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Spilyay Tym oo, Warm Springs, Oregon Page 5 October 19, 2011 * Words of Wisdom Join the WIC program Treating diabetes requires lifetime commitment B y S a lly W hiz Suppah Diabetes is a long-term, life time treatment. I see a change in the diet and food that is being served at the Longhouse and at the Senior Center. The food is more healthy with less salt and sugar. (A rticle subm itted by J e r i Kollen, RN, Certified Diabetes educator, Warm Springs M odel Diabetes Program.) I did not know what dia betes was till I came to this reservation 30 years ago. My husband’s mom had it. It was rough on her going through all those years. I found out a lot o f people have it. If people with diabetes re ally w atch their diet and weight, they are good to go. Sally (right) and friend Alexandria Henry. Show Opening A M essage fro m WIC What is all the talk about joining WIC? What is WIC and what is it in for me? Do I even qualify? Well, we have all the an swers to your questions at the Warm Springs Health and Wellness Center. WIC stands for “Women Infant and Children.” This is a supplem ental program to help your family eat healthy nutritious foods, receive early prenatal care and have healthier babies. We provide vouchers to you so you can purchase ex tra staples such as: Cereals, peanut butter, bread, fresh vegetables, milk, cheese, eggs and juices. To qualify you have to meet a minimum income re quirement, live in Oregon, must be pregnant, postpar tum , or b reast-feed in g woman, an infant or a child under 5 years old. Call us today at 541-553- 2460. Our staff will tell you what to bring to get on WIC. We are open on Tuesdays from 8 a.m.-4 p.m.; Wednes days from 9 a.m.-6 p.m.; and Thursdays, 8 a.m.-4 p.m. Eastern Oregon advisor in W.S. Everyone is welcome to visit with the local Eastern Oregon University advisor from 2:30- 3:30 p.m. on Monday, Oct. 24 at the Education building, 110 Wasco St. Appointments can be sched uled by callin g B renda McDonald at 541-385-1137; or email: bmcdonald@eou.edu Please make appointments at least 48 hours in advance. Information will be available on Eastern Oregon’s online de gree programs, scholarships and admission requirements. M any students in Central Visitors enjoyed an evening of traditional dances performed by the Wasqu Dance Group last week at the opening of the Museum at Warm Springs’ Tribal Member Art Show. Anita Davis entertained the audience with a Thank You song before accepting her Judge’s Choice Award in the Contemporary Category (see page 1). “The Bear Dance was the highlight of the evening,” said Sandra Danzuka, who won the Judge’s Choice Award in the Traditional Category. Oregon are already working to ward degrees with majors in anthropology/sociology, busi ness administration or econom ics; English, fire services admin istration, history, physical activ ity and health; philosophy, poli tics and economics; psychology, public administration, and lib eral studies— degrees that focus on two areas of study. f A The dead lin e to sub m it item s for publication in th e n e x t S p ily a y T ym oo is F rid ay, Oct. 28. T hank yo u ! V________ !_________ ) The thirty-one faces of domestic violence (The fo llo w in g article is fro m Warm Springs V ictims o f Crime S ervices.) D ay 1. Ja n e lle : “I never thought of m yself as a victim of domestic violence. My hus band did not hit me. His abuse did not leave the kind of marks that you could see on the out side.” Fact: Of all women killed with a firearm, nearly two-thirds were killed by intimate partners. Day 2. Camilla: At the time he was drinking a lot. And he would carry his guns around the house. I knew I needed to leave, but my older kids were at school and I couldn’t figure out just how to get them and me out of the house and into the shelter. Fact: Each day in the U.S., three women are killed by a current or former partner. Day 3. Andy: “I don’t even rem em ber my first visits to Mary’s Place. At the time my son was only 2 years old. I had never been part of his life before... I was a meth addict. I was home less.” Fact: About 15.5 million children are exposed to domes tic violence every year. D ay 4. R ebecca: “M ark stood over me and yelled at me for five hours, but wouldn’t let me answer him. He wouldn’t let me leave the room to go to the bathroom, or even to take care of the baby. Every time I tried to leave, he screamed, Abu can leave when I tell you to leave.’ Fact: Survivors leave their abus ers seven to 11 times before end ing the relationship permanently. Day 5. Rachel: “It is embar rassing to tell my friends at school that my dad is in jail. So I tell them he is at a sleepover.” Fact: W itnessing violence be tween one’s parents or caretak ers is the strongest risk factor of transmitting violent behav ior from one generation to the next. Day 6. Amelia, 8 years old: “When my mom and dad sepa rated, my dad changed my name w hen I w as w ith him . He w ouldn’t let anyone call me Amelia. He said it a was a stu pid name my mom liked and if I kept it I’d grow up to be a (bad word) just like her. So he made me go by a different name then what my mom called me. Fact: Approximately 3.3 million chil dren witness domestic violence occurrences in their homes each year. Day 7. Jacob, 13 years old: “I see my dad at Mary’s Place because he was really mean to my mom. She had to go the hospital several times when we were growing up. I think that’s wrong. Kids should be proud of their dads.” FACT: 63% of all boys, age 11-20, who com mit murder, kill the man who was abusing their mother. Day 8. Sally: “W hen the victim’s immediate crisis is over we sometimes miss out on the outcomes. It is similar to a pa tient returning to the Emergency Room after being stitched up following a car accident. No one wants to revisit the trauma; so you don’t go back to report on how you are doing.” Fact: Less than one-fifth of victims report ing an injury from intimate part ner violence sought m edical treatment following injury. Day 9. Lauren: “I was wor ried because all the time we were together he managed to isolate me from my family and friends by convincing them I was crazy. They wouldn’t talk to me any r t \ i . STEREO 1 fiOUNDZ UNLIMITED 1225SW Hwy. 97 Madras, OR 97741 475-7123 more; they would only talk to him. I didn’t have anyone. So when I came to Mary’s Place, I couldn’t get over it, they actu ally believed me! He is so very charming; everyone always be lieves he is this great guy.” Fact: 92 percent of survivors said the assistance they got from domes tic violence shelters was very helpful. Day 10. Judy: “Sean keeps watch over me day and night. He checks the odometer on my car. He follows me, has his friends follow me, and drives by the house. He knows what I’m doing on the computer. He even records my phone conver sations.” Fact: One in four vic tims of stalking report being stalked through the use of some form o f technology such as email. Day 11. Tammy: “Jason was driving 90 miles an hour, weav ing in and out of traffic, threat ening to kill us both.” Fact: Recent numbers show that inti m ate partner hom icides ac counted for 34 percent of the murders of women. Day 12. Bethany, 6 years old: “I love going to M ary’s Place. I really like the toys. I love my dad too. Last week I told him, ‘Daddy, you can’t hit people here. But that is ok, I still love you. Let’s just play.’” Fact: Children in homes where violence occurs are physically abused or neglected at a rate 1500 percent higher than the na tional average. Day 13. Bobby-5years old: “M ary’s Place makes me feel like superman. I’m not afraid. I like it there, they don’t yell at me. I told my dad, Aou have to learn to be a better daddy and be nicer to mommy before you can come home.’” FACT: 90 percent of children from vio lent homes witness their fathers beating their mothers. Day 14. Amy: “I told the staff at Saving Grace, I want to thank you for the never ending support during this emotional roller coaster. You make a huge difference in a short time. I will take this experience and grow from it. I will never forget this place, we were so lucky to be here.” Fact: In one day alone, domestic violence programs an sw ered 21,683 em ergency hotline calls: 14 calls a minute. Day 15. Lisa: “After he hit me, he would be so tender. John would insist I stay in bed and rest and tell the kids not to bother me.” Fact: About 2.3 mil lion Americans each year are raped and/or p h ysically as saulted by a current/former in timate partner. Day 16. Pat: “I was terrified to go to court. He would give ‘the look’ and I knew what that meant. I didn’t feel safe even with all the people around and security outside. When the two Saving Grace staff members I w orked w ith cam e into the courtroom I felt calmness come over the entire place.” Fact: Moderate physical abuse drops from 76 to 15 percent after the victim gets a protective order. D ay 17. C heryl: “He wouldn’t have to say anything- just give me ‘the look’ and I would know what he meant. No one else saw threat. After all, he was an elder in the church.” Fact: One in four adult