Spilyay Tym oo, Warm Springs, Oregon
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October 19, 2011
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Words of Wisdom
Join the WIC program
Treating diabetes requires lifetime commitment
B y S a lly W hiz Suppah
Diabetes is a long-term, life
time treatment.
I see a change in the diet
and food that is being served
at the Longhouse and at the
Senior Center. The food is
more healthy with less salt
and sugar.
(A rticle subm itted by J e r i
Kollen, RN, Certified Diabetes
educator, Warm Springs M odel
Diabetes Program.)
I did not know what dia
betes was till I came to this
reservation 30 years ago.
My husband’s mom had
it.
It was rough on her going
through all those years. I
found out a lot o f people
have it.
If people with diabetes re
ally w atch their diet and
weight, they are good to go.
Sally (right) and friend Alexandria Henry.
Show
Opening
A M essage fro m WIC
What is all the talk about
joining WIC?
What is WIC and what is
it in for me?
Do I even qualify?
Well, we have all the an
swers to your questions at the
Warm Springs Health and
Wellness Center.
WIC stands for “Women
Infant and Children.”
This is a supplem ental
program to help your family
eat healthy nutritious foods,
receive early prenatal care
and have healthier babies.
We provide vouchers to
you so you can purchase ex
tra staples such as:
Cereals, peanut butter,
bread, fresh vegetables, milk,
cheese, eggs and juices.
To qualify you have to
meet a minimum income re
quirement, live in Oregon,
must be pregnant, postpar
tum , or b reast-feed in g
woman, an infant or a child
under 5 years old.
Call us today at 541-553-
2460. Our staff will tell you
what to bring to get on WIC.
We are open on Tuesdays
from 8 a.m.-4 p.m.; Wednes
days from 9 a.m.-6 p.m.; and
Thursdays, 8 a.m.-4 p.m.
Eastern Oregon advisor in W.S.
Everyone is welcome to visit
with the local Eastern Oregon
University advisor from 2:30-
3:30 p.m. on Monday, Oct. 24
at the Education building, 110
Wasco St.
Appointments can be sched
uled by callin g B renda
McDonald at 541-385-1137; or
email:
bmcdonald@eou.edu
Please make appointments at
least 48 hours in advance.
Information will be available
on Eastern Oregon’s online de
gree programs, scholarships and
admission requirements.
M any students in Central
Visitors enjoyed an evening
of traditional dances
performed by the Wasqu
Dance Group last week at
the opening of the Museum
at Warm Springs’ Tribal
Member Art Show.
Anita Davis entertained the
audience with a Thank You
song before accepting her
Judge’s Choice Award in the
Contemporary Category (see
page 1).
“The Bear Dance was the
highlight of the evening,” said
Sandra Danzuka, who won
the Judge’s Choice Award in
the Traditional Category.
Oregon are already working to
ward degrees with majors in
anthropology/sociology, busi
ness administration or econom
ics; English, fire services admin
istration, history, physical activ
ity and health; philosophy, poli
tics and economics; psychology,
public administration, and lib
eral studies— degrees that focus
on two areas of study.
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The thirty-one faces of domestic violence
(The fo llo w in g article is fro m
Warm Springs V ictims o f Crime
S ervices.)
D ay 1. Ja n e lle : “I never
thought of m yself as a victim
of domestic violence. My hus
band did not hit me. His abuse
did not leave the kind of marks
that you could see on the out
side.” Fact: Of all women killed
with a firearm, nearly two-thirds
were killed by intimate partners.
Day 2. Camilla: At the time
he was drinking a lot. And he
would carry his guns around the
house. I knew I needed to leave,
but my older kids were at school
and I couldn’t figure out just
how to get them and me out of
the house and into the shelter.
Fact: Each day in the U.S., three
women are killed by a current
or former partner.
Day 3. Andy: “I don’t even
rem em ber my first visits to
Mary’s Place. At the time my son
was only 2 years old. I had never
been part of his life before... I
was a meth addict. I was home
less.” Fact: About 15.5 million
children are exposed to domes
tic violence every year.
D ay 4. R ebecca: “M ark
stood over me and yelled at me
for five hours, but wouldn’t let
me answer him. He wouldn’t let
me leave the room to go to the
bathroom, or even to take care
of the baby. Every time I tried
to leave, he screamed, Abu can
leave when I tell you to leave.’
