52. classical cross-
over singer Paul Potts is 51. TV per-
sonality Billy Bush is 50. actor sa-
cha Baron cohen is 50. r&B singers
Brandon and Brian casey (Jagged
edge) are 46. actor Kiele sanchez is
45. Former nBa all-star Paul Pierce
is 44. dJ Vice is 43. singer ashanti is
41. r&B singer lumidee is 41. chris-
tian rock singer Jon Micah sumrall
(Kutless) is 41. Olympic gold medal
swimmer ian Thorpe is 39. rep.
alexandria Ocasio-cortez, d-n.y.,
is 32. actor caleb Mclaughlin (TV:
“stranger Things”) is 20.
NFL
Davis’ ‘dream’ hire of Gruden
turns into Raiders nightmare
NFL in Art Shell.
That wasn’t what Davis
signed up for after pining for
Gruden ever since taking over
the Raiders following the death
of his father, Hall of Fame
owner Al Davis, in 2011. Mark
Davis made several trips to
Tampa, Florida, to meet with
Gruden over the years to get
his opinions on the Raiders and
gauge his interest in leaving the
broadcast booth to return to the
sideline.
He finally got the answer he
wanted in 2017, leading Davis
to fire Jack Del Rio — who led
the Raiders to their only play-
off berth in the past 18 seasons
in 2016 and the only Raiders
coach with a winning record
since Gruden was traded to
Tampa Bay following the 2001
season after turning the Raiders
into a contender.
But Gruden’s second tenure
never matched the first, when
he was the hot-shot offensive
guru with the “Chucky” per-
sona who took the Raiders to
the AFC title game in his third
season and the playoffs again
the following year, when they
lost in the “Tuck Rule” game at
New England.
Gruden was traded to Tampa
Bay after that season for a boat-
load of draft picks and cash,
then beat the Raiders in the
Super Bowl his first season in
2002.
But he never won another
playoff game in 10 seasons as a
coach and was unable to turn
the Raiders into a contender in
his second stint.
Armed with a 10-year con-
tract and total control of per-
sonnel, Gruden opted to over-
haul the roster rather than
retool it with the Raiders only
a year removed from a 12-win
season.
He traded away the team’s
best player, edge rusher Khalil
Mack, before the start of his
first season for a package that
included two first-round draft
picks. He then dealt star re-
ceiver Amari Cooper for an-
other first-round pick midway
through the season as the Raid-
ers stumbled to a 4-12 record.
The following offseason ulti-
mately defined Gruden’s second
tenure as he made a failed push
to contend in the Raiders’ final
season in Oakland. He handed
out big free agent contracts to
Trent Brown, Lamarcus Joyner
and Tyrell Williams, and got lit-
tle production out of the three.
with about two minutes left af-
ter his intended target on the
play fell.
“I think there’s a lot of things
that change in a young guy’s
mind when he gets this oppor-
tunity, but he’s been there a lot,”
Carroll said.
“It’s just been a while. … He
loves the fact that he’s got this
chance to help his team. That’s
why he’s been here. He’s been
here for this opportunity when
it does arise.”
BY JOSH DUBOW
aP Pro Football Writer
When Jon Gruden returned
to the Raiders back in 2018 he
was greeted with a pep rally
news conference, owner Mark
Davis calling it a “dream come
true” and the “biggest day of
his life.”
There was much less pomp
and circumstance surround-
ing the coach’s rapid departure,
with Davis sending out a simple
statement: “I have accepted Jon
Gruden’s resignation as Head
Coach of the Las Vegas Raid-
ers.”
While Gruden was done in
by emails he sent in the years
before he rejoined the Raid-
ers that the Wall Street Journal
and The New York Times re-
ported were filled with racist,
homophobic and misogynistic
comments, his work on the field
never quite lived up to what Da-
vis hoped when he completed
his years-long pursuit of the
coach of his dreams.
The Raiders had a 22-31
record in three-plus seasons
under Gruden, ranking 22nd
in winning percentage, last in
points allowed and 24th in scor-
ing as his poor personnel moves
ultimately sabotaged his coach-
ing record.
The revelations of the emails
also brought shame to an orga-
nization that prides itself on a
history of inclusion which in-
cludes refusing to play an exhi-
bition game in the segregated
South of the 1960s; the hiring
of the second coach of Mexican
descent in Tom Flores; and the
first Black coach in the modern
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Las Vegas Raiders head coach
Jon Gruden leaves after speaking
during a news conference after a
game against the Chicago Bears
in Las Vegas on Sunday.