women are beaten or raped by an inti mate partner in her lifetime. Day 18. Bella: “A client once told me that she had started working with a personal trainer and her m uscles were really sore. She told me this was the kind of pain she deserved be cause she was doing it to make herself feel better.” Fact: Sav ing Grace served over 5,000 women and children facing do mestic violence in Central Or egon. Day 19. Gail: “One dad used to sit in a chair with the news paper and tell his daughter, ‘Look here Kara, it says right here in the paper that mommy doesn’t love you.’” Fact: Daugh ters of abused women are 6 times more likely to be sexually abused as girls from non-abu- sive families. Day 20. Jenn ifer: “W hen Brandon found out I was preg nant with his child, he raged at me and chased me into the bath room, beating his fists on my abdom en.” Fact: Each year helped me legally and emotion about 124,000 pregnant women ally.” Fact: Approximately 1.7 are abused by their intimate part million incidents of workplace violence occur in the U.S. every ners. Day 21. Helen: “The relent year. Day 27. Dee: “Leaving is a lessness of what these women are fighting is what scares me. process for some clients. But That is what worried me, that if they get a little stronger and we will open the newspaper to gain a little more independence see that one of our clients was each time they leave and come killed.” Fact: In one study, 82 back to the shelter, that is suc percent of men who killed their cess in our eyes.” Fact: On one partners had histories of domes recent day, 8,927 requests for tic violence known to authori services were unmet, mostly due ties. to lack of resources. Day 22. Daphne: “I was the Day 28. Tricia: “Brandon one with all the money; he was was in jail but had my 9-year- just a horse trainer when we met. old reporting to him who I talked But he would brag about how to on the phone, what time I he took out terrorists in Iraq came home at night.” Fact: Boys and he could do the same to me who witness domestic violence without anyone finding my re are twice as likely to abuse their mains. I believed him.” Fact: own partners and children when Intim ate partn er hom icides they become adults. make up 40-50 percent of all Day 29. Sara: “I was 72 years murders of women in the U.S. old when I left my husband who Day 23. Kelly: “My doctor had been abusive to me for 43 told me I had to get a mastec years. At first all I could feel was tomy. My husband said, ‘You im m ense sadness about my have to stay with me, no one wasted life. But I have reclaimed would want to be with you after myself. I’m learning yoga and that.’” Fact: One in every four watercolors. You are never too women will experience domes old to start over.” Fact: 71 per tic violence in her lifetime. cent of people know someone Day 24. Sandra: “If I came who is the victim of domestic home from work late we’d get violence. into an argument and that lead Day 30. Faith: “I met my ex- to a beating.” Fact: In 70-80 husband at 17. He was the un percent of intimate partner ho defeated boxer and football micides, no matter which part player, and I was his girl. I was ner was killed, the man physi young and too in love to recog cally abused the woman. nize any signs o f abuse. We Day 25. Barbara: “One time even tu ally got m arried and he found a sock one of the kids settled down. But almost every had stuffed between the sofa day, he still reminded me of how cushions, he was so angry he popular he was and show strong smashed his fist into the wall, he used to be. He began sayings leaving a big hole. He wouldn’t things like ‘I’m king of the castle let me fix it. I think he wanted and you’d do what I tell you to.’” me and the kids to see it, to re Day 31. “I am safe.” Coura mind us of what he could do to geous words from survivors. us. Fact: Nationally, 75 percent S p ecia l thanks to V illi A nn o f battered women say their Vinford-Foremen, COCC Professor children are physically or sexu o f S p eech a n d D ram a. T odd ally abused as well. Hanson o f Redhand Studios, tal Day 26. Dean: “I was so ented COCC students and commu ashamed; I didn’t know what to nity leaders who donated their gen do. Then my sister encouraged erous time and talent to help Sav me to call the hotline. I told ing G race p rom ote life fr e e fro m them about how I was being domestic violence by coming together sexually assaulted by a male co f o r a video. To reach Warm Springs worker and my boss wasn’t do V ictims o f C rime S ervices ca ll ing anything to stop it. They 541-553-2293.