Fact: Survivors leave their abus
ers seven to 11 times before end
ing the relationship permanently.
Day 5. Rachel: “It is embar
rassing to tell my friends at
school that my dad is in jail. So
I tell them he is at a sleepover.”
Fact: W itnessing violence be
tween one’s parents or caretak
ers is the strongest risk factor
of transmitting violent behav
ior from one generation to the
next.
Day 6. Amelia, 8 years old:
“When my mom and dad sepa
rated, my dad changed my name
w hen I w as w ith him . He
w ouldn’t let anyone call me
Amelia. He said it a was a stu
pid name my mom liked and if
I kept it I’d grow up to be a (bad
word) just like her. So he made
me go by a different name then
what my mom called me. Fact:
Approximately 3.3 million chil
dren witness domestic violence
occurrences in their homes each
year.
Day 7. Jacob, 13 years old:
“I see my dad at Mary’s Place
because he was really mean to
my mom. She had to go the
hospital several times when we
were growing up. I think that’s
wrong. Kids should be proud
of their dads.” FACT: 63% of
all boys, age 11-20, who com
mit murder, kill the man who
was abusing their mother.
Day 8. Sally: “W hen the
victim’s immediate crisis is over
we sometimes miss out on the
outcomes. It is similar to a pa
tient returning to the Emergency
Room after being stitched up
following a car accident. No one
wants to revisit the trauma; so
you don’t go back to report on
how you are doing.” Fact: Less
than one-fifth of victims report
ing an injury from intimate part
ner violence sought m edical
treatment following injury.
Day 9. Lauren: “I was wor
ried because all the time we were
together he managed to isolate
me from my family and friends
by convincing them I was crazy.
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more; they would only talk to
him. I didn’t have anyone. So
when I came to Mary’s Place, I
couldn’t get over it, they actu
ally believed me! He is so very
charming; everyone always be
lieves he is this great guy.” Fact:
92 percent of survivors said the
assistance they got from domes
tic violence shelters was very
helpful.
Day 10. Judy: “Sean keeps
watch over me day and night.
He checks the odometer on my
car. He follows me, has his
friends follow me, and drives by
the house. He knows what I’m
doing on the computer. He
even records my phone conver
sations.” Fact: One in four vic
tims of stalking report being
stalked through the use of some
form o f technology such as
email.
Day 11. Tammy: “Jason was
driving 90 miles an hour, weav
ing in and out of traffic, threat
ening to kill us both.” Fact:
Recent numbers show that inti
m ate partner hom icides ac
counted for 34 percent of the
murders of women.
Day 12. Bethany, 6 years
old: “I love going to M ary’s
Place. I really like the toys. I
love my dad too. Last week I
told him, ‘Daddy, you can’t hit
people here. But that is ok, I
still love you. Let’s just play.’”
Fact: Children in homes where
violence occurs are physically
abused or neglected at a rate
1500 percent higher than the na
tional average.
Day 13. Bobby-5years old:
“M ary’s Place makes me feel
like superman. I’m not afraid.
I like it there, they don’t yell at
me. I told my dad, Aou have
to learn to be a better daddy and
be nicer to mommy before you
can come home.’” FACT: 90
percent of children from vio
lent homes witness their fathers
beating their mothers.
Day 14. Amy: “I told the
staff at Saving Grace, I want to
thank you for the never ending
support during this emotional
roller coaster. You make a huge
difference in a short time. I will
take this experience and grow
from it. I will never forget this
place, we were so lucky to be
here.” Fact: In one day alone,
domestic violence programs an
sw ered 21,683 em ergency
hotline calls: 14 calls a minute.
Day 15. Lisa: “After he hit
me, he would be so tender. John
would insist I stay in bed and
rest and tell the kids not to
bother me.” Fact: About 2.3 mil
lion Americans each year are
raped and/or p h ysically as
saulted by a current/former in
timate partner.
Day 16. Pat: “I was terrified
to go to court. He would give
‘the look’ and I knew what that
meant. I didn’t feel safe even
with all the people around and
security outside. When the two
Saving Grace staff members I
w orked w ith cam e into the
courtroom I felt calmness come
over the entire place.” Fact:
Moderate physical abuse drops
from 76 to 15 percent after the
victim gets a protective order.
D ay 17. C heryl: “He
wouldn’t have to say anything-
just give me ‘the look’ and I
would know what he meant. No
one else saw threat. After all, he
was an elder in the church.”
Fact: One in four adult women
are beaten or raped by an inti
mate partner in her lifetime.
Day 18. Bella: “A client once
told me that she had started
working with a personal trainer
and her m uscles were really
sore. She told me this was the
kind of pain she deserved be
cause she was doing it to make
herself feel better.” Fact: Sav
ing Grace served over 5,000
women and children facing do
mestic violence in Central Or
egon.
Day 19. Gail: “One dad used
to sit in a chair with the news
paper and tell his daughter,
‘Look here Kara, it says right
here in the paper that mommy
doesn’t love you.’” Fact: Daugh
ters of abused women are 6
times more likely to be sexually
abused as girls from non-abu-
sive families.
Day 20. Jenn ifer: “W hen
Brandon found out I was preg
nant with his child, he raged at
me and chased me into the bath
room, beating his fists on my
abdom en.” Fact: Each year helped me legally and emotion
about 124,000 pregnant women ally.” Fact: Approximately 1.7
are abused by their intimate part million incidents of workplace
violence occur in the U.S. every
ners.
Day 21. Helen: “The relent year.
Day 27. Dee: “Leaving is a
lessness of what these women
are fighting is what scares me. process for some clients. But
That is what worried me, that if they get a little stronger and
we will open the newspaper to gain a little more independence
see that one of our clients was each time they leave and come
killed.” Fact: In one study, 82 back to the shelter, that is suc
percent of men who killed their cess in our eyes.” Fact: On one
partners had histories of domes recent day, 8,927 requests for
tic violence known to authori services were unmet, mostly due
ties.
to lack of resources.
Day 22. Daphne: “I was the
Day 28. Tricia: “Brandon
one with all the money; he was was in jail but had my 9-year-
just a horse trainer when we met. old reporting to him who I talked
But he would brag about how to on the phone, what time I
he took out terrorists in Iraq came home at night.” Fact: Boys
and he could do the same to me who witness domestic violence
without anyone finding my re are twice as likely to abuse their
mains. I believed him.” Fact: own partners and children when
Intim ate partn er hom icides they become adults.
make up 40-50 percent of all
Day 29. Sara: “I was 72 years
murders of women in the U.S. old when I left my husband who
Day 23. Kelly: “My doctor had been abusive to me for 43
told me I had to get a mastec years. At first all I could feel was
tomy. My husband said, ‘You im m ense sadness about my
have to stay with me, no one wasted life. But I have reclaimed
would want to be with you after myself. I’m learning yoga and
that.’” Fact: One in every four watercolors. You are never too
women will experience domes old to start over.” Fact: 71 per
tic violence in her lifetime.
cent of people know someone
Day 24. Sandra: “If I came who is the victim of domestic
home from work late we’d get violence.
into an argument and that lead
Day 30. Faith: “I met my ex-
to a beating.” Fact: In 70-80 husband at 17. He was the un
percent of intimate partner ho defeated boxer and football
micides, no matter which part player, and I was his girl. I was
ner was killed, the man physi young and too in love to recog
cally abused the woman.
nize any signs o f abuse. We
Day 25. Barbara: “One time even tu ally got m arried and
he found a sock one of the kids settled down. But almost every
had stuffed between the sofa day, he still reminded me of how
cushions, he was so angry he popular he was and show strong
smashed his fist into the wall, he used to be. He began sayings
leaving a big hole. He wouldn’t things like ‘I’m king of the castle
let me fix it. I think he wanted and you’d do what I tell you to.’”
me and the kids to see it, to re
Day 31. “I am safe.” Coura
mind us of what he could do to geous words from survivors.
us. Fact: Nationally, 75 percent
S p ecia l thanks to V illi A nn
o f battered women say their Vinford-Foremen, COCC Professor
children are physically or sexu o f S p eech a n d D ram a. T odd
ally abused as well.
Hanson o f Redhand Studios, tal
Day 26. Dean: “I was so ented COCC students and commu
ashamed; I didn’t know what to nity leaders who donated their gen
do. Then my sister encouraged erous time and talent to help Sav
me to call the hotline. I told ing G race p rom ote life fr e e fro m
them about how I was being domestic violence by coming together
sexually assaulted by a male co f o r a video. To reach Warm Springs
worker and my boss wasn’t do V ictims o f C rime S ervices ca ll
ing anything to stop it. They 541-553-2293.